0:00 [Music] welcome back to a highly helpful episode of care for boys today we have suen over here with me we got Nick and Bart over there and we have Anthony and Joe over here hey give it up dude hey is that our new catch race hey feel so crazy all right today's bit of advice that we are going to provide is what is some helpful advice you can give to somebody who is fresh out of a very long relationship get ████ what if it's a woman all right out of a long relationship guys okay let's say it's a guy and he's out
0:50 of like a 8-year relationship he doesn't know where to begin with anything socializing dating get a job get a job I think you should go back to see if his girlfriend would take him back just see just test the waters beg her back hit her hit her with the line of like I've been doing some thinking and then see what happens after that yeah but but do it like an hour after she breaks up with you and then and then call back an hour later go so I've been thinking yeah we do by like 17 Page Letter that you wrote Oh letters all your feelings out I would say uh go buy a motorcycle no be careful no at your own will be careful what about if it's um let's say that he got cheated on so there's no chance of ever coming back to it how does he move on oh I could only say what I think I would do
1:42 and I'm not too sure but I feel like what I would do is probably tried to do a lot of get into a lot of stuff start new hobbies start new hobbies things that like you know like when you're in a relationship your life kind of forms a certain way and then maybe there's like those little things you always wanted to do I would try and go out and do those things in a community based way so like if you like you want to run join like a run club or if you want to do whatever do whatever and then try to like get more involved cuz I also feel like if you jump right back into it you might also have like extra thirsty Vibes like I feel like there's like aate yeah you need to have like a slower assimilation process so people don't go oh this feel's a creep too you know I don't know do all the things that you couldn't when you were in the relationship ████ all those friends that you were thinking about like let's say your girlfriend
2:35 didn't like eating Mexican food the first thing you do is go eat oh I see what you're saying that Mexican taco the Tor Hy cooks toras and also T Cooks toras the shrimp pillboy solo trip solo trip oh yeah actually that's not bad that's actually solo trip you probably got to find yourself I think it is co people don't like really yeah know who they are really I think I did a lot of find yourself yeah for real cuz when you're with somebody for 8 years you do become like your personality kind of morphs with that person bit two people are one person so like you know you have to probably spend time with yourself so you always get those stories out the way of like oh me and my girlfriend used to and then you go oh yeah but you probably have to get those get out also this is cliche but I feel like it's always so helpful to like
3:27 you know just if you're not consistent just like get cracking in the gym like gym is always good cuz it's also about like timing yeah it's about like kind of building confidence in who you are again as well just as a person and when you like you you just naturally get confident when you get like more fit or you're just like you're on like almost like a a high on like where you at as a self you know Improvement kind of tip and then when you have that same confidence of like who you are outside of that too like you're going to engage with the world slightly different oh on that selfhelp whatever like development tip I would say uh Journal a lot cuz I'm a firm believer if whatever lessons that you didn't learn in your last relationship you will bring it into the first the next one that's true so you're going to have a repeat it's going to be like different chick same fight different chick same fight so I feel like it's really important to like a lot
4:17 like self-reflect and have time like what were some of the things that were bad or were some things that were good and be very intentional about it so that you could bring like the right energy and kind of like the right approach to the next one okay let's say that this person let's say that this guy and this girl broke up the guy still can't quite get over well you're not going to get over it in like 2 days it's going to take time man I distance is really important probably you probably have to not talk to this person don't listen to sad songs are you guys are you guys in like do you an apartment across the street from her apartment you can always see what she's up to how how about is it is it weird to block is that weird blocking is block maybe not block uh it helps for some people you got the mute function though you know I me I would mute mute sounds good I think you should find new routines immediately hit up for friends cuz like y First Step First Step get in the car and cry yeah first step get in
5:09 the car just cry it do it far ████ away from people cuz you look like no where where should he go Jack jacket Bo jacket a box spara no pull off to the side of the freeway Jack no no no no this is what you do cry just cry you go and you go to a drive-thru car wash oh they can't see you in there oh yeah yeah yeah and have a cutting board with onions and on your lap and windows down did you get in there start C play this song Baby Come Back rain drops falling my that's a deep cut all right how what about if the guy and the girl broke up it's the guy's fault because he did something really bad and he's having to deal with a guilt blame her blame her look yourself Maro you stupid ████
6:00 idiot the delusion what the ████ is wrong with you build a way to make it not your fault you can't live with yourself yeah go to church yeah go to church I don't know ask for forgiveness jeez yeah oh just just just do something 15 Mar help you make you feel like that that shoulder pick up a discipline you have to figure out how to learn from it forgive yourself and and move on okay how about for the ladies now give up it's over it's a WAP a girl and the guy broke up what's a good way for her to kind of get life moving again I don't know I'm not a chick man they ████ process so differently F okay how about this I think we'd be able to speak on this better uh what are some like warnings like don't get too crazy with here's one thing oh yeah if you're a physical damage if you're a chick and
6:52 you break up with your dude you need a rebound man just stay off of social media for like 2 months cuz the minute like you delete all dud photos all those thirsty ass ████ that are trying to ████ your brains out like oh and you're ████ oh you know it's like maybe that's what she want she goes you know what it's time for a dick party cuz I'mma go through my ████ phase do you think okay let's talk about let's just Center on just ████ phase I think it would be important to make sure that you hang out cuz like you know people guy or girl after a breakup it's like really healthy to be around your close friends right but then in your close friend Circle there's one person who's definitely going to be like yo you need some ████ man and there's also going to be one person that's like Yo dude like come train at the gym or whatever you
7:42 know like depending on the the what you actually need to what like you got to just be conscious of what's actually helpful for you but then if you're also the chick there's also four dudes that are like dude I want to ████ you so hard which is why if you're like around your home girl who's like nah nah bro n n give her some space like that might be helpful for you or there's maybe also on the other side that girl is just like honestly ████ one of these dudes real quick I don't know what's healthy for that situation but your best friends might know you know maybe on both sides though it probably is a good idea just to like stay away from other situations like any other relationships for a little bit relationships yeah but shallow ████ could be helpful even ████ to maybe you shouldn't probably do that so quick I don't speak are crazier for girls though for guys it's like less Stakes for girls you have to be a little more careful I think I think there's there's some wrong choices for that yeah
8:32 for sure for sure cuz like the the guys could get a crazy girl pregnant and then that's regrets too that's true that's true that's true you know what just go to a library yeah just sit in your side what do you do in the library just find a book and read check out a book check out a book what if it's a romance novel and then she get too horny on that Tito honestly there is something like psychological where if after like a long-term relationship regardless of whatever blah blah if you do enter like a a a sexual quick fling there's I don't know there's also something that makes you feel like it's uh not as easy to get back with that person cuz you've already gone too far that's true it does like Burns a bridge for you yeahuh you know so like again depending on situ I'm not saying it's right or wrong I'm just saying like that can happen or find a chick that looks just like your last girlfriend and then
9:23 bang her harder like Kanye yeah Bianca and now they're getting divorced that's really healthy saw that coming they're getting divorced now yeah I think so man do you think after the divorce she's GNA still walk around with a stocking on her head and boobs showing out maybe that was her idea who knows I think she got she's going to have money to buy real clothes I don't know that was her brand though you know but was it before I don't know maybe she didn't really have reason I think St I mean I think ████ Kanye late text and line nyloned her up you think she's going to go back to architecture was she architect or something really today's video is brought to you by via do you need help with anxiety yep maybe a little bit of sleep help yep or you want to enhance your mood mhm that's what via is known for mhm all this stuff grown in the US
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11:57 you want to go really far so it's not as crazy you're trip with your besties cute backpack yeah you got I think you should join gym get your passport stolen from some gypsies you know live it up I think there's also like the thing to be said when you're were saying like if you jump it when when you go freshly single as a girl like there are dudes that were waiting in the wings for that and they're going to look at it almost like a conquest thing where they they can't wait to brag that like dude I yeah so that's you got to wait you got to be worried about the first ones the first ones that show up there is not always the best yeah ████ they've been waiting yeah and that's kind of awkward guys are ████ vultures huh ████ nasty knows really soon that guy's been salivating like a ████ that's a little weird he's trying to hang out with you
12:47 already would pursue you regardless if you're in a relationship or not yeah he'll be like oh I didn't know either way longterm relationship don't jump into the next one quick and also what are they trying to achieve also though also sometimes rebounds really do help yeah but only if they're in on it with you well your intention is not to hurt the rebound you know it it's just sometimes a rebound is called a rebound for a reason you know you you actually think that have you ever have you guys ever had a rebound that like got really complicated or have you ever had a productive rebound yeah that's the other thing too is like do you feel like productive one yeah yeah it overall was a net positive it didn't make it a little crazier for me I thought I like uh near the end of my relation I mention this in a different way but uh near the end of my relationship like when I got
13:38 into that rebound this the rebound exhibited all the things that I thought I wanted that I didn't have at the end of this relationship and so that's why it like worked out really well one like I wasn't as heartbroken as I maybe could have been in one sense but two like it taught me that the things that I thought I wanted wasn't actually it yeah I remember you talked about this yeah the perspective change right and it's great to get that as early in life as possible yeah that's a blessing I would have I guess they're rebound because but it was an unintentional rebound right where where you're like well this may work or whatever you get into the relationship and then um later like when I look back I'm like oh maybe that was a rebound but I think the positive thing that came out of it was my image of women were was better after being with the rebounds cuz it's
14:29 like oh that was a good like moment you know like it was it was like oh that person was fun they were pretty cool that no drama that was pretty cool that was that was fun it could have gone somewhere but you know it really didn't and then I was like well what else is out there where it can actually work cuz I think a lot of people get into this mind state of that's not working and then you look you kind of get into this negative thought of like my other exes it didn't work well ████ are there any good women out there you know and then you get into into relationships or dates and you're like oh they're all pretty ████ cool like okay you know you know what I think I would also do I think I'd probably move move cuz if we're talking long term if we're talking longterm like our age now yeah you live with this person right oh yeah that's mem 5 years just cuz you moved
15:20 out but if you're still in the same city it's still the same rounds the same routine I probably go somewhere like I never lived before ████ Austin Portland wherever yeah just just switch it up and just experience life in a brand new lens that's true versus like oh I was ████ insan Gabriel and I now live in Al hamro the same ████ you got to go on your personal pilgrimage for sure honestly you know when you said travel you should Trav you should go to a spot where they're having war continue continue continue yeah don't let me interrupt you oh cuz War ████ treat you way better that's what I'm talking about talk about war ████ it's it's about surviving oh because you're going to be like I have so much ████ to worry about instead of my relationship that's kind of
16:10 true when you come back you're just going to want to be with her again dude no you're you're going to you're going to come back and be like babe I've Seen It All I Want You Back why would you want them back you probably be like dude I was so ungrateful I took you for granted yeah I was tripping about nothing which uh War torn country would you go to probably go to Russia and Ukraine that's fire right now it's hot which one's better it's fire right now which one's the better choice between those two well there's also Gaza yeah but you can't really just get in there yeah Russia and Ukraine you can at least hop over ████ Poland and you can help both sides huh anyways that's what you should do you're going to start being grateful for everything else yeah instead of your freaking feelings watch also if you're in your feelings one of the first thing you should do go home to your mom's
17:01 cooking there's something about eating like a home-cooked meal that like what if you don't want to hear that ████ try to lecture you about ████ I told you I told you it never going to work any I told you she's a ████ could have Sav you 8 years you don't even list to momy years I told you get was someone that speak Chinese she speak Spanish never going to work how do you navigate let's say that you're a newly single dude right and then you notice that a close friend of yours that's a girl is now like confessing like oh wow you marry her honestly you probably should marry her I've liked you for a really long time and she's coming out with it now yeah did you like her though was never that's weird what's the what's the scenario you're you're newly single and one of your close friends
17:51 who's a girl comes out and says now that you're single hey I've had feelings for you for she kind of cute yeah she's cute ████ a Tron if I found her attractive and I actually enjoyed her friendship yeah you do it was like you know like a Sten Nikki like like like a stepen Nikki situation oh yeah that is like you know like they they they were friends they enjoyed each other's company uhhuh and then but they're always in relationships yeah so as soon as they singled up at the same time they were like oh ████ and they jumped in like immediately that's true yeah like this I I can I can picture that happening and I think people would be happy to be in that situation yeah cuz it's like you got out of this relationship that's so lucky yeah but like on the on the transitive side of it does that work as easily when you're the guy telling a girl time you're ████ creep I think
18:42 that's ████ creepy dude I mean but you but you said you said you're you're close friends yeah so that means they they know something about you it might not be romantic but they know something as far as comfort and depth of like who you are as a person that weird or the struggle that you went through with your ex like so weird to be the guy for sure cuz it's it's way more predatory if it's you know why I think because you still have the power as a guy as in like if a girl says that to you you're like you can be like oh if you don't like her you're just like oh that's cute it doesn't bother you doesn't oh yeah but you can get in their head though it's close friend be like look honestly a part of the reason why my relationship didn't work is also because I think I've also always had feelings for you I know I just got a relationship but like I just need to tell you the truth and then you walk away why you making her so wet for her
19:32 that's why you just walk away he sex have her he knows he knows what was accurate I would have just been like are you sucking my dick now or tomorrow oh whoa that's a tight that's a tight line that's why he gets it and I don't hey I got a better idea check this out go to a war torn country no no no go to a dealership and buy the car you wanted go into de financial situation get the charger you want 80% APR go get that fast car my boy zero down go to gmr and just hit the curves hit the mountains feel the wind put your favorite song on window down now we know how subie would process Too Fast Too Fast Too Fast dude I do think the biggest um what do you call it like moving on
20:24 uhhuh and the quickest way yeah is to go right back to enjoying life that you had before that relationship oh and feel desired by people like if if like you're dating and whatever and you can see that there's other options for you it'll give you hope to go oh well like cuz people always go back to the last best one I think that's you know and then they they they get stuck and they can't move on cuz they go oh I'm not going to get any better MH but then when you start dating around again and even if you're not ready at least if you you can kind of see the potential of like oh when I am ready then I can possibly uh yeah that's true Hobbies I still think you got what you guys are saying is probably the best Hobbies no just doing yeah like like you
21:14 said if you want to pick up a new activity uh get really good at something different like it's always a involuntary self-esteem boost when you gain a skill level at stuff and then if there's a community around that even better sometimes that's how people really meet a really compatible person for them you know I think might be fun I think a fun thing could be uh just even driving Uber for a day and just letting every one of your passengers know what happened and just what advice do you have oh wow you're going to get so many bad ratings I know but then other hey I have a broke up what would you do and just talk and just make it a YouTube channel a GoPro yeah Uber confessions tears in the car we're actually talking about you best of luck hope one of these Solutions helps
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