0:00 [Music] Welcome back to a touchy topic of the careful boys. Today we got Bonos here. Hey yo, sit that one. Bonos, this guy get thirsty. Chug it up. >> That's so weird. >> Okay. It's funny cuz a woman can be doing anything and if you enthusiastically pump it up, it's really creepy. >> Keep those arms crossed. Let's keep those arms crossed. Woo! >> Stop to talk to women. >> Really? >> Damn. I >> think it's working. >> I like positive reinforcement. >> Dude, you got dope elbows, girl. >> Woo! Elbow. Elbow. Elbow. Elbow. >> All right. Um, question. Do you ever
0:50 feel like uh there >> plastic bag floating in the wind? >> Oh, yeah. That was good actually. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I actually love that song. She's my guilty pleasure. Her and Rihanna. Okay. Rihanna's not so guilty. Actually, Katy Bear is way more guilty. >> That's not guilty at all. And that's a one hit. Uh that being said, do you ever feel like a plastic bag when if in a relationship one partner makes more money, the dynamic of how that relationship should be in the household should be a certain way? >> I wish I was a sugar boy. Oh, so like you make the rules if you supply more of the cash. >> I mean, do you feel that? >> Or or if you have more like So if you make more of the money, then you kind of have more of the power type of thing. >> Do you feel that? I'm not saying that.
1:41 >> I'm trying to understand your question. >> Yeah. Yeah. I feel it's a it's a discussion. >> Willing to clarify. >> Your elbows are so fire right now. >> I don't I don't think so. >> Safe. >> No. Why? Why? Why is that safe? That's safe. I don't even know what the question. >> No, the reason I don't think so. >> I don't understand the question. >> Here, I'll answer it and you'll get it. >> Okay. >> I don't think so because I've been in relationships where I make less money and ones where I make more and I'm not always the best person to dictate how the household should run. >> I kind of suck at that regardless. >> You're not good at budgeting. >> I'm just No, I'm not as good. I'm definitely not good at budgeting. I'm also not as good at home making in general. So like whether I make more or less, that's just not my skill set is like dictating the rules of the house. >> So you think you think a household should be ran based off of the the who's better at doing what? >> More the more logical ideas or sens
2:32 sensibilities for that? Yeah. Cuz if you leave it up to me, it's going to be ████ uh Neverland. It's going to be Lost Boys and ████ >> Okay. So, but hypothetically, what if like uh you're the bread winner of the family? make more money, but then you're also the better housekeeper and the better cook and the better cleaner and everything. Does that mean you should just do everything? >> Maybe you should find a different partner. >> Not I don't know. Yeah, that's kind of weird if you do everything. But I think it's it's cool to like if you if you could set the tone for everything because if you if if my partner has more experience at something, then I'm like, "Oh, you set the tone on that. I'll follow suit or I'll learn from your pattern because you you're you have more experience with that." Yeah, I think that's kind of makes sense to I'm curious what this rare species of a woman has to say about it in this room. >> The L talk about it. What the hell? >> How how big is the discrepancy?
3:22 >> Uh, let's hypothetically let's go like let's go like 8020. >> Damn. >> 8020. >> She makes 20 G's a year. You make 80 G's a year. >> Sure. >> Or or flipped. >> Or flipped. Yeah. >> Okay. >> So, who makes the decision? You make 80 >> 80 G's >> percent whatever the G's. Max >> 800,000 and he makes 200,000. >> Damn, that's crazier than >> 800,000. >> Actually, that's ideal. >> What kind of bracket is this? >> I just quit my job. >> I had I had a uh discussion with Hannah about this because she was listening to a podcast and in this podcast kind of exact scenario. Guy has a really high paid job making like 10 times the amount that she does, right? >> Yes. And then um >> so she basically
4:12 um I guess like he wanted to move closer to his work whatever whatever get a nicer place and then um so she agreed and then she decided to like pay but like because they don't make like the same she's like putting a smaller portion and I think she was like still working and going to school and all that. And then I guess the thing she was asking is like a lot of the women they're like, "Oh, good, good. You're independent." And then like a lot of people were like, "That's cool." You know, and then some guys were like, "No, she should be paying 50/50." But me and Hannah were like, "If he's making 10 times more, why doesn't he just ████ pay it?" So then it was just such a different perspective cuz some people were like, "It doesn't matter how much you make, you should still be 50/50 cuz the place is like that." But I'm like, "But if y'all like I I think they're pretty much married, right? or they they got together and I'm like at that point like why are you nickel and dimming and
5:03 at that point >> yes >> it's a ratio thing if you're making 10 times what she does and it's nothing to you to get the apartment then like who cares right but then I don't know and on her end too she wanted to feel like I'm pitching in so I'm going to but I'm not going to put the full amount but I'm like but it doesn't ████ >> the proportion's off it's like so why even bother but I just thought that was a interesting conversation cuz there were so many different people thinking something else was more right. And then me and Hannah just agreed and we're just like that just seems like a issue to it's too much to think when it's so easy. It's like whoever was making more just ████ pay for it and then use the other money for something else. >> I think that's different when it comes to luxury items. Like let's say there's something like the dad wants to buy a boat >> and it's something that he wants to go
5:53 fishing on his own. Then if you use the joint account for that then it's kind of like oh that sucks. That's mainly just for you to get away from me. >> That feels a little bit like >> I think the the biggest factor to me where I felt like he should pay is because it was his decision to move out to a bigger place that's closer to his work. >> That just Yeah, that seems like common sense. >> But but it's it's it's because if it's his convenience, right? So it's like you should pay for it if it's more expensive and it's your convenience. I I think it would be different if she was the one that said, "I want to move out to a bigger place that's closer to my job, but she can't even afford it." >> So, you know, so you know, but they're not married. >> I think it was they live together, married. It was like close enough. >> Just just at that point, you're kind of in it together with whatever movie you make, right? >> I agree. And I like the idea of it's like almost like a ratio to your effort.
6:43 >> Yeah. You know, if like whoever whichever the partner is, let's say one partner is only making 20% of the household income, but if that's like 100% of what they're capable of giving and they're contributing like 50% of 100% of their effort and then you know the other person is doing the same, even if the numbers are off, the effort is still there. And I think if you could see the effort and you know that you're in it together, like that doesn't matter. >> I agree with that. >> But like, yeah, nickeling and diamonding is absolutely stupid. It's like what I was telling you where it makes me feel awkward when I see couples that are together or married and I see them venmoing each other on the ████ on the feed >> and I'm like why are you venuing each other at this stage in your relationship? It's kind of ████ weird. >> Unless they're venoing sexual numbers like 69 cents >> and they got 69 cents back >> just flirting the whole time. >> It's just flirting. It's not like money. >> Yeah, that's it. Feels like that feels
7:33 strange to me like y'all been together for years and you're still like doing that. You you know how like some like it's like like even like saying Dutch like their cultures. >> Yeah. >> I've been seeing so many like German Dutch and all these different like people talking about like I went to a party. It was Germany or or Netherlands or something and they're like after the party I got a ████ bill. And I'm like what? And everyone in the comments that are like Arab Asian they're like that would never happen. Like that's weird. And then everyone was like, "Yeah, when I went to like this person's house in the Netherlands, like or like they'll be like, "Hey, you want some of my sandwich or whatever?" And then like let's say like you eat half a sandwich, >> bro. They ████ Venmo request like 35 cents. >> Shut up, dude. >> And I was like, >> can you even do that? But if everyone in
8:25 that society and culture, then it's like, I get it. If you're walking into their space, I'm like, sure, I'll play by your weirdass rules that I'm not used to. >> But like, of course, like for our culture, it's, >> you know, we we just do our like friends scratch each other's backs, whatever. >> I'm going to put a vending machine in the guest room where there's fresh towels, toothbrush, and soap. Like, hey, can I borrow a towel? Yeah, it's $2. Actually, >> you have change on you. >> Here's some bar tokens. Imagine if that culture, if that's normal, what if everything is literally like that? Like even between husband and wife, >> that accounting is a pain in the ass. >> But like personally for you, like what what about for you and Hannah? Like >> Oh, dude, we're traditional as ████ >> She's my slave now, dude. I own her. >> Sexy
9:16 pills. >> You don't You don't want him to be sexy. >> That is not true. I just I met Hannah and now I have a connection with her. I'm not going to let you say that. >> Yeah, but she's the one that says she's the one >> down with being a slave. >> That's their kink though. >> No, she's the one that goes, "Hey, aren't you glad that you bought all of this for $135?" >> And I'm all like, "That sounds like >> I got a deal on my stuff." >> I feel like I got a deal. It's funny because like I've been with Smack like over like 10 11 years now and like in the beginning like I was making more money than her and then we we trade off every now and then well some years I'll make more other years she'll ████ bazooka me out of the water and it's just like so massively more than me. But then either way that we've gone our
10:06 household rules and how we run things hasn't changed. >> Yeah. >> Like even if it switches sides like that it's always still like who's better at what and who has the better idea. >> We just go with like okay we'll do that. But then we we do have joint accounts. But if I buy something that's purely for me, like I'm going to buy suspension for my car or something, >> then you gaslight her why you need to use the joint. >> Yeah. Yep. >> We have to use the account. >> You're going to be in my car, too. >> I'm going to give you bri. So >> you're the one that's weird about banks, though. So I'm go with what you're saying. >> Very weird. Yeah. I just have my own checking for that. For anything that's purely for, you know, it it won't help us as a unit. I'll just pay for it just out of my own ████ by myself. >> She was Ours is like that too where it's like we I think we start with a vision of what we want >> of our life and then we kind of reverse engineer in that vision who's actually
10:57 better at what. >> So if it's like like >> Spanish Yeah. She does all the Spanish stuff. So if we do like all the uh like let's say like a homemaker type stuff, she's way better. So, if she ever needs to bring in help, like a house cleaner or whatever, like all of that stuff, she she makes the call. If she doesn't like the landscaper, but I love the landscaper cuz it's cheap as ████ but if she's not happy with it, she can just make the call on that cuz I'm like, she actually knows what she's looking at. I don't know what the hell I'm looking at. And the things that I I am better at, I make the call. And this is regardless of who makes more at that time. >> Yeah. >> Yeah, that makes sense. It's like who Some people have more equity. Yeah. You have more equity in the decision cuz you're just better at it. Yeah. >> Yeah. I'm similar, but like let's say if she's better at the call, but it's going to cost all of my money. >> I just need to review it.
11:48 >> Oh, to review it. >> Why would it cost all of your money? >> Like she's good at decorating, but it's going to cost 100k. >> Well, like for example, I'm just significantly older than Nina by like 6 and 1/2 years right now. And so she and she also went to grad school. So she spent more time in education whereas I just spent more time already working and building my career. So it still feels like she's at an earlier stage in her career with a lot more education debt which means that anytime we want to do like something that like both of us genuinely want to do for the household or the family, it's like absolutely these are our goals. It's way easier for me to just fund that right now. There's what's the point of me waiting for you to contribute 50% of the finances. >> However, I know you're better. So, like make the call, but like at the same time, like how much is it going to cost me? I need to I need to I need to plan
12:38 for it. I have to do the financial planning for something like a large house theme. >> Who paid for the Backstreet Boys tickets at Sphere? >> Me. Sorry. >> That's expensive. >> It was. >> That was like us and our Christmas lights. >> That's a lot. >> We wanted to put Christmas lights up cuz it's ████ cute as ████ right? And I'm like, man, ain't nobody got time to put Christmas ████ lights up. So, I went to my neighbor cuz he had someone come they they service they come up, they put the Christmas lights, and then when they're done, uh, once the season's over, like January, they come back and they take it off and it's done professionally. I'm like, "Yo, how much did that cost?" And I think it was like 3G's or something. >> What? ████ that. I'mma do it myself. >> Target. I went to Target and I spent maybe like 200 bucks and it was enough for like 200 ft. But then the first wind thing that came it blew all night.
13:29 >> I was like $200. Actually pretty good >> cuz my neighbors all stayed on. Mine I did the you know the ████ thing where it's supposed to like you just press into it. 1 2 3 4 5 Okay, it's supposed to stay on. You know the sticky things. >> Oh yeah. I I put the stick >> the sticky hook things and then I just loop the Christmas light through the hooks. >> Wow. You did that for the exterior. That's so >> damn command strips. >> What would you do? >> One day in Vegas, it ████ melts off. >> What would you do? >> Like you just needed to call Ryan for help. >> What would you do? >> I would probably I mean >> I don't want to put nails in my >> I would just use it sometimes. I mean for my house I would cuz it's not that it's not a new build. >> Well, cuz I also know I'm I'm going to leave, you know? I'm like, I don't want the ████ going, look at all the nails and ████ >> I got to redo the sighting anyway, so I might as well put nails in it.
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