0:00 thank you [Music] action and welcome back to a very special careful boys where we are indeed very careful boys and we are currently off the Record and today we are talking about do you guys remember the first time that you use a swear word nope but I do remember loving the say words I'm not supposed to my mom has a tape recording of me for about 40 minutes straight singing about poop pee poop Kaka vomit fart whatever as a kid and that was the best ████ ever so that's exactly what this prompt is about so you you do remember yeah yeah because I thought that word were like the actual ones because you know it's like hey you pee pee head yeah exactly I ████ said
0:53 when were you saying some ████ that you're you knew like you ████ this could be ████ crazy if I say around my folks it could be I gotta be careful here you know what though I never got in trouble for saying it okay because even if they heard you they I mean she kept the tape she thought it was hilarious oh like a lot of the stuff that I was not supposed to do outside somehow she found a way to like teach me it didn't work but she she taught me that it was wrong and I knew it was wrong but I didn't do it I taught you the words period like who taught you then you're it somewhere from school from France you don't know what they meant but you knew it was bad and you used it oh yeah I'm gonna open the prompt up too to racial episode so Anthony can jump in I remember my first uh racial episode I'm just kidding no I remember my first
1:43 time I was talking some ████ I got in trouble I was in second grade and I remember I heard a kid say suck my dick right oh yeah in second grade second grade ████ wow and um it's Advanced that's really advancing and then he was he was doing this he was doing that do you think his parents like he's so Advanced he's already doing something he's doing the DX yeah um and then I just started copying them all right and I remember people started laughing so I just kept doing it and at the time I remember the fact that I remember this is pretty interesting I remember I had a fruit roll up that I that I let hang all the way down it was like really long and I was like out of my mouth and I just kept doing it it's pretty good though and I remember it was it was Mrs uh Underwood's class in second grade and then um I was making too much of a scene and then someone
2:33 told on me and then um didn't take long I meant no did it and then my guidance counselor uh Mr Smith he nabbed me and he had a talk with me and said hey you can't be using this kind of language like where did you learn this from and I was like I heard Michael say it blah blah blah blah blah and then I just was ever since then I just had a little potty mouth dude and I just was like my dick and I was doing that I remember huh you know what that meant you know what that meant I I assume to this day with me nope I have no idea I was hoping you guys would tell me wow yeah he doesn't know I was hoping to have my first experience yeah so they didn't they told you just not to say it but you didn't actually get in trouble huh no well they'd uh my mom I think my mom had to come pick me up oh damn that is trouble I got in trouble for that dude but it was more kind of like what were
3:23 you doing like where'd you learn that from like it's kind of innocent though yeah it was just like they didn't really get that mad at me and it wasn't until I was in like fourth or fifth grade where I got like really in trouble dude at least it wasn't your stepmom because you probably would have tried to show you oh wow jeez it's already that kind of sick that's just the real world there was um the first time I saw a cuss word at all or learned about one I remember now it was our neighbor when I was this was like 1989 and in Downey it was still a lot of like white people that lived there and then we had this white family next to us and they had like a teenage dude that was like you know like a bad white kid and uh he used to pick up the dog ████ in his yard and toss it over the wall so we would have this random dog ████ in our yard before you learned
4:14 the dog ████ trick huh yeah that's right that was the evolution yeah he um so they might I remember my dad went over there and he told his mom that like oh your son's been like throwing dog ████ over the wall like tell him stop doing that and she was like okay that's fine and then like um later on that day we went out of the house to go to the car because we were going somewhere and they had taken like chalk and they wrote a giant ████ you on the street in the direction of our house what they did it toward you too yeah and then continued throwing dog ████ they never stopped yeah my my I remember my parents like saying like oh like me and my sister read it out loud we're like ████ you what's that and then my my dad and my mom were like oh that's something you should never say and then that's where like literally like I learned oh that's the worst thing you can say to someone yeah and then my dad didn't know
5:04 what ████ was no I didn't know what it was me neither I just remember my dad said that like oh they're they're really bad and they're bullying us so never use that to someone else I feel like kids used all those words it didn't know what they meant yeah yeah there's I mean I didn't learn for a long time with that man I just knew it was like bad it's a very powerful word yeah they moved away though and they and they left their cats and they all died oh goodness they abandoned like a ton of cats there was like a bunch of cats in the neighborhood and they all like just like died they're all sick they're dog people so they're so ████ up wow they became murders later they could have was it like a hoarder house with cars parked on their lawn yeah kind of yeah yeah back in the day Donnie had a lot of people like that yeah a lot of like yard peoples yeah yeah it wasn't like a nice city and then like white flight happened
5:56 and everyone was Mexican and Asian in the neighborhood now my flight happened so I vividly remember the two instances one I've already shared on here before I'll show it again uh I got in trouble both times I don't remember exactly where I learned it I was at my Grandpa's funeral in Hawaii somewhere in like 1996 or something like that and I somehow learned the term ████ ████ so go on somehow I don't know it's a good one but you know when you learn it in your mind as a kid you're like when do I get to use it though you know what I'm saying yeah you know not to but you're just like whatever's on the trigger dude yeah that's a good one all my cousins right we're like upstairs in like my my Grandpa's old apartment and then all my cousins like start tickling me and stuff and they like hold me down you know what like ████ different cousins aren't holding you down and stuff you know like tickling you have nowhere to go so I remember just like
6:46 kicking and flooding and then I was like you ████ ████ and everybody let go of this I was a kid everybody let go at the same time uh basically the same age a lot of big moves dude and then immediately one of my cousins she like just runs downstairs she is a ████ dish anyway what a narc yeah runs downstairs you know like tells on me and ████ like that oh he got told on dang and then straight up from there too many raps my family yeah my dad is like the most physically like you up out of all the aunties and uncles anyway so I was I was in for it and they literally did all that ████ that you see in like ████ Christmas stories they took me into the restroom they were slapping me up and took a bar of soap shoved it in my mouth oh oh my God that's not well I mean I probably deserved it were you like this with the bar soap that's cultural
7:36 appropriation yeah yeah were you do you have a dove bar in there yes it's not a Vietnamese style you can see and it's funny because there's evidence of this you could see in the giant family photo that happened right after it all the aunties uncles and cousins and I'm the only one who's fully like cry against you bro you gotta get that picture they captured it ████ ████ so true like back in the day it's like you get your ass handed to you and you're crying and the The Show Goes On like everyone's still like they let it go they have a lot of those where I'm crying in a group picture I remember every single party someone was getting ████ spanked or in trouble yeah it has to happen yeah yeah and then the second second one I mentioned the story before but it's uh it's a good lesson for all the children out there I learned again I heard the term uh stupid gaffit
8:26 but not gaffit right and then I didn't know you know like when I was gonna use it or anything like that and I just remember pocket I remember I was in like third or fourth grade or something like that we're playing during recess and remember when the school bell rings everybody's supposed to freeze right right right what I was about to use this time I used this term I was like somebody said something I don't remember what they said maybe they called me like whatever and then I was like you're stupid and I said it and the bell rang so I froze and then the guys looking at me his little black kid and he's like what'd you say right he starts walking towards me but I'm like in my mind I'm like you can't move you can't move freeze and I just didn't do any because I was like I'm following the rules I gotta freeze he came over and he ████ threw me down on the floor and I was all crying as a kid what and he didn't get in trouble because no none of the ████ safeties were doing their patrolling job the right way oh ████ it's mine
9:19 I remember it after that I was like I probably shouldn't throw that term around yeah that's a well that's pretty crazy that he got that mad well I mean I probably shouldn't be calling somebody a stupid Gadget you know what I mean but I remember in the in the early days of cuss words no one will stand our practice because everyone's practicing using them all the time yeah everybody called each other gay yeah yeah yeah yeah I didn't even know it meant a homosexual relationship I hope at some point I actually called a gay guy yeah I doubt it did I didn't even know that yeah we just thought it meant like stupid back in the day I just thought it meant girly I definitely got called Gay more infinitely more I was called Gay all the time and then later on you learn what what the real meaning is in your life whoa I didn't know boys kiss boys like that he learned in like sixth grade science
10:09 class we learned gay like in actual class and as soon as like everyone learned what it was they all pointed at me every single one of them Savage and then and then uh teacher teacher is Ryan gay then it's funny because like that's a good idea because everyone's like it's a good grouping why did they all think you were gay were you flamboyant today's video is brought to you by Warby Parker okay so sometimes you're on a website looking and shopping for eyewear and you're like man this stuff looks so cool but I don't know if it's gonna look good on me so pass how many of you guys do that at home because for me there's been so many times when I've bought glasses it came in and I'm looking at it I put it on and for some
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11:51 stores too and glasses start at 95 bucks including prescription lenses so try the Warby Parker's free home try on program order five pairs of glasses to try on at home for free there's no obligation to buy ships free and even includes a prepaid shipping label so try five pairs of glasses at home for free at warbyparker.com off the Record no it's just like it was just fun to roast each other and then they just got me that day for you they just literally what you do is like oh that's what that means so then that makes Ryan like I was like I got Association at that time yeah I remember um a lot of kids used words that they didn't know what it was like I remember one time um the these kids were like play fighting right and then they're like hey
12:41 you're a molester and I'm like Lester those are pretty funny man dude oh he's a big kid and then um if a if a big adult or kid is beating you up that's a molester so then I was like oh he goes yeah someone who beats up kids is a molester right so I was playing with my cousin um and my cousin at the time he's like he's he's like 15 years older than me right so like ████ wrestling and all that stuff and then he gets me down and I'm all like monastery it works that's scary dude oh yeah no way family was like what the ████ and then they're like and then I was like I got up and I'm like molester molester like that right you're a ████ you're you're you beat up kids and he goes that's not what it means and then he was
13:32 so scared and I was like I was like did I do something wrong and then he's like no that means um they touch your privates and stuff like that and then like oh he will he just ████ my face like that's like when he's messing with your head right dude God people molesters underrated dude that's underrated but if you're a kid and you don't know the gravity of that you're just tossing it around he was like I'm not gonna play with you anymore if you say that molester you're a little kickoff oh that's crazy can you imagine you're like playing with your little nephew ████ wrestling him around and ████ and he goes hey molester and I'm like what the ████ bro drop a kid wild yeah dude yeah
14:22 no thank you right oh I do heavy messing yeah so I mean I've been I work I used a lot of words like that dude so um I didn't really know what the N word was because I heard it in rap I heard it and everyone at school um nipples okay nice no but like all the way up until I don't know like third or fourth grade you know everybody everybody Asian kids black kids everybody said it in Gardena yeah it was uh it was 186th Street Elementary School you know that's the name of the school she sounds like a straight-up game dude what the ████ yeah I went to Rolling 60s Academy that's when elementary schools like don't wear these colors yeah and then we never used it in a in a way where it was like Fu like it's a bad word it was like it
15:15 was always loud that's my friend in the homey way yeah yeah yeah well yeah it's true because you don't see it used in the bad way as a kid right yeah and then I was singing it with my friend right we were in the we were there was a system over and over again yeah no we were singing a song together the lyrics yeah and then he was black you know so so I didn't see anything wrong with it but I didn't know it was a black I didn't know it was about race and then we get up to the uh up in front of the snack line I'm singing the song with them and then the snack lady was like Joseph and I'm like oh she's black no she was Asian and then she goes I can't believe what you're saying and I'm like what what and then I'm like what did I do did I say stupid like what did
16:07 I say like I was like so confused and she goes go back to the line and think about what you just did and then so I was at the back of the line like ████ shivering and I'm like all I want is a ████ Twinkie and a ████ orange juice and I don't know what I did right so I get back she goes are you ready to apologize and I'm like what he goes you know what you said and she wouldn't repeat the word right that's cool the lunch lady cared to discipline you on that though that's that's funny though the idea of like him yeah yeah him and his black friends saying it but she can't discipline the book yeah that word is not for you Joe but I didn't even know it was a bad word and then so so she tells me like you know what that means and I'm like I don't know and she goes that's a a mean way that they used to say to Slaves so you shouldn't use that word and all that and my mind just went I was like what and you probably learned
16:58 more from the lunch lady than from the teachers there huh oh yeah that's that's cool yeah I didn't know I took the time to tell you that but dude back then like I could have got you killed you're in elementary school you're listening to Tupac Biggie you're listening to NWA you're listening to Ice Cube you're listening to Jackie Chan in rush hour my parents are immigrants they don't speak English so they didn't they didn't say you can't listen to this music oh yeah because hip-hop to them they could they knew that rock is is like the devil yeah Rock was the thing that was bad yeah and I hear you listen to ████ electric guitar so I was like okay well I listen to Eric Clapton yeah I listen to hip-hop I can listen to hip-hop fine I'm playing hip-hop all day they can't they don't understand what the lyrics are right and what you're like second third fourth grade you don't know what you know so that that was my whole shock of like oh ████ that's what it meant yeah yeah
17:48 and I kept using it until High School yeah because all my friends did and then and then I use it I used it yesterday he's at the grocery store yesterday dang until I had a bigger vocabulary to express friendship do you remember that like uh one time the the pastor at in high school had this one like sermon and it was like what do you guys think is the worst cuss word of them all and everyone was like ████ ████ like it was like they got permission yeah he's like no the worst cuss word of all is God damn and we were like ah really that's a week it was like because everything else is like I guess he's saying that all other cuss words are just cultural constructs people make up linguistically but then saying God damn actually traces back to blaspheming against the Lord so you're
18:38 not gonna go to heaven yeah so you can say ████ is what you want yeah you just kind of say God damn I thought that was interesting because then he was very like liberal on like explaining that and we were all going through all the customers if you didn't care just raising your hands yeah I wasn't allowed to say um God like God like God's name in vain right so you're not supposed to be like oh God yeah that's right you can't say oh my God yeah you're saying it in a way that's negative so then what what they said you should do is when someone says that word you go shh so it turns into gosh oh so it's like oh God yo shh and it's gosh over here my mother wouldn't let you you do it I could say a lot of things I could say shut up but that was pretty bad yeah but shut up was a pretty bad if I said God damn it was over my mother wouldn't mind it yeah guys are pretty gosh darn I don't remember the context
19:28 but I remember the word because I'm a ████ no is ████ damn yeah I'm trying to I'm sitting here trying to L Jackson trying to think about the context I think it was just something that I had heard and then we just kind of ████ up it's so bad yeah definitely um but yeah I don't know I I know that it was ████ for some reason though that was your first cuss word that was my first ████ ████ I think it was one of those situations where it was just like something stupid happened you stepped your toe yeah something's that stupid and I was just like ████ and there's like Colleen don't say that I was like sure what did they say when I used the word ████ for the first time I don't even know what I'm saying
20:18 what it meant I just thought it was ████ hilarious the man kept saying it and so my uncle like who came to help us move because we lived in Fairfax Virginia and like it was time to move to San Diego and then my uncle's like I'll help you guys move so then they get a U-Haul and then my uncle comes and my my mom like we they take the van but then I'm like the first born son so I get to go in the U-Haul with my uncle and my dad and then the in the U-Haul my uncle my dad my uncle Clan's just going like ████ goddamn piece of ████ ████ and all ████ damn and I was like this is so cool because like my dad's not like going like oh like all the ████ that he does when I'm watching the movie or whatever yeah he was treating me like I'm a man yeah now you could talk like the adults or this is cool but I couldn't do it yet with around them but I I was absorbing the
21:09 ████ out of it in the wrongest way but I was like oh man it's so cool that my dad's not stopping me from hearing this ████ because normally he did that and I was like and then I got my sister and then and I was like I was like hey Jen I was like hey ████ this ████ yeah we don't get to see our friends anymore ████ this ████ and then my sister like had the permission now to do it too because I was doing that so you weren't cussing but now you two siblings secretly started cussing she's like yeah ████ this ████ how old were you guys like we're like I'm like nine years old and she is like she's like 11. yeah and then yeah so we're both like giving each other permission it's a cool with me and her and we're very close but like we used to have like um a partition on our wall
21:59 like through like the uh electrical outlets where I could hear her and she'd hear me when the doors were closed so we could talk to each other through the wall oh cool how romantic hey Jen ████ this ████ show me those titties but like ████ this ████ right so like and so that kind of became like the this like thing we had with each other where like we were allowing each other to say swear words but then we knew to clean it up when the folks were around you guys are each other safe space yeah yeah yeah those are like secret sibling packs handshake like yeah secret romance we've always had each other's back since then that's cool yeah but then she married again this is not me I just I dread the thought of someone finding this as their first video just to having no contact with the eyes white guy punch sister that makes sense
22:49 it's always been the bit
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