0:00 one time I got a phone call and it was this guy that was just like hey I'm your son and I was like no ████ way [Music] and welcome back to a special edition PG-13 version of the careful boys today we have dancing can sitting in the seat dancing can there it is right now I gotta show my moves off wow and uh Ryan take it away okay all right I was asking these fine gentlemen and Lady before the cameras turned on how did you ask your first girlfriend to be your girlfriend or boyfriend can uh me first okay geez wow you're a good mediator man yeah
0:50 yeah you guys work well as a team uh in middle school I was in eighth grade I had just moved from Gardena to where was it Garden Grove oh Vietnam to Vietnam okay good yeah so I I went to middle school and it was my first time going to school with a bunch of Asian people because normally I came from a school of predominantly black and Mexican and then I was like wow there's so many Asian people here and then I I would see the Asian girls I'm like wow so this is what it's like to see like yep boom and then to see my sister in a sexual way I didn't really know anything about dating or anything but I did know that I liked uh Asian girls because I was like man they're so cute I've never seen them before you know so I would uh hang out with my friends and then some of my friends would be like hey uh so-and-so likes you you want to ask them out I'm like sure did you know what that meant
1:40 when someone says ask them no I didn't but I was like yeah she looks cute you know sure why not and then uh after school she came over to me and we're like hey you know do you like me I'm like yeah and I was like okay let's uh get together I'm like okay sure and then we kissed and I was like wow this is wow that's very whole who are you Anthony Lee Jesus the thing we dated that's ████ it just went like hey we like each other just kissed right there she was cute too yeah no no she was super cute she kissed you you kissed her like who who went closer first that's fast so was that that was your first kiss yeah no I had a kiss like before that you player oh wow before that was kind of like a dare okay that's cool that's cool but still dude that's ████ but then that happened and I was like okay I guess I
2:30 have a girlfriend now and so we would like hold hands do all the you know coupling stuff like oh this is I didn't know how to process it and I definitely wasn't in love because I was like I don't even know what that is so that happened and then like a month later um my friends would tell me like hey you know your girlfriend cheated on you she's with this other guy and I was like oh really I'm like huh so that's so I was like confused but I was like okay I guess I shouldn't go out with her anymore then but I wasn't like logic my emotions weren't even like really like if I was hurt or anything because I didn't really understand it's too yeah there was no attachment to her it was more like oh I guess I'm in this thing now oh I guess she cheated on me so I guess I'm not with her anymore so I was just like okay move on did you talk to her about it like uh no I was just like yeah I don't think I'm gonna be with you anymore because this is wrong
3:21 or whatever and she's just like okay yeah so practical it was literally like that and I feel like my emotions weren't even really attached to it at all it was just like the actions of being in a like you know a young couple relationship it was a mock it was like a practice because you're still thinking about am I supposed to do this I'm still figuring it out so instead of me feeling Xbox well yeah my heart but then that actually taught me a lot of how to be aware of like relationships in general it's like okay what to do what not to do what's real what's not real because to me that wasn't even real like it was just like it just happened it was like a fast track trial run yeah yeah it was like a demo do you count that as your first girlfriend then yeah technically if you if you go with it but in would I count it as like a serious relationship not really no so what about the next girl the next girl yeah the next girl you got
4:13 in a relationship with like a serious one or because I don't did you have more of those yeah I did have a few of those where it was just like I just liked somebody and they just walk up to you and they're like hey I heard you like me can you yeah pretty much but no dude Anthony numbers a lot of that happened around Middle School to high school and it was just a lot of me just not knowing what was going on and everybody was just coming after your dick like quick no not after my dig I didn't I didn't have sex with any of these girls like during these relationships because I didn't know what that was like I I didn't know like I was super like unaware of things when I was that age so yeah but that was that was going on yeah it it was pretty wholesome up until like high school where I was like getting really horny I was like oh ████ I really want to do it now but I don't know how to like Express that let's dive into that a little bit well because the ████
5:04 out of each other no because like yeah basically they're gonna start fighting between them jeans because I lived with my parents and the because I was dating uh Asian girls their parents are super conservative so there wasn't a lot of like opportunities were they were they mostly Vietnamese as well yeah mostly and then oh and Korean too I did yeah I mean that's just how it is right but I feel like dating didn't really get serious until after high school like that was like the real relationships but then but that's when you were a superstar yeah that's true basically we can't be talking Superstar dating stories man you didn't have a normal life anymore but ironically like my first relationship after that happened where I became a superstar it was all all online like that one was pretty interesting because like we never saw face to face it was purely like text
5:55 relationships that's dope you could just delete them instantly it was dope but the thing that's not dope was I cheated on her whoa wait with another online yeah a little chat room with like this is how I lost my virginity actually oh you lost your virginity In the Heat of infidelity yeah because dude like I said the whole time throughout middle school high school my relationships weren't really relationships because I didn't really know what was going on right yeah you're just kind of going through the motion yeah and like I knew that this was wrong because you know I hear about it all the time but I didn't know why you know what I mean and then until it happened and I was like oh ████ I feel really guilty I feel this and that and I'm like I'm in an online relationship that's not a real relationship because like we don't really see each other or anything I don't even know this person like face or anything and so I was like damn you
6:47 don't even know their face along with you relationship uh just about a year about you you didn't see no because like I was because I was always busy they lived in like Hawaii or something and like I saw pictures of them and stuff and this was before FaceTime before like this was like iPhone two what What attracted you to them or what kind of chemistry was built uh I enjoyed conversations uh we laugh a lot we talk on the phone love caps lock hello it felt like like Love Letter ████ you know what I mean but like a step above that no I get you dude I get you how do you know it wasn't like a dude though prison well because I could hear their voice oh you would talk to them still yeah yeah vocally yeah but I didn't have like video chat so I couldn't like but that was in the back of my mind though it was like is this person even real like how do I know they're not like this
7:37 like super random person that does not look like their photo and that's when catfishing kind of came out you know and I started kind of losing trust in that relationship so I was like dude I'm just gonna do whatever man I don't care even though you were committed I don't even count that one that guy could have been a dude or something exactly that guy he could have been into her voice no but I'm not saying cheating is right or anything but I wasn't in a very frustrated state where I was like traveling all the time seeing all these other cuter girls and then I was just like man we're we're arguing right now I'm like ████ this ████ so I just went out and like did my thing yo it was pretty bad because like I only thought about myself the thing you did like the chick was bad huh it was oh you didn't have to say that was PG-13 man it wasn't really it was a really bad time in my life because a lot
8:28 of it I was very like not aware of things I wasn't I was only thinking about myself like it was a lot of learning experience and that was the time around like the tick tick Tour times where like we were just constantly traveling don't bring me into this man you know yeah why'd you look at anything like that because it was an exciting trip let me tell you how legendary this guy is you know what I'm saying no it was around the time where things were my life was just completely 180. so I was like trying to process things while trying to figure out myself and so that happened and I said you know what I'm gonna take a break from all of this ████ like no relationship whatever whatever and I was single for like a year or so and I was like I really need to just focus on not being a ████ dick like to girls because dude that's really nice because it sucks when I'm when you're only thinking about yourself and you just want things like oh I want a
9:18 girlfriend I want this I want that but then you know ████ happens and then you you know you you were learning though I like you know I I totally uh remember that time in your life too and also just the actual sincerity and the way that you were perceiving and receiving things you know and how you told the story right now you were like learning as you were going you didn't know these things they had to exp you had to experience it for it to happen you know so yeah to put in perspective too uh during the tick tick Tour times like you guys were selling out auditoriums so it's like a different type of high and feeling it was yeah you got to get on top of the world pretty much people are like ripping your costumes off on the stage and stuff like that you know yeah you can't you're a wild boy he's a wild boy know it was weird man it was a weird time honestly today's video is brought to you by Audible so I've been doing my flights now back and forth from the Hawaii and they're
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12:44 you know yeah so a lot I did a lot of stupid ████ I did like I got that's when I got into like drugs partying a lot drinking a lot and then it sounds like fun ████ where's the stupid stuff no the thing is like I I fell into like a major depression for like that's so stupid yeah it was it was bad because you're stupid because not only to relate to the story yeah because not only that there was like this whole guilt that was just looming over me constantly for like realizing all the stupid ████ I did in the in retrospect like this person that you heard what's stronger though guilt or ecstasy or more ecstasy dude guilt on ecstasy that's gotta be heavy yo dude remember when I think so dude I want to tell that story about me uh in Australia with the birthday cake ████ yeah yeah it was during that time yeah maybe you were
13:35 thinking about a lot of other things and that's why you snapped yeah probably but dude that ████ was wild but anyway yeah that was my first relationship damn that really led into a banger story bro honestly that's dope oh that was great like you gotta remember this is a tick tick toy we keep on talking about it from different uh times this is like where like JK films was that we were on the same tour together we were there but this is the tick tick tour like AKA it was like named after the poor yodes and this is the second the second one two so like their level of just the way people were just screaming waiting for them to come on stage it was just another level honestly there was there were chicks that were just breaking into the hotel that we were staying in you know I mean knocking on these fools doors and stuff like that and I was like why are they not I might do this they're just like knocking on these guys doors so I can only imagine
14:25 too like you're just in a world that's way way like you said 180 from what you're it's like everything is constantly given to you and you're not used to it imagine that like like one of the venues we played at it was uh like they said oh that Lady Gaga we're like what the ████ and then like and then so The Whispers we thought we thought like I mean we were pretty big we had a pretty big impact on the Asian American Community but we were technically the openers you know for probiotics to come out to close the show yeah so we would do our show and get like pretty good response and then they did the ████ like ████ lights out type ████ and then [Laughter]
15:34 and then they they come back out and then they come back in and then only one person knows only one person knows how to do flips so you always watch out for the shortest guy that flips dude no it was crazy time I wouldn't have thought that watching those shows that you were ████ thinking about your online girlfriend I was so the thing is Imagine like doing all this tour ████ and then dealing with like I wouldn't say dealing with but like I was in this weird relationship where I was kind of like not sure what was happening and then the I did I basically like chose the worst decisions for both you know like partied way too hard neglected there's no blueprint for that ████ yeah I know for sure but that's how you learn and how you become the person you are today though yeah yeah yeah I'm gonna get a little deeper into there in a little bit more details with personal stuff feel free to not have to share it because it's okay no I'm your boss at
16:24 the show everything go like after you know you uh ended up cheating and losing your virginity and stuff like what did you do after that with the online relationship like how oh I just ████ lied and ████ like I straight up was like yeah I didn't do that and then so and so was like well uh my friend saw you here and I was like oh ████ okay and then I just kind of was like dude I'm doing all the dumbest ████ right now that I knew was wrong digging the whole home yeah I was digging the hole and I was like dude why does my mind keep just defaulting to that I think it's because a big part of it was one I never had to be in this situation and the fear took over and then I was like you know what there's nothing I can do at this point I've like gone as far as I can the wrong way so now let's just close it out like
17:16 all right I'm done let it all go apologize whatever and then move on what do you say the fear take over is it like some sort of self-sabotage or something like the the fear of like uh I guess I was more afraid of um hurting them even though I'm hurting them worse you know that yeah like why else would you lie it's just to protect them from the truth right but then for some reason like it just kept going the wrong way yeah and I was like because you're trying to avoid the consequence of your actions over and over and over again by doing that not realizing that it's just making it worse and worse and worse but you hear these stories about why it's wrong but then I never really knew why until that happened and now I know because it's like dude it just feels terrible like it's the worst feeling yeah you know but yeah thanks for sharing thank you for sharing dude I'm fine now because
18:07 it's like I can never go that direction anymore because it was like the the deepest deepest that I could possibly go as like a person you know that was like over 10 years ago it was yeah yeah but then I'm so happy that it happened because like dude I'm like way on the other side now they're just like gratitude gratitude yeah you got your virginity back congrats yeah yeah so are you in a much happier place now and you're just like wherever oh yeah Everything feels way lighter like there's nothing that's ever like latched on to me because I just learned that like okay this is obviously the right decision and no matter how hard it is sometimes you just gotta go with the the hard way you know you don't be ████ freaky if you went on your Ayahuasca trip and you just saw nothing but black and then you just see typing and it says you lied to me oh ████ that's kind of scary mine is wild that's creepy that
18:58 can be like you start hearing yeah and then roll you ████ yourself the shaman goes what the ████ what's the sound of your performance in the background like I hear it a lot stories about this ████ happening everyone hears the stories about guys cheating and like this is the worst thing you could do as a guy but it's like when I see it from that perspective there's worse things you could do ah no way when I hear about it I can't I can't help but think like dude they're probably going through some ████ up ████ and nah not to be choosy because or they're just like super they're something in their brain is just not there where they're just not the only thing about themselves I think your situation where you cheated is probably more ideal than a lot of others yeah no I think it is because you're not living together you don't have a ████ kid
19:48 you don't know what she looks like oh strings attention that's a big thing outside of three pictures yeah yeah you only know what she looks like from three pictures and you think that's a woman's voice she's got gigabytes of footage of you to download all over the interwebs and you've got three photos for maybe yeah it's a little more healable it is but the thing is the act of me doing it even if it wasn't a real situation it still was it felt real oh yeah so but that's but that's correct that's because you're a good person you're totally wrong you ████ up and you should totally feel how s█████ that is but best case scenario though but yeah like what I said there's worse s█████ yeah yeah like Colleen keeps on alluding to there's definitely way worse Anthony what's worse share with the class Colleen ladies first well you said there's something no I've already I've already given it back to you you have to use a different number Anthony
20:39 this guy's a deflector yo all right all right guys let's focus so let me when I first you know got a girlfriend uh she came with me and kissed me and I was sick are you telling his story oh dude times out dude videos no that's dope though I think it's really cool to to express how guilty you felt because that's how you guys ████ learn is you have to take the ████ bullet and be like I ████ up and then you don't do it next time and then you allow that girl to go and take it out of the next guy because it's not your problem it's like everyone's getting from experience like after I learned from there like all my relationships became way more real way more wholesome and it just it just kept getting better and better you know you knew what you wanted after that yeah I knew what not to do thank God it didn't give birth to a pattern that's the best thing or just give birth
21:29 thank God the e-baby you know I got pranked one time I got a phone call and it was this guy that was just like hey uh I'm your son and I was like no ████ way he's like you remember that Australian trip when you were with so-and-so and I was like no ████ way did this guy sound like a grown ass man it did because I was I was like my heart started beating I was like what the ████ I have a son and then but he's a ████ like 19. and then guess who it was it was ████ Dave Watanabe dude ████ he was troll he trolled the ████ out of him so that's both we had him as manager for both of our crews yeah dude oh that guy yeah he told the ████ out of me dude he's funny as ████ yeah I was like ████ Dave dude got me because I believed it almost yeah so that means you still do have a son that's going on he just hadn't hit you up yet no no no no
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