0:00 [Music] Welcome back everybody to an episode of the camera boys with Chappelle Lacy. I'm here. I'm queer. Are you nice? No. Okay. Well, before Joe interrupts us with a new topic. Uh, how's your love life, dude? Yeah. What's What's up with it? Uh, I don't really have a love life. Okay. So, you still have a chance, Anthony. Damn, that's a good double D. That's a great interruption. Damn. Hey, do I have a chance? Uh, well, well, no. Um, I'm I'm weird in that department. No, I'm not weird. Um, like you don't like getting too close or too like No, I don't have any problem with that. I love Yeah. Just finding the right lady. Yeah. It's just finding
0:51 Yeah. Yeah. That's what I hear a lot of the times is just finding You know what it is? I I think I've made it really tough for myself because I journal and read so much on like being like a like how to like just be a better person and like I hold such high like strong values. Yeah. So I think that's what like I think I just made it difficult for my standards high. Yeah. Your bars. So my bar bar is like up there, you know? That's dope though. Yeah. Yeah. Which it doesn't make me like sad. I'm like you've been meeting a lot of like mids where I'm just like I'm like uh do you journal and they go what is that? Yeah. No, I think I just me uh girls sometimes are that just don't you know it's like you got to be 1,000% with your with your mental and like you know what like what kind of values do you hold for yourself? What kind of accountability do you hold for
1:42 your actions and what you do and and uh are you cool with like you know your family? are you cool or at least like at peace or like are you not holding it on to anything that's like you know that upset you from the past or anything like that? That's just ████ rare, dude. It's very rare. It's rare as ████ That's cuz it's even hard for me uh to make friends like that. Yeah. I want to make friends, but I'll talk to people and I'm like, "Oh, this guy is still e this guy or girl is still easily triggered by certain things." Like they're not Exactly. So So it makes me just kind of like walk away from the situation, you know? Oh, this person's just stupid. This person's not self-aware. Like, you like there's no way we can pursue this cuz they have so much they still got to work on. I think like you don't you can't expect someone to be perfect when you meet them cuz you're supposed to work it out together.
2:32 But it's the potential cuz it's like if I see potential that's Yeah. Cuz if the self-awareness part is a huge one cuz if they don't self-reflect and be like, "Yeah, I got these um I don't know, maybe like um oh that's a trigger." Like they know that that's a trigger. and they're like, "Yeah, I know sometimes I kind of ████ up, but then I try I'm trying to get better." That is so much better than someone that's like, "Oh, ████ everybody." You know, they're Exactly. Yeah. cuz I'm I'm I'm always like whatever like if I do something out of pocket like I'm always calling myself out for it and stuff like that and just trying to you know just always think of forward motion and and so if someone's just it's just not that then I kind of you know but yeah also like I said I'm not sad like whatever if it trying to attract somebody that's also there because um the way your mental is currently at you're trying to look for someone that also is kind of like hey
3:22 same page that's all you're looking for right and I'm very honest is I'm very transparent. Like I ████ you know, I I let a person know what's up, you know? Like I'm not a ████ about or anything. You know how to set your boundaries properly and everything. But I but I love love. I ████ with love. Do you do like the dating sites and do you do those? No, I don't do no dating sites. ████ no. Yeah. How do you How do you meet ladies? Yeah. How do you meet people? Where do you meet ladies at? They're always in my green room. Concerts in the alleyways. No, Scott concerts. Uh church. Yeah. No, I'm just kidding. Oh, that's probably a good place to meet a lady though. I don't know values-wise. Like, the broken people are there. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Depends how how much you like your church. The people that are raising their hands like this just like I saw too many dicks over the weekend. They're trying to cleanse their soul. Oh, I don't know. It's a lot of a lot of
4:12 it's just organic. Yeah. Like Yeah. Just you know I I think it that's you know a lot of times that's just how I meet a woman. You know organic way what you say organically in the bar? And no, I don't go to bars or clubs. I think as a club guy, dude. Yeah. Do you? No, he's a SCA guy. Okay. He's a concert man. Or like what? What was the last date you went on? And what was the the like I guess red flag or something that you're like, I don't know if this is going to be good. Yeah. Did she like chew with her mouth open or something? No. The ████ ate off my plate. Oh, really? What she do? She grabbed your food and went, "Oh, that looks good." I said, "Yeah, like you're not going to ask. I don't even know you. No, I just I just looked up like I I kept that look the whole time and I got quiet. And then you're like, "Can I get the bill, please?" Yeah. I didn't talk to I didn't I didn't talk to her for like ████ uh a year and a half
5:03 after that. I did. Holy. Yeah. All right. A man of principle. Man of principal. Listen, I order Listen, I order my food because that's what the ████ I want and I want the whole thing. I don't want to What if she was What if she was like, "That looks good. Can I Can I try a bite?" And she didn't go for it. If she didn't go for it. Yeah. But what if she said that? I think that matters, bro. It was just It was just straight up like, "Oh, that looks good. I want to try that." That's not cool. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, she comfortable. Is it cuz it's date one? Date one. Cuz what if it was like she felt so comfortable that you guys are family already? So, she's like, "Oh, she he we better be married." Yeah. Okay, I see. Okay. You don't see no ring on my finger. I don't see no ring on my finger. Don't be eating off my ████ plate. That's a big one for you. Oh my god. Yeah. Yeah. It's like uh I'm like just one I think it's rude. Yeah, for sure. It is. It's rude. And
5:53 like also like if you wanted this, you should have ordered that. That's true. You said you wanted a salad. Yeah. Right. No way. I mean good. Enjoying my ████ and I see it there and I ████ That's why I get it. I'm very passionate about that ████ I that's especially cuz I know when I go into a restaurant, I ain't wasting no time. I'm like immediately I'm not I'm right there on the menu. Boom. Got it. Know what I want. Close that ████ I realize this with with my family and my wife's family. It's like Asian people are so used to going out to eat family style where everyone's picking from the main like plates, right? I'd be looking at everybody like Yeah. And sometimes like uh for a year and a half like I'll take my wife's family out with my family
6:45 and my parents want to order family style but they're used to being like oh I just want this entree for myself. Like they're used to just ordering it for themselves. And so like and it's not like a issue or anything. It's just like oh you guys grew up this way. We grew up this way. But if somebody is like this is my plate and they pick that's when they go like hey bro you cannot do this. You can't do both. You're crossing the line. You know what I mean? one or the other. You got to you got to set those intentions. If you want to play solo, you stick with solo, but you don't get to ████ dab with everyone else. No, no, no. You got to share. But also, I haven't been on a ton of dates and I've only had one girlfriend in my life and I was at 31 when I was 31 years old and we were together until I was 35. Wow, that's a long time. How come it didn't work out? So, you date to like for like long term? You don't like dating? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's for life. Yeah, it's
7:35 for life, bro. for sure. I try out a lot. Johnson in this relationship. Bullies like water. But no, yeah, I've only had one girlfriend and you know it it didn't end bad. You know, we we still we still talk to each other. I'll treat her like a queen for the rest of her life. You know, she's she's a good person. I think there was just things on her end that she felt she was lacking in and she couldn't be in a relationship to to grow herself. But when you go on to dates, then it's more like by that time it's like, "Oh, yeah. I'm taking you serious enough to like consider the next stage." It's not just like you're just hanging out to see. I mean, I feel like you got to kind of hang out to see. You know what I mean? But like sometimes I I can I can read the room. I be like, "Oh, hell no." Like that ain't it.
8:26 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Damn. Do you have a type? White. No, I'm just kidding. Uh, no. Uh, I thought I thought it was okay. Uh, no. Uh, I didn't know to censor those things. I know, right? Cuz he's saying it, so it's okay, right? Um, but no, a type uh I mean a type in the sense of like like are you talking physical or both? Physical. Probably both. Let's start. Physical. Physical. Um, I love a girl that works out. Okay. Fit. Yeah. Yeah. Fit. I like fit girl. You can have a little pudge, you know. I don't give a ████ you know. Yeah. There's that there's that black guy in me that likes thick white women.
9:16 But no, right. Uh, you know. Yeah. I I a fit girl, you know. U Yeah. Nothing too crazy. I mean, yeah, she got to be cute in the face. I don't need her to wear a ton of makeup and ████ like that. I don't need all that. Yeah. I don't I don't need Yeah. I like organic beauty. I saw this clip recently of Paul Pierce when he's being interviewed on podcast, right? And then and then this chick's asking him like uh why like you know a lot of NBA players will like be dating or choosing like white women. And then he's like maybe because like they apologize more and take accountability. Wow. That's funny. But here's the thing. Here's here's the battle though. White women can be like crazy, you know, like in the sense of like there's just this thing that white white women can carry sometimes and not all white women, but it's this thing. Well, I think it's a
10:06 lady entitlement. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's not entitlement. Um, like white women can like make you believe that like like they're like, "I was emotionally abused." You're like, "What? I talk ████ to you?" They could be victims. But it was Yes. They victimized themselves. Yes. And in in the weirdest ways when when the intention is not to Yeah. It's just like what? Like I like you did this to me. Yeah. You did this to me, you know, and all of a sudden it's like Yeah. I don't like victim people. Yes. It's like But you imagine that in your own head for your gaslighting. It's like that's your culture making up these words. That's what I'm saying. Like it's it's a weird English. Yeah. It's a different English where you're like what? like you kind of get like lost in where I don't I don't think a lot of like and I like I said a specific white
10:57 woman like Yeah. Yeah. Like like a like if you date a ████ at Silver Lake. The blue hair. The blue hair. Whether any race at all if they weaponize therapy terms or what do you mean like you need to go to therapy? Well, like some people would say that like uh what was the phrase you use? Like you're you're that that girl said what were you saying? Emotional abuse. Yeah, emotional abuse. Like you're emotionally abusing me. like that could be considered like a a therapy term, right? So like because these people go to therapy or whatever, they think they're like I don't know. It's not like therapy is the end all be all cuz some people could have a therapist who might lie to them a little bit or you know cuz string them along. So like you never really know but some people will like weaponize um this language to make you feel like oh you're ████ me over type ████ Also I feel like most people that go to therapy are posers cuz it's like you're just there. Yeah. A lot of people like working on yourself. Yeah. Are you actually doing
11:48 something? Yeah. Yeah. Where you getting where you get to? It's like but they put all but you know they put all this reliance into the therapist to make them better. But it's like no I could tell you I tell you what to ████ do. Like you know what I mean? Like but some of these people are like you got to do the work. You got to do the ████ work. It's tight to emotionally dump on people. That's tight. Everyone can do that. If it's about someone else like your therapist is only getting one story. Yeah. For real. You know what I mean? Like like the cool thing about my anger management teachers, they never let me talk bad about my stepdad. And I hated that man. I hated that ████ But they never let me talk bad about him. They didn't even they were just like, "Okay, cool." You know, like we understand what happened. You know what I mean? But here like now we're on you. You know what I mean? So, but like a lot of these therapists when people go in and talk about like, "Oh, my ex did this or whatever, blah blah
12:39 blah." But you're getting one Yeah. story, but because it's like what about what did you do? You did some ████ too. Like, I don't think nobody's clean in a ████ toxic relationship. No one's clean. No one. It's ████ Unless you're the victim. Blood all over their hands. Yeah. It really is though. But like but like and the different like but the difference would be it was like it was my stepdad and I was a kid. So, I'm like I'm not going to ████ know. But like I think with two adults and like a you know a love situation, it's like y'all know each other's buttons. Mhm. You know what I mean? And like I think ████ be pushing each other's buttons 100%. You know, that's why I'm going to stay single for the rest of my No, I'm just kidding. No, no, I Yeah, I this this is I I have a I guess I have like so much thought into it and stuff like that. And you know, but I I you know, I would love to be in a relationship, you know. I like love, you know. It would be nice for someone to get that side of it that there's just
13:30 more complexity. It's not just like black or white, right? in terms of like and also al also also to the Paul Pierce thing that is very funny but I don't I don't know I don't know what it is so I think like I mean I can tell you why I'm attracted to white women why it's funny I grew up in Arizona mostly white ladies were just around it but also but also like as I've like gotten out more like like it's not just white women for me you know what I mean like it's not it's not it's hot women right it's just hot women yeah someone Like Asian is ranked for you. Oh, what are Asians? As Asian women rank, man. Better. Oh my you've ever seen too like Oh, man. Rank the hottest one, you know. Anthony Lee. Anthony Lee kind of fine. Anthony.
14:20 Anthony Lee kind of fine. Uh, Asian women, I'd probably say number two. Oo, that's pretty up there. black women. My queen. Black queen. No. Uh, sister. Say sorry though. Sister sisters. Uh, no. Uh, yeah. I like Asian women. Some good until high school. I I I liked uh black and Mexican because that's who I was around and they were the hottest girls. So, if that's the pop that makes sense. you're just around white girls in high school and they're the the popular ones, the hot ones. Whoever's the hottest one of that school, you're going to find attractive. Also, that was all I could get. And I say that because like most of the black girls I knew, they just they they never it's not they didn't think I was like they just
15:10 thought I was like goofy, you know what I mean? They're like, "Oh, he he does the skateboarding thing. He he be going to he' be jumping in mosh pits and ████ like that." They just thought it was just different. It wasn't like they ████ like disliked me, but it was just like there was just no attraction there. You know what I mean? So, and also like all the shows I was going like when I was going to punk shows, it was just a bunch of like white people. Yeah. You know what I mean? So, it's who you're around. Yeah. It's just who it's just who I was around. It's not like a ████ Tell me black queens don't like punk, dude. You know, like a lot a lot more now. Like I'm starting to see a lot more out there now for sure. It's open like all music. You see all kinds of people. Now that Bad Bunny concert, I was expecting only see brown people and I'm like, "Oh s███." Oh, everybody. ████ everybody. Everybody who's had ████ Bad Bunny. Everybody. So yeah. I mean, but but like
16:00 I don't know why that was so funny to me. He's Puerto Rican. That's why. Oh, you are? Yeah, a little bit. It's cuz you think I'm cute, man. You'll believe anything he says. Hey, but I think like Gen Z though and and younger their musical taste is hella diverse. Like for us millennials, like when we were growing up, it was segregated by race. And then you saw sprinkled like groups into some music, but it was like, oh, if you're Mexican, then you're listening to this stuff or Asians listen to this stuff. Listen to all you black kids out there. You don't know what I went through. You don't know what the ████ I went through as a kid growing up to like this music. A ████ slip knot in skateboarding. You don't know. Listen, I'm your Rosa Parks. Cuz one of my homies in high school, his name was Devin, and he loved like
16:50 skateboarding, punk music, and all the black dudes used to ████ trash on him all the time. They used to bully him all the time. I got made fun of more for that than being a cheerleader. Yeah. Oh yeah, I got made fun way more made fun of for rocking slip knot corn all that ████ different. And bro, they would treat this fool like he didn't exist. They'd be dismissive. You know what I mean? Like they would just like shut. One time I rolled up to school and Chuck Taylor like the the high top Chucks, some like uh cut cut up Dickies and and I had black socks and this dude goes, "████ got black socks on." Dude. Hey, black socks. I can't wear dude. I said he said this ████ got black socks is the thing. He literally looked at me like this ████ got black socks on. Damn. I'm like he's
17:41 so disgusting black sock. I'm telling you the style. You had to wear white. That's what I'm saying. I'm like I don't know what the ████ style was, but it was just like that's just how I dressed, you know? I just had black socks. So I was like, "Oh, I'll put those on today." Maybe to them it's like church socks cuz black socks, black shoes, like like dress shoes. Yeah. I don't know. I just thought that they thought that it was whack, dude. But I tell you what, as the years have gone on, those dudes that used to make fun of me give me so much respect. That's cool. They do cuz they like the music. They're like, "This is what I've been missing." No, they they they just they just respect the fact that I never change. They switch around. Now it's real. You're being true to yourself. They're like, "Man," and some some like there's times they've like messaged me and like apologized. Wow. Wow. I'm sorry for calling Black Socks, man. Yeah, they must be going with that. And this is I'm
18:31 telling you, this is this was before like anything like my growth in comedy or anything like that. This is before any of that. So, it wasn't like they they like saw me like out there like doing a lot of ████ with comedy and then they No, no. They apologized before that. That's amazing. Yeah. Cuz they knew I was going to blow up. I was on my
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