0:00 real eyes real eyes Real Lies oh it's saying so much and nothing at all at the same time you should get that tatted on your chest get that tatt on your eyes yeah get it real eyes every time you blink it [Music] changes welcome back to careful boys we're afraid of everything check this out what are some examples of cliches that you like and what are cliches you think are B yes oh the grass is always greener on the other side you like or hate I like it cuz it's true what wait so you're saying like everyone else's life is better than yours no you know why cuz it teaches you it's like The Grass Is Always Greener what does that mean it means no matter who you are you're always going to think
0:50 that the other person has it better than you right what you're saying when you realize no no no but when you realize the truth behind it it's like oh it doesn't matter who who side you're on it's so it's just that's when your perspective really changes this is too Zen for me we have we have to move on that's to Zen but you asked I got I understand it's just too too yeah cuz goes but what is grass like I don't know what is grass do you ever really touch grass if you really think about it it's like what the are you technically are you even stepping on grass or you just hovering that's a good cliche though yeah and then now you can make your own grass greener you know I think that one's ████ dude yeah Grass Is Always Greener is ████ dude you think you think your grass is greener everyone since Brown of course you don't think that cuz you married your high school sweetheart I'm saying G no I think uh I think part of it is is that you
1:42 don't understand you you will always think the grass is greener but you probably don't have enough information about that person's circumstances like true circumstan yeah facts and you live their life and you go I don't want this life isn't that why is a cliche though walk walk in a a day in a mile of someone else's shoes walking a day in a mile in our shoes let's change it to that what cliches can we ████ up I like that one I think that one is it means more let's go around and butcher some more cliches I could do it all day I could this is my game fool me once shame on me fool me twice shame on me Can't Get Fooled [Laughter] Again so good fo me one shame on you fo me twice that one you ain't G to fool me again God damnn it the video of George Bush at the podium trying to dodge shoes this is one of the best videos of all time I saw that recently and that made me feel like the grass is green I still
2:32 to this day go back to watching compilations of George W bush making all these like speech fumbles it's the best dude very relatable is it it is pretty relatable it's really good it's really good he's so human he's just like one of us yeah just a war criminal yeah but but other than that yeah what's another one a cliche let me give you examples like your cards right right it's an uphill battle well this isn't a it's more like a it's more like a quote right but um and and a Greek philosopher said this but you you suffer more than and you suffer more in uh imagination than in reality that's facts and I think that's really true because like when you boil it all down to like the moment it's really just an internal emotional reaction that you're having to the story that you're saying yeah or the
3:23 perspective that you're seeing the the thing at or you're fearing the future or you're regretting the past and it's never like and that's anxiety a't it yeah yeah it's anxiety it's just like you're not present you're not you're just thinking about what might happen and it hasn't happened yet I like that one do you feel like the simple fix for anxiety is just being able to like you know not give a ████ maybe not that like but actually like whatever identifying exactly what you have anxiety about cuz I feel like so many people are like I have I have anxiety of social anxiety I have anxiety over literally everything right but then you find out what they're doing and they're like oh I'm on these meds I'm on these meds I'm on anti anti- anxiety meds DN and I'm not here to judge but part of me feels like judge them is that is that the best way to deal with you what I think I also think anxiety is normal yeah like you're supposed to have anxiety supposed supposed to feel some zero anxiety
4:14 you're supposed to CU then you'll be a psychopath but then but then when you hear people take those anti- anxiety meds they go like oh like they're they're kind of numb to a lot of things but that's I think those people have it to a level where it's debilitating like it their anxiety is so high that they for for sure some people do but of me feels like come on wa you you this guy over here you're telling me you have debilitating anxiety like not all cases but can I push back with um having a high school education yeah talk to me so you might be the only person here with a diploma there you go the boys in World War II I think they had some anxiety yeah I think they had a little bit of anxiety when they they're storming the beaches of Normandy the guys in the boats they're ████ vomiting and ████ I think they had a little bit of anxiety but guess what they weren't like and I can't get out of bed today yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah uh-huh uh-huh they pushed
5:05 themselves up the ████ Hill R took the beach ████ they watch TV and they just dude you're channeling your grandfather right now I know exactly dude but you have a point though to an extent when you if you push yourself you can push through I believe that but but I know there people out there but I I can't do it okay fine but they don't want to hear that though well that's always what it is like I think at your highest point of anxiety that's when you're at the threshold to level up really you know you know what I think the the on a counter to that though is they didn't have a point of reference meaning like they didn't know what to expect so they go I'm gonna be a good soldier I'm going be a good boy for my country you get the uniform on and then it's D-Day and then boom boom boom boom what the ████ all right I guess I got to survive now that's true and that's sometimes a little bit more easier than watching so much content yeah you watch
5:55 so much content and then you're just like holy ████ this is ████ crazy and I don't want to go to War I really like where you arrived that's such a hot take but they do know it though cuz they go through boot camp there's like a warm up there's a work up well there's no point of reference of how ugly war is right that's what I'm trying to say it's like it's like all of us do none of us want to like we've seen so many movies we've seen so many vets talk about how ████ up it is and and then we know about PTSD but back then the propaganda machine was so good that we were so ignorant that and all of us would have been like yeah let's all go and then you had that like we should all go yeah let's go and you don't know until you're ████ there and then some it's just like okay well there's no Bridge we young too right they were like 17 years old bro when I watch Lone Survivor I'm like I could do this ████ yeah hell no I could do this ████ ████ fell down like four
6:46 flights of mountains and Sh half the movie was falling down half the movie just falling down I'm like bro cake I know how to break fall dude human Avalanche it's crazy at that elevation I can do that ████ dude what you kidding me come on bro that s███'s crazy man but like when I when I was competing in like MMA and ████ and I was always think like oh there's something wrong with me cuz I feel nervous and I feel ████ anxious and I feel like some type of way I feel like there's something wrong with me but in reality it's like no you're supposed to ████ feel like until you listen to the interviews of the greats yeah like GSP Quinton jaon they're ████ balling like they're literally like like throwing up and vomiting and crying like 5 minutes before they stepped in the cage like everyone experiences that and then afterwards they're like glad it's over I'm glad I did that you know what's a big difference though it's like when you see anxiety happen for people that are in the middle of achieving really
7:36 respectable things or like doing big stuff it feels a little more validated but then there's also people with anxiety that ain't doing ████ all day yeah I think that's when you have to really take a clinical look at why are you feeling like this but I feel like nowadays in our our age like I feel like a lot of people are kind of my Approach or my perspective is like what life did you leave the that that got you there though so I think most people they have small amounts of anxiety and then their anxiety tolerance gets higher and higher and higher so that they can get to a point where like they're at the NBA finals and they can like stomach that but if like getting a parking ticket ████ makes you puke it's like dude have you challenged yourself at all in life I'm a bad advocate for that because I I actually do believe that validating anxiety just leads to more of it that's what I think you know what I think it is like I think
8:26 Society now lost like a mental compass like cuz back then there's always a somebody telling you oh yeah you know here's a direction you should head hard work uh strive for the best blah blah blah but then if PE like kids grew up without that no there's no compass for them to head towards and then social media is just like burying you with like all these mental health awareness posts and oh it's okay to be depressed it's okay but then it's like now people have an excuse to go oh I'm this way now so so give me validation I think it's the it's the swing of the other side so like let's say our Boomer parents were getting their ass beat like a ████ right so then when they maybe when when they're raising us we get beat but not as bad as they did cuz I hear their stories and I'm like you guys got tortured we kind of got
9:16 tortured but not like you guys right and then when we raise kids it's probably going to be softer each generation but is it softer or more intelligent but also there's this this other part too where like let's say um like maybe Boomer guys or or or Gen X guys they saw their parents work to death so then they go oh I want a more work life balance right and then the kids of them are going to go what's my passion what's my purpose to work and then the kids of them are going to go I don't want to work I'm a Potato yeah it's like I it's like I it's justy but then those people have all the anxiety dude you know what it could be it's like you're trying to heal from your trauma and by doing that you're teaching your kids this new way of living and behaving with zero trauma but it's like that causes its own negative effect I feel
10:06 like you need a little trauma bro control trauma control struggle May trauma is a wrong word it doesn't have to be trauma that's a cliche too you know the cliche of like hard times bring strong I think that's true I mean like trauma is is sometimes just unfortunate events and it doesn't even have to be a form of abuse like let's say you're child and then like your parents got into a car accident but they were loving parents and then you you know you became an orphan early in life and then that can be traumatic right but then it's not like yeah you've been ████ up and it could have been prevented it just happened and it can be a form of trauma you're traumatized by the event but then now what do you do after that and I think there's not enough of a emphasis I think the problem with the idea of anxiety today is that it shouldn't
10:56 happen I think that's that's the school of thought of people goes it shouldn't happen that shouldn't exist in you that means something's wrong and that's why you have to medicate that's that school of thought I don't agree with for me like true I I I belong to the school thought of anxiety exists it's a part of the human experience and the way that you overcome it is to actually face it adapt you got to push and then you can use a lot of different techniques like meditation or maybe what type of story are you telling in your own mind that's the big one right you know like whatever it is I also like uh like owning your trauma rather than being paralyzed by your trauma yeah cuz life is going to happen s███'s going to happen no matter what and the worst thing that has ever happened to you there's probably going to be even more worst things so you can keep getting stepped down by it or you can find a way to like use it to strengthen who you are
11:46 I agree with that and I think that maybe we just respond better to that type of coping style cuz like I'm like I I used to think like oh there's probably one best way to doing it but then I see there's such a diverse group of people that receives information so differently that this soft ████ cannot survive like this method you know what I mean so I'm like oh maybe some people they got to build up in a different way yeah like they need to learn it this way I don't know you know like have a different Outlet pretty much yeah but we do see like failed methods when you're self-medicating like but every successful person I always am able to detect some sort of inner gangster in them yeah you know like they might not be like a ████ physical gangster but they're like everyone has like this this
12:36 like spark or this Edge right even if there's some ████ silicon geek like Excel spreadsheet geek but you talk to them enough of why they built their company like oh ████ there's a ████ gangster you find their drive it's there yeah well I mean but they channeled it into something positive yeah but that's that's the exception right cuz if you think about high performers that's a small percentage of people a small percentage percentage of people become top athletes top entrepreneurs whatever right so to make something that the general public can kind of easily follow and like be the best versions of themselves I'm wondering what that method would look like versus like to raise the common denominator yeah yeah yeah dude the the failure right like that everyone who wins talks about how many times they had they lost and how they learn from it how they push through it and there's so many people who lose
13:26 and then just give up and they go that's a scam that's you can't you can't win in that field you can't do it it's that ████ so every time you hear Mark Cuban you hear all these guys every time they talk about anything entrepreneurial they talk about failure so how do we create I guess it it almost has to be a consensus that everyone agrees that you just have to try hard I mean that's so so there's already cliches and like quotes about failure where it's like if every failure is a lesson or whatever those are that's pretty much it but not everybody believes that cuz cuzz you you don't feel it like let's say uh you got fired from your job you got dropped out of school or whatever to you even though it's a failure it it still hurts but then other people are saying that that's what you need to kind of grow from but I think the best thing people can have is an example close to them of a person that they trust or care about that is
14:16 doing the thing that they should also do that's the best thing you can ask surround yourself with people who think they yeah I agree cuz I mean like if we're telling somebody they don't know us they don't give a ████ they're like whatever your solution doesn't pertain to me yeah it has to be personal H did any of you guys when you were growing up ever have um did any of your dads show anxiety at any point no not really really yeah my dad's a ████ anxious ████ he is a panicky guy like my this is my like like I'm like oh dad you know I'll meet you at Bali at ████ at like 5:30 for dinner right uhuh I show up um it'll be like 5:00 where are you at where are you at I'm like we said 5:30 oh okay okay but and then like I go to like B he's already like walking outside like he's just like super anxious like um things need to happen now tomorrow you know so he's like my
15:08 whole life I remember him being like um really like I'm like oh I'll do it tomorrow and that trait never rubbed off on you like you never started to act like that I think I was like that but I didn't like that in my dad so I Tred to like opposite like go opposite I tried to go opposite like I'll like I'll punish myself I'm I really want to eat that candy bar then I'll just wait wait till tomorrow to eat just I get rid of this feeling like I didn't like that feeling of like something compelling me to do something cuz I feel like I'm not in control like something's pulling me and I don't want to have something selfcontrol right there cuz I'm like I'm acting like my pops right now where I ████ need something right now cuz like that's interesting too like I've never seen my dad be anxious for one second but I wonder if there's a difference generationally if bottle ████ yeah for sure for sure but if we have a generation now of men who are like really outwardly anxious and showing anxiety like what are their kids really
15:58 going to like yeah maybe they might be like you're ████ lame dad I don't maybe they might go the opposite way they might swing back right I would say the the flip side or the Dark Side of being a tough dude is like I see it in in you know some of my family members that are like in their mid-50s they don't know how to process and they don't know how to like release that stress and you see this in a lot of guys that were like young Professionals in the 80s right in the corporate culture back then everyone was a ████ Workhorse and then they were tough right they just don't complain they just plow through Workaholics and then like a lot of them have health issues high blood pressure they get heart attacks they get a lot of crazy things and they don't know what's going on with their bodies and I think that's probably the the Dark Side of just plowing through and not like
16:48 balancing yourself and maybe people see that and go oh men need to you know say they have anxiety and and try to deal with it and I'm like yeah maybe May that's what they're trying to kind of figure out there yeah but it doesn't work for every person cuz that's just general advice given to everyone that has their own specific demons that they're going through yeah I think so I think it depends on the person that's hard cuz you can't do a blanket thing and say like everybody needs this yeah cuz like what if someone's already tough as ████ maybe you got to tell him to just chill out bro and then someone's weak as ████ you're like okay you need to like toughen up you yeah yeah for sure well that's also that's why I think cliches are stupid cuz it's such a general thing and it can mean so many things for so many people hey don't judge a book by its cover tell that to a woman walking at night
17:39 dude are you kidding me that's like the dumbest ████ I've ever heard you know what's a really good one realize realize realize who says that dude that's not a cliche that's a that's a PO it's a quote right but that ████ is actually true wait what does that mean that mean real eyes real eyes Real Lies oh oh that's a ████ it's saying so much and nothing at all at the same time yeah it's just saying like you should get that tatted on your chest get that Ted on your eyes yeah get real eyes every time you blink it changes oh ████ that's crazy oh my God you know what I was thinking about the other day cuz we're on the topic of like anxiety and fear and stuff like that right I actually believe a lot of religions are created to try to satisfy that like
18:29 anxiety that we have trying to figure out like it's the medicine we need to know the meaning we need to have they need to create reality and then they need to create even if it's a false sense they need to create something of stability because the world is a scary place so like humans come in needing protection needing dependency for a long time we have soft bodies and then as I look at kids and and and I'm and I'm just like kids are like vulnerable little creatures and they're afraid of ████ everything right and then when you become an adult you actually don't have any of that support so now you're in a really scary place where one day some guy can either kill you you can get into a car accident some things can happen and then now you need to like make sense of like well if I die what's going to happen afterwards or this whole fear and anxiety do that how do I calm this down
19:20 and you have Buddhism and then it's like so many different techniques to just chill the ████ out cuz like when you think of like praying or something like that it's like it's an act of mindfulness right to chill the ████ out it's an act of being like this is what I want this like my intentions in Life or this is my intentions for like the next couple days or putting energy into something imagine being religious and how many more cliches are into play what's a religious cliche like uh like God would never give me something to deal with that I wasn't strong enough to handle oh right but lowkey though you hear that ████ that's a superpower bro I think it does push you to do CRA could be in like the s████████ situation you're like dude God God Believes In Me you'll find the light I lost all of my houses but you gave me this test dude do you think that's like a for do you think do you think religion is like a form of gaslighting your own mind honestly that's what it is D I got to believe
20:10 this ████ or else you know how dare you can gas and you need positive gas lighting dude positive gas lighting cuz honestly though if I got G on my side brother if I got Allah on my side you're ████ winning my favorite thing though is like when I'm going through a rumination session right and my head is just like ████ going crazy and I'm like ████ I think I'm stressed out and I'm like wait a minute and I go drink some water and I take a walk around the block and I'm like of course I've been in the room for 6 hours straight staring at a screen I've been dehydrated I was going ████ crazy your body was telling you something yeah it had nothing to do my mind was touch grass the best touch grass that one I believe when was the last time your guys bare foot touch actual grass man don't
21:00 ask me no personal questions like that here we go we got to go get a day a day ago okay that's pretty good we'll go to your retreat astr Turf does that count yeah does plastic grass count cuz like day it's right there I do it I do it at the gym I got the turf you know what I mean oh yeah and then I hold a crystal you guys need to touch grass man you did you charge your Crystal into the Moonlight though yeah yeah yeah always doesn't work do you do uh do you charge your ████ that's oh the sun charging the morning sun ████ charge dude oh yeah I bet that feels nice y the vitamin D that's good for your uh yeah it's good for your morning routine hey you'll be really proud I've been drinking protein shakes but I do them out in the sun I every morning make my shake go outside freaking sunbathe and drink protein wow dude good for you I start off my day like that good for you dog yeah that's a good
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