0:00 did you guys get ████ up for wanting clarification because you didn't understand but your parents cuz of like they thought you were arguing talking back and then I get the response well that's common sense how come you don't know are you dumb right and I'm all like you're just telling me that I'm dumb I don't know what I did you showed your dick in class but is the tip okay not the balls how about the [Music] balls in another Mi Bing hole Bing hole for giving my daughters things back that were taken away as punishment uh-oh here we go I'm 31 and my husband is 30 our daughter is seven and she found a puppy in the front yard and played with it turns out it belonged to our neighbors who were looking for it they accused her
0:51 of stealing it and my husband gave her extra chores she refused to do them saying she didn't steal the puppy the neighbors came to apologize a bit later as her son confessed to losing the puppy on a walk when he took its Lee shot that's how it ended up in our yard I came home that evening and my husband explained this he said she should be disciplined for not doing the chores I said she was right to not accept unearned punishment he said it's the principal and she should listen to her father I said I would rather die than teach her that she should lay down and accept mistreatment we argued and he called me unreasonable oh that's a good one that's tough damn yeah cuz his point is that he gave an order and the order has to be followed and carried out her point is that well your order was based on a false pretense so then it shouldn't be
1:41 carried out and we should teach her the difference of the Nuance or else she's going to let everybody walk all over her yeah damn that's that's a tough one yeah because it's a girl if I was a dad I would want my daughter to learn not to accept punishments aren't just yeah agree it's a guy just take it boy take it boy yeah but like shut up was she already refusing her dad's order because she says that it was unjust was the daughter saying that I'm not going to do it she's like I didn't steal the puppy she's like I didn't steal the puppy maybe she wasn't like at her age articulate enough to be like I found it or maybe it was just you know she didn't don't believe a kid she found it she found it seven honestly the Dad should have went to the neighbors and be like you think my daughter stole your ████ dog out of your yard yeah that's that's what the real is that's what I would
2:31 have done yeah what the ████ are you talking about bro you saying my daughter stole your dog that's crazy remember how damaging it is like even for Bart when like they thought that he was like doing the assignment wrong he just did it really well that you never forget that ████ hey but like without Bart here you know he was cheating he used scissors I think chat GPT and everything he used scissors damn yeah you really don't forget your first Injustice mhm even if you are as a child being punished for something that you know to your core you didn't do it does cause a rift between you and your parents and then that that communication gets closed off too yeah it's it's complex because of context right like what if this daughter was already in trouble for like a number
3:21 of other things like previously that week that part but that's that's an isolated incident though I know we're not judging we're not making a punishment but you know like you take into account it's like her eighth dog she found yeah she's known to steal dogs that changes things all the lost dog posters in the the community my God I I I actually don't believe in using chores as punishment I think people should do chores regardless of yeah that's the concept like if you do good or bad it's just something that has to be done right and I don't want to associate this task with a negative thing like you have to fold your clothes now like it's a ████ thing you have to do m yeah so yeah it's not a good or bad thing it's a neutral what about grounding do do you agree with grounding is being a punishment no grounding I don't think so I don't think grounding is good at all
4:11 so how do you discipline your you ████ beat him ████ what no grab out the car huh so what's your what's your discipline of choice go run take a laugh physical off pushups I say go i' have to I'd have to figure out what they don't like um did you guys have like uh that kneeling punishment when you're a kid I do that I had to sit in the corner Squat and pull my ears yeah just basically facing the wall you just have to be on your knees and the worst part of it is let's see him right here arms had to be crossed too and the second we started getting tired and like trying to put our butt down mom will come by with the ruler and just whack us in the butts you have to stay right there damn how you just get mad sore as a kid it felt like forever that's why some strong legs I don't know about that yeah I mean
5:03 hey I'll tell my kid go go take a lap and just think about what you did and come back what if they don't come back for a while they just keep running then that's good God peace I don't have to worry about you ████ obviously your wife's going to be so mad no yeah she would be so pissed but I would say go take a lap think about what you did just come back and talk to me and then dude he's at least working out getting healthy while thinking B has ta do squats that's pretty cool funny he's the cutest ████ he likes him too yeah and I'm like is that really punishment if he Eno I don't think they punish ta I think they like have like logistical conversations with him and then they're just like okay well now you know and then he goes and does it again hey at least you know at least now we have the time and ways to change how our kids can get punished now I'm just
5:53 going to smack my kid dude I don't give a ████ I don't know if I believe in full gentle parenting gentle parenting I don't think so you don't make nothing but ████ exactly full metal par make better choices make better choices I believe that either no it's hey don't touch that ████ it's so easily manipulated too like come on it is test this they test the boundaries between that and they I don't know they should know that people get angry if you do things like that like if if a kid ████ goes like this and just Chucks it at your face you no right you got to tell them no yeah you don't go make better choices they laugh they'll ████ throw a fire truck in your face and laugh at you well that's that's different it's cute butam if if he does anything to hurt someone then I'm just going to go you know what I mean yeah a
6:44 quick little boom a jab and be like you see that's how he felt that's how he felt now that's how you feel you know what I'm saying there you go again you want to go again roach yeah depending on what they do there's levels to it I believe what what I will say it's uh interesting and and uh a really consistent thing in this or should be consistent is like when the neighbors were wrong they came back and apologize yeah so like if you're the dad dishing out the punishment and like it's not that you're a wrong stubborn yeah it's like hey like you was wrong too you should apologize so you should apologize but then you should educate your daughter like hey in this in the relationship between a father and daughter it's not about like you know I gave you misjudgment it's like I was your father and I was expecting you to like be more disciplined and listen to what I say you know what I mean I
7:34 apologize for giving you the wrong punishment but I just want to let you know that's why I became upset about that you know like just being able to explain that just chat explain things the reality was that you did do it until the reality was shifted into the facts that were presented by the neighbors so explaining that as a father and explaining and say hey I was Justified on giving you this punishment because this was the reality presented now that we have the facts I apologize and then you set that record straight and then you close the door you go you got lucky this time dog thief yeah exactly or or the the mother's just in on it with you so the mother's going to be like now you both have to do the chores you pretend to be all disciplined by the mom you can Bond you can Bond father daughter like I had chores regardless of punishment I think some
8:24 it's just things you have to do it's not like on a good day you don't do them right cuz then you set the standard that when you're good you don't have to clean the house mhm and that's how you get a ████ up house I I didn't have to do chores if I got straight A's but I ended up doing chores all the time you know what's another thing too is I think it's dangerous when you don't understand why you're being punished versus like I mean there's times where like you didn't do it and you're like hey I'm innocent but if you just don't understand why I'll never forget this thing where I got invited to a friend's birthday party is in like second grade and because he was Catholic my mom was like I'm going to think about it I'll let you know tomorrow if you can go and then I just waited and waited and then she was like I decided that you can't go and I felt like that was the first time
9:14 I didn't understand why I was like I felt like that was happening to me and I didn't do anything goes because that is the devil's religion because that was her preference of like oh that's a Catholic Family we're not Catholic I don't want you mixing with them but was it other reason but he went to our school like she's like she heard a priest was going to be there and she goes I don't want she protected me from yeah but I remember having like an animosity for till now I was like that was a weird call like that was that a very intolerant thing you should call her right now be like apologize she remember that I would have animosity for my parents who couldn't describe why they made that choice yeah she couldn't I mean parents don't explain how they absolute worse I'm the parent you're the child Because I Said So said because I said so it's like I think we all grew up with because I said so figure it out common sense and I'm all like I'm I'm
10:06 ████ 9 years old what is this common sense or the you're under my roof my rules I get that more than because I said so well then I would run away and then I quickly realized that life is not better could even ask if we asked fists are fine I couldn't ask either yeah no I asked a question my dad always goes sh quiet yeah my D cool that was it my dad opened his door in his computer he just go sh I'm just like did you guys get ████ up for wanting clarification because you didn't understand but your parents cuz like they thought you were arguing yeah you thought talking back but I'm just like us off limits I'm just trying maybe as a kid too you're probably asking like very rude and like you're still arguing but like I wanted to understand the full spectrum so I don't violate
10:56 again and then so like let's say I did something yeah but it's my ADHD ass that doesn't know what the ████ is what I did wrong right and then I get the response well that's common sense how come you don't know are you ████ dumb right and I'm all like you're just telling me that I'm dumb I don't know what I did That's a classic you showed your dick in class are you dumb are you dumb but I just want to know so I don't do it again how do I avoid this is the tip okay not the balls how about the balls how do I avoid this did you ever ask your dad straight up like hey Dad why' you leave he go shut up how could you ask him he left yeah he left never cuz he talked to him about aim no no I go on Facebook oh no I never asked him I just let him do his thing damn he never like gave you no explanation he's like it's Common Sense
11:47 he been shushing you till now I got I got obvious I got three different stories I'll believe which one every one that day you know what I mean if I have to explain it cuz I don't know I got three different stories except for the source except for the source cuz are they it wouldn't matter cuz if I was to ask my dad my dad would probably be the same thing he sends the Emoji of the cut with the with the eyes yeah he says he says a voice memo so you still have to be like oh it's an explanation sh ████ SH damn with the Emoji or he would just he would probably just lie regardless it doesn't matter yeah I had a job opportunity and I come to Korea and then I didn't have a job opportunity so I didn't have a plane ticket money Brew it I brew it IW I feel bad now thinking about it we're over here asking
12:38 for dumb ████ while they're trying to figure out bills yep that's what he talks like that rub it did why don't you R it in
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