0:00 What happens if your wife wanted to become a dude? Then what do you do? >> Stick it through all the way you said. That's what you said. >> Uh, >> man, you really said about that one. >> You know, I'll love her. >> She stays her. >> Hey, her to the end. I'll love her to the end. >> Okay. Joe said to play this video, >> okay, >> and react to it. >> It's Tim. >> Could we live together after a divorce? We're watching this show where this girl is, she doesn't love her husband anymore, right? And I was like, "Babe, you know what? Let's say we stop loving each other. We could probably just stay married, right? We we got the crib together. We got kids. We just live together, maintain everything, and just live our lives." And I'm like, "You would be cool with that, right?" She was like, "No, >> if I don't love you anymore, I'm divorcing you and I'm moving out." I was like, "What?
0:50 >> Why were you shocked? >> You know, I've always thought Chia was such a logical person." And she is. >> You thought she was that cool. You think that chill? Do you just want to live in the same house as me? don't sleep with me and let me do whatever I want cuz I'm technically single but we could still be here. >> Yeah. >> You thought she was that cool? >> I thought she would be like that makes sense. >> I see. I agree with Tim but I do know that's like more so a dude's way of thinking. Aren't you entering like a Will Smith Jada picket? Yeah. >> That's true. >> That's a whole different conversation. >> Could we live together after a divorce? >> What do you guys think? >> I didn't think that Chia would answer like that. That Yeah, that blew my mind actually. >> Wo. >> I mean, wo wo think about it. You guys don't even love each other anymore. Love is what's keeping the bond. >> But I from the way I viewed it is I think from a maternal standpoint, you're doing it for the kids. >> Yeah. >> So you keep up this ecosystem for the
1:42 kids. But for her, she's like the kids. >> I'm going to live or maybe that's how I perceive it. I'm going to go live my own life. >> But the dynamics might change and then your kid is going to be like noticing it. And then your kids be like, yo, what the ████ going on? And then your kids going to have an >> a different view of what a marriage is for their own love as they grow up, >> right? So like why is dad over there and then mom over here but sounds of a clapping cheeks is over here. >> Sounds of a clapping cheek. >> Like dad I don't get what's going on. You know what I mean? Like that's not healthy. I think >> I guess it depends on what they view is love and what cuz like for example, right? I think it's normal to fall in and out of love with your partner like romantically from time to time, but then like you're but you still have that
2:33 family level love that you have with them where you like like the way that you have for your boys like your friendships you love them, you'll take care of them, you'll always be there for them, right? But that romantic intense >> butterflies, the passion, the all that I think that's normal to get go in and out of because >> like the novelty might wear off for a time being and then later on you're not focused on dating like you're focused on stressful life or whatever. You might be in different phases and you go back to you know what >> I kind of see you differently these days. I want to I want to take you out. I want to I want to court you again. And then you go back. I think that's normal though, right? Like I think it's actually abnormal to constantly be on this high romantic connection where you're like always in love and you're like I don't know. And also when I think about family building I think like >> well is it really about you know your
3:25 the couple's feelings. There's kids involved. There's you know there's so many other priorities like bills and ████ like is the is is the reason for the relationship just to feel good with each other? You know what I mean? I don't know. >> I I I Yeah, that's where I'm like, what what is the definition of love? And is it also like does it have to be this intense romance all the time? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Cuz I wouldn't I wouldn't divorce if we fell out of love cuz I actually think it's a choice. I don't think you I don't think it's like a thing that just happens to you where you're like, "Oh, I just the feeling's gone." I think you actually have a choice in maintaining it. >> Oh, >> I kind of feel like if you've let it go, that's something you can bring back. Everybody else seen that's like >> So you don't think it's like one day you look and you go I actually don't love you anymore out of nowhere. >> I think you've done stuff to lead to
4:15 that cuz I think it's like >> is that an impersonation of Hannah? >> I think I think it's an action. >> I don't think feelings are actually that important when it comes to marriage. >> I agree with Hannah. >> I don't think you marry someone based on a feeling that changes dayto-day. You know what I mean? >> Like if he's taking a ████ with the door open, >> you're not going to love me that much. >> Not in the moment. You know what I mean? But like >> with his legs up >> I'm holding it like that >> to get a good like girthy hold. >> Babe, you think Sorry. Let me let me do it that way. Babe, you think you get me some water, >> babe? >> Yeah. Oh, interesting. >> And I also don't think there's any such thing as divorce once you have kids. Cuz I have a friend >> who has kids and she's not with the dad. You're still life partners. You still
5:06 have to make decisions together. You're still raised. >> Oh, you mean like you can technically be divorced, but you're still tied to this person. >> You're tied to them for your whole life. So, you're just basically in Kareem at that point. >> Except you could you could be with other people though if you're divorced. >> Yeah, you can. But like then is it just about the sex? You know what I mean? Cuz technically this person, you're raising a person. You're still family. You're still tied. You're still making joint financial decisions. You're still making joint life decisions. She can't move away. You know what I mean? Yeah. >> So they're tied in every single way but sex. So at that point like are you saying then the marriage like not you? I'm just looking at you. >> Yeah. No. Look at her. >> Are you saying that then marriage the foundation of it is sex which it isn't. It's well not for me anyway. It's like family and like you've signed a contract. You know what I mean? >> I agree.
5:56 >> So it's kind of like it depends what your view of it is. But for me it's like >> no I think once you've signed it you're family. >> That's that's it. I I think that >> and it's a responsibility to maintain it. >> Yeah, that's how I that's how I see it, too. That's how I see it, too. >> Okay. >> Boom. Fire. Say that the priority is romance, but I think there's so many things that also >> is a part of marriage. >> Like it's future building, family building, all that, right? So then you don't want one to be weighed more than the other, but there will be times when children will come first before our date >> or whatever. And I think those things are, you know, but yeah, I think if if you um going back to kind of what you said where it'll if it will like losing love and all these things, it chips away slowly. It's not like like a bomb that
6:48 goes off and then you go, I ████ hate your guts. >> Oh yeah. Where does it go from there to like I have zero feelings for you? >> It's cuz she saw you hold your legs up. We'll take >> Well, what if what if someone what if someone cheats? Then what? depends again. >> But does that happen overnight? You know, >> it happens in a night. >> It happens. It does, right? Yeah. But doesn't it isn't that a chip does it chip away? Like is that something that's chipped away in your relationship and then and then you open it up? Cuz I I don't imagine that >> happening when you're in a good place. Like it typically happens when you're not in a good place. Oh yeah. >> Unless like you're super level celebrity and you just have ████ being thrown at you like non-stop. >> Yeah. And then you just just you're like, "Sorry, I >> I had to do it." >> I >> Well, and then but then you have to stay and work it out. >> Yeah. I would if you have kids. Yeah.
7:38 >> Dang. >> Is it turned to like disgust? Like >> you're you're with somebody and either they just were not who you married. Like stuff happens in life. they've completely changed to where they're actually not even a good role model for the child anymore. >> Yeah. >> Then I would be like, "Okay, you >> Yeah, I do. For me, I do see the kids is the compass." >> Yeah. >> So, I think that's why for me it's like let's say if me and my partner don't work out um up if they're 18, ████ it. Like I think we we did everything we can to raise our kid and then now everyone makes their own choices as adults. M >> um and now my kids even have their own space and their own maturity to judge me as a person cuz now you're an actual grown person with your own thoughts. You could say I ████ up as a dad or I ████ up as a husband or I ████ up
8:28 whatever. But up until that point where we're still kind of creating this guy's own like value system and everything. Um, I feel like if if I failed my marriage, it is still up to me to show what a successful marriage is so that the kid can model that later on. Even if I ████ up, >> right? >> That's how I That's how I >> So, you wouldn't tell, you know, your kids about your ████ up >> until maybe they're 18 and then let's say they're like 25 now and then they had really deep talks with me. I mean, honestly, me and mom fell out of love like when you were like 14. But we still try to keep it together just so that he can model everything, you know, like when they're before like their ████ frontal cortex is like fully formed or whatever, you know? >> Did you know that your VPN can still track your internet history? Mhm. You'll be browsing around and you're like going
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10:10 like falling out of love, right? So like um even if that was the case, if this person is my friend and we've been life partners >> Mhm. >> like we >> like we we still co-work well. You know what I mean? So like >> it's I think when people say this, there's actually a level of hate and disgust and I can't stand this ████ and I want to leave. >> So that to me is way different from oh, we just fell a lot. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. different >> like can you maybe I don't know if there's even a case of that we're like oh we just don't have the feelings anymore but we're great roommates >> there's no hate there's no like milk >> if that exists maybe there is something out there but in most cases I feel like people are exhausted and tired too much fighting is a lot of like I don't know what to do anymore and then
11:01 >> they they fall out >> it sounds like it sounds more like this is just a gentle realization that you don't love this person like that >> like it's not like a incidentally based like reaction. It's just a wake up one day and go, "Oh ████ like I don't got the thing anymore." >> If that was the case, I don't think it's worth blowing up the relationship. >> Me neither. >> Cuz like >> for me that would be the same thing as like well I don't love like let's say I don't love her that way but we can be friends. It would be like dude we have a cool living situation. We're like, but and I'm assuming we're in our 60s now and it's or whatever. Like it like we spent a lot of years together and we worked out, we did a lot of accomplishments and it's like cool and it's like but I don't know if at that point I would want to date again, have those feelings and try to start over with someone new, go through all the
11:52 fights, work that out, you know? Cuz even at this I'm only I'm only 40 and I that's to me I'm like that's already too much. I don't want to ████ do it again, >> man. You ain't got to be thinking about the negative stuff. All right. What the ████ is all this? What if? What if? What if? No. ████ that. It's only one way. It's grow old together. Crate and an empire together. That's it. You ████ be thinking too deep on whatever. ████ that. >> I think it's interesting when you have different answers. >> Think about it, man. ████ That's too much to worry about. I do reference like like my own parents. I feel like there was a good few years where I think they really didn't they really did fall out. I think for a few >> I think that's normal too. >> Yeah. But then but then they recognized it
12:42 >> and they both did a lot and it came back and better than ever. And like seeing that >> I think that's part of the work. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because like ████ happens. I think that that's the natural course of life like like you were saying like >> I think it's great for you if you could be like every day in a row perfect attendance in love, you know? But possible. >> That's not the reality. At least not how I've observed it. I think >> I actually think that's a better love story than someone who's never been challenged to >> fix it. >> And I think you're supposed to keep changing even while you're married. Like it happens. >> And I and I I'm only saying this like if it's not a toxic type of abusive space, right? >> Yeah. Right. As long as there's no like obviously >> like let's say Yeah. couples do get into arguments. It does go bad. It does get to a place where they like dull. >> Yeah. It could get to Yeah. Yeah. But then the people that have parents that stick together and they witness this,
13:33 they have a way healthier in most cases they have such a more healthier conflict resolution style. Whereas like I come from a divorce, you know, situation. And for me, when it when it's done, it's done. >> Like, and then you move on to the next partner. >> So then >> it's important, I think, for people to see that like you can work out ████ and that's a real relation. Yeah, >> I think falling out of love is almost a fortunate thing because it's it presents a challenge >> whereas some things are just an end all. Like obviously you're getting beat up like >> Yeah. I think divorce is is a is something when it's super severe. Like I feel like okay, so he's a ████ alcoholic and like he beats your ass every day. It's like get a divorce. Okay, so like you know kids are getting abused, get a divorce. Like if there's things that are severe, I don't think falling out of love is a good enough
14:23 reason to get a divorce. I also don't think being in love is a good enough reason to get married. >> Yeah. >> Well, I think what you said is true. Is it that's when you reach a point where are you willing to take the challenge or not? And that's where you make the choice of no or not. Let's split up or yes we are. Let's try. >> Yeah. >> And then if it doesn't work after trying for however many years, then yeah, then make a different choice. >> One of my favorite things to do in the world is to grab Gio's titties. And I love her so much that I told her if and this is how I how deep I think love is. I love her so much that if she wanted to get a sex change, I would still be with her >> and grab her fake titties. >> I wouldn't be able to grab her titties. But I love her so deep. >> Grab her dick now >> as a person and our dynamic >> that's I would still be with her. I'm not I ain't gay, >> but I don't know. Pass the test. >> You know how girls be like, "If I was a worm, would you still love me?" He
15:13 passed the test. >> Yeah. Would did you love did you marry her for romantic love though? >> Um >> I married her with my like I don't know 28 or 30 when did we get married? 31year-old brain I guess I'm 40 now or 41 about to be. >> Um and I think at that time I married her with as much depth as I thought I had but from now until then my definition of love had like twice as many notes. Oh >> yeah. >> So to me it's like the titty grabbing it's it's it got devalued. It's not that important. Even though I I do it every day and I love it. >> You would still stay with her if she completed the sex change. >> Yeah. >> She got a bigger one than you. >> She looks like George Lopez. >> George Lopez.
16:03 >> Watch movies. Yeah. >> George Lopez. >> Yeah. >> That's crazy. >> Because that's my definition of love has changed, you know. >> Wow. >> Yeah. >> Wow. That's some That's real love. >> And then I was I'm I'm teaching Ta >> that even if your partner changes shape, you stick it through. >> Still call me. I'm dad though. >> That would be hella funny if >> mom's a freak. You could call her mom. >> She's She becomes daddy. >> It'd be so funny if Gio changed sex. And then Bart's like, "I still love you." Tao wants to be trans. He's like, "F███ no. >> ████ no, dude. What the ████ Your mom been crazy. >> So unfair. >> Oh ████ man. That's That's a little wild. >> So what would happen? You said stick it through all the way. What happens if your wife wanted to become a dude? Then what do you do? >> Stick it through all the way. You said that's what you said.
16:54 >> Oh ████ >> man. You really said about that one. >> I didn't I didn't go that far. He's eating his messed up. >> He's eating his words. >> No, it's just like that's you know I'll love her. She stays her. >> A her to the end. I'll love her to the end. >> And that's a wrap. >> I will love you to the end. I will love you to the
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