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When Your Parents Don't Agree About You

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0:00 Why he even leave home if you're not going to do homework? >> That's also a good point. >> That's so true. >> You might have to dig deep for this. What's the time that you asked your parents for something and one of them said yes and the other said no? >> Or if they disagreed on how you were going to be raised a certain way, like what's something your parents actually disagreed about regarding you? I always pinned them against each other. That's why they got a divorce. No. Um I knew that my dad like was he would say yes during um in between piano lessons for a lot of things >> just to get you off of his back >> or I just knew that that was good timing because like he has one lesson and and

0:50 another lesson. So he's free in between. So if I want to get something or like ask for like a thing to buy or whatever, like he's more like chill between those times. >> Oh. >> But after my mom comes back and all that, don't even think about it because he's busy and like catching up and doing stuff. >> What kind of stuff are you asking for at that time? >> Like toys or giving me a ride or like whatever. Like whatever favor I want, right? >> Yeah. >> And then certain things I'll be like, "Oh, I want to ask my mom, but it'll be the weekends." So be like the weekends are good cuz my mom's like chilling. She's not working. We're chill. Like we're at a park. We're having fun. And then it's like I've been wait wanting this toy. Then then like my dad will always go we don't got money. I don't want to do it. But my mom would be like if she's in a good mood she'll be like okay we could buy it. >> But have they ever been like yes and no like both of them separately?

1:40 >> Yeah. I'm sure like but I would ask like if one person says no I would ask the other one and I would wait for a good time. >> Oh. So then the yes will always win over the no. Well, one of them will say yes, right? Cuz one will say no, but they they didn't communicate. >> My parents, too. >> Oh, so you say when they the person says yes can get you the thing while that person's just not even there. >> You mean like that? >> Yeah. Yeah. Like he just needs maybe one yes and it'll happen versus two yeses maybe. >> Yeah. And then usually it's never a forever no. >> Have they ever consulted with each other over anything? >> Probably. But like or they might see someday one day I had this thing and they're like why'd you get him that and they're like well I don't know he wanted it or like >> yeah mine was uh when I was 15 my mom first let me uh have a car. This when I

2:30 first moved in with my dad she let me have her car and then uh one day I came out and I'm like oh ████ my car is stolen. It's my mom's car. My mom's car is stolen and I called her. I'm like, "Mom, um, my car got stolen." She goes, "I stole it." >> Oh, yeah. >> And then it was cuz she would I what I didn't know is that she came every week to look at how many miles I was driving. And during those days, like we're going raving, right? So >> she was riding down the miles. >> Yeah. So we're going ████ like Master Dome and ████ which is like in Big Bear or San Bernardino. And then so it's like my miles are probably crazy, probably thousands per week. And then um so she was like, "I stole it." And then um so I asked her, I was like, "Well, I still need a car." and she was a hard no on car like you don't need no ████ car and my dad's like you're in America you need a ████ car you're 15 years old you need to get around so I think he was for the independence part of it

3:22 >> and I think my mom's perspective is like what the hell did you do to own a car >> you know what does she expect you to do walk? I used to walk 20 miles. >> Yeah. Either walk or only do things where you're conveniently like >> you could get picked up. >> Get picked up. Your dad drops you off. Like you have to you have to live conveniently through your dad's life. >> Oh, damn. That sucks. >> Your dad's like, I don't want to ████ pick him up. Just give him the car. >> Yeah. So, my dad was like my dad, I think, was in a lower financial situation than my mom, but he was like, "F███ it. Let's go get you a car." And I think he gave me like two G's and I bought a car off my aunt. So I at least had a car versus my mom could have a afforded more easily, but she was like, "No, you got what did you do to earn it? You have 4.0." You know,

4:12 >> no straight A, no car. >> Damn. You'd have to get straight A >> or some ████ like that. >> Your mom saw it as a privilege. Your dad saw it as a necessity. >> It's a necessity. >> What was your GPA around that time? >> Oh, dude. Probably like 0.83 83 or like I probably had all FS 1D and PE or some ████ like that. >> It was like crazy. But yeah, my and then my dad was like, "You're in America, you're 15, you need a car and a cell phone." And my mom's like, "What? And a cell phone? He don't own a car and he don't own a cell phone." >> And then my dad's like, "How are you going to ████ contact him when he's not at home?" >> Yeah. >> You know, >> your dad's pretty practical. >> He's very practical. And my mom's probably like, "Why he even leave home if you're not going to do homework? That's also a good point. >> That's so true. >> Damn. Those are both good points. >> Where the hell is where the hell is like he going? You know,

5:02 >> doesn't do homework. You shouldn't be out of house. >> You keep going to San Bernardino. Yeah, I can see that. >> My My dad has the final say to everything. >> Oh, so even if your mom said no, but your dad said yes, it's yes. >> Yeah. >> Wow. >> So I go to my mom, mom, can I spend the night at the homies? And she'd be like, yes, no problem. Just ask dad. So me and my brother run to my dad like just ████ praying like please say yes. Then I go to my dad. Dad, could you could we go to the homies? My dad says no. And I'm like damn. But I go I go I go I go I go I go back to my mom and mom. Dad said no. Then my mom goes like no. >> Damn. >> That's at least our team. >> Yeah. That's the only time >> I would I would kind of pin mine against each other too. Well in the sense that like I would ask >> my mom. She would say no and then I

5:52 would ask my dad. He would say yes and I would have time to go do said thing and then she wouldn't realize it until after said thing was done. >> Oh >> and then it was >> but my dad said yeah. >> Yeah. Yep. Um until it was like only if we could both say yes then it's a yes. >> Yeah. >> Um >> you're banking on that that technicality period. >> The technicality period. Yeah. the loopholes >> like drawing a foul, you know, like NBA basketball games like, "Oh, I guess we got 20 more seconds to play." >> Exactly. >> Yeah. >> Tired of your mom finding all your porn sites? >> Don't let that happen again with vp.net. It's the only VPN that can't spy on you. Every other VPN can technically see what you're browsing, and you just have to trust that they won't leak or sell your

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7:34 right? >> Church day. And then um I asked my dad and he's like, "Yeah." And then when I asked my mom, she was like, "No, I don't like the idea of you going to a birthday party on the Sabbath. Like, it's not it's not good. So, me and your dad are going to talk about it. We're going to tell you tomorrow." So, then they they just like I guess they literally conferred over it. Like, they said it looked like a meeting. Like, they were >> some good teamwork. >> They were talking about it for a long time. And then and then the next day, my mom was like, "So, we talked about it and we decided that it you cannot go to this party." And I was just like, "What the heck?" And then like for some reason it just stuck in my head and every year of my life I was just like that ████ ████ sucks. Like >> I would have that too. >> It just didn't make sense to me. I'm like it's a kid's birthday and like how often you know when you're a kid it's not like those happen very often. There was only like by the time I was in first

8:25 grade at the really tiny school there would be >> I didn't know everyone else was going too. >> Yeah. I knew a lot of the kids were going to go and I think I was one of the only ones that didn't and that was just I think the reason felt so weak and never got stronger as I got more older, you know, like >> the reason would be for me it would be well that's just the way it is under this house our rules. >> Yeah. I wish it was some Yeah. It's just the the fact that it was based on because it was on Sabbath. I thought eventually I would understand that >> they had a lot of weird hard Sabbath rules that still doesn't make sense as an adult. like why they would do that. But I I actually think it's more so if the word gets out, they would be embarrassed because of judgment from the church. >> That's what I think too. Or from like other family members. Cuz I don't think God would be upset.

9:15 >> I don't think so. I >> I really don't think he'd be upset. >> Yeah. you know, >> well, cuz that's cuz that commandment of uh keeping the Sabbath day holy is very like rigid and it like obviously you can't do anything secular on the Sabbath day, >> but just like to think that they were like no because he's Catholic >> was like the more it was more of that. >> Yeah, probably. more like we don't we don't go to Catholic birthdays that it was more that ████ which I wish was like you know like what a thing to >> you know what I mean like later on in life you just get more tolerant of other religions it doesn't you don't get more like oh yeah Catholics are bad like I got more like open to it and I felt like damn >> well she thought that you were going to go there and start growing horns cuz now the devil is in your heart and like >> influenced >> so that that's the reason why I think all those rules were so stupid >> yeah it was just like rivalry between

10:05 religions and ████ and how you just never wanted another religion to like win. >> Yeah. >> So, so >> that's lowkey like that's kind of like being racist. >> That's like we're not going to their kinds. >> You know, it's the same thing. >> Yeah. And they were like it's a Filipino family and everything was like the our cultures were practically identical. It's just he goes to mass. >> Mhm. >> I was like, damn. We're not going to go to mass though. We're just going to ████ eat cake. >> Was 6 years old. >> No cake. >> We're going to eat cake. Not Jesus. It's fine. >> Or missing out on Saturday morning cartoons. Oh, >> dude. Bro, to think I didn't even like I didn't even see X-Men the cartoon until I was an adult practically. >> Oh my god. >> So good. >> Cuz it was only on Saturday. Same with Bobby's World. I always wanted to see what Bobby's World was about. >> Bobby's World is sick. I love Bobby's World. >> I got to when I slept over my friend's house. >> Yeah. Remember I was like, I never got to eat pork and stuff. And then you were

10:55 like, I ate pork. >> I got to I got to cuz I did sleepovers at other people's houses that weren't >> That's what my mom was afraid of probably that I would become. >> I taste ████ bacon, bro. And then I joined a gang. >> Congratulations. >> Your mom maybe was right. Bacon. Bacon is a gateway to the freaking Asian. >> Oh my god. This is delicious. >> Where you from, fool?

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