0:00 so now I'm going to increase the difficulty mode on you Bart because we all know that you're kind of an emotional robot I thought you going to give me a compliment I want to ask you a question that that will perhaps make you look good what was an emotional moment with Gio where you were like can't [Music] compute welcome back to careful boys we are afraid of everybody today we're talking about a part two from the part one where we asked what was a moment when you fell for your significant other yet to go myself bomu and Joseph go so let's go Bart and then we'll go Joe and then I will go as the host I will go last wow so organized um for me I think that moment was in [Music]
0:52 20 it's ████ up dude no no we want to hear after we got the tattoo he's been so mean to me guys what cuz he knows he's in now he knows in and now he get we can't fire him Coast he can coast and he knows like our 10 don't call me now ████ he's a wild boy firing him would be the best because then people are like oh who do you have that tattoo with he goes the guy that fired me that's so funny can you finish your ████ story what is this '90s bully uh I think it was two yeah it was 2010 it's probably one of the most broke times of my life cuz I just graduated uh College didn't quite know what I was going to do just yet me and Joe were still figuring out if we wanted to pursue JK at all cuz um we were doing JK
1:44 doing College also working part-time so it's one of those things where like social media wasn't even a thing you don't have these ████ multi-millionaire ticktockers or anything like that it was uh very like watching this world getting built uh from the ground up and uh during that time I'm like ████ what do I do like I did just spend four slash five years getting my undergrad do I continue onto medical school or do I do this thing that I love but it makes ████ zero money I think like at that time our checks were maybe like 1,000 bucks every like 3 or 4 months or something so it's literally enough to like we shoot for 6 months and maybe we could buy a new lens or a new camera it was like and then maybe buy some granola bars for some people that shoot with with us and like that's it it was like zero money but we really really enjoyed doing it cuz we
2:34 would do it um every weekend we would drive down to the OC to film we would like pull all nighters to edit like it was just like a really really fun thing for us and we can see the community building cuz we started getting booked for shows already so we see momentum and movement and growth just not in the form of like monetary benefit and I think during that time and I I remember I was in um I moved in with and she was living with a bunch of like roommates her age and I remember uh sitting on in the kitchen I was just sitting on the counter and then like she was like standing next to the oven and I was like ████ I don't know what I should do like I'm like I need money I don't want to rely on my parents I ████ hate them and oh I think I was also still part-time military still and I was like ████ I still got to do the reserves and ████ I'm like what should I do and then
3:26 at that point uh she was like just pursue JK I'll support you and I was like damn what the ████ so the first one the Sugar Mama you just made you go oh wow yeah I was like that's ████ cuz no one's ever done that for me and I was like that's ████ cuz she was a Korea woman already she was a banker and then I was like what do you mean like I could just keep doing this and then you'll pay for everything she goes yeah I'll just cover it food whatever everything that you need you'll stay here and just keep going until um you figure it out and that was just such a mindblowing concept that I was like okay I'm going to take care of you for the rest of my life just because she said that so that was that that moment I can support you too dude you want but she was bluffing cuz you ended up having to pay for everything yeah she played the long game she played the long game
4:17 and she ████ it all she was bluffing she was bluffing I'm just kidding she was smart who would have thought yeah dude I think that changes like a regular boyfriend and girlfriend to more like long term oh for sure that's a huge step that's also a huge commitment cuz most boyfriend and girlfriends won't really how how long would she supporting you after that conversation she never did but the fact that she said that ████ played you dude you got got no I think it's one of those things like once someone tells you she never did I think once someone tells you you don't need it anymore yeah you know like the whole burn the ships concept it's like it's like it's like that you're like hold burn the ship burn the ships explain so so burn the ships is like um people say like never have a plan B so if you have a plan B you will fall on Plan B so burn
5:07 the ships is like if we go attack this ████ Island the minute we land on the enemy's territory we burn our own ships cuz we're going to ████ kill them and steal their ships and and sail back so you burn your own ████ ships we keep our ships and then we have a fleet yeah it's kind of a waste of so that's the concept of burn your ships I think that changes the relationship to more of an actual team that's working toward a future and investing into each other versus like what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours I hate that ████ yeah I really do no cuz I I do I know couples who are like you know well that's his or that's hers like that's her like this we keep the finances separate and all that stuff but you're not working as a team like the team part is the cool part like that's the best part yeah and the communication too cuz I can see how like just with Jill saying that I think even for me like the
5:58 expectations of of being a little more traditional in my head of like guys just pay for stuff and girls like run the house and stuff and whatever then that already goes oh wait so I don't have to pay for everything and you'll take care of me like that would change it for me too for some just to say that that's why it made me go oh ████ I better turn ████ into overdrive if she's that down and never have to tap into that like first aid kit so now I'm going to increase the difficult mode on you B because we all know that you're kind of an emotional robot thought I thought you were gonna give me a compliment no no no no no no no I want to get I want to ask you a question I want to ask you a question that that will perhaps make you look good what was an emotional moment with Gio where you were like can't
6:49 compute that's not emotional no no I think it's like she's a writer and you like yeah it's like it's no she I know what it means right she's going to be your writer and all that stuff and I think that's tight she's just calculating his EA do dude just like how's how's this going to work out logistically emotional moment say emot um can you use it in a sentence how about this is this emotional cuz I don't even know there was another Mo so my parents are ████ from Looney Tunes right they're not of this Earth Wy coyote they're ████ crazy and Tweety Bird when me and Gio uh we're living in uh my mom has like a property we live in the back it's like a little Triplex and we're living in this like garage one day out of nowhere me and J
7:40 are sleeping and we just hear ████ rustling and ████ like a ████ tree branches and like we just hear like all this activity and no one would be in in the back unless like you know so we're like okay so it's like either one of the roommates from the front or it's probably my mom then you hear like Keys jingling and ████ I'm like because my mom will never knock on the door she if she ask keys to she's just going to open it so she opens the door she comes in like hey Mom and then G's like hey like M what's going on and then she goes today I'm going to marry you guys and we barely been dating for like 6 months or whatever what this is a funny one yeah what so like I don't think I've ever heard this like Jill's like wait what she was like oh don't worry we're going to marry you guys love each other so happy so she comes and she sits us down you sit here you sit here and then she like holds our hands and stuff and then
8:30 she goes okay you love her right I'm like yeah you love him right and I'm looking at GI like I'm so ████ sorry my mom's ████ crazy and then and then J just looks at me like what the ████ going on I'm like I don't even know this is I I've been dealing this my whole life and then she pulls out Rings she like says her own crazy ass ████ vows that's like a mixture of Buddhism and ████ lunacy good combo yeah she puts ████ a gold ring on me gold ring on her goes okay now you guys are married kiss and then we kiss and then my mom leaves and uh the fact that Gio didn't leave me right there and like being able to like accept what the ████ is going on I was I was like dude this is this is pretty cool because I don't know who else is
9:20 going to accept ████ someone just having the keys to your place just entering and then just having the craziest what the hell iest wise ideas she'll just have them and they just happen and that was at like 1: in the morning or some ████ I forgot I was like has your mom like officiated or like ordained anybody else nope I I I remember when that happened I think her concern cuz she's so like conservative right was uh Bart and Gio living together and I think she did that to somehow justify it in her own mind and make peace with it cuz she's like they're not even ████ married or like I I think that's why she forcefully committed the marriage cuz that was so wild to me I wait I wasn't living with you at the time but I was down the street I think maybe yeah but it was so
10:10 wild to me that I was like what the ████ and then I was and then I think like I tied everything together and I was like the motive sounds like she couldn't get past her traditional ways so she had to construct something to justify it the fact that we're sitting here it's like 10 years later still trying to figure out what the ████ that was about is why it's so odd yeah pretty she's ████ have you ever asked her about it no I just move on there's too I wonder if she even remembers well she's adopted me against my will really yeah I like the against my will like I don't want to be adopted I want to be a she walked up and she well so for for some reason she thought I had she she didn't think I had Parents I'm not surprised it don't seem like you do yeah yeah she was just I'm like I have a mom right and she goes I am your new mama now you going to call
11:00 me Mama and I'm all like huh and then so she was trying to basically tell me like don't worry like I'm your new family and I'm like I got tons of relatives in California like I'm good like I got family and she goes no no no I'm your new mama like you could call me Mama I'm all like that's very loving of you but I'm like laugh way my mom works the way my mom works is she thought I was some orphan with no parents the way my mom works is like this create a conclusion act on the conclusion and then go oh why don't you tell me that's that things go so when me and Gio got married in Hawaii Gio had like the roughest uh relationship with her dad and they had like a a threeyear like silent period even at the dinner table they just pretend like didn't exist right the like and then it took a lot
11:51 for them to rekindle everything and then they they they uh formed a way better relationship after when we got married and in Hawaii um we were going down like hugging and crying like all of our parents and Gio was and and was hugging her dad and they're both crying and sobbing because I think like now they she's a full- grown adult she's marriage is able to make her own decisions and then kind of like putting all that crazy trauma and past behind and it's a thinge where it's like there's the people that are like at the like altar the doing the altar thing and there's the audience thing my mom puts it upon herself she gets up and then she walks over to that Embrace that has been like overdue for two decades be happy
12:41 come on be happy and trying to separate the two I'm like Mom sit the ████ I think this might even be in a vlog sit the ████ down Mark goes and grabs her sit the ████ down my son's good cuz she just made a conclusion like she thought he was sad that now like the daughter's getting married off and then later on I explained to her I'm like no they haven't talked for 3 years whatever whatever she's like why did anybody tell me I'm like because you don't jump to conclusions first dude bring your mom on JK dude and the time traveling auntie I need a hot seat I need a hot seat with Bart's mom yeah dude she's cuckoo man Steve's going to get to her Steve's going to figure her out I'm I'll figure I'll crack it Jo takawa dude uh I feel like our
13:31 relationship has been anything but uh predictable and traditional like there's orders to how things happen right but it almost feels like the way that we got together was like almost like we got married first and then like a traditional traditional but then in the beginning you know when I visited her met like when I first met her in the UK and all that stuff like that was just normal like modern like just hooking up like who who would have thought like you know it's so long distance right there's no intention of that going anywhere and then we both were in the same mindset of like I just want to have fun like a lot of people it's difficult to have something like
14:21 long term with because of maybe our experiences or whatever but we just kind of were jaded not bitter but you know what I mean like just kind of you had a lot of luck and love yeah yeah so it was like but we're still human and we want affection and we want you know all that stuff so I think that was our mentality going into it but along the journey I just felt like there was nothing stopping me from moving forward every step of the way whether it be like emotional or intellectual or like through everything there was just there was progress that didn't feel like there was effort yeah you were an emotional match yeah everything just balanced and it felt easy so I think that was one thing that was so different cuz it's like most people have to work to court there were differences and things that we didn't quite get yet and like yeah we
15:12 fought like in the beginning where we're like misunderstanding each other but I think getting back to that Baseline and that Comfort was um much more different but I think the the biggest pivotal point cuz I think like relationships to that point can be very if you been into a lot of relationship it can be kind of similar where it's like yeah everyone feels butterflies when they are infatuated all that stuff in the beginning right it it happens very commonly but the pivotal point for me where it was like marriage and the of of of the first sh was um I think she's the first person that actually understood me and was able to communicate who I was to me oh ████ so so like maybe I couldn't articulate my intentions or how I felt or maybe I
16:02 was um misunderstood by other people so they told me who I was like maybe someone told me like oh you're unromantic or whatever right and I'm like oh maybe I am they branded you right so then maybe cuz I didn't know myself very well I just took on that definition of who I was and I was like yeah sure but then I think um she said there were moments where she was just like you know you're a very romantic person and things like that and I'm all like huh like I've been told I was was cold or like whatever or I'm not that good at this and that she goes no it's cuz they don't know guys like you and I'm like you're exactly like my dad or you're exactly like my brother my brother shows love this way and I'm like oh and then so she's like yeah people just don't know how to take love the way that other people give it they wanted their they wanted their way but she goes you got to meet in the middle she goes it's like the whole love language book right it's like some people give it a
16:53 certain way and then you're over here getting mad because they're not loving you the way that you want it to be done or like they're not see they're receiving love that you're giving yeah and it's like everything is just having empathy for both and not getting mad that like people she's like I get it if like you you're annoyed of the miscommunication but she goes I don't understand like how people react so angrily to someone missing the mark yeah and I was like oh ████ yeah that's probably what happened where like I was missing the mark and then I was getting blamed for it so I was just like I'm going to just give up why even try right and then so I was like that was like next level to me cuz I was like wo ████ I never had someone not only understand me but help me um connect better and then it made me made it an open
17:44 environment where it's like all right well how do you like to be loved and let me try to experiment and it was the the space between us is we have a really like cool um it's almost like this like free safe space to just try like doing ████ without there's patience there right so like it's not like um you know she communicates how she wants something done and then immediately if I ████ up I'm reprimanded for it which it's happens a lot in so many relationships cuz whatever is going on in in them or me or whatever like it immediately gets into a fight cuz people get butt hurt but in our situation I think she's created a a a envir and this is not even me doing it this is all her she created that environment where it's like it's just a cool loving
18:36 space you feel safe you can ████ up and fail and and she'll help guide you instead of punish you yeah and it goes both ways cuz now it's like I'm learning from that and it's like oh ████ this is what a good loving healthy space is cu she loves you yeah seriously yeah that's what it's all about yeah but I think that that literally was the moment of like oh ████ I didn't even know these kind of relationships existed and then so um why I'd be stupid not to you know be married with her and like keep her forever you know yeah was there an um same question I asked B is there like an emotional moment like a like a Eureka um moment that happened I mean obviously what you just shared is very emotional but was there like a something some kind of argument or some some some Catalyst no there's I don't think there's catalysts but I do think like
19:26 it's it's a it's a um it's a collection of tons of moments that basically confirm every single time cuz it's like it it can't just be one thing it's like a a mosaic yeah like everything added up and it's like oh this is completely different um yeah I I I don't think we've had one moment actually where it was like a big kind of thing you just built a big strong thing together I think yeah there's so much complimentary things everywhere that it's hard to not appreciate it yeah what's what's your love language um I think it's acts of service and quality time but like I and amount of weapons that so far gifts weapons we try to do all of it but I I think what's
20:17 cool about her is like if I tell her like um if I'm lacking somewhere or like if I don't take the initiative to do it it's not that I don't want to it's just I'm not trained to express that way so just I know it might be weird to and it might be unromantic for you to just ask cuz I think like sometimes people like to surprise or whatever and then I'm like but you're going to have to just be literal with me and then so I think the cool part is that she accepts that and she goes all right so when she wants attention she goes I need attention right now or she'll be like yeah can you hold me right now and it's like that's the best thing cuz then it's I don't have to ████ guess Nikki does that to me too it's the best but it's so much more easier than like why aren't you doing it already and it's like what the ████ ████ what the that's so mean you know like
21:07 yeah but yeah I I think that's the cool thing is the the ability to negotiate and communicate yeah well you guys just have this the matching love language like it really is I think that's that's the that's the other thing too is like we don't have to try hard to be not who we are like we already can exist and and and be that and then there's no pressure huh I really disagree with people who say that relationships are so ████ hard like to cuz to me if you got the right match it's it's really easy and it's convenient it's like nice that your partner does things the like the like matches you so well that like when you you do something or you ████ up they pick it up and like you're good like or like you can you can conflict resolve really quickly because you have the same emotional intelligence did you have a pivotal moment with Nikki so it was like a catalyst so for me and Nikki it was so
21:59 yeah we got together it was hot and heavy right immediately I love that that's the best we date we go on a date date hard then the next time and and she's already like texting her friend like hey do you want chicken or steak at the wedding when her friend goes how's it going right and it was like nuts like we were just having such a seamless date and we'd already been friends for years right so then um that probably helped that cuz you guys already knew each other and who you really were without trying to impress each other and I already really liked her as a person and we had a great ball busty friendship which is I need that I cannot be with somebody who worships me or whatever the ████ I need ball busting or worries if you're literal or not thank you yeah you get you actually get me really well it's pretty funny um some ████ but but um say loud but the moment for me it was like our our second date and
22:51 we like go back to her place and like we're not having sex we're making love like like it was like wa it's a slow thrust that's a crazy ass thing to it was insane bro it was insane like it was just like we both were it we were both in that like that weird you had your legs wrapped around her and stuff oh yeah give us more details she had my she had my legs she had my legs over my head she had my dick on and she was dting in my she had your legs Steve had his ████ ankles behind his neck dude he had a pillow under his low back he was like let's do itang do it mommy like make me sick dude Che and then um no but that I mean after that like and we fell asleep in each other's arms and all that ████ and the next morning I wake up and like my all the blood on my left side's dead cuz I was
23:42 like holding this ████ all night and stuff but I wouldn't have had it any other way didn't want to move even like it was just like holy ████ I had never made love like that that's a unicorn moment to have that so that was your first time with her and you already knew yeah like that was the wow I know it's like ████ fairy T ████ that's mainly infatuation for most people and then it just gone I bet it probably had something to do with you guys knowing each other cuz it's not it's the big prerequisite cuz the infatuation is usually like when you or when you meet someone fresh yeah and you don't really know them yeah I'm not going to say I know for sure but I don't know how that didn't help you know what I mean like of course it probably helped but did she agree on this one she was like we were making love or she was just like I was just pounding you she's like I was just taking your I was just taking
24:32 your pee peee yeah Steve's all like it was so romantic and magical and then ████ Nikki's like I needed some dick man I haven't ████ in like six months she like I made that dick my ████ no it no it it's something we always talk about we talk about all the time and it was just like a definitely a catalyst um for us and then um you know after that I remember also one of my favorite things she ever did for for me was I was going on a trip to see my brother graduate from the Air Force and ████ and like on my way leaving she gave me like this like whole package of like things that she had made me of like you know day one when you're gone day two when you're gone day three when you're gone day cuz I was going to be gone like for Monday to Friday and like it was like like a she had like written me like letters and
25:23 like yeah it was like so cool and and then she had done this really cool thing too where um so like you know I'm big Colts fan stuff like that so she got like a Marvin Harrison Jersey who's like a Colts Legend right and she's wearing the Marvin Harrison Jersey and like these really cool underwear and she sends me like these sick photos that she took and sick photos send some back did you send her some she's like bent over like opening her butt cheeks all the way open and ████ you know what I mean showing me that whole thing oh my God and that honestly like during I think I missed her so much that I was just like you ski the guration you like ████ it it's the that movie where they're running the other way and he's on the phone like no yeah I was there I was there yeah yeah it was
26:13 great it was a great thing yeah you didn't see me I was there and honestly it just gets better with us every single year like it really does like we're just so close and like I call her the magic lady cuz when we kiss it's just like boom B bo bo bo boom like the fire man that has nothing to do with the fact she pays all your bills she pays for [Laughter] everything she us a St for dick dud that's what she uses she she's like I'm going to take care of you forever and I'm like and then she actually did it she didn't go back on her work yeah know she didn't go back on work I lose this money they just sell cars like hot cakes
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