0:05 Welcome back to Careful Boys. Today we have Above the Influence with us. >> Yay. Again, >> uh we're all a bunch of olds. People uh call us old and I don't really appreciate that. I'm the youngest one. I'm the youngest one. >> They call us the olds. And uh we want to know >> What year were you guys born? I feel like I don't actually >> 85. >> Holy ████ >> 84. >> Damn. Why'd you say like that? >> 84. 86, baby. >> Let's go. >> Basically, like when Marty McFly went back to the future, like that's when I was born. >> Holy ████ >> Like August 1985 is me. >> Wait, you're August what? >> August 27th. >> I'm August 21. >> You're a Virgo. >> I'm a Leo. >> You're not a Leo. You're not a Virgo. Take it back. Boom. >> What are your guys' years? >> I'm 95. >> 99. >> 98. >> 2001. >> Holy [laughter] ████ That's insane. 2001. What the
0:57 >> what month? 2001. >> March. >> Wait, you know he didn't know what BBM was? >> I was having sex when you were born, dude. >> 2001. >> Dude, I was a junior in high school. >> Yeah, dude. I was ████ >> There's like a non-zero chance I'm your kid then. >> I could be You could be my kid, but you have too much hair. [laughter] >> That's Thank you. No, thank you. Thank you. Honestly, >> you have too much hair. >> I'll take that, [laughter] dude. >> Oh, dude. If I was a teen, if I was a teen dad, son. That's insane, >> right? >> Wait, dude. He doesn't He didn't know what BBM or AIM was or like ████ anything. >> Oh wow. >> How old are you now? >> 24. >> I'd be like, "You're not my son." >> Wait, so he doesn't even remember 911? >> No. >> Oh ████ Yeah, you were born >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Do you guys You don't remember it either, though. >> 911. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> You guys are like, "Oh, preposterous."
1:47 >> It never happened. >> Wait, how old were you in that job? >> I was in like first grade. >> But you were in New York, so Or New Jersey. >> I was in California. >> Oh, >> yeah. Yeah. So, when it like I was still living in California at the time and I had no clue what happened until I moved to New Jersey and it was all anybody talked about. I'm like, "What the ████ is 911?" And and uh this will be a great video then. Uh we're we're [laughter] going to ask you guys about the current dating scene. Like, >> how did that happen to >> Cuz like you guys like we're from an ancient cult time. Like you guys are like you guys have brushes in your you're brushing off the ████ sand of like what we went >> I don't even know what Tinder's like. I never had a dating app or any I don't know what that >> explain to the old like what's going on with the dating scene >> with the dating apps or just the scene? >> Just the whole scene. >> When did you guys get out of the dating scene? Like what would you I mean for
2:37 you guys. >> Oh yeah. Yeah. When did you guys retire? >> Um 20 ████ When did I get with Nikki? >> Anthony when did I get with Nikki? >> How would he know I got you after I got with Nikki? Insane as ████ >> Is that real? >> Come on. I win this video. [laughter] >> He ████ her first. >> I got out of the daisy in 2008. Was when he was seven. >> That's right. [laughter] That's right. >> 2013 for me. So yeah, you were you were 14, bro. You were 14. >> Holy ████ >> Yeah, you're jerking off on sheets. I'm ████ real ████ [laughter] >> Fair enough. >> Yeah, deal with it. Deal with it. You got to fight back, man. You got to fight back. Stand >> up for yourself. >> Not fake ████ by the way, which I know exist. >> I had sex for the first time at 15. So, if you had waited one more year, then we both could have been ████ real ████
3:27 But >> the same ████ at that. >> We're going to get our each other's numbers and we're going to text each other when we're ████ real ████ together. [laughter] >> Are you going to be ████ real ████ tonight? >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Probably. >> You want my number? [laughter] >> Yeah. >> You guys got to FaceTime. >> I want your number. [laughter] Yeah. You can see my face. looks like. Oh, look at that. ████ yeah, brother. >> That's why he's stretching and getting ready for it. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Getting [laughter] ready to >> You would actually do that, too. I feel like >> that's hella funny. I would too. So, don't chickening me, brother. [laughter] >> What is the dating scene like? Like, how the what is the um the process at which people are like, "This is the correct dating." >> I just heard ████ like to beg for money nowadays. >> Oh my god, that actually happened to me. It happened to me so recently. I um I slid in this girl's DMs. I go uh I whatever opening line she and just responds with her cash app.
4:17 >> What the ████ >> Kind of fire though. >> I was like, "Is that like a Snapchat username? Like what is that?" And she's like, "Oh, it's my cash app." And I was like, "Oh, like I'm not going to slide you money like that, but I'd be happy to take you out to dinner." And she blocked me. >> WHAT? [screaming] >> ████ >> SO WHAT WHAT WHAT WAS supposed to happen? You send her like ████ 20 bucks or 100? >> And she goes, "Now we can talk." I think I don't >> What was she expecting? >> Tiff, are you doing that because you've done that before? Are you looking like that because you've done [laughter] that before? >> Oh, no, no, no. >> She's like, I use Venmo. >> I see I see bios on Twitter that say like DM fee and it's like, oh, $25 and people charge. But are they hookers or only fans or is it >> Well, that's what in LA I feel like the dating is distorted cuz almost every girl you meet has like a link in her bio and it and then there's like tears to it where there's like only fans which is
5:07 like very likely they're just doing straight porn and then >> and then beneath that you got things like passes fanfix which is like not sexual related but it's like the appeal and why it makes so much money is like girl that's hot on social media posting look I'm hot guys that want to talk to them they're like oh she won't answer my DMs but if send $10 on fanfix. She'll respond to my DM. But it's not them responding. It's like some fat sweaty guy like sitting there like responding to everything. Yeah. >> Okay. So, let's get like just one variable more wholesome though. Like like actual dating. >> Instagram DMs. I'd say >> way more than dating ads. Instagram. >> It's like both. Like it's I think a big part. It's just like a numbers game, too. Like it's like I don't know. When you guys were like in your prime dating, how many girls were you walking up to a day? [laughter] >> This guy is a sex.
5:57 >> This guy has to He's like, uh, yeah. >> The former number one coolest in the room. Come on, bro. >> Yeah. This guy's like, I don't know how many girls were at the fair, brother. >> I think for our generation, the the normal progression was you first go to the mall with your friends >> and then you see a group of >> What What age range is this? >> 13. >> Yeah. Junior high. Like you get dropped off at the mall. >> Well, that was the same for me, too, though. What about in your adulthood? like serious dating >> in high school would be like Yeah. But then >> like early 20s you have money and stuff. >> It was Facebook, MySpace. You just DM girl like through that. >> It's basically the same. >> It was similar with but like a different platform. Yeah. But then we also did in person too. >> We didn't have money early. >> I don't I don't For me it was never like messaging somebody and then starting like that. It was always like at the bar, at the club if I was trying to like >> just meet people. If it came to dating,
6:47 it was always in a circle of friends and one with a degree. It could be a degree of separation. I'm not saying you date in your circle, but it's like in your circle, somebody knew somebody you met at a party and then therefore >> Well, I'd say it's still like real dating is still exactly that. It's like you just meet at a social gathering. You're like, "Who's that? Introduce me." Right? You meet whether you go up yourself or you get introduced by a mutual >> or you're like, "Oh, hey, cool. I'm going to ████ the homies." or you're like, "Yo, can I sleep at your place for a month?" [laughter] >> Yeah. For me in early college, I would say uh it was more like you hung out and then it was through actual inerson uh inerson meeting and then it becomes something else because I would say during our era in college, MySpace, Facebook, that kind of stuff, people weren't checking like multiple times a day. >> So if you message someone on MySpace,
7:37 they might not see it for like 14 days >> cuz they're not glued to their phones, right? So it's like if you want to really communicate with someone, you would >> write a letter. [laughter] >> Yeah. With the ████ Morse code, dude. >> Yeah. You would you usually talk in person. >> It was delivered by horseback. You would send an email. >> Yeah. People actually talk on the phone and maybe text, but then Yeah. >> Yeah. You get their number and you would actually call them. So, okay, that's a huge difference. >> And you could get the record on your phone bill that was printed out and sent to you when you called them for how many minutes. You remember that ████ That's crazy. >> Do you throw rocks at their window and stand outside with a boom box? >> Yeah. >> No, but you do throw rocks at their window and then they climb out and then you go hang out. >> What I'll say is the complete difference is if somebody called me nowadays like like a girl I like got their number, I'd be pissed off. I'd be like, "Why are you calling me?" And I feel like that's the
8:27 general sentiment. >> I I disagree completely. >> What's the offense to you? >> I'll be like, "Why why are you calling me when you could text me?" Like the texting is so much more >> calling. You can hear her voice and like you don't you get that little tickle in >> I know. Then you got to like commit the time to I got to stop everything I'm doing to lock in on this phone call, you know? >> I'd be I'd be getting pissed off at random calls. I don't like that. Well, I never got random calls. You guys are sexy boys is the problem. >> No, no, no. I just in if like I would rather you text me. >> They're not trying to sell you something or ████ give you a time share. They're trying to get to know you. >> But I think I think we're in the era though of like, you know, you have multiple tabs on your ████ window. I think in this day and age, everyone has multiple tabs in their life. So if you get a phone call, you're pausing all that ████ >> You know what I mean? So I think for them it's like, "What the ████ dude? I got all this other ████ going on." >> I JUST PUT MY headset on and I just
9:17 start doing ████ while I'm talking. >> They're boomers. But I think for them they're they're different. They're >> Bro, you fart dust. >> That's true. >> You're kind of an old soul, though. >> Well, maybe. I don't know if it's like that, but I just feel like >> he is not an old soul. His shirts just need to die quick. >> And he has too much hair. He has too much hair to be old. Um, I don't know. I think especially because like the way I'm meeting these people is like a couple DMs on Instagram. A phone call is nice because like I actually get to know the human being. Um, but I will say I think one big difference cuz even if you guys were messaging on Facebook like if it's true that people were only checking it once a day maybe like >> No, like once a week. >> Yeah. So I think for us for us like DMing slash like dating apps it's so normalized and it's it's it's like a numbers game. So, it's like um >> it's like sales. >> Lit straight up. Straight up.
10:07 >> It's kind of like if you're single, like if you're a single guy actively dating, you're sending out like >> How many shots are you putting up a day, Ian? >> Right. >> Between three to five. Three to five new people a day. Yeah. >> I had a taste of it though cuz I was single till 2021 when I got out of my long-term relationship. And then So, >> what dating apps have you used? >> But Instagram was the best. I tried Tinder that wait I think it was just Tinder and then most of it was like hookers and I was like hey wait a minute like you're trying to get me to buy only fan ████ I was like I thought we were like chatting. I thought we're vibing. >> Yeah. [laughter] Thought we were chill. >> But there were like the quality of just like people on there were >> Tinder has got Tinder is like weird now. But Hinge is out. So Hinge is the only one with like that people would use realistically like with a genuine hope of finding someone is Hinge. Then
10:57 there's Rya, which is like this like exclusive one that's like hard to get on to. Um, but I feel like that's more novelty. Like people are just on there to say that they're on there. But Instagram, like when I go out, if I'm interested in a girl, I don't ask for their number. I just go for Instagram because like one, Instagram has red receipts. So like you can't turn off red receipts on Instagram. >> Yes, you can. >> You can. >> That was the first thing I ever tried to learn. >> You're ████ norm. >> Turn my uh red receipts off for on anything. >> Well, now I've just learned something. saying that in front of your chicks quiet. >> Almost 99% of people though have it on. [laughter] What's it's his homie? >> I would have been like, "Wait, what? You could do that? What the ████ >> Did you know that?" >> Yeah, he told me. >> He taught you how to do it. >> Um, I don't see how I see when you >> I I see when you see my messages. Watch this ████ >> Maybe that's only when you guys are already friends.
11:47 >> You talking to me or her? >> He's talking to you. >> Talking to you. >> Yeah. >> What? Maybe >> you ever take your homie dog you ever take your homie doggy style before >> him I want to really bad modern dating right there. >> Yeah. Yeah. That's some new new age dating. I guess >> Instagram DM you. >> It got to a point where she looked at me one night and she was randomly she's like if you actually ever ████ Wo Talk I don't think I could be mad because you joke about it so much I would just ask you to not ever do it again. Well, cuz I don't see W as a threat, but also at the same time [laughter] also at the same time as a joke. >> Watch yourself, buddy. >> I'll take your man. >> I'd ████ Woo Talk. I'd ████ him right. I'd ████ him right now. >> I'd let all three. >> Dare me. Dare me, brother. [laughter] >> But yeah. No, I probably multiple times a week, I'd make at least
12:39 one joke about ████ Waku. >> It gets so he puts it publicly, too. He'll put up a story of like a guy. >> What was the last one? It was like old like 45-year-old Vietnamese guy doing a Chris Brown dance against the wall talking about like this is how it'll look when you feel it get hard pressing up on your back and he just tags me publicly like wok on his public story >> for years I'll wake up to a random vitrap mentioned you in a story. He's not the type to put up like a picture of us. I just know exactly what it is. It's something extremely gay and he's publicly called you out. >> You get your hair to about here and I'm in. [laughter] >> I used to have it down there. >> My favorite one Vit's ever done. So like Vit will sometimes like beef online with people and like he was beefing with these people and like you know Vit he'll be like come find me like this is my location like come fight me right and one time he was like come kill wok he's like wok is my shooter like come kill w
13:30 talk about it if you're mad at me come kill wok >> yeah yeah he's screaming at some idiot online he's like matter of fact come come here I'mma ████ you up come kill my boy about he's ready to die over me [laughter] >> he uses you as a shield >> I wasn't even involved at all. I'm just witnessing this 6 hours later like tagged in it like [laughter] >> Yeah, I don't like to text people but that's like my way of showing like hey you're my best friend [laughter] >> clearly bro like this is I think about you often love [laughter]
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