0:00 [Music] All right, since we have some girls here today, I thought it would be interesting if uh you guys told us some of the dumbest things that a guy has done while you were dating. Uh and then we can judge if it's really that dumb at all. >> Or if we did it. >> Yeah. or if we're the ones that did that same thing >> while we were dating >> or just that in maybe you weren't dating, maybe whatever the status was, but just a a thing that you know a guy has done that was really stupid >> or maybe they thought it was it was supposed to make a good impression, but then you're like, why would anyone do something like that? >> Yeah. like whether he um uh you know like here's an example like if he gave you a gift that was the same gift he gave like an ex in the past >> that's like really stupid or if
0:50 >> girls like this so I'll just do it for every single girl >> I've got one but it's kind of I don't know if it's sad >> but this guy >> if it's sad even better >> so we were like we dated very briefly I'm talking like 2 3 months whatever we kind of stayed friends >> afterwards Whoa. Whoa. Calm down. Calm down. It's okay. >> Drama bath. Drama bath. >> Imagine he gets mad >> right now. >> Okay. All right. >> So, we kind of stayed friends and then I moved to North Wales. So, I was living there. He was living in Liverpool, right? >> How far apart is that? >> On a train. Like an hour. >> That's too close. >> Yeah, it's not close. >> I was like in the middle of nowhere. So, it was like, you know, it wasn't like a regular train. You would have to like whatever. So then he calls me up one day and he's started dating this other girl in like our kind of group.
1:40 >> Oh, >> she had kids and everything. Messy, right? >> Nasty. >> So he's been dating her. So she they break up and she starts dating somebody else immediately. But they only dated for like 2 months. So he calls me up and he's like kind of b███████ about her. Like I can't believe she would do this. Why wouldn't she tell me? I just think like we're still part of the same group. She should have said something. And I was like, "Nate, you were dating for like 2 months. I don't think she really like owes you that to be honest with you. I don't think she needed to give you any heads up for 2 months of dating. And he's like, "No, you don't understand." And this conversation's going on and on. I'm like, "Something's going on here and you're not telling me. Like, what don't I understand? Cuz I don't think she's doing anything wrong." >> Yeah. >> He was like, "We were actually dating for like a year, blah blah blah." And I'm doing the math in my head. He was dating me and this girl when we were friends at the same time. I call him out on it. He's like completely gets thrown off. Doesn't know what to do. I hang up.
2:31 He calls me back and he's like, "Hannah, I think I'm in love with you. I'm on a train. I'm coming to see you right now." >> Joe, take it easy, Joe. Huh? >> The the insanity of it. Yeah. He thought this was going to win me back. >> So, he's like, "I'm coming on a train. I'm like, I'm going to be there." And I'm like, >> the fact that he lost her and then he's going to >> while he admits that he was cheating on you with her. >> Wow. >> And then he's in love and then he's on a train and I'm like, "Mate, I am not going to be there." And I hung up. And I think he actually like came to this tiny little town I was living in and just like waited. >> Wow. >> Yeah. Insanity. >> You thought it was going to be a whole love story movie, huh? Like ████ >> what a dork. >> Weird, right? >> Loser. >> Yeah, that was the weirdest one. >> ████ That guy weird. >> That guy's such a loser. I've never heard of a loser like that.
3:22 >> Damn. >> Damn, dude. >> ████ He's just waiting for you. >> I don't know. Like I never answered the phone again. I was like, "This guy's that's weird." >> I think we we would agree that is like a weird solution to a problem you caused, >> right? Madness. >> Like that that that common sense. >> The reaction of like, "Oh, I ████ up. Let me go into this person that doesn't want me anyway." >> Dude, by the way, it was like a year since we had dated. It was like >> like that's not even on the table at all. Okay. Yeah. That's pretty stupid. >> That's it. Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Madness. >> That's pretty dumb. Did you ever have anyone that made any mistakes or is everyone perfect? >> There was actually one guy who told me that the value of my dollar is worth less than his because he had less money than I did. So >> Huh. >> He he created an economy of between two
4:13 people. >> Yeah. He told that to my face and I was fuming and like just because I work harder or not harder but I just I had more I had more money at the time cuz I had a job that money is worth less cuz you have more of it. >> Yeah. >> Oh, Zika's trying to trying to make it equal so you pay more cuz it's like >> it's like, "Hey, if we're going to go 50/50 on a rent, but your dollar is worth less, so you should be paying 70%." That's actually pretty creative. >> Yeah, >> that's smart. >> That is kind of smart. If he could pull it off. If he could pull it off. >> He could pull it off. >> No. No, he didn't pull it off. >> Did he ever ████ is going on? Did he ever try to do a money exchange like for >> his exchange rate was low >> currency? Own currency. >> My five for your 10. >> No. >> No. No. No. No. No. >> That's a Wow. That's a very elaborate
5:03 thing to think of. >> It was ████ >> That's like That's like his coping mechanism out in the open. >> Is that when he stopped dating Chinese guys? >> He was white. >> It was >> It's always >> That's a white guy. >> Was the accountant? >> Was he from China? Wait, what do you mean it's always the white ones? >> I feel like >> I feel like they're weirder about money. >> Really? >> When I've dated like Asian guys or like Eastern European even, it's very straightforward. Like guy pays, >> they just take care of everything. >> When I've dated like like a lot more of the kind of European guys, it's kind of more of a gray area about like what happens, who pays for what, like what the responsibility is, like it's a bit more >> Oh, cuz they're more like 50/50 and stuff, right? Or like it can be. Yeah, it's kind of like not so when I've dated like I've dated like Asian guys who have moved to the UK from like whatever
5:53 place. So they're not even like British, there is zero expectation of you paying for anything. >> They just take care of everything. >> Everything. Even when like I was this guy, we weren't even dating anymore. We were just like still cuz you know when you date in your friendship group and then you kind of stay like whatever. >> Um I lost my wallet. He just was like, "Oh, take a credit card." >> Just deal with that until you get your bank sorted. Holy ████ >> Like there was just the the dynamic is just so like kind of straightforward. >> Hey, you're making my man Joel feel uncomfortable. >> No one's ever taken better care of me than Joseph Jitsu. >> He's been very generous. >> Jo, have I done that? >> Yeah. >> Can I ever give her a credit card? >> I've still got it. So, this is the credit card. >> We've been getting groceries for years. But yeah, like white like Yeah, it's
6:44 different. It's like you kind of >> does it matter like if it's like more like let's say because I feel like in the US, right, you would have the traditional more like >> I don't know like let's say religious traditional white guys like they'll probably >> Yeah. >> They're like they're looking for the long-term marriage. They'll pay for the dates. They're more like old school. But then like the big city guys that are maybe more like artsy or whatever, they're like, "Hey, we're all about equality. We're going to go Dutch." >> Yeah. No, for sure. If you go up to northern England where it's a bit more like small towns, it's more like traditional. >> Well, that's like where you grew up. >> Yeah, where I grew up, it's more traditional. So, I think that's what I had the expectation going in. But yeah, in London, different >> chivalry was invented there. >> You would expect the opposite, right? Cuz if it's a smaller town, that means like not much work or very specific, right? So, people would be more like, hey, let's keep it 50/50, right? But if
7:34 you, you know what I mean? And in London, there's so much more going on, more chance and opportunities to make more money. Wouldn't you want to take on that? You know what I or maybe living cost >> cost less traditional travel life stuff. >> Yeah. Cuz I don't know about UK, but I heard that there's some European countries where it's normal to go Dutch like with all friends. >> Yeah. >> Like if you go to a party, everyone pitches in 50/50 or whatever it is, they divide it equally. >> Like there I saw some video where like I think it was the Netherlands or some ████ where people were like, "Yeah, after a potluck we got like a bill >> and everyone got like a like a percentage bill that it oof." from a pot. >> Yeah. And then everyone in the comments, they're like, "Yo, I'm Filipino. Like, there's no such thing. You come over, you eat as much as you want." Or like there's like different >> Oh, that's weird. >> Yeah. But like there's certain I guess cultures
8:24 >> Yeah, for sure. >> I would have walked out. >> But that's them. I guess it's everything is just >> they That's why they call it going Dutch. >> Yeah, Dutch people do. Yeah, >> I saw a video with a woman and I don't know what ethnicity her husband was, but she was it stuck in my mind cuz she was saying that when they were kind of relatively newly married, but he made like three to four times her salary. He made significantly more money and they were looking for a new apartment and the apartment they found was kind of expensive. So he was like, "You know what? It's like $300 over their budget." He was like, "I'll just cover that extra $300." And she was saying about how it's team work cuz he was making more money and blah blah blah. And the girls were all like, "That's so good of him that he would do more." My mind is like, "If I was married to a man that made three times my income and I had to pay any rent, I'm leaving him
9:16 >> cuz like that's not, you know, >> and then when I heard that, she was like, "What do you think?" I'm like, "Is this fool a ████ Like why isn't he paying?" Well, cuz they're married. It's not >> cuz I know like even in relationships, people have a joint account. That's what I'm saying. But I think it's like >> is he a ████ >> Sounds like Samuel L. Jackson >> when it comes to paying like some guys just I think it's like a thing in their mind of like they don't want to gold digger or they don't want I don't know. >> Oh maybe. Yeah. >> But some guys are weird about money like that. >> But also >> remember I was like thinking what if she wants to contribute cuz it makes her feel like >> like independent and still doing something. We need to stop saying independent like it's a good thing. Independent means nobody loves you, >> right? >> What? >> Yeah. >> Nobody Nobody is actually independent. If you live in the West, you get
10:07 welfare. You have family. Like technically I lived alone and I was self-employed, but nothing bad was ever going to happen to me. Like my parents would take me in, my brothers would take me in, the state would take me in. >> I'm loved. I'm never going to be homeless. I'm not independent. If you're truly independent, that's sad. >> Interesting. >> That means nobody cares about you. Yeah, I guess it's the word, right? >> That's true if you really think about it. Yeah, there are like safety nets that are sort of their >> cuz when I hear the per when people say I'm independent, I think that they're saying I'm not a freeloader. >> So like >> when they're they're able to carry on their lives on themselves and they have doesn't mean that you don't have support just means you can go through life and like take care of your >> independence means different in different countries. Yeah. America is that >> way you're using independent is like someone is so self-sufficient that they
10:57 don't need anyone, but they're also forced to be independent cuz they don't have anyone. >> Yeah. I don't think anybody can be truly independent if you have unless you have nobody. >> I think the best case is that you have safety nets that you will never need. Mhm. >> That's like the sickest cuz I think we're all dependent and we we we we have to be to like work together like like we get jobs from each other. We help each other out. >> But for me like insisting on paying is almost like cosplaying something that doesn't exist. Do you know what I mean? It's like I have to pay. Like I lived alone. I you know I was self-employed. I can do it. I don't have to. >> Oh, you know what? How do you feel about this? Cuz I I feel weird about it when I see it. But you know when you have um what's it called? Venmo and you can see who's paying each other >> and you see couples that you know and they pay each other something.
11:49 >> I made eye contact. >> I I get a little bit weirded out by that. >> I get weirded out when I see people that I know that are together and like long-term relationships. >> What if it's for like utilities or something? I don't know. >> Zel kind of strange to me. If my wife emmoed me, it's because uh she's just like, "Here, here, just buy." >> Unless Unless it's a big ass amount. >> What the heck? Oh, thank you. >> If it's big amount, you guys have not like for lunch or something. That's dumb. That's dumb. >> You don't have a joint account. >> We do. >> We have joint and our own. >> Oh, >> the joints specifically for bills. >> Oh, so it's for like the >> So we keep to keep track. That makes sense. That makes sense >> cuz I feel like that wouldn't be weird if like let's say Gio was like, "Oh, I'm going to buy my mom a birthday present. Uh, I don't I didn't bring in anything
12:39 and it's like a lot. It's like 1,500 or something." >> And then she was off for something cuz I don't care about her mom. Then I think that would work. >> But if it's like I don't know if it's like $13 I feel that's weird. >> Yeah. Right. I don't care about Give me that 13 bucks together. These couples cuz I'm like if you don't live together >> Yeah, they do. Yeah, they live together. And so I'm like, >> "Yeah, that's a that's weird." >> And I And you'll see that like I think anybody who has Venmo, you'll find people, you know, that are like together and long-term living together and they're paying each other stuff. And I'm like, I'm so curious about that. >> I feel like that's for like rent or something. >> It could be. Yeah. Like how much is it? >> Rent should be zel. [Laughter] >> Yeah, that's a limit on Venmo. >> Isn't it like you can only put up to like a grand there's there's a tax? Yeah, there's like a thing there. I
13:30 think me and you have never vemoed each other. >> That's even early on like when you first started dating. >> I don't think Venmo was invented at this time. >> Honestly, probably not. >> It was PayPal. It was probably PayPal. >> It was PayPal. >> An even gayer app. >> New Y. The Y. Something about that.
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