0:00 let's say you're sitting in a bench and then some lady is like I need you to move over cuz I'm big and I'm going to take up two oh no I'm like clearly you're fing big what if she was nice about it if she was nice about it take the whole thing fat ass [Music] no in yet another episode of am I the damn off okay am I for refusing to give my seat to a lady and her child here we go all right a 23-year-old female was on my way home from work on the subway totally exhausted my company had organized a sports event that I was busy with all day my commute is pretty long about 50
0:51 minutes luckily I got a seat and was about to doze off when at the next station a lady and her young boy who looked about 8 years old got on the lady was carrying her son even though he looked pretty capable of walking on his own 8-year-old uh-uh that's pretty big uhuh she walked straight toward me and motioned with her head for me to get up that's oh she didn't say anything and it felt like she was just expecting me to move the boy wasn't a toddler he looked around 8 years old so I didn't see why she was carrying him there's no one else sitting down like she went directly to her right I would have been like this yeah F play asleep best trick in the book I'm sleeping already something about her face triggered me so I bluntly said no
1:45 she seemed surprised and started talking about how someone my age should give up their seat for a mother carrying her child she also made a few comments about how the younger generation is disrespectful the lady herself looked like she was in her late 30s and again the boy didn't seem need to need to be carried at all a few people gave me dirty looks and I felt awkward but I stayed in my seat however once I got off and was walking home I couldn't shake the feeling that maybe I was in the wrong am I the be she might have read like what she did differently mhm like it it might not even be what she thought went down who's who the dirty look like a dirty look is a perspective right so like could be that she's exhausted and she's looking around she goes oh and she notices she walks
2:35 over what do you think it looks like to motion with your head to get up what is that gesture it could it could even be that she's not even telling you to do this but it could be that she's like oh she'll probably give it to me we don't know what's going through her head right but in her story it's a matter of fact in her story that this person came up rudely and motion rudely and she's interpreting it that way but we don't know if those motions actually said that if it's if it's that way then ████ her I would have just been like ████ you ████ cuz there's some things that are good deeds but when someone expects it of you you don't got to do it then it's a good deed no you don't got to do it no but that's the story she told herself right we don't know if that's exactly the Motions that she was intending like when you open a door for someone they walk in they don't say a word don't you regret opening it yes I do this Adam I shut the
3:27 door in their face but what if they're mute they better prove that ████ yeah let me see your tongue let me see yeah I don't I don't I don't even risk it I just open the door quickly close it without leaving pull it behind you he doesn't even exit you hold it no just go you know just just go right quick quick I would I would call it out like if someone does that and I'm like what does that mean yeah I think she's right for her response well how do we know what um um if that was the kid's age like see she's saying you don't you don't you just have to just for time sake you got to assume everything she says true okay okay well what what's the rule like you you give the seat up into an old person right someone who's handicapped someone who's pregnant probably but is is a is a lady with a kid one of them but dude
4:17 even sometimes I even did that at was it mastros I was like in the waiting area with smack and we were sitting and then an old couple like came in and I was like Hey should we get up for them and she's like yeah we do that so we got up they looked at it like it was a coincidentally open seat and they just quietly went and took it and didn't even look at us yeah that happens and that happens a lot I'm about to grab both their legs well they're C now they probably only they probably got cataracts dude like if you want you got to go like you got to do MOS is a spot where that ████ would happen I verbally was like oh here you go I said stuff that's czy well they probably didn't hear you no they looked at me they didn't say ████ well they're probably like I don't understand Chinese look at these gos giving up their seat yeah but even the body language you can nod in appreciation I had all the evidence I had all the evidence of them
5:07 you should have just ████ went like a little love tap to the cheek I think the rule is if it comes with entitlement it's a no-o for yeah exactly but you wouldn't know until you do it out of the graciousness of of your heart right but I I I actually believe that most people they interact with the world like they're the heroes in the video game and they're unaware I think I give most people a pass because they are like a lot of people live unaware of their surroundings and I've seen it and I know I know that's probably not their intention I wouldn't take it as until I can I can prove Beyond like you know doubt that they're being intentionally an ████ I give a lot of people a pass I think the way that you would react when somebody like how I did in that situation where they didn't say ████ they just took the seat
5:57 the way that you feel when they do that is the same same way you should feel when someone goes give me your seat really I think so I think I think you should oh yeah yeah 100 100% yeah because that's the way that you feel like like uh that it's not entitled to a person that acts like that is the same back to front then I mean okay cuz how would that situation go if she politely was like Hey you know do you mind if you give up if you ask right like how would how different would that interaction be politely 100% yeah yeah and you could hate it too but you could be like yeah you're right my bad yeah I got you I got you it's not that crazy you don't have to be like okay no just under your breath like f even that looks patronizing yeah for someone to be like like get up and go is like that's like Biff Tannon status it's like you're like a school bully right that's kind of true I don't got to get up like who are you the president still wouldn't give
6:48 walking in like carrying an 8-year-old kid that might be like a tactic yeah for sure CU she's yeah that's that's a fact yeah trying to look more like ooh oh come on if I was that if I was that girl I wouldn't have stared at her and said no because you wouldn't have said no because you're okay so she's reacting on a perspective that she thinks that's what that girl is communicating so you're you're you might be actually being the ████ by looking at someone and going no so set up the question well what if what if she's right well I wouldn't say no that those wouldn't be the first words that come out of my mouth what do you mean by that what if yeah so if they're looking at would be like this I'll be like I If yeah if she just does this I'll just look at her you should go like this you should go something yeah
7:38 and I'm like yeah like I'll be like what does that mean just eye contact the whole time asleep I'm uh reming reming at the moment reming hard right now I mean yeah if I want to interact I ask her what does that mean like if you go like okay so if you said what does that mean and she goes uh it means get up and give me seat you punch her kid in the face I laugh at her yeah I'm like you don't believe in equality she says not for Japs yeah are you clear now I still don't know to be honest it's probably different female to female 100% I think so too cuz as for me as a it's hard for me to be aggressive toward women like it's just not for me dog even
8:29 if she's a ████ like I give her I'm just like oh she's probably had a rough day and and then it's like I always believe like guys should take on more burden in general that's just as a guy you get up bro you got to get up it is sexist but it's just I just feel like you should be the more patient one like if she's having a rough day whatever she has a kid whatever I don't I'm young I don't give a ████ I could just stand up for an hour I should it'll help my legs whatever I would justify it in my mind oh I I I only need to teach someone a lesson when and I feel like it's a guy what if the lesson you're teaching them is that they deserve this everywhere they go because you allowed it I mean I've never had anyone be that ████ up to me you know what I mean like see in in an ideal Society though like the adult who comes in holding her kid she's not wrong if she doesn't have like a
9:19 stubborn look on her face because one day that 23-year-old who got off work who's really tired who's giving up her seat one day she's going to be old yeah and goes on the sub she's going to do the same ████ she hopefully she learned how to politely do it but you know what the other thing though too in my head I can't help but to think this and I know it's wrong but as a 23-year-old like how tired are you though right exactly exactly and your excuse was okay my work had an event it's like all right dude Ry are you a coal miner then maybe you can ████ sit in that ████ chair and go to bed you know yeah but doesn't she have a right to be tired yeah but but remember when you were 23 I just want to push back like you could ████ bro you could do anything you're fine you can ████ ████ you can ████ anybody I run the world this but 23 you're like bro I'm not I'm fine even
10:10 without okay so even if she told us that she was I don't even care if she was tired or not the principle is what she should have laid it on like it's like who cares if you're tired or not I would have gave it up if she was kind yes yeah that's yeah I think that's that's I think everyone can relate to that like I give a ████ if you're tired yeah yeah like I have the right to be T hey but guess what everyone in that ████ Subway they're all tired everyone's ████ everyone's tired of the subway exactly nobody wants to be there everyone's just trying to like coexist but that's why it's like it's important to kind of be kind to everybody cuz everyone's going through some weird ████ well hopefully by then you get a ████ car you know what I mean by the time you're 30 what you doing in the ████ so that's going to be your response if someone's like can I can I have your seat yeah I'm going be like get a car you can get further with being kind gra a car get a car just
11:01 that's a funny ass response you know you know you know another thing too is um what I've noticed is that people will bully others that they think they can bully right that part that part and I and then this happens a lot at um at my store because sometimes there's no men in the store and then so if you got a lot of teenage girls there's Karens that are mean to them there's like guys that won't leave them alone there's so many so like this lady she might be an absolute ████ to her but would that lady challenge a guy or someone else that she might be intimidated by like right so it could be a a clear bullying situation that's true but like we don't you know it's hard for me to kind of say cuz I don't really run into those type of interactions where people are
11:53 completely rude to me like that what if you were sitting um let's say you're sitting on a bench and then some lady is like I need you to move over cuz I'm big and I'm going to take up two oh no I'm like clearly you're ████ big you need walk up and down this thing for 30 minutes so you can take up one matter of fact you need to walk home ████ all this go walk what if she was nice about it if she was nice about it take the whole thing fat ass no like that it's very nice of you but you need to walk home today take the whole thing f
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