0:00 [Music] welcome back to careful boys hey what's up guys hey what's up we got with us a very careful boy named tj lee who is in the hot seat you guys know about this segment tj lee is a friend of mine he's quest crew he is a friend i talked about in a past video when i was uh telling this long story about this massive car accident that i was in that he was also in where he got paralyzed recovered and now helps other kids recover from a lot of the same things that he went through good on you tj lee hero a real jk hero and for hot seat we like to start it kind of cold and turn up the temperature and as the temperature goes up that's when we feel like hot and vulnerable but before we get there let's start it off
0:50 with you guys spin on it first let's start off with bart he has the coldest coldest question so let's say you had to redesign dice and it's a cube what other shape would you prefer what the ████ is going on it's been like vegas i'm like it should have been a ████ that other number because the pyramid it will be a point yeah you don't know what point odds are odds are good as i'm getting kicked on one of the sides it's up to you yeah it's up to you what number it is very stable though very
1:41 stable very stable dies good good odds okay nice nice answer all right um when did you and ryan first become friends friends i told you i told you you're the leader leader of quest crew the leader of wait you're the leader of quest crew fake really no i know that's what you think no there's no leader there's no way when did you first meet him and what was your first impression of him you knew one of my exes right desiree no no i knew i just knew you foreign like 2 000 then how do you know aries from anabella yeah he's my i've known him since second grade well third grade technically i knew his sister in second grade i did he says i stole his ball before school
2:32 started and then after after i had class with him he's like she's like he's cool he's like all right you cool dude you know my sister so yeah oh tight that's how that's how our story begins yeah our connection goes yeah yeah our connection is weird because i met eris because he was walking around montebello mall with a shirt that said break it's like it had a b-boy on it and then my uh the rest of my crew was also at the mall they met him and they go hey we just met this dude with a break t-shirt we're gonna go to his house and practice so then i went over there i met him up we had a session we instantly were just like best friends and then this guy was just kind of residually there because he's from eris's circle and then we all just meshed and we're like dude let's go was he fat at the time that was a bigger boy how big were you what was that it's like five five seven two hundred pounds maybe i might skinny to make my way
3:24 like with width and length when you buy pants we're like the same or i had to buy like adult pants when i was like since like middle school you've been fat all your life not not anymore i'm sorry i'm still i'm not you're looking at him right now hey you always been this fat [Laughter] kid still yeah yeah yeah oh dude that's a mentality for sure yeah yeah it is yeah the foods you choose what's that i treat other people yeah just like getting into a little hot seat right now turn it up just regulation just regular ████ we're still warming up but make sure that you guys see the other video where we actually talk about more of his story so you know more otherwise i just seem like a jerk okay so you were talking about one of the first things you know when you realize that um it wasn't all paralyzed you started coming back was you know your penis sensations right you started you know
4:15 stuff like that when was uh the like how long it take before number one it was like kind of bad we jacked off yeah where you started actually at the hospital yes they get i was happy i had another friend i had a friend come by and i was like hey like what can you handle it can can you help me i just think you know i just want to see so ryan jack you all we said we'd never what heiress did that he ain't down he died to help a brother like that wow somebody come by you had a montebello haina come by so the first time you came was through a hand job and not even jacking off didn't come but got a hand job yes why not you
5:07 did not come [Laughter] that's what she said i think that's more of a physiological thing i don't know i couldn't yeah but it got up and everything was like my hair like tight it's working that's incredible i didn't know that did you have to take off the catheter first oh i was already off but then she had to like undo my diaper which was kind of weird whoever she is slow down were you guys talking at the time or were you just like yo homie i got a favor go home you have tv raps hit pop tj bro it could have been one of my exes because there was a lot of friends that came by a lot of hospital visits yeah a lot of friends staff was like hey you got another
5:57 friend i'm like cool he's like make sure you sign the log you don't have any dude friends you ask me this so so so so uh ████ bro how was your like how like how was your dating life before as a as a big dude uh there was no dating life wow i didn't know about that skill was right i later on i was like oh i friend zoned a bunch of people because i didn't know anything oh so the girls actually liked you but then you friends owned them no i didn't know he was like import tutor boy yeah i mean that's all kind of a weird age anyway yeah what's going on up so okay did you find yourself being a straight pamp when you became paralyzed like dude were you like oh classic paralyzed pimples classic yeah i'm a spit game now because all these
6:48 girls ████ like me now no you're already up in the hospital bed and then like how did you get how did you get a ████ favorite that was a big favor i think that one but how do you actually kevin is never it was never it was like it's your favorite that's what i'm just wondering like are you romantically involved or anything like that because it just sounds to me it's like i asked anthony to jack me off in bed well you got to throw me off a sandwich i got to say anthony like he didn't even do it i don't have any friends i got to say my first name like that man my mom don't call me that anthony all right this is kind of like oh like what was going on i was like hey like things have been improving and i i felt pain it could it's been it was like so early on where even it did it mentally i couldn't feel anything i was just like all right that's cool oh that's so much sexual is more like a scientific science like nothing really happened i was like
7:38 well at least there's pain i can't feel the good part there's pain that's something you're getting the hand john was still kind of painful it was like because it's the sensations like it doesn't know what's going on so i'm just like okay so got it okay that's a good ex let's just check that off it's there at least i feel it it's there yeah do you try the same with anal just to make sure oh they got so they have to put like suppositories in all the time because i couldn't poop because there's no signals going up in there oh my god they got like up bend over i was like this is like jail like okay cool like things that up in me i gotta do stuff i don't want i have to eat at certain times i was like they have to call you a ████ when they do it though yeah they have to turn their eyes on they hold your head yeah because they kind of move my head so i'm like oh okay there you go here we go tell me i'm a good doctor yeah hold my pocket all right so
8:28 i don't i don't do that supply store anymore now only for fun do you feel like since since then your dating life has gotten better uh well now it's really great but it's been a lot of like i would be too upfront like hey gotta accidentally blah blah they're like why are you telling me all this and then we meet in person and then they see this and they're like oh it's like you can kind of see it and it's like oh i'm like okay because you went on some tinder dates right there there's a lot of had like a lot of tender nights but the ones that i gotta make sure they're like open-minded because he passed all that and those were what do you mean what they see like they see your like disability or whatever it is and then they have a disability rocking around and then yeah like i still walk around like all funky i see you gotta like oh like i need help with things with a limp yeah do you ever ever like ████ with them and
9:19 like you're you are balanced but you're just like whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa all the way down not on the dates maybe at the club but not at the on the date parties [Laughter] that's like such a 90s ████ dude movie dude that's a bart move [Laughter] regular stupid because that because balance has always been issues still issued me so it's not like like for me it's like if that happens more like oh i'm gonna like help me rather than wow i'm gonna ████ die hurry the ████ up yeah
10:09 it's like it's a different like thinking like oh ████ go fall rather yeah oh hey how's it going that's that's drunk tj a little different but then that's also because the drunker i get the less balance i get so i'm just like say i'm like haha i don't give a ████ i'm gonna fall i'm gonna fall on you i'll follow regret everybody gets something everybody gets up like oh cool club's really packed that's even better because i could just bounce off everybody and get to where i just picked it yeah yeah today's video is brought to you by expressvpn you know what i hate the most hmm when you're like searching for stuff and then you get hit with ads ████ constantly on your phone yeah and i know it's connected yeah but i hate seeing ads over and over and over and over and over again and so far the only solution i found is using the vpn because when i'm doing it it thinks i'm somewhere else and i know most of you guys are just
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12:40 i don't think i've ever gotten a head job ever yeah [Laughter] only in church let's switch hot seats real quick i got a couple questions just ask me now dude dancers probably know when okay this is a little bit darker but you know you went through something pretty crazy um when you're paralyzed and you couldn't really move they tried to sit you up and you would and they let go and fall back down did you ever have a point where you felt like suicidal at all or like man this life ████ sucks i don't want to live this life anymore no because i had a lot of friends a lot of friends come by and a lot of support that's the biggest part when i tell them it's like timing and support and then me just like ████ it there's nothing to lose that helped me out cause like brian can come by airs like friends always come out on a daily where it's like cool like hey check this out
13:30 and you're like they're like oh what happened like you didn't see me i held for like two seconds like yeah oh so i get to kind of teach him about it and be like look like oh like today's five seconds like hey good job cause they see like they've been coming by so much that it could be like little wins and like in the grand scheme of stuff for me i was like yo check this out uh i didn't hit my head and like yeah that was that's the trick that was weird to see like to see those increments with you it's like crazy because like when you know someone for so long and that's not how they move at all and he's relearning all of his like babies like a baby yeah yeah it's like dude i remember just the way it used to normally be you know and then now it's like little tiny things are like huge breakthroughs i'm right i told you you probably won't get better you just quit i was like i'm gonna get you right okay
14:22 well i'm all the way over here two feet away there's a point where i got an argument with my dad and then i think you were there yeah i was just like i was like like this and then after that after like the argument was over my dad was that's the last time i saw him by the way i was like what it's my fault what'd you do and then like afterwards i was like yo that's the most i moved like that's kind of cool that would make me more angry it's like a movie i remember that that's the i think that was the worst thing i thought came from that was because i i went to visit him and i was just like i just walked in and like him and his dad were like fighting and i guess like he was blaming you for something and then that that's when you said i don't know if you ever tell me this but you were like you like you were like crying i was like dude what happened and you said you know the worst thing about being paralyzed as i i can't go to another room um yeah and so i can't get away
15:14 from this guy oh ████ um at what point did you go did you ever think like do you have a moment when you're like i'm paralyzed now this is my life forever and then it's kind of like i can't move in the in the beginning because i couldn't move at all but as soon as like little things came up i was like all right let's keep do you know how long that moment of hope like in that whole period of like just not being able to wiggle nothing you just wait sitting there and you're just like ████ um oh during that time i was just trying to survive that's all it was yeah or like just remembering things like oh if i lay down too long of a pressure sore but then after a while i was like hey mom you're tired of pushing me around don't call the nurse just like leave me so i actually did have a pressure sore like the size of a quarter on my ass or just leaking blood out because i was like just leave me alone like i was like
16:04 at this point like i like i just didn't want to be a burden to people and that's like even like now when i like people ask her i'm like no i got it i'm like a struggle yeah i think yeah they're so different people sometimes sometimes i'll make milky like on those on those days mcdonald's ████ ████ we've seen you melt it one time though man disneyland minus that was like for us but this again i i'll play i'll play jokes i'll play jokes but he only does it for us but like all throughout the whole thing i've never heard him like complain about it like one time so uh when ryan was telling us the story initially um it was a third guy uh and the other guy he had mentioned never came by or visited one time uh what happened how did you feel about that at that point i was just like where is he but things are going so fast and like rehab friends like everything like all the information of like dealing with it on
16:54 top of that school was like where like cal state was like where you been and we're gonna do some like oh and then also on top of that social security like all this stuff it was just like cool like if he wasn't there he's not there well something it took him like i think like four three four months before he showed up and he came with like his family all together which kind of like i was just like why don't you just come by yourself kind of thing but yeah i think maybe he needed his support yeah he didn't support but then at that point everything was just like go go go go go just like if if if yeah my mentality was just keep going because there's there's no stopping whatever just happened do you feel like your mentality for just always moving forward always moving forward do you think that was like were you always like that before the accident or do you feel like that was kind of a result of that no i wasn't like that before definitely not but it's like it was there was you were sad
17:45 as ████ or something no i was just i was happy but it's not like go go go get a reason to like have that mentality yeah that you think that motivated a more survival push forward mentality the accident and everything yeah and also with just having like i think my my my my my strength to find humor and things kind of helped out like that's cool all right next thing let's do it let's do it like that all right too much happiness let's get back to the sex stuff um how is sex nowadays oh he's our he's our local sex person like he's like that's where i would milk it i mean i can't move too much so i get on it you know get on it like ask me questions
18:39 that's the word on instagram don't listen to the leader of quest crew over here i have to i just made that up i asked you guys yeah so how is it for you oh these are great now dude ████ yeah i think uh so my current girlfriend ladies girlfriend she's great by the way yeah she had this move and now you're about to say soon to do something yes okay wait does she know that yeah she knows that okay she found this move and i was like oh because like it's really hard for me to come like it said before with the whole yeah don't brag dude wow she throws the bag like nothing yeah you don't even know i was like what what how'd you how did this happen she's like oh i was like all right you can call her occupational therapist
19:30 you know what i'm saying that's awesome man because that'd be honestly like maybe not the overly perverted side of me but if i was like paralyzed that would be one of the things i'd be like ████ i know because that's his life coming up what he does this guy does have sex that's all he does so the funny thing is that is that coming just feels different overall really i know i know some people yeah i know some people similar similar thing where it hurts too so they don't want to come so it's like a weird thing does it hurt you still it's sometimes it'll be like oh that's kind of weird just like it says it's like a big it's a big influx of just like nerves going at it you know i thought you just come so hard just ████ just fall on the ground because it's knocked
20:20 out of balance standing always because you turn the iron legs i mean if you are you guys your legs get a weak mind just go whoop and i'm like on the floor wow dude yeah what's the hardest thing for you to do like at the phase of a recovery you're out what's what's the hardest thing for you to do still maybe oh the big the hard thing was me going from right-handed to left-handed like right now like oh you're left-hand dominant now can't open i'm trying i'm drinking is that something you still actively work work on uh not anymore because right now give me a bottle right yeah once i figured out like oh this is great
21:11 for parties okay cool like functionally like i could do this yeah i could drive like oh i could grab like i got the left hand for everything i noticed that you had to open it first and then you could so you could grab in but then opening out as hard you can play with this it's okay that's my [Laughter] if you want to touch the head it's okay it's like it's weird like it doesn't want to like if you pull it to like open it it's like let me see it yeah it's just extending it won't it won't extend it's just curling whoa the closest thing to that i can relate to is i punched somebody in the face and
22:02 then it dislocated my uh knuckle outside and then i had to pop it back in and it was like it was like this and then for i don't know like a month or something i couldn't close it i couldn't it just felt it felt like um like 50 usage oh so for mine's it's it's like the muscles are flexed too much so i need to make sure like i sh i like yeah so like i don't want to do too much exercise where it's always flexing then it's i'm gonna be stuck like that so that mean when you ask your girl like hey can i get a hand job you're actually just like he stretched me out that's stupid it's a good trick like they're like you know go on dates or girls like hey like can you stretch out this hand wow oh thanks thanks thanks a smoothie yeah ryan's like hey you want to take a trip up to norcal do you go
22:54 [Laughter] san francisco god so what are we going up right now let's go let's go let's go easy easy i'll take i'll take backseat this time yeah you're the best i love that about everything that has happened man you're ████ hilarious this dude here man like if that happened to you this would be the perfect rehab person i'm like tj i need your help come here you've been through this ████ give me your hand joe is it working is it working which okay which hand joe which is [Music] h [Music]
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