0:00 [Music] welcome back to another episode of careful boys yeah we have Gucci with us right here got Brett over there with Joe um it's going to be another I guess in a way we're going to be giving some advice to people when is it acceptable to be friends with your ex ooh or is it are you guys friends with your ex no hell no a couple of them yeah I'm civil but I'm I don't hang out with them like that yeah I think acquaintances oh I know when they transition that's what I've been saying bing bing bing been saying that for you DN you're not wrong how you find the loophole man yeah how often has this happened to you when it goes like this penis okay we're safe we could be Bros yeah what's up dude cuz I have a
0:50 friend that or an ex that transitioned and you guys hang all the time right buds right no well well he doesn't live here you know what's funny though is I talk to him like we're boys yeah cuz that's what he want so did your relationship and dynamic change after like you got a new friend of course no I mean like I mean like the way that you treated them now that their gender is different like do you yeah like are like you you you talk to them about different ████ now I talked to him like I would talk to like a guy in a group in a group chat full of guys really this is your ex yeah it's my someone I dated like uh like a very long time ago but and is that strange is that a strange Dynamic for you or no it's more like like it it's more like doing a solid for your homie oh yeah the thought never crosses your mind like I used to ████ that dude oh it does it does but it's like it's it's interesting ████ up between
1:41 the balls yeah that's that's what I think yeah specifically that yeah it is do you ever wonder like you know when we were doing it did you wish I was a girl I asked I asked about that oh really what she say or he say what does he say said that uh that he always felt a jealousy looking at oh yeah or like like like the ins en like like if you're looking and it's like a weird like wait I'm not supposed to think that but then yeah now when he explains it he's like yeah like I wanted to do that yeah like hey I want that role kind of a thing yeah but yeah never mentioned it back then wow yeah pretty interesting wow but yeah it is pretty easy to be friends with someone like that yeah espe with the dynamic it's not going to happen that often but like it was a really interesting like eye
2:31 opening thing because it's like a rare one yeah the best thing I can do is just like like you know it's like hey talk to me like you would like your home your homies and your friends okay yeah I can do that and then it just became like mad Regular after a while it's like that's the that's the new Dynamic romantically you know conversating and now it's this is like waa what a weird trippy place to be you guys play like Call of Duty with each other now and ████ or what no well we used to play video games together anyway when back then you know yeah so it's very it it's not really that big of a change but I think for this specific individual they always sort of knew so that it's not like it was a big personality shift for them you guys ever like pee on the same tree together do men do that I'm not too familiar with man culture is that regular if it camping if we go camping likey you want to go you want hit up that tree guys yeah let's go man I'll head over have you heard that before I'm not that familiar the closest
3:22 I've ever gotten to that is I did used to be a stud I had a phase where was yeah that's like a black masculine lesbian and um I just somebody tested my gangster I was yeah yeah dude was like oh you want to dress like a man well I'll ████ you up like one I was like oh I'm a princess no please don't say that to me I hit factory reset so you like reverted real quick I'm not about that life I just like the fashion but absolutely men's clothing is just fits better it's comfortable and you're not friends with any of your exes at all no I think all of my serious serious relationships did not end well they did not end on talking terms no yeah no I think that's the key though it it depends on how it ends cuz if it's
4:14 really bad then you're just like why would you want to be friends with that version right yeah it depends that's true yeah there are people that I've like dated casually that were like we're still connected we're not like hanging out on any serious ████ but I have had like you know like I've gone on a date with a person and then like oh we're actually just better as friends like we're cool homies yeah I've had that before but nothing like super serious I feel like I don't know I feel like clo like a close friendship with an ex yeah I think the only way I see that working out is there's a grace period of years of like and then there it's just someone that's familiar that it ended didn't end bad but there's no attraction but there's closeness because of history and that's someone that you can trust so that some else that you can maybe rely on or whatever you just have someone in your you know they're like family now
5:05 and I think that can happen but as far as like right after you break up your friends and then that's just it I don't know there's no time to move on and become different people you got to have the factory reset yeah have that something big has to change you're like an old friend you know yeah sex complicates a relationship no matter how you try to spin it it does I don't really like desire to be friends with my ex I don't think are they trying to be friends with you yeah I've had that I'm like what are you doing like you got a new man too now but you're like just let me keep breed in My Pocket just in case this doesn't work out you know things do they say to try to propose a friendship with you after just be like sliding up on stories you know saying ████ like little stuff you know I'm like what are you doing go go be with your man wow like crazy you going make him want
5:57 you more yeah I don't oh I don't say that I wish I said that go be with your man I don't say that I usually like it just think it yeah I guess obviously you can be friends with him if you're single right why not unless it's like awkward yeah unless there still those feelings yeah but yeah if you already have a partner then I guess it is odd too because like we were saying if it wasn't a tumultuous breakup and it was a very civil ending it almost feels like that's more risky because maybe there's a chance of it there's always a chance yeah the door is always open I mean people break up cuz they just annoy the crap out of each other but they're not necessarily like no nothing bad happened but you just realized oh like I could never be with you again cuz ████ man you ████ pissed me off so much like when you when you're with somebody new and
6:48 you ask them about their ex and you're like hey whatever happened to you and and him a scary answer would be you know I don't know scared be yeah the way that you said that me you don't know didn't he do anything bad yeah low key I do like to hear this what are you sing in behind those eyes ex yeah exactly don't be looking in there people sometimes it doesn't work out because of timing and it's not necessarily that either of them did anything bad it's just oh the timing wasn't right oh like I had to leave the college and then they're still thinking what if right no I think it would only work when you burn it out exactly burn it the ████ out I ha like a good backstory they cheated on you you ruined their life and they are never coming back oh great green flag yeah it feels
7:39 better you're like oh good you hate them great yeah or they're like paralyzed now or something paralyzed is good that's a good one no one talks about that one never going to walk back into your life walk in they roll back in paralyzed well you I think okay so out of this room then it seems like you actually are friends with your act yeah but I'm like maybe what does that relationship look like or you're friendly I mean one of them's a dude uh the other one is the other one that's so crazy that didn't exist years ago it's like oh yeah one of my exes is a dude now that's a wild one yeah that's really and and on top of that an extremely convincing dude you would not think yeah yeah it's not like like you still smash more now more now than before sides of the spectrum cuz I seen his old
8:30 pictures and like very feminine and then very dude like yeah yeah yeah very very cool you know what he talking about yeah yeah I seen pictures that's range yeah that is range but then like so that kind of makes are they are they are they Asian no the white I was going to say they make the best lady boys for sure Asians yeah oh my God yeah somebody got on me in the comments there was like these two lady boys from Thailand they are stunning I'm I'm like honestly y'all got me beat ladies like y' for real and I was like oh my God they are beautiful and then I got so much hate in the comments like do you even know what you're looking at yes women with dicks but they are stunning the ████ you can't anybody could look at them like they're hey what's up guys just in case you have seen some of these lovely pieces on some of our gentlemen here these awesome Jade pendants or you may
9:21 have seen the recent JK Adventure where we went to Jade jewers just remember that the sale is on now if you want to visit the j.co you can even find some of the stuff that our guys have had and way way more the selection is huge so make sure to visit the J Jewelers and check out what they've got check it out let's go I commented on one of those pages cuz like a guy was like um in the video they're like you know is it is it gay to be attracted to a lady boy and I was like it's not gay to be attracted to a lady boy but it's kind of gay to suck their dick kind of yeah yeah I I followed because like I'm signed into the JK Instagram account you know how I'm like how I'm like on the the JK account I followed I think that same page with the two lady
10:11 Bo with the JK account and all these people are like hm nice to see you here like is it that tie influence that's been going around I know it's like these two it's like they're like a Duo one and they're sisters yeah and they just like look banging and you're like huh yeah and they're like I'm lady boy I'm lady boy I mean follow yes that's that's all their content I just thought it was entertaining cuz they're funny too yeah but I think like for my maybe my other exent of friends with it's just like we we broke up because it was very like we were like the same person you know when you date someone too similar and you're just kind of like weird it out a little bit you're like doing this and then she's like doing this they doing M
11:01 exercise stop that what's the weird part I think cuz you spend your whole life I guess like think if you have this idealism then that's what messes it up you think you want someone exactly like you and that that's the person that'll understand you the best yeah and then when that comes face to face with you there's no like uh I guess like positive negative like parts that meet oh like complimentary Parts complimentary Parts it's very it becomes competitive in a really weird way you start to have these superiority complexes about who knows more about what because you have the same interests like uh you don't learn anything new you end up kind of one uping each other unknowingly and then it becomes a lot of animosity out of nowhere yeah not that that always happens but that happens if you have the expectancy of like oh the perfect person for me is me which is the that's the mistake yo I I did see something confirming that I was watching this like three-hour podcast with these like
11:53 relationship therapist with that one dude that um that one uh British black guy that the CEO dire CEO yeah yeah something yeah I love his stuff and then um this uh these guy these relationships uh experts like therapists or whatever they're talking about how people think like you would want someone like compatibility is like oh we we we have so many things in common he goes no like what they've witnessed is there's opposites there's all that but the what the consistency was how much um like fun they have just interacting yeah so like you have to go on dates mhm to know if you guys enjoy each other but previous to that people will do the whole e-harmony thing right they'll just be like oh this is compatible are we compatible do we like the same things on paper that might be right but a lot of
12:43 the times it might just not work because they like in person they just drive each other crazy and stuff I was like damn I didn't know that yeah I think I think it's definitely one of things where if you date somebody and you both realize you were better off as friends and it's you don't even have like a romantic Zing or anything that's an easy person to be friends with later it just doesn't turn you on like and and it's m it's got to be mutual you can't have one simping out and being like maybe one thing no yeah no yeah that doesn't work we'll get back together Brit yeah so my friend my friend she is dating a guy who's Muslim and she um she witnessed that like her the her boyfriend's cousins like literally like they met on a Muslim dating app and got married within like a month it was like such a short amount of
13:33 time like similar to an arranged marriage but like it's so successful because they are getting to know each other and through this time but it's two people who actively want to do it which I'm like loky there is something to that Dynamic right like I feel like in our Western culture we like date to you know we're getting to know each other over the course of several years and then like we're wasting so much time you know I'm like oh there is something to that culture of like all right ████ it I know yeah like I know that I'm like obviously not when you're like a child and you don't know what you're getting into no but like two willing adults who are ready for a certain life expectancy and they you know they both want to have kids they both want to you know settle down um I think that's like actually a really good Dynamic to have I think so too yeah yeah yeah but those two people have to be ready for that yeah they both
14:24 got Chang though like once you know I got married I didn't think it'd be very different from like living with a partner and doing the same things as people that are like married like you're like sharing you know bank accounts or whatever you know you're doing the same things right but then just now that your mind is oh I'm committed and there's no outs it does change how you even argue and stuff really cuz you're you want to like find a solution faster for sure yeah I think you're not looking for an escape yeah there's there's just a different shift that happen even I mean I I don't think it was conscious but I think Looking Back Now I'm like oh I I think like when there's no outs mhm the way that you think and even argue is different cuz you just want to solve it cuz you you know you're going to be if there yeah if you're like I'm going to be with this person forever like like
15:15 ████ I got to figure it out yeah I could I could imagine that because it feels like you could say something wrong or say something way too damaging In the Heat of the Moment that they can't forget and now they they hear that when they look at you every day yeah yeah and also like when you're in a relationship like well at least for me it's like is this phase of we're still working it out right versus you're married you're not working it out you guys are married right so there's no like let's test to see where this relationship goes I think there's a two there's a different mentality cuz people will have that well at least for me I would have that mentality of let's see where this goes while you're living together while you're sharing like everything you're acting like a married couple but then there's like this one foot in one foot out kind of yeah lack of commitment that you don't know you're
16:05 like not fully committing yeah yeah you know what also is probably the biggest most main deter determining Factor whether or not you can be friends with your ex is how your current partner feels about that it's probably the main yeah that's probably not a good look yeah that's probably the first thing you should consider yeah how they feel about that if they're just not cool with it then it doesn't matter what your history a whack girlfriend dude that's what it really means with your significant another it depends on what context like I still work with my ex so she you guys are friends you guys watch movies together you don't in that way uh no it's very professional right and like there's a lot of respect there and there's a lot of trust and I think that's that's awesome because um we don't have to like be on the phone at night with you know our legs going like dangling and saying what are you doing
16:55 you know you doing nothing you know like talking about your favorite jelly bean flavors and it's kind of cool too I love root be FL and I think it's kind of cool where you don't I don't have to um like there's no there's no wonder of like like I want to get to know this person more like I I know you right or like yeah and then and I trust you and I think that's one of the coolest things is that when you have that history with someone you know they're not going to screw you over you know they're going to be loyal to you and especially in the professional setting that's like really good M hey call her right now tell her you want to get to know her [Laughter] better see what happens ████ joeck call her and go what happened to you know you and me we used to be
17:46 such a hot item I would hear vomiting on the other end of the line she throws her phone against ████ do that every again that's a cruel joke imagine if that was our prompt like everyone has to call their EX what happened to us I take turn we used to be so close we had some fun didn't we we had some fun that would be awful what do you say let's let's run it back I guess that's the main thing see how your partner feels about it and if they're cool with it that's a new challenge call your ex and call tell that record your reaction see what happens whatever happened to those days I missed the old us freaking sick dude
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