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Is This Style of Marriage Hurting Japan?

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0:00 I don't know but I think J Japanese and Koreans will be extinct in the next 40 years 40 years oh man that's [Music] quick looks like uh Japan is in trouble again uhoh Fukushima times two no it's not not like that but uh again have you guys figured out this whole birth rate thing do you know what you're going to do about that are you helping I don't know but I think J Japanese and Koreans will be extinct in the next 40 years 40 years oh man that's quick there's another thing going on over there that I don't know if it hurts or helps but you tell me cuz you're an expert uh they got this theme called friendship marriages what's that on the rise sounds pretty interesting it's like yo I don't want anybody you don't want

0:50 anybody but then we're cool so let's just ████ have a kid yeah so it's it's a I guess it's a hot craze among young Japanese people uh it's a union that doesn't involve sex or Romance wait what but they get married to each other and they're allowed to date other people but it comes with the benefits of the tax breaks the companionship and the social acceptance from the outside that they got married so it's a gay man's beard kind of yeah correct and with marriage rates declining in Japan a lot of the young adults like you said are feeling like disillusion with societal expectations so now there's companies that are starting to administer these things there's a company called caloris which is the first agency that facilitates friendship marriage specifically and in uh since 2015 they've done about 500 of them and they don't plan on having kids or nothing some some of them do some of them actually end up having is it it just regular marriage yeah but they that just

1:42 sounds like an arranged marriage to me yeah but there's but that it's like intended between the two of them that they're just friends oh wow and they're just doing they're still dating other people oh for legal purposes yeah but legal purposes is it at the same relationships just last longer than real romantic relationships they honestly might yeah makes sense cuz they don't have to be tied but do you think this is a good thing or a bad thing for the problem that they have it doesn't change anything right if they're not ████ I know what's the point maybe it encourages them to ████ a little bit maybe puts a little H yeah same brain yeah they're like oh we're just friends blah blah blah blah and then over time they R yeah oh yeah this would be an issue in the western world as well but we allow a lot of immigration so that's what you think that's a big source of why their birth

2:32 rate's low um what do you mean like lack of lack of immigration yeah it's a population issue and uh well the birth rate like like in the western world is already like if it if they didn't allow any immigration it would be similar to Japan and Korea I mean look at what's happening to Italy so what's happening to Italy same thing birth there's no more Italians in like 4 years bir good well cuz like think about the like our like the Boomers all we all have relatives that are like they had like 10 siblings right and then to replace them we need to have like three kids each couple but the but the amount of kids that people are having in the states are like one or two one or two yeah cuz it's expensive yeah and I think that's the actual reason isn't it like a million

3:22 dollars to raise a kid all the way up ████ I don't know probably who knows what good luck dude yeah dude you're so ████ just raise him halfway have another one Japan and Korea they're having like one kid if anything that's not that's both my parents my my um dad's side I think he had 14 siblings whoa damn dude that's a lotay because they could afford it I think right or they couldn't what was the motivation that when they tell you like like why did they have that many kids I don't think they used condoms and I think it was normal to just ████ a lot and have a lot of well well because back then in their generation they probably weren't even thinking about overpopulation or like the ████ it was normal about getting that nut in yeah they're thinking about they're thinking about their generation about

4:12 creep eyes know uh my aunt told me so she grew up here in in in Fresno California and then she said that um it was because of uh child mortality was high still well that was like well she's passed now look people die in dentary and ████ like that but she grew up in like the 193s 40s something like that so she said as a kid like so like cuz she went to um what do you call it like during the interment Camp stuff she went to the Midwest yeah but she she was like a lot of people had hella kids because um once they're like like let's say you only have two and then they both pass that's it your your last name's gone mhm generation why not me ████ really

5:03 playing an odds game I think that was normal for most of humanity yeah right like it's an odds game but but it's changed now but why do you think that how come people cuz too comfortable too expensive oh too expensive now and and then people are having kids later later our childhood is being prolonged later like think about um you know your great grandparents generation they started working as soon as they could start breathing it's true there was no child labor laws people just start ████ working well plus people nowadays I think they're watching Tik Tok videos where it's like I don't have kids so I can do all this right so I think that's that too and a lot of people are turning either um male to girl girl to male so it's just it's just how you going to have kids it's a transition it's a transition issue and then now now it's just like yo what the ████ how you going to chop it off why would you chop it off

5:54 you can't even produce anymore you can't there's no generation anymore after you you're dead maybe they don't care about it yeah some people there's already too many there's too many people I also think there's no social pressure anymore yep that's so true think about yeah everyone used to go to like a religious thing every week whether it's church or whatever right and then you had community that kind of kept you in check to stay married right now you don't even have to be married it's fine yeah yeah but the problem is if that continues on that trajectory then you have a way we yet we zoom up the well everyone's not talk thinking about big picture they're thinking about individuality and they're like I don't want to ████ do that work I don't want to deal with but is that a problem mainly in major cities like I think it's a major city problem but the Bible Belt still cranking kids

6:44 out y you know what I mean like wherever it's affordable I think birth rates are down everywhere aren't they even in even in like fundamentally Christian Midwest households well like you know the the Amish or those guys are growing um Mormons taking over to like H in your face societal pressure I think you're right well they they're saying that in America the the people that are keeping the white population in the growth are those groups oh because it's I actually like had this talk with Hannah wh Whit wh to come up I think it's a religious community thing yeah cuz all the secular Nations like they're not staying married they're not you know like think about all the major cities you don't get married you just you cohabit you know you you cohabitat each other's you know you don't ████ have kids let's say

7:35 that Prime Minister of Japan had a meeting with you and said JoJo takawa what should I do about this problem in Japan uh retire all the dinosaurs that are making decisions interesting cuz you know how they say here it's like we have like all these senators and ████ that are like about to die it's the same ████ over there but they live longer so they're just out of touch with what's the blue zones man bro and then the hierarchy is way different so like here you can debate with a 80-year-old right and then you're all in the same you're all the same fighting ground out there you can't even talk to them huh nah okay let's say that they do that and they replace it with you you're in charge yeah what do you do i' first look at I think one is the Hope right so how do you how do you get people to want to do

8:25 it cuz like tease them a little yeah friendship marriage hand on a thigh the thing is like people are all ████ they're not they're not cre Pine yeah right and they don't want kids so like it's like I think K is going through the same issue is the working conditions are tough and so every both genders are like why do I want more responsibility they're not thinking about oh it looks fun to have kids also most of them probably grew up in situations where Mom and Dad are never home um cuz like the system out there is like let's say you go to school and then afterwards you go to like prep school so you're not home until like dinner and they don't eat dinner together right and then like dad's always at work and if he's not working you know and then like

9:15 if there's dual income like let's say both mom and dad are at work there's no family environment so I think people that grew up in successful family environments they want that for themselves but if you grew up and you don't even know your own you just know nothing but work then you're just going to want to be an independent worker and I think that's the issue with Japan and Korea is everyone's always studying or working and they're not enjoying I think Okinawa is a little bit better than Mainland Japan cuz they have uh they're a Blue Zone they have the most centennials in a concentrated space but they have a more balanced like lifestyle where they're like they have Community they're playing they're enjoying they're working but they don't work like Japanese people you know how there's almost like a gatekeeping weird thing with Japan how

10:05 like they're so they don't accept you cuz you're not Japanese does that play a role in why integration and birth rates could be going down too yeah I think it's a hard system cuz they're pretty hardcore about that cuz even the Young Generation don't want to do it like like what I mean by that is like so like so there's two ways to make money out there one is like under an apprentice ship and then the other one's like going to school right so like if you're an apprentice it's like old school Renaissance Europe where you're like a sushi appr making katanas for like 20 years and then finally you can start it moves ████ slow slow as ████ so then it's like the way that they specialize is like they work and grind

10:56 so hard that I don't think people want to do it for like like let's say there's this tofu maker right he goes no one's going to take over my job cuz um I got to wake up at 3:00 in the morning do all this and then I make 30 grand a year but he makes like the best tofu and then so there's a lot of specialized family skills that are just like like like a blacksmith that's been doing it for like 10 Generations the kids don't want to do it cuz there's so much other ████ they could do yeah so everyone's moving to the city and then they get a corporate gig or they get a online digital gig or whatever blacksmith influencer I mean want to do it isn't that kind of like here too like everybody just wants to be an influencer do social media they want a job in like the digital space like nobody actually wants to do like hard labor here anymore yeah but we have different labor laws like and then different labor culture like we have

11:46 work life balance or like there's different America's more like you have a lot of options because of the law and culture yeah so over there like let's say you get a 10day vacation no one uses it everyone uses it shameful to use it yeah no one wants to be that so it's societal okay can you cash it out can you cash it out instead no D what would work so so another thing too is like let's say let's say you have a a so let's say you have a 9 to5 right and then at um and then if your boss is still working MH then you just stay overtime to help him out you just stay when he's working not yeah you don't leave when you're done then let's say the boss is like ████ man it's like 8:00 let's go to dinner you don't say no so the whole team we're all going to dinner and then what and then he's he wants to

12:37 drink everyone drinks and then so you'll drink till like 2:00 in the morning and then you go back to the office you crash at the office and then you wake up again at 8:00 and you you do it again so you some people don't go home to see their families yeah so if both genders are doing this they're like how the ████ am I going to have kids so it's just a ████ up just unsustainable habit there's no room for that no yeah and then at least here there's like hey man um I'm done with my ship I'mma go home there's a little bit of personal freedom and then no one's going to look at you like hey what the ████ dude we're still working more transaction less relationship right but over there it's like yeah and then o over here it's like hey um I'm going to jump different companies to uh like sharpen my skills and then

13:27 companies like that they'll be like oh you have a lot of experience you atle now you're at Google hey let's take what you learn and bring it here over there they're like you are a disloyal ████ I'm not going to hire you you're going to just take all my company secrets and go give it to your next uh business or over here over here it's like hey you failed at that company pretty bad you want a promotion over here no yeah faing uping upward but over there it's like you're a lifer you're a Toyota lifer so like let's say no literally and then your kid are is going to work at Toyota and then it's like man you're like a property of the company you kind of feel trapped that's probably why they're like this are the effects of it now what incentive would you give in order to get some cream pies going yeah dude I think there it's not necessarily A government or financial issue I think that they have a cultural

14:17 issue I think it's a social um so they brought it on themselves I think Korea and Japanese very similar in a way where like War torn countries that progressed and caught up really ████ quick so they have that like workaholic Survivor fear mentality so they gave up a lot of leisure and culture to catch up so then now you have this like ████ up workaholic mentality where all they care about is just money and survival even though the Next Generation didn't have that history of like War torn mentality so then you have that PTSD War torn mentality that's like we have to rebuild which used to be the drive and then you have their kids that are like I don't want to ████ do what you I didn't

15:08 grow up with a childhood with a family and anything you just are Workaholics I don't have a connection with my family so it's like why would I want a family is just a burden right that's funny that's kind of this video is um me and Ryan trying to get Joe to talk about how they should just nut in each other more and Joe keeps on giving actual real yeah being legit helpful man productive good answers let's go let's get back to let's go back to Comedy All right so let's go back to Comedy all right how do you get pull it out illegal play Luther vros over the national intercom yeah it's got to be the music if you want to change the culture you change Dan With My Father Again the wrong song people like that's not his if Japan wasn't racist what they need to do is grab all of the weebs of every of every nation yeah and say

16:00 come to Japan come into Japan come into leave your leave your come at the door they wouldst they would do it but Japan's too racist that's I feel like that is a big thing this might sound extreme to some people make every woman in the country wear Sailor Moon costumes no that's not extreme easy fix hold on I think I got it they'll fix this thing in like ████ seven years Sailor Jupiter you or that but you will fix it in s years I'm not even kidding yeah and then call them sailor pun oh ████ that's inappropriate I think Japan needs to get rid of that tattoo law just so you can go to the hot spring so everybody can get tattoos and when you get tattoos they say you're more attractive I don't think it's illegal I think it's just um company policy yeah like just like in general get rid of that so people are more free to get but what if everybody did it then it's not

16:51 sexy no more then everyone's sexy then everyone ████ then everyone gets babies you think a Japanese girl with tattoos is hot that's the question that's the prompt I think tattoos in general can be hot it just depends on where yeah what kind of like automatically though you think all tattoos are hot no matter what's on their skin I don't know people like my tatto octopus coming out of an ████ you think that's hot if a tattoo goes up here I don't I'm not into it cuz it looks from afar like she's got a beard or [Music] [Laughter] something for

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