0:00 Do you guys ever wonder what it might be like to date a single mother? >> You did it before. >> So, a very brief period between where I was with my ex and with when I was with Nikki, I was talking to this chick for a little bit. The only fan interaction I've had that was significant. >> And me and her used to like what do you call it? You call you do a call >> booty call. >> Video video call. >> Booty call. >> Oh, booty call. >> She like lived in a different place than me like hella hella. She lived in like ████ Texas or something. and I lived in LA and [snorts] she used to like show me her butt on camera. It was pretty cool. >> That's a booty call. >> It was pretty cool. But but like but like uh she had a kid and then like she started to slowly introduce me to her kid and again this is like 9 days of single time for me. So she's introducing her kid to me pretty quickly and I was like I don't think I'm ready for this ████ where she's like showing me the kid a bunch and being like hey that's Steve
0:51 and I'm like oh ████ So yeah I don't >> It's a lot of pressure. >> I've been the kid in this. >> Oh jeez. [laughter] How How did it go? >> It's kind of weird to see dudes macking on your mom. [laughter] I saw my mom ████ French kissing a dude at Chuck-E-Cheese. >> Jesus, it was kind of weird. >> The dude was Chuck. Did she shave her pits for it? [laughter] >> So, she she never met anybody that it felt like they could become a family or anything like that. >> Mac at Chuck-E-Cheese should not get passed over that quick. >> What would you like to know? What else would you like to know about? I'm just saying that's some Alevel ████ Mackin, dude. >> Out of out of out of the dudes that uh >> stressed mother with hell of kids running around, you're like, "Yo, I'm going to get my plate." That's kind of gangster move. Out of the dudes that were spitting game at my mom, I did like that guy the most. >> The Mac guy.
1:41 >> Mainly because he had a son and I wished me and him were brothers. >> Oh, that is cool. >> If you guys got together, then this art it's a whole family. >> Did your mom ever share information with you about why it wasn't working out with some of them? >> No. >> She never told you nothing. My dad My dad would drop me off and be like, "What the hell? Who's that guy?" >> Like, "Is that your mom's boyfriend?" >> I was like, "Uh, I don't know. I think he might be like from work or something." >> And I was like, "Wait a minute. She shaved her armpits. This must be serious." [laughter] >> I hooked up with a single mom. And then after that experience, I never wanted to date anybody with a kid. >> Why? What was wrong with it? >> I don't know. She was kind of funny, but it was kind of scary because when we were hooking up, she wanted me to put on her grandparents uh diapers. She had depends and she thought like it would be funny to watch me act like a baby. [clears throat] And I'm not going to tell you if I did or not.
2:31 >> Why didn't you marry her? To ask Bart's question. [laughter] >> But [clears throat] the thing that made it real and awkward is in the morning I woke up with a baby riding my back. >> Oh ████ that's too real. I was like, "What the ████ Were you wearing the diapers or not?" And I was I was I woke up >> and you had a rattle in your hand and >> I woke up on a bed and I was like, "What is this soft thing on my back?" And it was a ████ baby on my back. >> Well, a toddler. A toddler, right? Cuz she had her kid like >> That's crazy, man. >> And I was like, >> first of all, you shouldn't be having like guys you barely know around your kid like this. >> That's what I think. >> Yeah, that's weird. >> I was like, that is so irresponsible. It also is a move, unfortunately. Right. >> You think I'M GOING TO FALL IN LOVE WITH THAT ████ NO. I WAS LIKE, IT'S a ████ cute kid, but I was like, I'd
3:21 rather have a dog. >> Okay. Well, this guy, Entrepreneurs and Cars, he had a guide here that I thought was pretty interesting just just to like get a perspective on somebody who has dated single mothers and he has a bunch of things that he warns against, and I thought they were pretty interesting things. So, here's lesson one. The first brutal lesson that I learned is that you have responsibility without any kind of authority. >> Let's have a conversation about that. All right. So, what that means is you're going to have the responsibility of a parent with little to no authority that a general parent of the child enjoys. We've all seen this expectation to show up for holidays, for Christmas, for summer vacation. when you [laughter] go out for dinner and the bill comes and you're sitting there [snorts] with your kids, you're going to be expected to pay for the bill and feed them as well. And that's just how [laughter] it is. They
4:11 have the expectations. When I say they, the single moms, they have the expectations that you treat their kids like your kids. The problem with it though is that even though you will treat their kids like your kids, you're going to play with them. You're going to enjoy all the benefits that you would deliver to your own children, but you won't enjoy any of the benefits of a parent with having the the authority of being the parent, right? So, what >> that's pretty interesting, right? >> We've seen it happen. >> It's a very normie take. Yeah, we've seen it happen a bajillion times. >> Yeah, because it's true. It's kind of like where do you draw the line? So he can be daddy when he pays for things, but he can't like chip in when it comes time to actually be a father. Discipline, >> put rules down, boundaries, all that ████ It's like, that's my son. You can't talk to him like that. And it's like the ████ >> Think about what he does, right? He gets up, he wakes up, he takes a shower, he
5:02 goes to work, he directs JK News, and then he can't even ████ discipline the kid or nothing like that. It's ████ up. >> Yeah. cooks, cleans, bathes, >> everything. >> What was that? Lesson number two. >> Number [laughter] two. >> Be careful with that. All right. Brutal truth number two is single moms generally aren't looking for love. What they're looking for is help. Let me be very specific here. They want to latch the damn right. >> This guy is not running for mayor >> or he's running for mayor. >> Resourceful mayor that have developed for themselves >> as valuable men as they can latch their trailer to. You're going to think that they're looking for love guys, but generally when it comes to relationships, uh, it's men that are the true romantics, and it's women that are generally in business. Men are in love. Men, women are in business. Let's put it.
5:52 >> That's exactly what Hannah told me. >> She goes, I think men are way more romantic than women. Cuz she was like, >> wow. >> So, she here here here here's her her point to this, and I ████ and I never saw it this way. She goes, like, >> guys get smitten. guys will literally see a girl and play out this ████ I'm marrying her. I can't wait till the day that we have a family together and [snorts] there's so much of a movie that just goes down and I can't wait to like So like they try their best to try to like talk to them and all that and they're playing out these like things and she goes, "Girls do that too." But she goes like for women she's like it's very very it's much more utilitarian and it grows on you. >> Oh. Oh, >> they have to earn it. >> Yeah. >> They don't fantasize as much. >> I mean, for Jason Mamoa, you know, like
6:42 >> Yeah. >> But like it's different. Like she's like, "Yeah, we don't look at a guy that's walking down the street and then imagine him to being our husband like and then we have like a family, but guys do that all the time." And then she goes, "Guys will pursue. They'll write love letters. They'll do romantic s███." She's like, "Girls don't know how to um woo a a man." >> You know what I mean? Like they don't put efforts in. They're the they're the catch. So, I was like, "Damn, I never really saw it like that. I thought they were the romantic." Because they're the ones reading the novels and they're the ones like watching the this the romcoms. >> They're reading the novels to understand how guys are the romantics. >> Yeah. >> Often when I see guys who are dating single moms, they come into it with like this leadership hope. Like say they think they're a director, >> it's probably cuz they're like, "I could save you," >> right? Say they think they're like a director, like a movie director.
7:32 >> Yeah. or worse. >> But they haven't filmed anything. >> They haven't done anything. But but they but they come to find out that actually the chick is the director and they're basically a PA running coffee the whole time. And they but they don't find the out until later. >> Okay. >> Yeah. As an example. >> All right. Here's number three. We don't have to go through all of them, but here's here's one. >> Looking for love. They're more or less looking for help. All right. Real truth number three. When the kids behave badly, she will side with their crappy behavior. I've seen this personally and I've spoken to a ton of guys that have also experienced this. I remember before I got involved with a single mom way back in the day after I got divorced, I was talking to a friend of mine a few years before that and he was telling me how we broke up with this chick. They were living together and I said, "Well, what happened?" He goes, "Well, her kids were rotten." And I said, "What do you mean their kids were rotten?" I'm like, "How could kids be rotten?" You know,
8:22 kids are generally a gift is what I was told is what I understood. I had a 2-year-old at the time probably was what about her age was. So, like I'll paraphrase because he's taking a long time to tell it, but I bet I guess what happened is the kid they were like roughousing and then um once the kid couldn't like rough house and win, then he faked an injury to get all the mom or the mom to be like, "What'd you do to him?" >> And that was like a go-to recurring thing. >> What? >> Yeah. Where like if if he didn't feel like, >> you know, rather than have like when dads are roughing with their own son, they can't really like do anything. >> What are you gonna do? Yeah. Yeah, but then in this case it's always like get mommy's like care and emotion and so they he would always be on the losing side of that. >> I do think if you're in one of these relationships though, you need to set extra boundaries and be extra mature. So
9:12 when my uh one of my older ranking I guess like not my direct boss in the military, but he he was like a Mexican Brady bunch where he came with kids, his wife came with kids, and I was and I was super young. I thought I was like 19. He might he might have been like 27 or 28 and I was asking him how he made it work and he was like he had to be super upfront with the chick that like if kids ████ up he's going to whoop both of their asses and if she's not okay with it then they can't even date. >> That's tight. >> But I think coming in with your own set of kids does change the dynamic though because now you got a tribe of kids you're both but also I think the main thing is the guy's ability to shoot it straight with the girl. >> Yeah. Cuz if a guy can't, then the girl's going to walk all over. >> Right. Right. Rather than like >> I haven't seen any examples of that >> of a guy dating a single mom [laughter]
10:02 >> who who gets walked all over. >> This one's this one's pretty interesting. >> So I would love some some anecdotal evidence of if you could. >> And she was telling me that uh she was talking to this guy once who said that there's no 10 that are single moms. I was like that's confusing. Explain that one to me. And she proceeded to explain that she was very disappointed when she heard this, of course, and she didn't like it, but she said like, you know, if she's a 10, but she's got a kid, then she can't be any more than a nine. If she's a 10, but she's got three kids, then she can't be any more than a seven. You see where this is going? And what that generally means is like every kid reduces one point. So 10% of her value, you know, if you can put it that way on, >> she could still be hot as ████ What are you talking about? Yeah, >> that's like, oh yeah, Denise Richards in ████ World is Not Enough, has seven kids. She's a three. Shut the [laughter] ████ up, ████ >> No, no, no. Is Isn't that Isn't that
10:52 fair, though? It's not about her like looks. It's about her ability to be your mate in that moment. >> Oh, yeah. But guess what? Guys are willing to forgive for the sex only. >> No, for looks, boy. >> But marriage though. >> Yeah, not marriage. That That's the thing. They're not a hot ticket item where you're like, I'm going to invest everything if she's got seven kids. For me, I don't really mind like if she was a widow with kids, right? What I do what I don't want is having to co-parent with another guy. >> That's tough, too. >> That's cuz if he's not cool >> and it's like you might have to fight a ████ or like you just don't want to deal with it. But if she is a single mom because something happened, I don't know, like you know, he died and then then I'm like, "Okay, cool. I'll step into the role. It's fine." If you really like a chick and she has a husband, you're like, I'm just going to wait till he dies cuz I I can't do the ████
11:42 >> until you're 80. >> Also, I'm not going to be like I'm not trying to be like ████ an ████ about this, but if a a single mom is dating, like without being condescending to the fact that there is a kid, like that's a version of baggage, right? So, she's carrying something that whoever she's dating has to deal with. You yourself either need to have an equal version of baggage so it's mutual or otherwise you're just you're sub you're literally being like I'm willing to carry extra baggage >> so you better be ████ hot. >> Yeah. Or and and you [laughter] and and or you really have to love that kid. But that comes with the relationship that that that magic happens. >> That's like Jerry McGuire ████ >> Yeah. That it for sure happens. I'm not saying that's not the most beautiful possible thing as well. It's just you have to love that perceived baggage when you're first meeting because it's not somebody you love right away. You have to it's got to work out.
12:32 >> I just think it has to be like like they have to be puppy level of kid. You know what I mean? Where they're young enough that like you can like >> Yeah. You're not going to love like randomly like a 17-year-old boy who's already like >> defined his manhood without you. You know, like you have to have a relationship. I got to I got to give hella props to my mom because she was a single mom and at 14 she could have dated. She could have but she told me that like hey our relationship sucked and that you know I haven't been the best parent but because he's missing now our bond shouldn't like also be like splitting. So she goes, "I don't want to split my time between dating and like you." Like because my heart is broken doesn't mean that I need to fulfill it with another man. >> Damn, that's that's huge. >> That's mature. >> Throw then I was like, "This is the mom
13:22 I've always been wanting is someone to like level with me. Stop telling me what the ████ to do all the time, you know?" >> Was she still getting some though? >> I don't know, bro. But like >> the thing is she started dating when I was like in my 20s, which is fine, right? cuz at that age I'm not like she told me this when I was 14. >> It's not formative. Yeah. It's not formative years. Yeah. >> But then our relationship got so ████ good because she wasn't out there chasing dick and trying to fulfill her like pain with other men or whatever. >> So by the time I was like in my 20s, she was like, >> "Hey, uh, can I get married?" And I'm like, "Why the ████ you asking me that? Of course. Like please get with someone. You're bothering me now." You know? >> Go get dig down, dude. >> Yeah. So I was like >> my relationship with my mom was really good cuz she wasn't chasing dick as tight. >> This show is unbelievable.
14:12 >> Yeah, dude. You don't get this kind of honesty anywhere. >> The lessons that people can learn here that is so relatable. >> But I got I got lucky that she was so ████ honorable and mature. >> Cool. That is really good. Yeah. >> Let's face it, some people they have kids when they're really young and they they got a void and they just fill it the way that they know how. And she didn't feel like like, oh, I should find a partner in order to provide. She wasn't like, we got to like make more money. >> I mean, she was providing, >> you know, I mean, you know, >> that would back up the concept that women are in here for business, right? Like the idea that if you if you're a single mother and you have a kid and you're like, well, you know, it's almost my duty to date so I can find somebody to help provide. >> I assume I don't know, but I assume most women in that position would feel like that would >> Yeah, that's not that's not wrong at all. I'm just saying like that literally backs up the concept of
15:02 >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Can I just say is this guy kind of gay? >> This guy? >> Yeah. Because [laughter] he sounds like he's been burned. >> Hey boys, like here's the real ████ about single women. I'm like this is a little gay to me. Even if he's 100% accurate, you don't go online and make a whole video about it unless you've been kind of burned. >> He's No, he did. That's why he's clearly but like it's like he's talking in such absolutes, too. I just don't ever buy any of that. >> He ain't wrong. I I ain't going to lie. He ain't wrong. >> No, I don't think he's wrong. I'm just mean you a woman might not be attracted to >> but don't make it don't make it your cause dude like hey I got to warn everybody about these single ████ I I get what he's saying though because I had a friend that was going to step up and be a father for, you know, and then he was he was like 22 at the time and his dad was like, "Are you sure? That's a that's a big commitment. It's not even your kid." And then he goes, "Well, I
15:53 love her." >> And then so he was asking us and I was like, "Bro, like you don't even got a job. That's steady." >> So how hot was she >> going to be? I mean, she was pretty, but I was like, at the same time, I know you love her and but she's he was he got with her when she just got pregnant and then the other dude bounced. >> Damn. >> So, he wasn't even like ████ you know, like she she just got pregnant. She's like 2 months in, right? And then he's already preparing for this role. >> He went through the whole process like baby come out. When it became real, he ████ ran. And I'm like, you're a ████ piece of ████ you you young ████ thought that you were going to actually step up and do something, but when it became real, you ran away cuz it's too real. >> Damn. Yeah, >> he's 22, right? So, I was like >> I just I don't know. I don't blame him
16:44 either. But, okay. So, in his case, right, >> a lot of the stuff that he was saying it was it's true. I think she is just, oh ████ uh, who's going to take care of us? So, she just latches on to the first guy that she finds, >> falls in love. >> I mean, She goes to on the border at She goes to the bar on the border and just finds a guy. Dude, >> for the sake of the video, we'll just say the quiet part out loud though. Like obviously he's a because number one, single mothers have the hardest job in the world, period. So like, >> oh, don't ████ run for mayor. >> Yes, let me run for mayor. Let me run for mayor. We have to say it otherwise we're just ████ also ████ the whole time. >> Or or maybe he's just he's just saying things that he wished he knew. >> I think that's it. He's just warning guys. He wished he got this information before he got burned. >> He's listing the risks. He's not listening to these are going to happen.
17:35 >> Yeah. Like so like my friend saying he's kind of gay is also because he's stating them as matter of facts. >> He's not he's not listing risk. He's saying every single mother is this. That's that's why he's being gay about it. So I get it. So sure we've been dunking women the whole time cuz we kind of >> Yeah, but don't run for treasurer or whatever. >> Okay. ████ city controller. Whatever the ████ >> you're trying to ████ run a campaign. Imagine if my buddy saw this video before he committed vote for me >> and all this stuff. >> It's kind of like you understand what you're getting yourself into. These may be the risk and I think that's legit. Yeah. Clearly not all women is just one way. That's ████ to think that way. >> Thank you. >> Right. That's >> He's not ████ campaigning. >> He said ████ >> Okay. I vote for THIS GUY. >> I SAID >> he's talking about his own experiences. Like all these things happened to him. So he's saying like from what happened
18:25 to me, this is what happened. >> What I think of that is like dude, you're a naive sucker. Like >> you didn't you didn't check it out and go, "WHAT THE F███?" >> You just kept on slamming these single ████ with ████ kids. Like you didn't learn from any of >> As soon as a girl doesn't let me ████ discipline her kid. I'm just like, "Oh, what the I'm out. I'm paying for this ████ and I can't daddy. ████ that." >> But there are some guys out there who are willing to let everyone else direct and they don't have to direct the movie at all. They let the PA direct the [laughter] movie and everyone else involved and even though they're called the director. >> Okay, since we're since we're in it, let's just let's just finish this off. What the >> Oh, no. That's it. >> Oh, he's done. >> All right. Ken gets to buy a ████ house. Hey, congrats, K. He gets to buy a ████ house, though.
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