0:00 but the possibilities only happen for people that are there that's the main thing like you got to just be there if you don't go socialize where are you going to find a date Discord Discord the JK Discord everyone in the Discord fight a partner and get married now everyone's having Affairs in our Discord [Music] afterwards hello regular YouTube viewers today we're going to focus on something that only is special certain people have access to and that is our Discord that's right and the only way you can ask us questions and talk to us directly and also we have a segment here called ask the boys accessible only by Discord it's if you go into the description box right below and you say this is patreon let me
0:51 click that and you join it and then you can join our Discord and you could be a part of this and one of the cool perks is you can ask us questions we might respond here or we might make a video out of it and Kiara says question for the boys if you were single right now how would you react to the single life and do you think you would do good in the dating scene that's a crazy question you trying to get us in trouble Kiara you trying you trying to get me divorced my boy you saying that your answer would get in trouble what's your answer I would you clean up me and Tiff were talking about this last night oh really oh last night last night I was like if you were to leave my ass a weird way to foreplay I just said like well we didn't really talk about it but I was like just saying she was like what would you do if
1:42 we broke up and I was like honestly I would probably just be myself be by myself for like a year dude and just a year yeah maybe like a year that's normal that's a very normal is that normal tell us what you really said no that's what I said that's why I'm like oh this is a bad story oh you ever tell a story out loud and you're like oh this a bad story kind of my kind of my life on JK if it was if it was an amicable breakup yeah and you guys decided that it's chill there's no heart feeling I'm taking the ████ dogs dude and you both but that's two dogs I'm taking both those mother that's cheating those are my ████ dogs she says those are my dogs those are my ████ how would you even begin to Start Da cuz what would you do let's say you guys mutually I want to know what he's a high school boy but I think I
2:32 would have to take like a whole long time to myself honestly like to really be like well what the ████ am I going to do now which honestly I think it's very healthy yeah like but do you think you'll do good in dating now so let's say that you took that time that time's over all right you're ready you're horny how do you start how do you start dating you know how I I have to learn how to not be a s for a while you know how I see it the way I see it is when you're married it's like two things coming together and then it's like stitches right and it forms so this becomes this new new thing so if you get a divorce it's like yeah you're ripping that off so you're like kind of half of who you were and you got to F cuz you're kind of like kind of go codependent yeah who's going to be the other half that washes the dishes now so you need to heal I think the healthy thing is to heal and become a whole person first before you again 100% or else you're going to just rebound and do
3:22 all kinds of crazy cuz like you like if we're like all jokes aside you really have to think about like okay what are some ████ that I'm carrying from my past relationship into like me dating somebody else like what kind of baggage you are you carrying cuz I think I don't think you'll know it until you kind of go through life by yourself for a really long time y cuz like you know every decision I made for the past like ████ 14 years of my life has been with thinking about two people yeah thinking about two people and more people on top of that so it's like you rip that off you're like oh well I don't know what the ████ this is now this is a whole different thing let's say imagine what if what if you weren't with someone and you were just single right now yeah yeah yeah imagine if like cuz we're thinking about if we broke up and then but this question is if you just single right now period like with what you know about the world right now how would you start da my buddy did this and he he ████
4:12 nailed it he went he scheduled like 10 dates on Tinder like speed dating just across the board just regular dates just regular dates with girls that he thought would be good candidates and he would do it like he did like three weeks in a row like Friday Saturday Sunday went on dates like three weeks in a row yeah no and some and he got cleaned out by this one chick who ████ just went to soci she just ate a bunch of sushi was like all right see you later W and as she's ordering he was like I know I'm getting ████ wife right now but he's like I got to pay for it it is what it is part of theame it's part of the game it's part of your losses right you're going to have some bad dates but then because he went on all those dates in a row with the intention of finding the person that he wants to spend his life with he found the one person that he's actually going to get married to out of those 10 yeah and not maybe not 10 but like but like
5:03 maybe a little less than that but because he had something to compare it to of like oh my relationship with this person I was talking to him things went smoothly you know he was like the one person that that I that he's going to marry he was talking to her for like 6 hours they didn't even realize time flew that's amazing you know what I mean so it's like little things like that exactly where it just fits and I feel like that's where me and Tiff kind of are where we just everything very natural so I'd probably have to do something like that can you can you even imagine yourself without Tiff like in even in a game like this I feel like you have trouble you started in high school in high school cuz this question is just like no matter what it's a rud I think it's more about like being single now in present day and how dating has changed and then if we would clean up today versus back then I think you would do great to to be honest without even
5:53 joking I think you would be really good yeah I think so too because I think as time has gone on I think your personality and your earning is more rare I think the first person he gets in a date with he's going to marry and stay with for a long time that's what I'm worried about yeah I think so I don't think he's going to play the field I met this chick at Boba timeo oh my she took my order but I also think even though you even though you may have that simp feeling I don't think I don't think take that back dude I don't think most girls that take advantage of guys you're not their target right you know what I mean like he's too poor no no like too poor no I just don't think like even you're shiing against them I don't think like what they're trying to natural characteristics yeah I don't think they would do that to you it just uh I don't think you know me that well dude I'm quite deceptive and I could be no I think I think you actually would
6:43 surprise yourself on how well you would do as a single guy in today's era right I think yeah I think so I think a lot of girls are looking for that nice guy who has those values dude I'm not nice I'm ████ yeah but I think because of because of your AG Nick stop def like you would be entering in your in your 30s right right by that age a lot of girls are sick of ████ dudes that are bad boys yeah they're sick of that so you're telling me I can have multiple relationships right now I we're looking for substance and connection yeah and the best breath of fresh air is the fact that that you satiz those guys sure that this thing like that's ████ funny to a girl that's been through that guy where it was she knows know what I mean then I think I do it too much sometimes I yeah no you're good good you're good don't yeah cuz I think
7:33 the type of what girls want changes to so like when you're when they're 20 they want a cool guy that has a motorcycle or something you know what I mean like it's like what they like like guys are the same way like they're like oh like I loved abgs cuz of what they represented and then when you get older you're like too much trouble there's a lot of drama that follows those girls you know what I mean like value differ yeah and then like the style you like things different I think I think things will change and how you will date cuz I feel like the confidence that I have late 30s mhm is completely different from being 22 and then so the type of women I'll attract will be completely different mhmh yeah I I think single life would be really
8:25 really fun today more than before because it's much easier to get to a point where you can find like-minded people so like I think um back then like I E even as like I don't know like 2009 when I was in college right you actually have to go through the motions of like oh there's a mutual friend or there's someone that's like at my workplace or whatever and you're like well she's pretty let's go see if it works you spend a lot of ████ time just to realize like we don't vibe but I think now you can just see their profile and you're like okay you seem like you're about this life and we can get into these Hobbies it's a way quicker filtering and it's if you're good at gauging you're a better detective now it's way quicker to just be like oh yeah
9:15 I think I could travel with you and it'll be fun yep versus like back then you got to go through like months of it and then you're like oh ████ actually I just liked her hair whatever it was and you're just like man that took me a long time to realize well we probably just don't match mhm yeah so the question isn't about what happens if you get out of your longterm no it's it's it's if you were just single right now and then how would you react to the single life and do you think you would do good in a dating scene like do you like right now if you did it all over again um at this age you know so there was you don't have the memories of Gio you're just Bart's going through his head he's like this sounds like I don't want to do any of this I'd be alone for so the way that I'm viewing it it's the dating scene now it is more apps and
10:06 like social media based right so that's really foreigns are overwhelming yeah it's very it's very foreign to me I don't quite understand it I think I more understand like human connection so I feel like for me it would probably be slower than like let's say if me and my buddy are going to enter the game together and he knows how to use apps and stuff for me I'm like oh I go to ████ like a rock climbing gym once a week maybe I'll meet someone there like I'm more used to that so I feel like it be way way slower than like people going on like 10 dates in a week or whatever prehistoric dude yeah prehistoric having Hobbies is the quickest way to really meet somebody I think so I think so it's like you're not you're not putting yourself out there in that way and you get to genuinely connect with people without realizing that you even are
10:56 interested I meet ████ just random neighbors just cuz I jog yeah you know like I'm just like I'm just doing ████ I'm like oh what's up they're like guy and a girl and a ████ granny and a grandpa whatever I just meet neighbors just from jogging cuz you see people and then people that usually get into a lifestyle they do it regularly so there's oh I'm always going to see that guy at 500 p.m. cuz he's a 5:00 p.m. guy or if I jog in the morning you might start dating him yeah pump into each other oh hey do you have any energy gels like if you I'm starving that's what would happen that would be sick I also think it takes long relationships to know what you want in a person too so then if you were single again obviously you can't recreate the same thing with this with the person that you're with now but it's like if you take them out of the equation I think you're you're going to be like oh I know what I want more or I know what
11:49 like how to filter much easier cuz when you're younger you're just single and you're dating and you're just testing and I don't think guys actually date to marry like I think think there's a lot of guys that just date to ████ so then they're not really think they might trick their mind into thinking that they're so in love but they don't know themselves and then they just like after they nut it's post nut Clarity and then they're like oh I don't actually like her and I I was love bobbing her but I don't know and I I see a lot of young guys doing that ████ where they're so in belief that they're like going to marry this person and then they do it they hook up and then they're like oh actually I don't like her I think it's also the limbo so I I found most guys are stuck in this right in between scared to be alone scared to be with this person oh yeah dude that's a that's a serious one so then they just they
12:39 just keep girls around cuz they don't want to be alone yeah they just so then to the girl she thinks oh you just want to ████ but no it's this Fool's just ████ scared I I've actually experienced that where it's like you're with someone for a long time and you're like if you just didn't have these red flags and you overcame that ████ I'd be so down but you can't think like that the late night text is not based on I want to ████ and I'm horny at night it's I don't want to be in bed with my thoughts alone it's it's a false ████ thing that like women took that to mean like oh he just thinks I'm a piece of meat it's like no that fool wants to cuddle and act like you're his girl just for the night that's true cuz he can't last true it's weird yeah never like that I got a homie like that's like that and he a lot of guys are like he's he's kind of a little player but it's like it's because he gets really involved with these girls and he really likes but then after a
13:31 while he finds out like I don't like this about you like you're saying I don't like this and then he's like I'm out it's to offset the loneliness temporarily and then they're you're good for a while I never thought of it that way that's crazy damn yeah cuz they can use it like it's drugs exactly where it has nothing to do with a girl just need a hit yeah but they're just yeah they're kind of using all these experiences to feel relief yeah from coming and from Pain you get a late night cuddle yeah after you just shot your shot I was like sometimes you will ████ just to get the cuddle and act like it was all about the ████ that's gay dog that's gay that's you're gay you're gay if you do that dude in my early no in my early 20s though what I had Matt insomnia in my early 20s and I remember finally being able to sleep when I was with a woman
14:22 and that was like one of the things where I was like oh ████ maybe so it's like she's my melatonin yeah you damn bro that's that was that that that I didn't realize that that was the thing but um someone named ban wanted to add on top she said I like to piggy back off of the question for the boys what advice do you have for women in the dating scene go for subin she goes I've been happily single for a year after being a Serial monogamous for like a decade and am not eager to get back into the dating scene because honestly I'm scared oh dude that's all Colleen man Colleen's on her period she'll be a good answer she's locked in right now hyper period SC that's funny that she would ask a room full of guys you know that
15:13 that because like wouldn't you have another guy that's not a guy wouldn't you want wouldn't she's a female she's a female but wouldn't you want a guy wouldn't you want women to give you that out like she's ask I would ask her I would ask her a question I would ask her what is it specifically that you were scared of is it rejection is it maybe it's some working out and you being in another longterm relationship and it not working out again like getting to the root of that answer I think will help determine how you're going to execute the dating I I think it's smart that she's asking a room full of guys cuz I feel like if you're a fisherman and you're like asking six other fisherman how do you catch fish isn't it just better just to ask the trout if you could what do you like what would catch you guys they' be like dude I would bite this bait I would bite this thing this thing
16:03 I'm a sucker for you know so I think it's actually smart that she's like Fleshlight got stick your big ass dick in the water and that's why you don't ask the guys so a lot of the women are telling her to just kind of take your time until you're ready right like she's like a lot of the women in the group that are like lady advice focus on the things you you know live your life whatever whatever and when you're ready you'll come come around to it or whatever right but I I do think that's a good point about being scared it's like what are you afraid of and address that fear yeah in going through the motions and you're always going to have this cloudy vision and feeling of of what you're doing so she responds to that and says well I definitely will be taking my time then
16:53 it's nice to have the means and freedom to experience life in a way I haven't before so I think he Pray Love I remember the first thing I did after being in a long-term relationship and then like finding myself again and like being able to do certain things cuz you do become a couple where you're like oh I used to like these things but I don't really do it anymore because we can't do it as a team and then when you become single again you're like oh I'm going jump that Cliff now or whatever right you do certain things you're like I feel free again yeah mhm but I do think is that what you did yeah huh oh I thought he was going to have something no I just said yeah no I like the idea but I'm like why do you feel the need that you have to be in a partnership you know what I mean that's my that's my other thing is like societal pressures I guess or maybe
17:45 loneliness but I don't think you should ever be with someone because of loneliness that's when you get into a trap yep yeah but you know sometimes you can't you just can't really choose that's how you feel you're just lonely yeah honestly now I think it's easier to be lonely with about worrying about being lonely did I just say the word twice yeah easy to be lonely there so many things to do yeah there's so many things to do and when I was when I met Sasha I never had the feeling of being like I was lonely or anything it's cuz you were with the boys baby yeah see that was like the whole time I was just I got a motorcycle I'm dancing I'm playing games never I was ever in my only own thought you know I mean that's that's lucky though yeah it is lucky but I was never like oh I got to look for this girl I think it just came naturally for sure but yeah what you're saying is right yeah I don't know it just feels like a weird feeling like when you're
18:36 trying to replace loneliness with another person yeah it's like trying to find yourself and somebody else is that the exact definition it's not clingy you just end up being clingy or something that's that's codependency you're you're trying to fill a void and it is a form of escapism at that point yeah cuz it's not the other person that's going to fulfill your loneliness it's your perception of connection to people m yeah cuz you probably you probably have the options to not be lonely but like let's say let's say you just don't like your family or you don't ████ like the friends that you have this moment or like you don't reach out enough or like what about I don't know play games one you play I think if someone's even at the stage of recognizing and willing to admit their lonely I think that's actually really impressive because some people won't even ever say that and you
19:27 know damn like you have some homies that you know are ████ lonely and they're not saying ████ they're not even there yet to be like oh I want to date somebody they're just like going about their daily life and they're just not that happy yeah I would say to her if she goes like um you know I'm enjoying my freedom this and that and then like should I start looking or should I start dating or whatever and everyone will be like everyone will say when you're ready you should do it but the question would probably be when do you know you're ready and I think for me when I know I'm ready is when I start to have desire for a person that's when I know I'm ready so like when it's on my terms that I want this person not because I'm being pursued or their this one is available or they're flirting with me and it's temporarily feeling good but deep down
20:18 inside I'm like not I feel like it's too quick cuz I still have these things I want to do then I don't feel like I'm ready but when I really want the presence and everything about this person then I know oh I'm ████ ready to go it almost feels like it's like I I don't even know you can really base it on like okay I'm good to go and then you enter the world it's like just act like it's a video game and the game's now and you just go whatever happens that's what happens I think just show up like if you just show up to the world and you meet a person and then the Sparks aren't flying then they're not flying but if someone kind of ignit something in you then maybe check it out it's just like be in the game I think is the most important all the answers to play the game is not playing the game yeah cuz some people will never leave the house until they feel right and you'll never feel right cuz you didn't leave the house it's like you kind of just have to like start and
21:08 be like here I am world like that's how it fun my and be ready for heartbreak and be ready for failures and be ready for just playing the game and it's never going to be perfect it won't be perfect yeah I think that's the beauty of it is like having fun with like the possibilities and being like damn anything can happen now cuz I'm here you know what I mean that's a great way to think about it go get your be it makes the pressure not feel so heavy he's said go get your beef wet that's how I found my wife where' you wet your beef the the boom boom I went boom boom one time and I was like this is the one this is the one this is the one they like they like met up just as a hookup and they fell in love but no but but you know I was I was I was just doing crazy things back in the day boom when I would boom boom others I was just like all right you got to go you know I was just like bye not clity is is that is that like a guy thing you guys can tell not Clarity for me for me you guys can tell after your boom boom for me was I needed
21:59 the boom boom in the beginning I just want to see the boom boom and then if there's something sparking there then I'm like all right that's the one think we'll check it yeah everybody's trigger everybody got a different trigger Man true you got to know what your button is that's Super's button just show up is the main thing that's a good one that's what happened she showed up but the possibilities only happen for people that are there that's the main thing like you got to just be there if you don't go socialize where are you going to find the date Discord Discord the JK Discord everyone in the Discord fight a parter and get married now a school kiss everyone's having Affairs everyone's having Affairs in our Discord afterwards
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