0:00 [Music] welcome back to another episode of careful boys that will resurrect some of the ghosts that you tried to forget about in your own life and make you sad again let's talk about anything at all that your parents have ever admitted to doing that was a mistake wow talking this round this is a deep one huh deep C you have your parents have never one time said like that was bad I think we messed up I can remember anything like that not even one really not even not even come back I'll genuinely try my best in your parents eyes do you think they see you as a child still or do they see you as a man now uh my dad sees me as a man my mom
0:50 uh really tries hard not to see me as man I don't think she can admit that I'm not can't let her boy go she's just got to be like like no matter what has to have something to school me or teach me on every day that's my mom what about your your sister do they see her her as a kid still or she's a adult the thing is my sister has the capacity now to put them in their place because like uh she is the mother of their grandchild so she has like rules and things that they have to abide by if they want something so she has power so is it maybe when you have kids then the power Dynamic will shift a possibly yeah yeah but again I think I I get enough respect from my dad and to me Loki that matters the most yeah because of what CU men's opinions matter more but my mom like I love her you know what I mean but it's just it's she'll
1:41 never see me like that I seen that have you heard of the devouring mother devouring mother the devouring mother they're like uh they're it's like the type where they have to be the the whole always like oh yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah in power and then they want to keep their kid their kid even if they're like 35 years old and then they control everything sometimes it leads to munch Housen syndrome by proxy or whatever the ████ it is Nick says munchkin syndrome munchkin syndrome thank you were they poison their kid just to make sure they need them still that's even crazier it's like something that kicks in to preserve their role right like their usefulness yeah yeah and I think it's a control thing they want to be the most important thing in their lives and all that I've seen that yeah
2:31 both of my parents have actually apologized quite a bit wow um which is pretty crazy my my dad's I felt like was the most unfair though cuz he'd be like I'm sorry for ever like whooping your ass don't you ever ████ do that to taica I'm like or I'll whoop your ass yeah right so I'm like that's ████ up and one that is ████ up and I remember one time uh when my dad was living with me taica like broke a rule that he really wasn't supposed to uh that he's he knows he's not supposed to do I didn't even hit him I just go go straight to timeout you know you're not supposed to do that so he goes he's facing against the wall and then um taica like this and timeout for like I don't know 2 minutes or something like my dad walks over with ████
3:22 paper towels and he's like dabbing his face while he's in timeout oh my God he looks at me like this and then I'm like what the ████ bro and I have to go and talk to him I have to like go around the corner I'm like Dad I'm like you can't undermine me bro undermine me in front of my son if you have some ████ to say we go to the side but he needs to know like all authority is together and we we got into a big ass ████ fight like you never wiped my tears when you were smacking me around that's what it's ultimately about isn't it that part too yeah I was like what no what was your can I hear the argument though what was his argument oh man yeah how was he justifying he just thought that I was being so mean that he's a kid that he's a there's a clock there's a grandfather clocked in here because of that that that he's just a kid he's
4:12 going to learn one day and like how can I be so mean to him and I'm like this is time out I was in a ████ Ethan Allen clock I'm like this is ████ crazy dude isn't it crazy though the the craziest thing to me is how much Amnesia and selective memory they have yeah they suppress they suppress the craziest ████ and then it they they get on your case as if they were angels and I'm like is this human nature or are our parents crazy you know what's sick though if it is human nature it's like when we get really old we get that card we'll forget everything damaging we've done to people dude when Nikki's like dude your dad is the nicest man ever I just see War flashes of like him coming home and ████ yelling at my mom all night every night every ████ day of the week Monday through ████ Sunday dang and but then I'm like yeah he has
5:03 melled out so I can't blame you for this ████ what can I do she knows him at a different stage yeah dude I I see the layers I see the dinosaurs under the dirt you know what's interesting is like when we're thinking of mistakes that parents have made that they might be able to admit does anything new come to mind when you think of mistakes they may have made that have nothing to do with you really you know like a bad investment or like trusting the wrong person for something that went wrong in their life I've accept that they were tremendously like dumb so I forgiven them on a lot of ████ cuz it's like they went pretty far for people that don't know ████ and them had like what was their education level um so my dad uh he went to college and all that but he was a music Major oh okay and then my mom she went into nursing and all that too but even at the
5:53 most educated they went to Christian schools and all that so they didn't have uh they didn't really operate on reason and logic oh yeah so you could be educated but it's like memory education it's capped because they go don't worry about all this you don't even you don't need to learn that science you got the Bible you know so there was that yeah and then the I think there was just a lot of like you know how they operate where people just tell them stuff and then that's fact mhm so then they were just going based on what other people said this is how you should do it so I was like God dang they're so ████ dumb and my brother was just like I'm over it I don't know why you exhaust yourself trying to argue and I'm like because if I don't argue then they're going to make the wrong decisions and they're we live in this place you know oh so like it it just felt like I had a
6:43 bunch of idiots making decisions for my life and I was like ████ and that was me like in junior high already cuz it was just it was all illogical I was like why are you buying a new car and he goes cuz the guy at the dealership said that this one's going to break down less and ████ but we already have a car that's already and this is like me being 12 or some ████ right and I'm like we already have two cars and he goes yeah but this one's nicer we have guests over they want to see the nice car oh no later I find well and also like I would get my asby because the bill collector would call and then they can't speak English so they had me on the phone or whatever I pick up the phone and then I'm not supposed to pick up the phone anymore cuz the bill collector would come and then they don't want to talk to him and ████ so then I would pick up the phone and then they'll be like is your dad home and I'm like yeah so I would give it to him and he gets I get my ass beat cuz I I was being honest hey that ████
7:33 happened to me a lot right that ████ hella happened to me really don't collector just ████ like that and it would be like I I'll pick up the phone cuz it's raining and they' be like is your parents home blah blah be like oh here and they like why did you say we were home and I'm like I don't understand that ████ you're ████ home rer energy dude I knew to hang up my parents were in debt my whole life I need to hang up with those ████ dude especially Discover Card yeah Discover card is a bunch of ████ piece of sh I didn't even know that that's what was happening I thought it was a business call and it's so important they need to talk to my parents but he's not a rider no he's not a rider Discover Cards they're so mean why are they so mean but I was like seven or some ████ no Discover card was so mean to my mom I'll never have a Discover card in life mean to her yeah they were mean to my mom why you doing why aren't you paying us oh yeah it's cuz your
8:24 husband's a loser all this kind of ████ who wait whoa dicks dude because your husband's a loser people who are shaking people down are dicks they're professional I guess cuz it's like their objective is just get the money they try to enrage you into paying them off so you leave them alone oh yeah you want to know it's like that scene in Pretty Woman where she's like I'll buy the whole store then I guess it got to makes sense when you're like we just don't want to get another call let's just ████ yeah dudit so unle it's so terrorizing it ruins youru terrorizing buy new discover hey it's discover I'm like click damn I'm at the point now where my mom over apologizes so much where I'm like stop it's like I'm so it's kind of I'm I'm sad that like we're over this but she's not over it I think she's going through this phase of like guilt and
9:15 regret and like she's like picking up some self-help books and ████ and realizing certain things and I'm like you couldn't have controled the outcomes I'm over it but now I have to be there and then like make give her closure and that's like a weird uh strange responsibility now it's really weird cuz it's I thought we had her talk and I'm like all right cool like that was a nice moment right and then she'll call me out of nowhere and start crying oh I was like emotionally unavailable I read this chapter and then it says that you had to be always emotionally available I wasn't available oh so she's reading books and like yeah cuz she's trying to like grow that's really like it is sweet but like to like self-realize and then take the action to like calling me at like 8 like did you have dinner already and I'm all like yeah she goes right now this a bad
10:06 time I just read this chapter in the book and I realized that I was emotionally neglecting you and then um I'm growing though cuz I'm reading this book Let's Go amazing I fantasize about that ████ you have any mistakes your mom or M back when your dad was did he ever say anything that was like sorry I ████ up when your dad was what say it when your dad was when when he was around yeah um no I think my mom was open to me about mistakes about multiple marriages so my dad was the third thing to say um so I think she was very adamant about selecting the right partner um so I don't know I think that was like a mistake turned to a valuable lesson yeah um as far as like things that I know
10:57 like they kept things under wraps for the most most part like they allowed my brother and I to really kind of like have a childhood for the most part that's nice super cool yeah they I mean aside from like I love my mom and my mom watches this too oh she does yeah Mom yeah yeah which is which is interesting because this is really not her humor but she's such a a riter die supporter that like this is like it's like the contrast is interesting we never asked cleen if she would her mom or her dad right yeah we did we did anyways moving on what' she say what did wait what did she say ████ you Anthony my mom watches all this ████ too son of a ████ well that's um now I lost it you son yeah thanks man yeah that was honestly that was a
11:48 comment from Nick he wanted so many marriages she taught you a lesson here I think something that I got from my mom that I've had to recondition is and she knows that this is she's a constant worrier like she'll see the negative out of most outcomes that's just first more thank you so much she watches this by the way that's just how ████ are you're not saying ████ you bar ████ you never said she watches thisen it's onesided thing huh CLE by the way um oh she went from Warrior to Warrior mhm yeah and I feel like I had to condition myself out of that just because it it always leaned more on the negative and it it's like there's a fine
12:38 line between being overprepared and just being stressed yeah and like finding the balance between those two um but as far as mistakes I think it was more so just choosing the right partner um being intentional and then for me I learned certain things that we clashed on on the things that worked for me better in my life does that make you way pickier way pickier I don't know about way pickier but I also like there's there's a it's dating now is also different than I feel like it has been ever before I think it's a little bit more difficult cuz the apps and stuff or I'm not on the apps I can't do that maybe maybe I don't think she's that piggy though I saw her order at Chili's
13:30 I'm not that picky yeah well we're talking about food compared to humans so I don't know it's I think it's an allegory if you know what I've read about that no never read about it cuz I'm white trash I don't know how to read yeah Steve or anything like that just ████ ████ true though even with like if you don't use a yo what the ████ even okay abominable snowman sorry we saying with apps even if you don't use them it is true that the apps being around made dating everyone feels like the the pool of choice is way bigger now yeah the apps that algorithm of the apps though even before that just social media being like Oh I think this goes cute and then looking up everything for the last six years about her history and stuff you know what I mean like we didn't have that when we not at all yeah you had to
14:20 get to know somebody legit yeah yeah but I also like I I want to get to know somebody legit like I I enjoy that more than like hey we met on Facebook we met on an app we met like I enjoy like running into somebody doing something that we both have an interest in and then we can build on that um it takes time to and and it takes time it takes time it takes effort and a lot of people I think in today's day they don't want to do the effort they don't so that's true that's the even I told people this many times but and I'm happy to say this cuz like when me and Nikki the first time we were getting on I couldn't even get hard cuz I was so ████ nervous because I was I love because you cared too much enough to like make sure that this would work oh yeah yeah but then you know the next time I just felt safe enough to put both of my feet on her head I knew this is where this was going
15:11 I'm not going to laugh what do you mean I just figured that you were going to put both of your feet on her head it was I was sa Crush to put on my Timberlands and you know I think hi cleen's Mom yeah yeah everybody say hi to my mom she she watches two insults in each shoe I put I put the doctor shs in there my mom really loves Fe stories about you know putting both of his feet on Nikki's head you know you know you open up you open up cuz he's white does she ever watch her go I like that guy no oh well to be fair I mean hi Nina's mom AKA mom said that to me are the reviews are my mom says her English got better watching us oh that's good yeah how does she know that's not good hi Joe's mom she told me
16:01 one time she goes you probably don't want to talk about ████ and stuff all the time cuz there's kids cuz she goes I looked up with that word man does she sound like you like does she have your mannerisms at all in any way a lot of people that says that they met her there's like a resemblance and like she like don't talk about ████ she has an axe she a ████ plastic Axe and like I don't know people sometimes say there's a resemblance no you would be surprised dude you would be surprised I just want to see them both react the same way at the same time dude dude Joe's mom's at JK and she's like she's like you would be so
16:51 surprised because okay if you could if you could picture like uh a bubbly Mari con but way ████ older a bubbly maricondo like and then just hella ████ hype and happy all the time that's dope and then just a cute little old lady and with a with a memory of a goldfish and she does have like little old lady add so she'll just be like yeah like that's so good tell me about that and I as you're as you're telling her about a story she'll interrupt you and then she'll just start talking about some other ████ and then she'll forget what you just said and then she was like what do you want to eat and then yeah she just but she looks nothing like what you would imagine so the Apple did not fall far from the tree what is it about old
17:42 people though and forgetting like what they just talked about with you like like literally like 6 days ago I'm like I just talked to you about this ████ yeah you know about this you know you want to know really simple this is like so simple that my mom just randomly brought it up and it made me hella sad cuz I didn't even it didn't uh register she was like we were just hanging out me and my mom and then out don't nowhere she's just like H you know when you were a kid we didn't let you go out you didn't get to like go play outside or anything and you were always begging me to to play a game with you every day and I always said no and you were always so sad and I was like oh yeah I got hella sad I was like you remember that oh ████ yeah I remember just going like was going to lead to something positive but it just ended right there anything I was like I would
18:33 beg my mom to just be like I can't go out can we do anything why you want everybody else to have a good time like you're like I think that's I think so too but then she then she was like I'm sorry I never played like I'm ████ 40 she's like I'm sorry I never played with you when you were a kid I was like I'm a tired I totally ████ on this case though it's almost like dude great job Ryan's mom right yeah no great job my mom cuz she always made me feel special your mom sus you know she's watching shut up you know she's watching you're playing for points cuz you know like cuz you know everyone has this thing when you're a kid and something's really difficult once you know you can't do anything about it then you it's like you forget it you just survive it's like whatever so then that's when I became super imaginative with just like making up ████ stories with GI Jo's or Legos or
19:23 something and then I would just do that for ████ hours or drop think she did a good job now he's taking care of his friends all the time I totally forgot that it was from a lack of of human interaction it wasn't because I was ████ creative it's cuz I had no choice bad or she just was just over they were just yeah overprotective they were just very like like 7eventh day Adventists like oh they're not Christian they're not Christian like we don't want you in their house you could get sued you could get sued like what as a ████ child but now we've uncovered why Colleen doesn't share that much cuz her mom's watching every ████ video that's why no there I don't care she can know ████ what is she going going to do a what are you going to do mom huh what are you going to do tell her about your husband yeah give her something I'm going to talk about my fourth husband give us something juicy then what she what she going to do yeah take it away money where your mouth is huh let's go have you done anal come
20:16 on say out of time ████ am I first place out of time I did but the giving not the receiving hey Anthony s ████ you
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