0:00 one thing I did hear Jaco says it was just crazy but it kind of makes sense where he goes anytime you feel like you have a diet urge that you can't control it'll just fast for 24 hours get back in control dude dudes like that who are already like built like a truck and and then they're like just fast for 24 a whole day [Music] and welcome back everybody to another interesting episode of the careful boys where we are currently off the Record and today's prompt is going to be maybe dangerous but I believe in our friendships with each other that we're going to be able to do this one well okay so do it I got it today the prompt is let us all give each other constructive criticism oh no but like about what anything just I think you have too much sex
0:52 Anthony how about that that's true I think you deflect and go right to jokes when we try to talk about something serious maybe you gotta start first you start first so we know what the what the tone is maybe start first we know what the hell with the tone who's gonna wear those no no we buy exam give me some constructive criticism can I can I get a donut okay you want chocolate that's gonna be my criticism I don't want to start with John I don't want to get fired constructive criticism what is that there's only two left I'm an employee asking you for constructive criticism of his performance of my performance go like in the lands of JK sure okay let's do that oh in the lens of JK or in life if you want to be a little demoralized we'll do we'll do first round JK second round I like that I like that how you can improve Anthony is not
1:44 ████ have such a wild ass schedule please yeah because all of us locked in our dates and I get it you got other things okay it's so ████ cool but at the same time it makes Parts world and job horrible not for me I don't care but I see the group text and I'm just like oh Bart I feel bad for you this would help if I heard this from Bart okay so I just feel bad for Bart then it's everything Joe said hi constructive criticism I would like it so when you get gigs for kendras it makes me happy as a friend but for JK I'm my mother ████ ████ because it's like you got all these ████ Disneyland blackout dates for ████ I was trying to book ████ and it's hard yeah it's complicated you need like a
2:34 food no I mean that I think that's criticism I think the constructive part is supposed to come now like what can he do about that yeah because sorry in advance because June's gonna be fun but I want you to keep having gigs because I know it's good for you and you're getting paid also makes me happy if we can't cover the rest of your costs I get it too that's why I I don't I I don't say anything do you have a constructive response is that constructive well the constructive part is that like we're supposed to be like but we have a solution for you which we don't I just want to criticize you because I don't know what else to say this type of company that's okay though that's okay I'd rather hear it because I think that that's oh but here's the thing though I feel like it's it's pointless sometimes because we already know the answer we already know the outcome and it's like also if I can't do my part and make your life better for
3:24 making my life better with the scheduling then why open my mouth about it you know what I mean that's why I don't like I don't feel the reason to criticize unless I can remedy it that's why I was looking for the constructive part we don't have one because you're good so if I had a gripe with you that's the only gripe exactly yeah your overall performance is solid so why why bring up weird ████ [Laughter] hey you're ████ dope but let me just find something to nitpick dude like you're on time more than everybody else right oh that's not what you do we shoot nitpicks that's what this is constructive nitpicks yeah but not just me because you're forcing our ████ hand here it's a prompt guys it's a good prompt that's what I'm saying maybe you could lead and I can go oh that's what he's trying to do I don't know he gave one to me or I don't know
4:15 what's yours he said he said uh I deflect and I make jokes but what's the constructive part where's the constructive part that's my story arc right now what's the construct oh I'm gonna have a crap but listen that's the constructive part no no we're not doing construction anymore just being petty we should be Petty nitpicking and Petty yeah I like that because that's better that's less pressure yeah because there's nothing wrong with the deflections because people like it I got one for Nick hey I thought we were doing Anthony hey don't leave so fast when we're done huh hey yeah I like you ████ what can I say something can I can I say something you know like I think only me and Bart know because Bart has a kid and now like as a proud father of Two Brothers
5:06 hold on only this table knows what it's like to like raise you know fatherhood this is Nick when we wrapped on a JK day right so it's like this it's like this okay guys that's a wrap Deborah he's gone oh oh oh and and best of all he he comes late and he always leaves early what the ████ dude can I say something you just leave so quickly can I say something everybody says this about me at the other gym too oh yeah so if you're always leaving places early where are you hanging out at because because as you know as only you know Bart I gotta go home and I
5:56 gotta you know I gotta raise these puppies on the phone right now every tips has been making this joke of since I've been working so much he's like well it's just crazy that I'm a single mom like she always says that it says take care of two buck so she probably shares the same thing well Dana Latino see if she has it any better that's what I tell her yeah let's do it again I want that one I did a Latino we will take it from the top so we're gonna do a script doctor's gonna come in I will say that everybody just wants to hang out with you Nick so like I want to hang out soon dude you purposely when I'm in Pasadena you purposely don't read my text till I'm in another city this is why I gotta pay for friends it's
6:47 because if if I could pay for this guy to stay longer so he doesn't have to have a second gig he would be chilling that's true but what gig do you have after JK like what's going on at 8pm 8pm his puppy live stream I gotta yeah I thought you do Jiu Jitsu yeah sometimes he has to teach a jiu jitsu class uh I gotta go home so I can spend quality time with my wife because I'm gone all day I get that I get that oh yeah we shoot on the weekend you know that makes sense it makes sense but I mean a lot of people in this room got wives you know what I mean so it's like either all of us are ████ or you gotta be okay being an ████ once in a while too yeah people got wives and lives I think recently well not just recently it's just you decided to actually be a good husband yeah kind of I looked in the mirror I looked in the mirror and I was
7:37 like I'm kind of a piece of ████ no but I I think that being uh as lame as it sounds like being more present and being more like around you know it would be really buddy is if he takes this criticism and then at the end of today he just like hangs around and we're just like all right later Nick well you know what's even It's the funniest part what about Monday through Thursday you know kick it with your wife you have to hang out you gotta leave Friday and Saturday what the ████ uh sometimes but like I get home late Sunday so okay look my my work day typically when I'm teaching Jiu Jitsu at night I start at like I start sometimes 6 a.m 7 A.M I don't get back until nine o'clock 9 30
8:27 sometimes Monday through Thursday yeah oh okay yeah so that's when it's a little tough and then on days we have JK I see clients on Sunday mornings to the whole like after like mid-afternoon yeah and then it's like time to hang with the fam and all that ████ if we if we paid you more if we paid you more drop clients so you could hang with us longer uh I don't know see you watch we should constructively criticize ourselves and maybe just do a better job of pre-communicating and planning when we want to officially do something so Nicki I agree hey you tried this Friday we both tried we did try can I say something please I knew I couldn't hang out so I didn't text back we know you didn't text back we assumed you couldn't hang out even if it was pre-planned we
9:17 went to uh Joe's uh birthday dinner yeah you came back from from rehearsal that was really cool I did it for the for the points and that was so fun and remember what we said at dinner I was like we gotta do this more we did say that and of course Joe's birthday was was when I wasn't here ████ bummer but let's hang them well today's Cinco de Mayo we're not hanging tonight are we but me and this guy tried yeah multiple times for two weeks let's just hang out with them without Bart we can hang out tonight he's leaving yeah I gotta get my wallet I left my wallet at my friend's house really so after this I gotta rush over there it's fine we'll go watch the Lakers what the junior high
10:08 I lost my velcro wallet at my friend's house and fell in the cushions do you guys have that thing isn't it okay I'm wondering if it's a creative person thing or a guy to constantly ████ lose ████ bro that's why I got this baby I got that too and it's that fatty pack is at my friend's house the whole family pack yes I think it's a system why did you take it off you got if you got the one two three yeah always doing one two three you're never but if you don't follow systems dude I'm kind of OCD about it I'll be at the airport I'll do one two three like ████ for the whole time there dude I look like freaking pie Delta gamma all day yeah but how many of you guys still do the one two three and you still lose wallet keys everyone here does I mean I've never lost my wallet
10:59 one kilo with this guy this guy right here I haven't lost a thing dude you can toggle stoves with that thing yeah it's decreased it's decreased my frequency of losing things because that's probably the first time I lost my wallet in years this is why women have purchases I get it I lost my wallet because one day me and Nikki went to this beach thing that's why our community and we came home and I just didn't know that I put my wallet in my other shorts and like they went through the laundry and I found it but like I went and got a new driver's license I was ████ pissed at myself and I was ████ and then I do laundry and I there's my wallet in the middle of it oh oh that's a rough one you're too productive that's what you get for being too productive yeah you got anyone else have anything for Nick for constructive uh dude we spent five I think we've been hitting pretty hard lately yeah let's move on to somebody else what other Nick things are there hey if
11:50 we built like a like put some mats on the ground back here would you do your client stuff here so we can hang out with them while he's ████ yeah I haven't put a little Bowflex back there yeah you guys are always welcome to come hang at the gym it's too fine I highly doubt we're welcome to hang out I bet you are I bet you will go there and for some reason you gotta bounce still from a constructive criticism point I will say a while ago you said you want to like work on promoting yourself better and uh since then I feel like you haven't done any of that but you guys could be clients now he can't afford to do that excuse me clients I thought that was the way to you know build the business but it's like yeah I don't know I just you spread pretty freaking Thin Man huh a little bit hashtag razor rate I mean yeah I will
12:42 the ████ is that me I don't even know what we're just so focused on this you did something number one no yeah I I feel like I feel like in a lot of ways this is kind of promoting just being on JK but even that goal I just was like right after I said it I was like oh that's so funny about being honest hey fair enough why do you hate helping people what do you mean that's his job because I think promoting yourself is like look dude I could help you become healthier look at what I did for David he's always been fat until he met me that's a really great uh Yelp review you know I think you know David did most of the heavy lifting but like for the most part yeah because he was pretty heavy that's why you're not good at selling yourself you should be sitting here taking the ████ credit for this you changed this man you know what Steve
13:33 I don't like that you wear white all the time that's my construction there's a deflecting finger yeah see hey if I got you as a trainer if I hired you as a personal trainer what could you improve about me physically oh that's constructive criticism better uh beard easily better beard that's what you do I would do that too better beard but make it better just better I connect the top half to the bottom half like if like if I was like Hey Fitness wise like how can I be more healthy like what would you suggest not that I'm trying to make you work for free right now if I honestly you're probably just like well depends on what you what you want to do what do you what does Ryan want in your life like what do you want to get better at I don't know from from your from your point of view what where can I where can I uh get an A plus and this is where I deflect again I go well it's not really up to me it's up it's up to God yeah yeah it's up to God I pull up my Bible like this how do you have so many
14:23 clients all right how about this give an honest free consultation nutritionist approach to Steve's health habits let's go oh go for it dude I think this is total boring stuff but no this is a good contest but usually it starts with like but honestly everything goes back to whatever your goal is oh no look at me in the eyes can I say something people goes hey I need help with my caffeine addiction not golf what do you do then I'd ask what's your caffeine consumption uh a lot a day a lot and then I have to I'd have to quantify it like okay what is a lot like how many like how many milligrams is unhealthy I do about four times that so you do 4 000 milligrams a day I honestly actually don't um do these anymore unless I'm on JK yeah same I actually finally got off of
15:14 uh monsters so at home we don't drink at all no in the morning I don't what did you so maybe we should just have less of them here that used to be my morning routine too I would have a monster every every single day and now I know one or a couple I would have one in the morning yeah every day you drink tons of caffeine don't you all right me too me too oh I drink a ton too hey okay here's a real question like how do I how would you suggest like I'm trying to get rid of more like belly fat yeah what's a good way to do that probably gonna go on a diet probably gotta stop bringing those Mochi Donuts to the ████ bomb you probably gotta start lifting weights and you probably gotta go on a little bit of a diet start lifting weights yeah okay and you probably gotta fix that ████ beer dude how much how much he makes it so simple how much do I owe you for that ten thousand dollars please
16:05 Cheney with Nick is so simple you just show up and he does all the work for you when I was training with Nick he would just be like all right do pull-ups all right what's the best what's the best like but that's the thing though a lot of people that I've especially recently that come and see me they think there's a ████ secret right like they think uh there's gotta be something like what the secret is is self-awareness honestly and I think a lot of it is just me asking questions to people that they've never answered out loud and they don't even know and they go oh yeah you know what the reason why I can't sleep every night is because I'm having a coffee at ████ 5 p.m yeah maybe I'll push that to 2 p.m and then the next day they're like hey I had a great night of sleep last night hello you're telling me that 300 milligram coffee that you drink at 5 PM is helping
16:58 you I stay awake so it's like you sound like Tim Robbins so much I didn't ████ do it nah but that's just how it goes yeah that's that's there's no secret to the song but sometimes I think people are underwhelmed when they hire me sometimes this is bad underwhelmed when they they ask like hey what do I need to do and I tell them and I try to make and that's part of what I try to do is make it as simple as possible and then they don't like that they can't they don't they don't believe it can't possibly that yeah exactly and then and then sometimes that does shoot me in the foot but then again it's like then we aren't supposed to work together right yeah that's how it comes out because they want like a secret yeah and then it goes all right well this ain't really working out and a lot of it is like show me you could do this for a week and then we'll move on to the next step that's cool but
17:48 once again sometimes bad for business but I think from there it creates the client base that I want a lot of the best diets are like people go that's stupid yeah yeah kinda because I used to do it when I first started like doing all this ████ yeah I thought there was a secret and even you could take down anything like oh how do I get a six figure or seven figure business and it's like simple question it is pretty simple right yeah it's ████ serious it's so much discipline and some people don't even know the answers to that yeah so it's like until you are recording that and tracking that then you can't have a metric of how you get better from there that's true yeah but what if they want to do it real fast you said what what if they want to do a really really fast cardano baby to the Moon Yeah down to seven percent in six months well I'm killing you guys I'm killing you guys 80 up to your ████ I'm killing you
18:39 guys talk about it have you because when when people go down the rabbit hole not even the rabbit hole when they finally get the motivation they want to jump on that emotional rush and then they open up that rabbit hole of this whole thing that they've never done before and then they just want to do everything so fast and they feel so good yeah I think that's that's probably like how they approach everything like from finances to Fitness to everything and most of the time it's just not sustainable you can only do that for like a month and maybe even some change there's a riding on motivation so instead of like completely changing their lifestyle I think that's for everything yeah getting people to slow down you know but when did you get this answer do you go but but how long does it take for me to lose my belly fat because I you know I got a wedding to do and like I just gotta get in the suit I just be like don't eat for 30 days you
19:30 should have thought about that Daddy that's what you say 30 days [Laughter] one thing I did hear Jocko sales I was just ████ crazy but it kind of makes sense where he goes anytime you feel like you have a diet urge that you can't control it'll just fast for 24 hours get back in control oh I was like oh ████ that's true if you don't if you don't eat for one day you're not gonna die yeah yeah so you're like oh ████ I want McDonald's like nope just fast 24 hours you have that thought don't eat for all dude dudes like Dad who are already like built like a truck and then and then they're like just fast for 24 a whole day that's a cake you ████ idiot yeah cause you asked if you tell that to can he's gonna die it's like it's like hot women going just be attractive can I tell you a dream that I had about Jocko Little Nick that scared the shot at me a couple a dream oh cool and it was I don't usually don't dream and this was very Vivid I had a dream I was hanging
20:21 out with Jocko will Nick or something at his house and it seemed like we're in Maine or something it was a very beautiful home and he had a beachfront property and show me around and then we start hanging out at his like on his couch and in this dream that was like kind of lucid he started to like make up pass at me and was like trying to make sexual what the ████ yeah he was trying to make out with me and I was like Yo dude stop and I kept pushing him away and then like I got him to eventually stop and then I woke up in like cold sweat you almost got me tuned by Jocko what do you think that means constructive you're hard can I give you some construction criticism I think you're gay but the whole time I was like yo bro I was like stop I was like please stop he's good it sounds like it's like that iced tea Cliff who goes I got news for you you're gay I have relationships with women but I have sex with men that means
21:13 you're gay straight guys don't have gay dreams that means you're gay but I successfully offended them off waking up in cold sweat that means your closet that means you want it dude that's like when you were fighting my Legend as being again maybe try it and see if you still sweat yeah give me the shirt dude no it's mine that's like when Nikki's having a dream about Eminem and she's like we almost ████ and then I woke up and then she's pissed that they didn't ████ yeah you're like that I wasn't pissed it was more of like me being like what I was honestly worried I was worried like why did I have this dream and it felt it felt so real and like it was it was great taco in Maine that's what I'm saying like what is this why are you guys gonna Chill on the couch what does that mean on the couch in my life with another man we were just talking we were just hanging out and then I think he thought
22:04 we had a moment and he leaned in and I was like yo I was like sorry like I'm not really and then he progressively got more aggressive and in my head in the dream I was like I have to fight this ████ I was like I'm gonna fight this gorilla off of me yikes dude and then he stopped and I was surprised if another man is like hey you want to come over and chill on my couch I'm just like no how did you get him to stop I just kept shoving it was like he was very persistent and then in the dream he left the room and I walked he walked out and then there was two other guys on the couch and then uh oh my God and I was like Hey where's Jocko and he goes I don't know where he went and then I woke up sorry Joe has to go pee God damn it it's been past 20 minutes [Music]
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