0:00 [Music] Everybody, welcome back to another episode of the Jude the C boy, man. Everybody give a red apply, man. Keep that up for 20 minutes. I'd be like not breathing the whole time. That was a really good E40 impression. Say 401us. 40 water. So, uh, what are some things that your wife has to ask permission to do or vice versa? Go out. I don't have a wife. Next. Cool. After she has to ask permission to go out. She has to ask permission um on how to dress. Um, she
0:50 also has to ask permission on spending money. She has to ask permission if she wants to speak and if she wants to if she wants to um Yeah, pretty much all the normal stuff. All the traditional. You sound like you're a trad. What's the definition of trad husband? Just traditional. He's a very like locked in kind of guy. Real alpha male dude. He's the man. He wears the pants. Wears pants. He lets her know when she could eat, when she could do things. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You need to start going on a diet. Things like that. Make me a sandwich, right? Is that what he says? Not too much, dude. That's not You're mis uh You're misconstring the movement. You're a misogynist. Okay, that's So, there's a difference. Have you you guys had to actually make a rule where she has to ask permission? You
1:42 know what's funny is like Tiff will ask me permission for things I've never asked. That's usually my case. It's like why the ████ are you even asking? Like sometimes like she'll be like, "Do you think like do you think I should be like, "Can I wear this?" And I'm like, "Yeah, though. What is it though?" Something that she might think is like too revealing. And I'm like, "I don't care." You know? Should you Should you though? No. But maybe is she like asking permission or is she like, "Tell me I'm beautiful." Asking for something else, you know? Yeah. Tell me I'm hot. I'm always ████ complimenting her a little ass anyway, dude. Yeah, I hurt a little. I'm always like, I'm probably doing it too much. Give her too much confidence. But like she'll ask me like, "Oh, can I go do this? Like she'll can I go hang out with my sister?" I'm like, "Yeah, dude. Can you hang out with your sister?" She like she'll like things like that where I just go, "Well, I
2:33 actually I actually understand. She's being she's being uh what's the word I'm looking for? Considerate cuz it's also like a like you guys especially in a shared like you you have shared time, right? So same thing. It's like sometimes Nina will ask me it's like oh like on this day can I go like do this thing with like you know my best friends or whatever and it's not like I'm literally giving her permission to go. It's I'm giving an acknowledgement to like oh yeah like on my schedule I have this that I got to take care of so go ahead type stuff. You know are there going to be guys around sometimes I do that. I do that. I do get really insecure about that. You know what I mean? Um but I think I think yeah shared time that's like I have to ask permission too. Yeah. Yeah. I got to be like, "Hey, like on this day like uh this this work thing came up. Is it okay if I like blah blah blah blah is all you know?" Sounds like I need to be more considerate in my relationship. I should
3:23 ask more. Well, that's dope. Can I go do this? That that's dope for both of you guys cuz that means that like it's assumed when it's off work hours, it is like shared time or bonding time. So, if there's something that's going to take away from what that is, it's like it's it's I think it's good to ask for permission cuz she's probably assuming, oh yeah, after work we're both going to be together, but then you're not or she's not. Yeah. Or like there's definitely like, hey, um you do you want to go to like uh Bart and Gio to watch the UFC fight on Saturday? She's like, "Oh, I got to do this thing." Okay, can I go to Bart to watch UFC? You know, it's like like that'll that'll be a thing, too. You know, soon it's going to be my house you're going to go to. Not Bart's. That's just going to be old news. If you move, no one's going to go to No one's going to want to go to Bart's house. I'm going to be the new house. If you move, I don't care if they ask
4:14 permission for it. If they're like, if there's like food in the fridge that's mine or whatever and they ask, I'm like, "Dude, don't ever ask me again. Just eat it." No, I want I want them to ask cuz I'll never say no. I just want to not think like, "Ooh, I got some food in the fridge." And then I'm like, "What?" like my expectations. Oh, I see. For me, I don't care. For me, I'm like just eat whatever's in there. What's What's mine is yours is that for stuff and food and whatever. It's like that's how I would treat. It's not ask. It's like let me know that you ate that, right? You know what I mean? So, I don't have to worry about it. I'm not going to say no. Obviously, for sure. Yeah. I'll ask for permission for her to do our laundry. Can you Can you wash all the clothes tomorrow? Thank you. And fold and put it all the way. Thank you. Love you. Bye. Okay. Bye. I'm asking for your permission. I'm
5:05 asking for you cuz I know you've been dying and wanting to know that you wanted to do laundry. Of course you can do it. Of course. Or this is a for real like ask for permission thing that like me and Nina do. It's if we're like uh both like watching a show or something and then like I have to like travel for a job but then like an episode comes out so we're not in the same spot. Yeah. Yeah. Somebody somebody might be like, "Hey, can I watch this episode?" Yeah. You know, especially it's that Cliff Hayner ending and you're like, can we can we watch it separate cuz the show has a show, right? Sometimes. Sometimes the answer is no. Oh, it's like we got to watch it together. That's the experience of watching together. So, I get that makes sense. That's playing with fire cuz if I watch one episode, I think I'm going to watch the rest of the season. There's no stopping Joe. No self control. Talking about like if we're watching a show together and it's like it's like a weekly episode or something
5:56 style. Yeah, like severance. Yeah. Oh, that for sure. You have no choice. She asked me. She's like, "Hey, can can I watch this?" You better ████ wait for me. You better wait. You better wait for me so we can have commentary after the show together. Yep. That's half of it. Cuz that is the fun together. Yeah. The fun is watching it together versus then it's just like, "Oh, instead of us ████ you go masturbate in the bathroom, I go masturbate in the bathroom." Yeah. That's whacked. Fun part is doing it together. Yeah. Just masturbate in the bed together. Yeah. See, that's the thing. Nowadays, I'm asking for permission if I'm like allowed to like let's say it's u I went out to my homiey's birthday uh and she was there too at a dinner. It was Korean barbecue. But because it was his birthday um he wanted some like you know soju and beer and stuff like that and I did I looked over and I was like can I have a shot with him? This is it's his birthday. Why does like a no alcohol
6:47 thing? I'm just chilling out on it. Oh, he's trying to develop good sperm. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I see. And then so she'll be like she'll be like she'll be like I mean it's his birthday so just one and I'm like okay yeah that makes sense. That's better than just doing it and then not stopping. Yeah. That's better than having a whole night bender. It actually stresses me out to like have to control a like do rules and all that for someone. So you just say ████ it. No, I don't want to regulate anybody. I think that's the thing though, like rules don't necessarily get explicitly put in place, but like uh asking for permission just sometimes happens out of like Yeah. courtesy is all I get mad. I'm like, why are you even asking that? Yeah. Like if both of you guys are
7:38 saving for a house and that's your plan, but then like Hannah's family had an emergency. She's like, can I use like 10 G's for, you know? So, I think it's usually like that. And it's like you guys are on the same page, you have an understanding, but there are an outlier or whatever. And I think that's what the permission is probably for. Then it's because we both are on the same page, but we both deviate all the time. So that's probably why. Like Tiff will be like, "Can you take me to this uh estate sale?" And I'm like, "F███, yeah, let's go." And then we'll go and she'd be like, "Can I buy this?" I'm like, "How much is it?" She's like, " $7." And I'm like, "Babe, we're trying to buy a house. We're trying to buy a house." No.
8:28 No. Economy $7. Hey, honestly, no joke though, this like literally just happened like last week. You guys know the ████ whole like Loo? Oh, bro, that ████ is nuts. So, Nia loves Lubu ████ We're going to do a whole 18 minutes on that ████ later. Um, but literally this new Alboou thing like just dropped. So, she's trying to get, "Oh my god, like which one should I try and get?" Blah, blah, blah. Right. And I looked at her and I was like, "Do you not want an investment property?" And she just she like genuinely got a little bit frustrated with me for for like half a second and then had to like crack up because how stupid that is. But then obviously she knows. How much are they? Well, no. They're like cheap. They're like, you know, you might spend like 20, 30 bucks or something like that. What the heck? But if you get multiple, but the thing is she's got
9:18 like 9 10 blah blah blah. And she's got like little other collectibles and I have to go get them for her when I see like PopMarts in China. They just sit there. Yeah. It's it's, you know, it's just like a whole constant thing. And the difference is more like uh where are you putting like your sav you know you're just trying to build like habits in terms of like knowing like this is a goal like every day thinking about a goal therefore like how can we do something to help with that goal like that if you don't think about all the time like how are we going to it's like when you're like hey let's go eat out it's like well maybe we should like eat in today you know just like those little things it is a little thing that adds it becomes like a joke so when something comes up like oh like should I get this and be like hey dude that or investment property and it's a joke but it's like it taps into like it brings us back to reality though like cuz I actually do have to bring it up and I do that ████ all the time too and she does that to me too. Who's the bigger spender? Well, I
10:09 am but I'm the bigger maker. So like you know earners it's it's I think make more spend more. Okay, this is my personal relativity and I don't I don't I don't do it in a in a way that like just goes like I'm allowed to spend because I never do that. But then she don't you guys got like joint and separate accounts? We do and I fund the joint account more as well cuz for the separate one you shoot you're the man. Yeah. Yeah. I don't care. On top of that I'm the only one who doesn't have debt. She still got an entire school debt. So I'm like it's not just me like saving. I'm saving and like that's a real saving because her debt is also your debt cuz you're married. Yeah. I see. I see. So I just I I don't rub it in. I'm just saying like I feel like I have uh the equity to say things like that from time to time. Just be like, "Hey, would you rather rental property or labu?" Filipinos are financially illiterate, too. So, looking for
11:01 good luck with that. That's what Bark's saying. What was the original prompt? How financially literate Filipinos are? Oh, yeah. Dang. Well, you're in a you're in a new relationship right now, right? So, like what what are things being put together and we don't see each other a lot because of long distance? Oh, you're forming those boundaries. Yeah. So, we're figuring that part out right now. But, man, if I had to think about it, yeah, I'd be I'd be pretty like liberal with everything for now until until I Don't, Dude, don't. Yeah. Until I find out like where I want to draw the line because I'm pretty like nice about things and I'm like, "Dude, you don't need to ask for permission for whatever." You know what I mean? So, be kind of controlling now. So, you get to hold that. I should. I should. Cuz my regret is I was too liberal at the beginning. Now, I have to like fight for like control. reel it in. Yeah. I got to
11:52 like really fight for control and she's not used to that. So, she's like, "Why are you yelling at me? Why are you now?" And then little by little, here's a little freedom. It used to always be like this. And I'm like, "Yeah, I'm changing now." So, I tell her, "Would you guys if you guys like let's say uh found a dog on the street and then you're like, "Oh, I didn't want to keep it." Like you on the car ride to the shelter, you guys really connected. Do you think your guys' ladies would have to ask for permission or is it a thing where you're like, "You know what? I really like this dog and I'm sure if we say we're going to adopt this, she's going to be cool. That's kind of how we have our dogs, then yes. But if you're unsure and you're just doing it as an impulse and you catch yourself, oh, I'm being impulsive right now, then it's probably a no. Yeah, but I'm asking for your guys' ladies. Like, well, how would they how would they take it? In our current lifestyle right now, yeah, ████ May, right? Yeah. Absolutely. It
12:42 would not be able to work at all. Like, but we've also just talked about stuff like this. So, she'll be like, "We got to take him to a shelter or have some another homie adopt him." Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. For sure. Because like we can't af conversation. Yeah. Yeah. But it's like we're like we even talked about like all right should we get like another cat because like our cats are getting older and like you know we want to play with a more spriteful young and it's like okay well look at the bill for two cats every single month already and like look at the time you know and then add three and then like we're also trying to have a kid. Like let's be realistic. Responsible. Ours is a definite no cuz we already have two ████ dogs and that's how we got our two dogs in the first place. But what if you look that dog in the eyes and you guys fall in love? You're like, "Oh, this guy is it." It'd be hard. It'd be hard. But then it's like because we have our own dogs already, it's it'd be kind of easier. It'd be different if you had no pets.
13:33 For sure. Yeah. Like if we had no And that's how we found these ████ dogs. Like we weren't expecting to take any dogs in, let alone two of them, but they were just such ████ little cuties. And it felt like, oh my god, God wants us to have these dogs. What about hobbies? Like like cuz lab boo is a thing. Like what about other hobbies and you you catch your significant other going like oh I'm going to get into this but you know they're just going to spend hella money but then not do anything with it. Well I think it depends on the hobby. Yeah, exactly. Like is there like a type of hobby what you would say no to? I think out of me and her I'm the hobby person. Okay. So what would she say no to if if you picked it up? If I'm gone too much. M if I'm like, "Oh, I really want to get into hunting." That's a big one. So, like every month I'm going to be gone 7 days, that'll be pretty crazy. Yeah. I think
14:23 time away is the big one, bro. Like, if I think that's the one thing I realized getting married is like, oh yeah, like you really do have to carve out time. Carve time out for each other. For real. For real. Lucky cuz Hannah's not a spender, but the way she likes spending is really like frugal. Like she actually has a fun time finding deals. Yeah. So she's like when we go thrifting or whatever, she's Nina's new hobby, thrifting. She's at the thrift shop every week, bro. That's tiff, dog. And now And now she's starting and the only reason why I like really support this is now she's like starting to buy stuff that's not for her and she's starting to be like taking photos of it, refurbishing stuff, cleaning it, and trying to sell it. And I'm telling you, dog in our neighborhood. Hey, you guys should do a fun game. This is what Tiff and like her mom would do. They would drive around in these nice neighborhoods, especially cuz her mom's
15:14 a housekeeper. So, she'll she'll work with uh different homes, right? And then they'll be like, "Hey, we're giving this piece of furniture away. Do you want it?" And then it'll be like a little scuffed up. So, they'll take it, refurbish it, sell it, and they can make some like nice profits off it. Bro, how do you refurbish a couch though? That's not a couch. It has to be a certain type of like piece. Yeah. There's like couches and like anything with fabric is like a lot tougher, but like wood pieces like you could replace the knobs like things like like and you could like uh repaint it. Yeah. Revarnish it or whatever the ████ they call it. Like there there's ways they've done it. She down for that. She's doing that with clothes cuz she got an eye for clothes. Hey, we should tell our ladies to link up. I'm telling Tiff all the time. I'm like, "Bro, she has such a eye for vintage." Yeah. We should quit your ████ real jobs where you get benefits and healthcare and stuff like that. Go entrepreneur. Yeah. Make it harder. art hustle. Whole new life, dude. Yeah. And then buy your health insurance. Yeah.
16:05 Yeah. You get the ride off. We got a good deal. It's true. Get rid of your free health insurance. I need her I need her a consistent W2 for the the mortgage. No, but like I want her to like ████ around and be like, "Hey, just start cuz she people hit her up and be like, "Hey, can you find me these pieces?" And she'll find these pieces for people. Wow. You know what I mean? I'm like, "Bro, like you're That's what I'm saying. She got an eye, bro. She knows what she's doing. Nina got an eye for clothes and stuff, too. She got eye for losers. She likes a project, I guess. What's the stuff that Hannah is thrifting? Clothes. No, like she put me on the game. Um, we would that that's like one of the things we do now. Every time we travel to a new city, she's like, "Let's hit up some vintage or thrift shops." And she I think also cuz she has a skill of like recutting like all that. So, she'll find
16:55 like Yeah, she's got it. She she can find um cuz she worked in luxury and all that. So she could be like, "Oh, that piece right there. Oh ████ nobody knows." She'll pull it out be like, "Oh my god, it's only five bucks." And I'm like and then she'll go on her phone and be like, "This is 150." It's called like free people or whatever. Yeah. These brands, right? So you think the And I'm like, "But that's a XXL." And she goes, "Don't worry about it." She go home, she sews it up and whatever. And it's like a new thing. And I'm like, "That's ████ cool." Dude, Tiff started she she picked up a sewing class. Yeah. at PCC and she went but her sewing machine was all ████ up. So she was like she got mad and she like kind of quit. She got disheartened and I was like Hannah can Hannah teach tip how to sew? Yeah. And then she fix she fixed my neighbor's sewing machine. My neighbor came over. He goes hey your wife does fashion stuff? And I'm like yeah. He goes, "Uh,
17:46 I have this sewing machine." And she came over and then it's like a old school metal one and it's all like 70s ████ Yeah, bro. I got like two of those in my garage and I'm like from the dry cleaners. I'm like, "What are you guys doing with It's like commercial grade ████ Use it." Let's honestly give one up to Hannah or have Hannah look at it. I'll buy it for you from you. I need to look I need to I'll take a photo of it uh when I go back to my parents home. Yeah. If they don't want it, I'll take it. I They're hoarders. I'll buy it. He could use it to gamble. That's what they do. Tight. It's one of those big ones. It's like connected to a table that's got like a ruler at the end of it. Like I need I need something that you can put your ████ thread spools on it and like you have to loop it through. That's what my grandma had. My grandma had one of those. I need something that can go through thick
18:36 stuff. Like the the the Walmart one's not good. Oh yeah. It's going to be better than that ████ It's like when you have to like put the ████ word we do alterations on your glass-like side. It's like that's the machine for that ████
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