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Off The Record: When Lifting Weights Ruins Your Confidence

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0:00 [Music] welcome to a very Hispanic episode of the careful boys where today we have Jes yes sir what's up man simple dude how you doing Manch catch up with Jesus oh guys yeah man just chilling dude just uh trying to be out here trying to be more like Nick dude what do that mean what does that mean oh I love that we're already going back to Nick we're just going to catch with Nick the whole time watching what kind of what are you talking about I want to be more like you know and fit like this guy you think you're pretty fit GO train with them like everyone goes and trains at the lionard jiujitsu Academy and then all buffer yeah but you could do fight reason too J ched's but for no ████ reason you could lift you don't have to fight we do it all yeah

0:52 HKS out there and you know what I mean I'm just like you know what it is it's like I feel like I'm a cool guy but when I start working out I lose my coolness right really cuz I don't know what I'm doing and then I'm weak it's like it's like right here I'm cool as ████ I make fun of everybody everybody just like oh he's got some confidence you lose confidence when you're in the gym all right cuz ████ gets real cuz when you're you're ████ in that bench and you got those little tent ████ plates right there a little like 10 lbs or whatever that's all you can handle and you see some guy like ████ Mr Nick over there putting ████ 4 45 and just and then you feel less like a man you feel like all right well I feel like a ████ it's okay I do that to them really you know Joe lives more than Anthony Lee I live more than he lives more belly flat oh guys come on I live more what's your max PR for like your want to come at me let's talk the boys

1:43 talk Fitness dude without Bart in a 25 or something oh my God two of those plates in a 25 D you are strong I went to the ████ gym dude I've never felt like like I never had so much fear in my life cuz I never done like the bench and I was like I I follow this app that's like an AI that tells you like oh you should with this weight that you have you should this what you should do anyways I put in ████ like 35s and I was like I can handle 35s on these side ████ I went that was your first time yes a you warm up set you you do warm-ups I don't know what the ████ you're talking about warm up no stretching I just ████ pop in a good ████ song and just some DMX ████ and I'm ████ lifting it up that's too much don't know about a squatter or nothing spot whatever the ████ you call

2:33 him guy behind and nobody a workout buddy nothing and I'm ████ when it went up and it was here I knew it was a mistake I knew it was cuz I could barely handle this and how am I going to bring it back up right yeah yeah yeah and when it hit here and it got to my chest I'm like and right here I was like uh-oh uhoh s███'s about to get real my neck I'm just going to ████ it was like so what did you did you say help I was trying to say help but I had the headphones just where H H and I'm just like oh ████ and I'm just going what you're hyp I'm making noises cuz that's all I had and I apparently I got the attention of some guy over there the real ████ man working out over there I was just like like I said something like that and the guy just comes he's like and he just ████ lifts that ████ up like nothing

3:23 he's just like bam and I was like his nuts my leg Yeah nuts right here you're right little guy like yeah I feel safe now as your nuts are in my ████ forehead and I felt like dude I could have died and I just saved you he did but it just made me be like what ████ the gym ████ the gym dude this is ████ stupid what am I doing here dude I got embarrassed it was stupid the girls the girls over there doing squats were just like the ████ now I'm just like went too hard too fast yeah dude you got to warm up sitting there just gra the bar PR with the no dude I'm over it dude D come work out the ████ seoras over there with the little machines are you okay M I almost di you almost died Gloria ████ fat

4:15 ████ shut up damn I saw that you almost died handle it don't do it leave it for the men or for the other guys I'm like for the ████ men dude so yeah I'm not I'm trying to get into the gym but I just I don't know dude it's a whole thing dude you need workout buddies you don't have workout buddies I don't have workout buddies you know what I mean you come work out with Anthony Lee's been coming to the gym you been coming to gy we're trying to beat Joe's record right now so we're we're training how many times did Joe go I don't go anymore he's just strong this guy dude but I'll come back I'm just embarrassed dude that's the thing people don't understand you get embarrassed I think we're all embarrassed when we go to the gym though right dude I used to do ████ 10 lbs on each side and go right that's me I feel like most people like you might think that people would

5:05 judge you when you go to the gym but like I tried working out a couple times in college and like I would go in there like I was like bone skinny like I look like I don't eat and and so but I see like these buff dudes and I'm like oh man are they going to think like like I'm some like weak dude that's like one dude like came up to me like hey man you need tips like need help like and they're like super nice and friendly and they're always like like open to like was hitting on you may I guarantee you they're thinking more about are you going to ████ keep hogging that machine thinking dude when I went to the gym that's the most scariest thing that you can do is like you go in the middle right you get a ████ bench and somebody's just like oh ████ man his on that but and you're just like are you using a machine that they want to use and they're just like they're just like how much long you got dude and I'm like I don't know what I'm doing like I don't know what's going on I don't know who I am what's my name what's What's happen

5:55 everybody's cool because it'll happen to them too so it's like culture is no but right now people the ████ ████ who I hate are the guys who don't have the airpods the guys who have the ████ those little big old head by P by Dre those big ones that are wireless and they got the short they got the ████ 10 gon jug just right there standing and short shorts up to here just like d you good you next or what what are we doing and I'm just like oh I'm just why why is that the fashion statement for everybody to use like giant headphones I think some people want to just be in their Zone dude maybe it's like noise counseling and it feels airpods do that too I'm just curious that's true you don't have the ████ big ones use the Maxes the Maxes are crazy it's the Apple it's the apple on we have but the people who are wearing that they're like this is what I do like you're in my ████ territory right now and I need that bench and I'm just like I don't know how many I don't know

6:45 what's a WRA what's going on how many breaks right they've moved my ████ it's like it's so intimidating to be at the gym when you don't work out yeah you know what's your strongest lift I just told you about the 35 that's my PR that's where I'm at right now uh and then the ████ Jim lingo what are we doing like what are some things that confuse you you just said what's your prpr MP what's your NPR I don't like yo I haven't listened to Joe Rogan podcast I don't know what you're talking about J what are you talking about like I don't understand these lingo reps yeah how many how many times you ████ your WS your ████ SATs your it is a lot like when you first get into a fitness ████ get it dude it is a lot it's a barrier for sure what do you feel like your goal is I just want

7:35 to be hot no no I want to be like fit to where like when I take pictures I don't look all ████ bloated and just that's just diet you don't have to go to the gym yeah and then and then just like uh but I want to feel like I want to feel fit CU like most of that the stress and stuff I just wanted to let it go away I like that feeling of when you're out of the gym you're like I feel great I feel like I feel hey honestly if you're just starting off you can just do the machines with all the senoras and stuff I'm already doing the Mach ████ got ████ also got attitude and they got a strangle hold on because you've been there for like 30 minutes also if you trying to like get sexy and you're just starting you can also do like like prison workout stuff you know what I mean just calisthenics push-ups well here's my thing here's my thing and again you guys are going to be like well that's the thing dude you want to work out or not my thing is I don't

8:25 like pain yeah the next day that sore ████ I'm like what you're going to learn like it hey you know what the thing is though you don't get sore anymore though no like when you do it a lot it does the soreness goes away well maybe I'm doing it wrong because what I did was just like oh ████ ████ I'm going in first day no stretching ████ come on dud this I want to feel something I'm like oh then you start feeling like when you're done with your set you're like Dam I feel ████ like I'm about to be buffed tomorrow yeah yeah yeah I can't even wipe my I was like this I was just like oh my God you're doing it too hard oh my yeah I didn't know that I couldn't even wipe my ass dude this ████ would looked like it was like all bruised I was like my armpit was like ████ bruised up I'm like God what you tear something yeah I tore everything I was just ████ everything was just hurting I was just like this I can't couldn't

9:17 ████ for a week damn yeah dude I was I was done dude and I was doing every workout I was doing yeah yeah you're doing too much Tri bicep I did everything trips I was doing everything for stuff like chest one day and then the next day you could do abs if you want I got into like the gym after I got into sports though like I know you like playing right like but then like I started seeing how the gym would improve specifically for certain ████ if I was doing karate or whatever and then like certain workouts or like the only way you could build muscle is through like lifting so I'm like I want to build more muscles so I could do this or whatever yeah but like I didn't like just going to the gym I still don't no one really likes it yeah no I think it's something adct that's your thing like you're a bodybuilder or you're like

10:07 you're into like lifting and you do powerlifting there's a sport behind it I always feel I feel like a gym is like it helps you improve the ████ that you're already into yeah well I need to get into like when you're having fun I feel like like when you really having fun you could do it for hours yeah like if if I'm swimming and I really like swimming I can swim for like 3 hours and not know that I've been swimming for 3 hours ah got you but like if you're at the gym and you hate the gym you're in there for 20 minutes and you're like ████ my D it's also less fun when you don't know what to do thank you that's what it is that's what it is all you need to that's why you need to get in gym with a gym buddy dude you got come train with the boys yeah when I used to go train with Nick I just go there and we're just ████ lifting and ████ venting to each other about man this ████

10:57 suck man no for real that's exactly what it is and that way you have little guidance you someone watching you so that way you don't feel like am I doing this right I feel like this sucks you know you have a spotter that's a big deal hit the submits get some sweating going that's what I I'm talking about he get to do I want to take off my Shir and start wrestling with this guy I want to just ████ just you know talk yeah chat it up doing manit but chatting like women and ████ man and I just don't get it dude like she just thought she doesn't appreciate me like yeah D I ████ get you dude she doesn't care when I watch his dishes dude birth man that's the beauty of of a good gym workout it's not even being like I need to get strong or sexy it's like a good workout will just make you feel good in that moment yeah regardless of progress and then the more you train slowly the more you'll start to see like oh I did a little too much maybe tomorrow I will take the day off

11:48 and the next workout I'll do a little bit lighter cuz it's like you're not going to figure it out in one day or yeah I feel like at this age too I've gone I feel my body being more like a ████ that dude CH like but we got to fight that ████ though got fight it fight it cuz if we if we don't if we don't start especially as we're getting older if we don't build no muscle y we're going to be sad sad guys you don't use it you lose it for real yeah I'm 40 now that means my te's getting lower than low and we're losing muscle every every year more and more muscle and we need to we desperately need to keep I should have built more so then if I lost a little bit it would have been kind of though show them the guns Joe I don't have big arms you exhibition dude Anthony Lee's just kind of starting his fitness journey a little bit yeah and he's all swall show them the guns dude real quick just give him a give him a

12:38 double arm Flex yeah dude come on oh my God yo bud damn tricep oh okay hold on I got to push my bicep do a l spread do a l spread you look like a little buff lesbian dude ████ I like it you don't ████ with this hey man I got Butch p I see the cuts I see the cuts power that's not that bad dude that's actually Prett good I used to be stronger oh I used to be and you're all tan bro you know what I would love for JK to do p me I would love for us to do a Spartan Race together we should do one I love I love a spar race and we did do one before when it was a a bigger group of what the fil how about just the group that sticks around yeah you know I think I think that you know what I think here's there's one in

13:28 Hawaii if you guys want to go August no but I think what if Bart creates one for us n you got to go through this you got to go through that you got no time no ████ way he can't organize ████ I don't know he's like is like a obst for minutes like it was like a it's an obstacle race it's really fun cuz like I like that more than well I never done a marathon or anything but I got into it because there's in it's perfect for ADHD like you ████ run and there's something to do like every couple of minutes so you go and you're like oh ████ there's a rope climb and you ████ climb a rope you go down you ████ run and then you got to jump some ████ fences like you're running away from cops and ████ and you run again and there's monkey bars and then you ████ run again and then there's like a spear you have to ████ Chuck

14:18 and Chuck a spear yeah and every time you ████ up it's 30 burpees it's like if you missed the target all right 30 burpees boom boom boom all right now you got to joog you got to keep and then so they have one that's like 5 miles one that's like 6 to 8 and then one that's like half a marathon how hard was it on a scale from 1 to 10 for you when you did it on a scale to 1 to 10 yeah what would you give it um all of it was 10 because I was not athletic and I didn't like cardio so is it it's team based though right no no so it's if you want to yeah I want to do the team based one so there's one there's one team based one out of Tahoe and I think it's called Elite sure but that one's like ████ it might be over 16 miles or what God you

15:08 go as a group mil and you do crazy ████ like you got to hold like a big ████ log together that's what I want to do as as a careful boys I want to do a teamb based Spartan Race typ 16 miles we got to train like a long time for that 16 miles you got to keep Steve accountable you got to make sure he's training in Vegas damn why you got to call Steve like that well I don't I don't know bro I don't even know if Steve can like walk up two stairs right now he's going to he's going to hate that he's going to be like dude ████ that hey he's like 6 Brothers you know he's like the professional Chiller guy you know what he will do he's a he's a rider so we all sign up he's still going to do it that actually might help him get into like all this working out he's been working on a home dude but I don't think he likes cardio no one likes cardio I hate nobody likes yeah the only thing I can do cardio is like I have to play like sports to get my cardio basketball or soccer that's it or I can't do hoop huh

16:00 yeah I ████ JK basketball team 24-Hour Fitness I'd be ████ just JK basketball team dude we get smoked just free throws oh ████ okay look at that form Curry you made it little three yeah if you do if we do a Spartan Race we could make it a group thing but like I would only want to do it as a group thing because that's what makes it so different than like just yeah like you said running your own race or whatever cuz you're in your own lane or like Bart competing he's competing against himself which is boring smoke you know what I mean but like if we're if we have to hold each other accountable or yell at each other to get through a certain thing that's what's going to create bonding cuz there's I think the one that you do as a group there's walls that are specifically you can't scale unless someone gets up there and you got to put him on your shoulder and when he's up there you got to pull the other person imagine all of us on

16:50 top of the ████ wall pulling Steve's big ass maybe seal type ████ hell yeah dude that sounds fun right with the boys some male bonding I think we get mail bonding I'd rather pay 20 G's for that one fake Navy SEAL camp where the guy yells at you let's do that I don't know for the Trump Tower and film there yeah dude I I I get enough at ████ when I go visit my parents I that be young I mean ████ for the dumbest ████ can we do JK basketball that's easier probably yeah it's probably a lot easier that's a lot of cardio still you're going back and forth from court to court I don't like basketball that much but if you guys want to play I'll play Hey something we can all do together how about uh I'm down with spart Rays yeah I'm down with spart Ray cardio guy that sounds pretty cool but you guys want to do the 16 mile one or the the five mile

17:40 one five mile but team let's start five miles let's start with five crazy that would be ████ cool

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