0:00 I could be best friends with him now. Like, it's crazy to think. Yeah. >> Wow. >> Do you think you will be or try to >> move over Aerys? [laughter] Is that like a a thing that that could potentially happen? >> He's dead to us, dude. >> Welcome back. Another episode of Bart from the Heart, where Bart has curated and created these really deep questions that we're going to answer solo for each episode. Um, and Bart's going to read one for me to answer. >> Okay, this one's for Ryan. If you could reconnect with your very first best friend, what would you say and what would you want to know about them? What would you share? Paint who they were back then and if you know, paint who they are now and then kind of explain the type of relationship you guys had and like uh if
0:50 there's anything you miss from that and what you would want your relationship to be now. >> Yeah. So there's um it's it's kind of funny because that mildly kind of happened semi-reently. >> Really? >> Yeah. So my first best friend was this uh kid named Pat. Uh and he was um I'd known him since I was 5 years old and we went to kindergarten together up until 8th grade. And uh when we were kids like I I kind of experienced a lot of like we had a lot of adult moments as kids. That sounds kind of funny. >> That sounds crazy. Hell yeah. Well, let me explain. One of those moments was like it was in first grade or second grade and this kid uh also his family went to my church too. So, our families are pretty close. And uh this one day like my mom told me like, "Hey, um you
1:40 know, just be careful around Pat because like his parents are kind of going through something." And I was like seven years old or something at the time. And then uh kind they didn't really explain it to me very well yet. And then uh and then then when I saw him at school, he just like had his head down on the desk like this. And then I was like, "Hey, what's up, man?" And he was just like, "I got to tell you something." I was like, "What?" He's like, "It's about my mom." And I was just like, we were like seven years old trying to have this adult conversation. He was trying to explain that his parents were going to get divorced and ████ And it was like really heavy on us cuz we were both trying to make sense of it. Like I thought maybe he knew more than I did about how that works, but we both didn't know nothing. We didn't know what happens cuz we didn't even know you could do that. >> Yeah. You're 7 years old. Holy ████ >> And on top of that, we're Seventh Day
2:31 Adventists as well. And it's very rare to ever like see that happen if even if it is happening. You don't know. >> Yeah. No one really got divorced. >> Yeah. And and if they do, it's very secret. >> And if they do, it kind of becomes a scandal. >> It's a big scandal. >> Looked as a failure. Yeah, exactly. You're kind of It's almost like a sin to do that. So, uh we were both just like, you know, trying to make sense of it. I like I didn't even know how to feel in terms of like whether I'm sad for him or not cuz I just don't get it. And neither did he. And uh yeah, and it was like a big thing. Me and him were like like major best buds were like we would we would love like play baseball together a lot. And like I just remembered um there's like a really vivid memory of us on the field and I'm just like pitching to him and he's like hitting dingers. This dude was so good. He was like a way
3:21 taller than me. Half white, half Mexican kid. And uh definitely like a a a kid that like you knew was going to get mega tall and like we were just in the field and I was just like, "Yeah, man. When we grow up, let's be in the major leagues and I'll I'll be a pitcher and and you be the batter." And he's like, "Yeah, that's the plan. Let's get to the major leagues." And we just kept like spend till the sun went down. We're just I was just pitching. He's hitting. Of course, like he's infinitely better than me athletically and everything. And then as we grow up, like you know, like I I was uh you know, I saw him get his first kiss. I saw like every like first moment that you could have as kids like we had those like u within each other's friendship and stuff. >> You guys maintain best friendship for all the way till 8th grade? >> Yeah, pretty much till 8th grade. Yeah, we were just like inseparable. And then
4:11 um and then it got to the point where like we um because his parents were divorced, I'm just kind of assuming, but like I think going to continuing to go to private school was going to be a little bit of a strain. Single parent household and there was three of them. So after that, they ended up going to uh his family ended up going to public school. We went to John Glenn uh in Norwalk and then from there uh like we just kind of obviously grew apart because back then you don't have phones or there's no way to really see each other cuz uh I lived in Downey, he lived in Norwok and being a kid that's like a whole state away basically if you don't have a car. And then um next thing I know like I'm trying to call him here and there. we we stay connected a little bit and then um around the time that we're like in high school already uh you know his family doesn't go to that
5:01 church anymore. I just don't see him. And then uh he ended up having a kid and it's like his life moved at a speed that was like >> it was like like a time warp. >> This was in high This was high school. >> Yeah. Because I'm still basically a child in my mind in high school. Like I'm still a stupid kid. And then this dude ended up with a like a kid of his own. And uh it was just like a trip to me. And then um I finally saw him again right after I graduated high school. I ended up working at Cerrito's Mall. And then I was working at uh one of the cell phone uh kiosks where you just have to like shark people down to like buy phones. And this fool like walked by with a stroller and his baby. And I was like, "No way, bro." And like I got to meet his kid and everything. And uh so he went straight into the workforce at
5:51 that point. He got a job. I mean, you know, obviously when you have a kid, your priorities like mega shift. And this dude, by the time that uh we were out of high school, this guy was over six feet tall. >> Oh wow. >> Yeah. He was like a freaking This dude was like a he could have been like a a mega athlete and whatever he wanted, but you know, he ended up joining the workforce. He he got a job with Edison like really like I think really entry level and he's been with Edison till this day. >> Wow. >> And he is like got the cushiest job at the table now. Like he doesn't got to be climbing the power lines or nothing. He's at that point. And then uh we reconnected um here and there we'll reconnect like in small ways, but I think one of the biggest funniest ways we reconnected is that I started to notice that uh he's
6:41 he's liking all the same like politically charged content as me [laughter] like like hella racist stuff >> like what dude >> on Instagram [laughter] like stuff that I think is funny but like he also has a the same sense of humor. And so I was like, "Bro, what's up with us liking the same ████ Like, shouldn't we be a lot more different than each other by now? I haven't even spoke to you. We have completely different lives." And then we just started talking about literally like um it sounds so gay, but like the state of the world and ████ And we're on the exact same page all across the board. >> Third eyes open, brother. >> With every single issue like going on anywhere, we're on the exact same page. And we're we were both just like, "How does that happen, bro?" Like, we didn't have the same life at all. Like, we grew up completely different. And uh and we
7:32 we ended up kind of in the same spot. Like, you hate ████ Illuminati. I do, too. >> Yeah. We have the same paranoia. >> Shadow government. Yeah, that's what I thought, too. >> Exactly. We just hate all the same stuff. But like it's funny too because like I took he is expecting me to be opposite of him because I took a more art artistic world. I went that way. >> You thought you would have been a raging liberal. >> Yeah. I think for the longest time he was always afraid to offend me like as we grew up because one time I did uh reconnect with him a little bit where like I remembered how huge of a fan he was of Kobe Bryant. And then uh and then at one point, Quest Crew, we had a show where we got to perform for Kobe um at this like event and I invited him and got him tickets to come and he watched it and he was just like how the ████ cuz
8:22 he got to like see Kobe and like and uh >> yeah and I think like he's he's always like assumed that like we're not as close I guess but like we just realized dude we're like literally still the same people you know and we somehow stayed lined up with our opinions on stuff. >> That's crazy. >> Yeah, >> cuz people in the same family won't even be aligned on stuff like that. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It really is like impressive to me that I I I assume too that I'm like, "Dude, I haven't seen this guy in so many years." I think the last time I actually even saw him was maybe 2015 when he was like he had a date at the Hollywood Bowl and he hit me up cuz he knew I lived in Hollywood and he was like, "Hey, can I park at your house and just like take a Uber so it's easier?" I was like, "Yeah, bro." Yeah. So he um that was the last time I really saw him, but it was very briefly because he was with a girl. U but then like I
9:13 think for the longest he we've always both been under the assumption that like ah we can't really connect at this point, you know, >> really >> just because too much time has passed. >> Too much time, two different lives. Like he he assumed to that I was, you know, still kind of uh plugged into the religion that we were both from cuz I he's not either. Um, but this dude, like it's crazy to think that we were best friends from like childhood to to like um early youth and then I could be best friends with him now. Like it's crazy to think. Yeah. >> Wow. >> Do you think you will be or try to I don't even know if that's like a move over Aerys. [laughter] Is that like a a thing that that could potentially happen? >> Dead to us, dude. I think like I mean it's it's another thing too where I feel like our I mean our life schedules are so different too because he has such a you know a real
10:05 job [laughter] and he's he got remarried uh so he he ended up like having a few kids and uh his kids are like all grown up now. It's crazy like he took the the other road entirely and he doesn't even have any children kids. They're like adult kids now. >> Wow. >> Yeah. And um yeah, his life's very different, but I I I enjoy staying in contact with him. I would love to meet up and and talk more. It's just crazy to have discovered that like and not just politically, but like in every way, our sense of humor is still the same cuz he was always like the funniest guy that I feel like I shaped my sense of humor around what he thought was funny. Cuz you know, you always want to make your your best friend laugh. So like everything that I thought was funny was because he was laughing at it like throughout childhood. That's all I remember was like, what's going to make this fool laugh because he's so like he he was a hard person to get to crack too
10:56 cuz he was he looks so serious but he's like a goofball. And I told him too, I'm like he spent his whole life being the biggest dude everywhere he went. He's not fat. He's just mega tall and like a big guy. And I'm like, does do people in your life understand like how much of a goof you are? And he's like, yeah, most people are scared to like make jokes around me cuz he's looks intimidating. Like he's a a big dude. And uh I'm like that's crazy that between us like I know like who he really is inside and he hasn't really changed. >> Yeah. It's just that the outer shell has like caused a different impression. >> You should tell him to lead with goofiness now. [laughter] >> Okay. This is a new stage in your life, pal. >> I think people are afraid to laugh at his jokes too cuz he's so big. This fool's like looks scary. >> Guy makes a joke. I GO [laughter] THAT WAS SO FUNNY. >> You got to humor him, you know. [laughter] >> Yeah. But that's that's interesting that
11:47 like that you brought that question up because of that reason that like it was probably just like a maybe like a a couple months ago that that happened. >> What sparked that? >> Literally just seeing that fool's ████ likes on >> on everything I like. I was like and it's like some pretty risque ████ Yeah. It's like not stuff I don't see anybody else's >> built by your algo, you know, >> but only him. And I was like what are you do like and I'm like hey what are why are you really liking this stuff? Like what way are you watching this? And I I realized we're both satirically laughing at the same demented ████ And that is like >> like down syndrome guy playing guitar. You follow that guy? >> You know what I'm talking about. >> No. What the heck? >> What? So I follow this guy. What he does? He he plays music. He plays music and then he sits down and the guitar is
12:38 not even the right way. It's the other way. And he starts moving his hands to the strings like as if he's trying to dupe you like he he's playing what you're listening to. But you clearly >> like a lip syncer. >> Yeah. But you like a but like a cover band. But you literally you see him go over to like the radio station. He's like like this and then it's like Sunday morning, right? And he's like he sounds like it's the original [laughter] like >> you you didn't see that. >> I know exactly what you're talking about. >> Millions. >> Same algo, dude. [laughter] Millions. That's on That's on you and Anony's algo. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> You and Anthony do those have those bullying algos [laughter] where it's like the Instagram's begging you to bully this kid. >> The same videos that me and Ryan like are when Indian guys flip INTO PEOPLE RANDOMLY. >> I LIKE THOSE TOO. >> I'm a big civic sense content guy. Yeah, I love that stuff. >> But yeah, I think that's that's a
13:29 beautiful thing about like I guess like staying connected on social media with old friends is that yeah, something could happen either through Facebook. How did you even see him like it though? That means you got you must have added him a while ago, right? >> We've like added each other for like ages ago. You know, like when you first sign up a platform, it's going to go through like your phone numbers or people other contacts and you just add them all. It was it was like ancient times that we added each other. But we just never thought to like, you know, we just both were under that weird assumption that like, oh, we're probably just not on the same page no more. Like I don't want to bore this guy with what I'm doing. Every now and then we'll just say congrats to each other for different milestones. like if I'll see that, you know, something happened with him get being promoted or if I'm on some other show, like he was always there. But um but yeah, we just it's that funny thing where like I think over time it's a very natural thing to just assume that you're not friends with someone anymore. But >> you never know. That's crazy. Yeah.
14:20 >> It's always there. You guys had a spark. It stays there, you know? [snorts] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, that's my message, I guess, about that is just uh you know, give your old friends a shot. Uh a shout out, too. just see if if things are still, you know, uh you might be closer than you think. >> My my old best friend's dead. >> Unless they're dead, then you can't really hit him up, you know. >> We're gonna ask Joe next uh on the next episode of Bar from the Heart. Thank you guys.
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