0:00 foreign [Music] welcome back to care for boys we're indeed very careful boys and today Joe has a question for Walter Joe take it away I got a question because uh off camera we were talking about Walter you know doing the whole dating app thing so I was like oh ████ you must have had different stages obviously each you know like from from like high school to whatever in dating and like what is it like dating that's different from now to like then and like that's a great question yeah because usually like I I'm assuming like if you're when you're in your 40s the type of people you have access to is different too and a lot of people would probably be like starting like families or they're already on their like 10th
0:50 kid or some ████ so like what is how is it different like dating in your 40s versus like your 20s and ████ that's a sad question is it well 20s okay 20s is like I think more dating wait what's that sound like I mean you pitched a cop was like kind of weird oh really okay so you know most people already have their family and stuff so like what's going on with you no because because for me I see like 40 year old dudes that are like okay so so let me Pitch it a different way speaking that's someone who found their soulmate wait wait I just can't do it there's guys in miserable marriages that wish to be single too so then that's why I'm like I
1:40 don't mean why that's such a sad thing not anyone here yeah you know okay I'll tell you quickly from the 20s I think you know like let's say one out of ten they want long term but like nine out of ten they just want to like date and see what happens 30s it's like more half and half if not 60 one like long term 40 and I kind of see what happens so like in 30s they're like rushing to get married rushing or yeah but not everyone but most most everyone in the 40s I feel like everyone just looking for long term now you talk about like the appeal to have families and you know you kind of your passive aggressive way of saying hey Walter you don't have a family [Laughter] so one of the things on the dating apps it'll say like half kids open to more or
2:30 have kids don't want anymore is that on hinge that's actually part of like your survey they'll yeah they'll have they'll have it on there it'll be it'll be a descriptor are you looking for one of those I right now I'm on the fence like even a year ago I wanted kids but now I'm on the fence and the reason being is because I watch a lot of TV yeah and so I'm sitting down for a long time after 15 minutes of sitting down the same place if I when I get up everything hurts oh your sperm account is low hurts that doesn't hurt so much except it's not doesn't feel as good yeah yeah if you know you know yeah um so when I get everything hurts I'm thinking if I have to pick up a child like a toddler yeah okay everything's gonna hurt they don't want to play I'm gonna be like I'm gonna watch TV like ████ energy is like energy level is way lower now and then also on top of that let's say like the when the kid's 18
3:21 dude I'm like gonna be like are you sure how old are you I'm 48. you're not gonna be Kane old yeah because like Kane's like 70 right now yeah I'm talking about Undertaker's brother right I'll be like I'll be 60 I'll be six okay if let's say I get someone pregnant now yeah and then they turn 18 I'm gonna be what 66. that's not Kano is it I don't know not if you lift and get strong yeah I do ████ like some CrossFit or something I thought Kane old was like late 70s on yeah dude yeah not at this game now I say Kano because I had to use a cane last year you're a cane old bro hey it does change ████ my next door neighbor just had a baby like ████ three weeks ago I I used to me and him used to go sports
4:12 bars and we'll just watch games and ████ and that cat has dark circles on his eyes it's ████ deep as it gets the first six to nine months is rough it's wow but then it gets easier and easier and easier he's like hey Steve you want to go fishing today like I need to get out of here I mean it's new though like you said yeah they gotta get into the routine but then you never know you might have a ████ nerd-ass baby that just wants to read books all day yeah that'd be so cool make a little Brainiac I want my kid to be like if I have a kid I want them to be a nerd until like they're like in college and all of a sudden they're like NFL star yeah yeah after one throw yeah would you get your kid in the football because you're a huge fan I would not you know the game I would not get in there because the situation yeah we not so all the chicks that you talk to like which apps are you on are you on like the traditional like
5:02 Tinder or they're more like long-term relationships okay I was on Tinder but Tinder I don't care like honestly and I don't know if it's true but it doesn't matter what they put on there like I want long term short everyone just assumes at least in my mind that everyone just wants to hook up okay it's like evolved into that yeah that's the culture yeah yeah that's why they made the other ones and people are gravitating towards those yeah so what are the other ones that are more like long-term and Syria like hinge uh Bumble coffee meets Bagel um they're they're kind of more like long-term oriented and I also think like to answer your questions like even more specifically it people in their 40s like men and women in their 40s it's all long term I I really there's no like hook up ████ no like out of like maybe like let's say like let's say a hundred profiles one may include like open to Casual like but in addition to long term so it'll be like open to long-term and
5:54 Casual like casual we're playing it cool like the Casual can end up long term yeah it can't it can't but but that doesn't mean that the ones looking for long term are only looking for long term because they could be open the short term term but they're just putting long term but a lot of them like they're like most of them I would say 50 to 60 of the women will say I don't want uh no hookups no one night stands No Scrubs yeah basically no sugar baby situations is it more um not yeah I guess straightforward might be the word but like when you guys meet up for the first date like is there more like straight to the point like this is what I want okay I got to one of the biggest differences between dating in your 20s and 30s and 40s I found on the dating apps is the straightforwardness of like hey um I'm looking to get married or I'm looking for a luck with
6:44 me long term I'm not here to mess around and so the open communication I found to be not only refreshing but way more plentiful isn't that intense as ████ it is but when you but it is how people play less games I think yeah you play less games that's the thing there's no games so there's no like oh like you know um do you like me or like hey if you do this that means you like me there's none of that it's just like hey like I'm running on top I'm gonna ████ die soon I'm ████ baby in me I'm on two kings lady pretty much it's just like there's no there's no games do you like that more you know okay like there's I think mild games it's kind of fun it's cute yeah however the under the other end of the spectrum where there's no games that's also cool and refreshing too because there is no like oh what does it mean when I don't text her she
7:35 doesn't text there is none of that like if dude if she's not texting or you're not texting they both know yeah it is around you know yeah but like if you guys are texting now it's we know there's intention behind it yeah it's not like oh I'm just gonna see what she's doing or I'm gonna see what he's doing like I'm just gonna text hey there's none of that it's like everything's been intention like hey do you want to go out yes I want to go out yeah rather than like do you want to go out I don't know let me check my schedule Oh but I don't have my calendar with me really it's not on your phone you know there's none of that yeah it's all just I'll call you tomorrow yeah to reconfirm yeah that's that's pretty cool now and it's and it's also it works the other way too hey you didn't call me or text me so I thought we were off like I thought we weren't gonna go out and like I'm like that's completely Fair because I should have I should have texted you the day before or that you know so it's
8:25 just more responsible week but it is it is because you get both ends of the spectrum because everything's with intent you you have to this pros and cons to be very clear with it my dad started dating um when he was like I again when he was like maybe like 70 or something and he says like once they go okay cool it seems like this is like we're like have some sort of chemistry like the first three questions is are you in debt because uh if they if he's gonna like it's a great question to get together he doesn't want to assume their debt the other one is do you own a house because um he doesn't want it where if they don't have a house then if they come over and live with him and they're like let's say they get married if they get divorced and they take half their house yeah it's just like really like like dude life is so dark like six figure plus consequences you know like it gets real like it's real
9:16 real is your dad still dating right now he's trying to get get back with my mom oh okay no because I have a piece I have a piece of advice for your dad if he is dating and if one of his questions is debt he can get it and they kind of getting married he can get a prenup that would separate debt so if they get divorced or if one of them if she dies he won't assume the debt I see so the prenup doesn't it's not just included about paying money it's also about debt more romance talk here yeah right that's maximum romance and that's another thing that's different when you're in your 40s you should think about prenups oh because by the time you're in your 40s everyone's got everyone being boys and girls they both have assets whether it's a car whether it's I think assets and badges life you know and then so people want to protect it today's video is brought to you by Babel all right check this out okay I know
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11:48 because if the Girl I'm dating has a hundred thousand in student loans and then it turns out like after three years we had a divorce the creditors could go after me and when we're married it becomes one oh wow so a prenup would also protect against um the debt why can't people just ████ yeah you can there's an app for that too yeah there is I can live and enjoy each other without all the extra ████ yeah people are crazy though dude people are what's the is you've used Bumble right yeah and that's the one where the girl has to break the ice with you what kinds of things do girls even see okay so here's the irony with Bumble is that when it started it was a great concept oh women um make the first initiating yeah it was great guys like that's fantastic and then what's the number one complaint that women make against men when they message them don't do one word like hey yo and what are the girls doing Bumble
12:40 hey Wow have you had any like cool responses I have had one girl um I'm not I don't do well in Bumble but the one um because I'm Bumble we can't write anything right so what is it is it your profile is it like it's all is it Like You Gotta Have a good pitch or whatever photos and your profile thing and so if they don't buy into what you're writing they're not gonna message you but like on hinge let's say I can write something to them first and then they can respond to it or not respond to it you start to sell them yeah exactly that's exactly what Bumble you know honestly this isn't much of a it's not much of a pitch but if you're like good looking a bumble so you'll get tons of women messaging you can you upload gifs so you can show yourself
13:31 but yeah but so like I have gotten one message from a girl where she was like this is so awkward I don't know what to say and I thought that was really charming and really cute because she was very honest about you know like what her deficiences were yeah vulnerable but like most of the like most of the ones like if I do get a message it's like hey and then so I'm the one that has to come up with something so there's no it's yeah if you ever say anal you want to sit on my face sometime this isn't match.com it's not match have you ever tried ones like like eHarmony with like they got like uh High success rates so I tried eHarmony years ago when there was big National commercials on television and then they would do free weekends like on Long weekends so I tried it and their their questionnaire is like 45 minutes oh it takes a long time yeah the whole thing and then I've known like two other people that have like really good
14:22 success yeah and the successors are good so I was like okay let's just try this 45 minutes later I'm done and it says oh now and then there's the little they're telling you overlook fighting and compiling your matches yeah because you have no matches no way but that's also the bank was way smaller before the pool you're gay dude you're on the wrong wrong setting Walter sees it he goes and he goes man I guess I'm gay the question there says I'm gay now adding gay to permanent public records no what the ████ delete delete I guess my favorite Disney princess was Belle that's kind of nice and then you're searching on the gay side and it goes you have no matches what the ████ now I'm just screwed and then it's like you're gay dude now I'm grabbing the USB
15:14 cables and I'm just like have you thought about trying it again or not no I'm on them now like I'm on hinge and Bumble now oh okay he's not re-upping on any harm you ever done a straight up blind date I have for Koreans blind mates are big wow you're like setting up perfectly yeah yeah so like okay with friends I'm more discriminate because some some people like they're like oh you're single you're single you guys should meet oh yeah I don't like those those like it has nothing to do with anything it's just that you're single I'd rather if it's through friends I'd rather be Oh I thought you might have something in common with this person because of blank she likes the Rams yeah or something like that but she likes to get butt [Laughter] Ramses [Applause]
16:07 Esther she always brags about getting butt ram that's the one that now I would want to meet her like today you know what I'm saying um for sure but like if if when my parents set me up I just meet them out of like oh that's the worst time I stood out of courtesy though because I know a lot of it has to do with like it's their friends so then rather than my my parents explaining why my son didn't want to save face for them yeah I'll just go meet them I'll meet them and like I've had dude I've been on some decent ones I've been on bad ones where like they've lied about me so like when we part ways they'll go oh like um I think one girl was like oh he just wanted to go to a karaoke place with me and I was like so my mom's like no what like how did she get that we were talking about where do you like to go have fun and so she was saying like where do you go and I was like oh sometimes my friends go to like karaoke
16:57 places and we'll just drink there is that supposed to be like a sleazy thing no no she took it for some reason she she took it my guess is she just lied because she wanted to get out of dating me again she told her aunt he wanted to take me to a karaoke place and like when I wanted a party like wanted a drink and I was like what like none of that was ever said out of my mouth karaoke is not known as hardcore ████ bud no because it's like you know like they call it in Korean but like it's just you know private room like KTV kind of Joy yeah and so even if I did ask her to go go there it's like and my mom was like he doesn't even sing like why would he ask you he's terrible about karaoke yeah that's pretty much exactly what it is weird you know but then like the aunt was like you know what can he give her another chance so we went out again and it was just like okay but it was because of the ant wanted it not because she
17:48 wanted it yeah like she's she's physically she was she was attractive oh wait it's just the part I forgot so she accused me of wanting to take her to a karaoke place I dropped her off at a nightclub because her friends were there what on my way home I'm like I'll just take you so she's like but then she turned that into does she does she have that connotation with karaoke clubs as if like you're just gonna try to because you know they do that does happen by the way it sounds like is so if she wanted to go to the nightclub that means she's ending the date but she probably doesn't want to take that responsibility with the aunt so I think she it sounds like she's just going oh no it's because Walter wanted to go to karaoke yeah she's probably the responsibility yeah but then but then my thing is how short-sighted that is because obviously the ant is going to tell my mom yeah it's not like the ant's gonna go it's not well thought out it's like oh she didn't like him and that was it no she's
18:38 like oh well she was saying that he wanted to take her to a karaoke place and like drink with her yeah they can't wait to talk about it yeah if anybody by the way sees Walter at karaoke please take a picture and ████ tag it we're gonna call this ████ out yeah what are you doing there you know that the funny thing is I haven't been to a karaoke place in a few years actually because of kovid well the prior to Kobe I just kind of like I don't drink that much it's hard to sing with the mask on are you talking karaoke or karaoke do you know what I mean yeah yeah uh I'm talking karaoke okay because there's these karaoke places that where it's basically fronts for prostitution well that's a strong word I would just say prostitution light because not everyone not because you know not everyone does that yeah it's far few between but like it's more like
19:28 uh Hostess hostess bars kind of yeah um you'll look through a book you'll pick a girl she'll come out sing with you for a tip or something you could go beyond the lyrics as they say oh it could be on the lyrics in the United States of America but in K-Town USA yeah that's it you're Wild [Laughter] how does it get Anthony that was a great idea that's a great ████ Voice by the way I feel like that's why Anthony gets all the ████ yeah he does well because he pays for it but yeah the karaoke but when a girl says like karaoke place that's not really what she means she means like the karaoke place well that's a weird thing to be upset about then because that's actual just well maybe it's insulting because she's a club chick and she's like this guy want to go to karaoke he might as well take me bowling a piece of ████ and that's that's the other funny thing with the with the club thing was that she was sick she doesn't really go out that much and drink but then her friends happened
20:19 that very night happened to go to a club and was texting her the whole time and she was like responding oh that's another thing fellas fellas and ladies when you're in a date don't don't text with your friends unless it's to save you like unless it's like hey I need an emergency to get out of this date unless it's that don't do that that's a terrible thing or even hanging out with their friends in general yeah yeah because people get become like such a habit of it and it's like oh dude Nick we have a long time to go hang out and then we're like hanging out but then I'm still glued to my phone and you're not really like well that's a bad example because Nick doesn't hang out but maybe you can try to because Nick's already doing this without us I've seen him do this during Jiu Jitsu he's ████ just like I'm like hey what are you who are you talking over there yeah yeah so like yeah that's the blind date thing so like with parents I go I just go all the time friends I'm I'm more uh discriminate um but I actually prefer blind dates
21:10 better because it's just like you're meeting someone there's no like judgment until you get there there's no prejudging you get them live yeah feed judging yeah you're speed judging and then usually usually you know pretty much like if there's chemistry or anything are you good in the room you're good in the room huh I feel like I'm okay I'm at least okay and then my thing is if I don't feel chemistry I'm like let's just have fun yeah like I don't mean in a naughty way but let's just have fun let's just like hang out be friends yeah but there's some girls they're not into that yeah so they just they're just they'll sit there that must be a drag that's it's really hard oh yeah that sucks what do you mean do they think like do you think they're like are you trying to ████ me I don't you know honestly I at that point once I notice no chemistry I don't even like think about what they're thinking what they could possibly be thinking about but when they're just sitting there like that I'm like I'm glad that we're not we don't have chemistry because that means the pressure's off yeah the pressure's off and then you're not a fun person
22:00 right are you in ████ mode though are you like after that you're out back and you're like let's get three blooming onions over here let's have fun huh that attitude is what I have yeah yeah like when I know there's no chemistry because there's no pressure yeah um I'm just like let's just have fun let's just hang that's when you're at your sexiest yeah like eight place do you have a favorite date place besides honestly yeah exactly if there's no blooming onion yeah is there a date place if I can't get 4 300 calories per bite yeah no my honestly God the hand hand to God I don't know which it is um my favorite thing to do is eat like crab oh I love like boiling crap boiling crab or like go to a crab place the
22:50 reason being is because you have to get messy yeah so there's no like print proper yeah so that part of your brain shuts down so it's more casual and it feels casual and you can just start talking because everyone's got crap on their face everyone's got like greasy like whatever steamy hands everyone's licking their fingers do the same thing take her to a Shabu place and say no utensils whoa so you guys got crab all over you yeah and you you kind of mess but even with boiling Boiling Crab it's like spice all the sauce all over you and then maybe this is why it's really it's not worked out for you maybe this is why once again your commentary is so penetrated he's just playing off of his I took the beard at the end we got to get out of this video and that's why Leonardo has a 25 year old age limit
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