0:00 So, a topic that comes up here a lot is the fetishization of Asian women. And I wanted to know like from your perspective if that's even something that crosses your mind or if you care about it when people are like, you know, telling you like, oh, you're being fetish fetishized. Like, is that something that you even uh consider when doing anything at all? >> Not really. >> Have you ever heard anyone say that? No. >> Do you know the concept of like Asian girls being fetishized? >> I do, but you know, I I I'm very lucky to grow up in a very Asian area, so I didn't really feel any of these things growing up and I just didn't really mind too much about it. Yeah. >> So, when you date like non Asian guys, did you ever feel like, are you with me
0:50 for me or my Asianness? [laughter] >> I I don't think I really have that done unless it's like blatantly put out. Yeah. And I honestly don't care. So yeah, >> when I first came across that concept, I was so ████ jealous. >> I was like, "Wait, white dudes just be liking Asian girls cuz they're Asian? I mean, where's all the hot white ████ that just want to suck my dick cuz I'm Asian? >> Wait, yo, Asian guys are in right now." >> Now, >> yeah, >> but before there's not Yeah. There wasn't like that automatic switch >> where they just see you, you know, >> you got to like get to know me or whatever. The the tread. I'm in a very Chinese part of my life. Had me rolling, dude. Like I'm like, "What is this tread?" >> Oh, yeah. When they play that song in the background. >> My favorites when they go, "Uh, are you want to eat in Chinatown?" And they go,
1:40 "Oh, you mean normal town." [laughter] >> Wait, what is that? It's like a It's a trending humor about like how you're you're Chinese, but you're not. But it's like I don't know. It's hard to explain. >> Yeah. Japanese had it for the longest time where everybody did anime and like cosplay. They just want to be that because it's Japanese. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But now China is basically getting that now. >> Yeah. And it just became a running joke and now it's applied everywhere >> just like how you know there's a lot of K-pop like people who are just obsessed. >> Weeaboo weeaboo or something. See merch that says um I'm in a very Chinese time of my life right now. Like >> things like that. And it's all kinds of people. It's not just Chinese doing it. No, it's the non-Chinese. Yeah, >> the meme. Yeah. Is it the same thing as China maxin? >> Yes. [laughter] Same same universe. >> Otaku's been around for a long time.
2:31 Yeah. >> So, the way I think Raina's opinion on fetishization is the thing I swore was what I knew that's how people felt, but I couldn't prove it because we never have someone here. [snorts] >> I don't think most girls who f like I don't give a ████ I think it's the it's like it's angry people from the outside being pissed off inside. You know what I mean? Where they're like trying to find a reason to be upset about something, you know? >> The other part that I didn't get, so her upbringing is also unique like ours, like you know, if you grew up in the SGV or whatever, it's like predominantly Asian. >> Um, but I could get like the random Asian guy or Asian girl that grew up in all white neighborhood and then they become the token Asian person or >> fetishiz. But then when I would hear those gripes, I would be like I always thought it was weird cuz I'm like, isn't that extra
3:22 cool that you get extra attention just because you are that? >> So to me, >> you're unique. You get to be the only one. >> Like it's like you're born and you're automatically you already have like special you're the special edition version, right? Like you get to be the type R integra and you're just type R. And I'm like, other people have to try so hard to be type R and you are type R and I never got the negativity behind it. >> I think the so what I've observed the drawback is that it can come with a list of expectations. So like if let's say you're an Asian girl, right, and a white guy starts dating you and he maybe at some point he'll be like, "How come you're not cute? How come you're not being cute? How come you're like, "Why is your voice so low? How come you're not like wearing little dresses? How come you're not submitting? How come you're not ser subservient to me?" So, it's the stereotypes come in and then it
4:12 then you realize, oh, you aren't interested in me. You're interested in the idea of me. But that kind of conflict happens regardless. That's what that's my point. I'm like, you you could be the same race >> and that same misunderstanding happens because that's just ████ dumb guys. [laughter] >> Yeah. One year in is different than your first date. >> Yeah. >> Right away. >> I don't see it as a cultural problem. I think just guys are ████ adults. >> Yeah. >> That's crazy. >> Yeah. But don't girls just get fetishized for everything? >> That's what I'm saying. It's >> like their boobs, their legs, their everything. >> I think it's relegated to Asians. Yeah. >> Yeah. Even their profession. >> Yeah. >> Like I date her because she's a nurse or a teacher or whatever. >> Nurse. >> Yeah. Or whatever. Like I don't know. It's just >> No. You know, you make a good point because like when I first started doing all this, I just rolled out of bed in a hoodie and ate food. And then honestly
5:02 eventually I was like I'm going abuse the fact I'm a girl. ████ it. like Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. Know cuz I grew up very guyish. My dad treated me like a son. >> Oh, really? >> Yeah. Cuz I was first born. He wanted a son. It was very obvious. He played war games with me. He like [laughter] he he I I didn't know how to style myself. He took me to a wedding and a Hollister t-shirt from the men's section, bro. Like I He just wanted a son. I was like, "F███." >> Excuse me. Wait. You went to a wedding wearing a Hollister men's shirt? >> I didn't know how to style. He didn't know how to style. We didn't know what the ████ we was doing. kind of ahead of its time a little bit though. [laughter] >> Yeah. So, um, >> your mom was too like Christian to get you to like do fashion and stuff or >> My mom doesn't really do style either. She's also like >> I don't know. We were just not a very like good in society family.
5:52 >> Okay. Got it. All right. >> Does she speak English or not that much? >> She speaks it, but it's like Chinese English. Yeah. Yeah. My dad like perfect English. >> Really? >> Yeah. >> Wow. >> Yeah. Cuz I I figured a lot of parents, they don't have time for like the the frivolous stuff if they're immigrants trying to figure ████ out. But if your dad speaks perfect >> Oh, no. He's good businessman. Good perfect English. He's very very like he's very smart. >> So he doesn't even have like a like a fab accent. >> No. >> Oh, >> no. I I use him in my videos. My followers love him. >> Oh, wait. That's right. He kind of blew up like people recognizing him now on his own. >> Was he born here or he came here when he was like >> No, he came here like 20ome. Oh >> yeah. >> Dang, dude. >> He's just a smart cookie. >> Maybe someday you'll lose your FBI accent. >> Never. It's going to get stronger and stronger and stronger. [laughter] >> Where are you born in China?
6:42 >> Yeah, I came here last year. [laughter] >> Sure. Sure. Sure. >> But you were born in in uh Taiwan. Yeah. >> Mhm. I was born [clears throat] in Taiwan. You were born in Taiwan. Okay. >> But I came here I was came here when I was like little little >> like three. >> No, like eight months. >> Oh, damn. >> I was made here. So, the story is my mom told me my mom told me uh her and my dad ████ They're hella freaky. Missionary flipped her over doggy style 69 [laughter] spanx back and forth just spitting on each other. And then and then I was conceived >> in each other's mouth. >> And then um >> and then you were conceived. Okay. >> And then uh the the Taiwanese healthc care is so good and my parents were so broke at the time. My dad told my mom like, "Hey, you should go back and deliver them there cuz in all the hospital bills, if there's any like
7:32 complication, they'll all be covered." >> Wow. >> So, she went back and then so they had me there and then she came back and then doggy style missionary again. 69 afterwards. [laughter] >> Not safe to travel with a baby so small. >> I know. That's why my mom hated my dad so much for it. She's like, "Can you believe this guy made me travel all by myself when I was like 5 or 6 months already?" >> She had to go by herself and deliver it. >> Yeah, cuz my dad had the the Chinese takeout restaurant, so he's like, "I can't leave this place." >> God, he sent her alone. >> Yeah. >> He was annoyed. >> Yeah. So, from day one, From day [laughter] one, it's just >> From day one, they just like >> don't see eye to eye. And I fighting been beefing after the doggy and then the missionary and then the reverse cowgirl >> spitting in each other's mouth. >> Do you think your dad fetishized your
8:22 mom? [laughter] >> Oh, maybe maybe he was like the country Chinese guy. Oh, look at this little pristine Taiwanese girl. >> I'm going to doggy her. Missionary. [laughter] >> Taiwanese girls are cute though. Taiwanese girls are like shorter, smaller, cuter. Yeah. Yeah. They have the >> Now my mom has like a a pretty like singing voice cuz she used to sing a bunch. >> So my dad probably got hella horny. [snorts] >> Nice. >> Did he ever actually mention like what he liked about your mom [snorts] >> ever? Like did he ever mention like [laughter] >> honestly I don't think so. >> Never. Not even one thing. >> Well, they're pen pals, right? >> They're pen pals. Yeah. I don't know. And do you think do you do you think that when they were pen pals your dad was like that wasn't really his writing? >> No, my dad's a good writer. >> Oh, okay. >> Yeah, he's actually really good. >> So then he's like
9:12 >> I've read his handwritten letters and stuff before and I'm like >> for someone that didn't make it past junior high. >> You have very logical thoughts. [laughter] >> So he never like you never saw your parents like be um flirty with each other or joke around lovingly. I have, but I've also seen my dad throw apple at her. [laughter] >> Like 50/50 like tox toxic and then flirty like 50/50 >> passion, bro. >> What happened? Why your dad threw an apple at her? They got into I remember we're getting ready for like preschool or something and then uh um they were fighting and then my this was in Gardina and then my my uh I think my dad like put me on the bed like really firmly. I was like, "Oh s███." I was just waiting
10:02 for one of the parents to come tie my shoelaces and then uh and uh they were fighting and I remember my dad grabbing an apple and then threw it at her. Missed and it hit the window and the window cracked. >> Oh my god. I just remember going, [laughter] >> "Damn, dude." >> Yeah, that was like one of That's like one of those core memories of that house. [laughter] >> That's so sad. What a sad core memory. >> Yeah. Like I don't know if that was normal cuz you know when you're a kid like whatever you're born into, that's the norm. Everybody's >> parents growing up. >> Yeah. So I had no idea. I was just like, "Oh ████ that's ████ scary." >> [laughter] >> Yeah. And then I remember seeing like splattered apple and going like, "Are we going to eat that?" Right? [laughter] >> That's sweet. >> Cuz you could like taste, you know, when you see apple, you're like, "I could taste [laughter] it."
10:52 >> Apple. >> That's really sad. My dad did a similar thing. Um when he was like pissed off, he went outside to clean fish. You know, like um your Asian parents clean their own fish. >> Yeah. Yeah, they just scale. >> Yeah, exactly. So, he went outside to do that. I think he my mom had pissed him off somehow and he he picked the fish up by the tail and he slapped it against the exterior wall >> and guts and blood all over the wall like this. >> And I was like, "Dude, that you're going to have to clean that up." I was like four and I was like, "That's disgusting." But he just like lost his temper while cleaning fish. >> That's crazy. >> All over the wall. It was like that that mental picture. It looked like a horror film. >> Yeah. cuz I was like I've I don't I've never even seen that much blood. I was like 4 years old and here it is like the entire outside of the wall was just like crazy.
11:42 >> I remember like that was such a core memory that my parents uh from the get- go they would rent out other rooms that they wouldn't use cuz like house hacking was such a popular thing >> and I remember when they would like give people a tour to come like oh yeah this is the room um that you'll be renting or whatever. I have this urge of wanting to go. That's where the apple was thrown. [laughter] >> I wanted to like >> You wanted to share it. >> Yeah. I wanted to share it so bad. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. [laughter] >> But the most kid ████ ever, dude. Cuz cuz you'll walk by the living room, you know, and when I see it, I just go, "That's the apple. That's where my dad threw the apple." [laughter] But I would have to contain it. >> The renter would just be like, "Okay." Uh, what's wrong with your kid? >> Yeah. [laughter] So your mom never taught you about fetishization. >> See, it's not real.
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