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Should You Leave in the Middle of a Bad Date?

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0:00 it's like the worst case scenario woman's exit like if she just popped a squat and just started pissing on the chair I'm like I'm so sorry but I need I'm out of here if my dat just start just like said you said and she's just like she starts peeing I'm like oh sh all right this one's a really quick one just um we need to help settle this debate that's going on among men who are dating okay I'm engag if the date is going very badly as a guy or actually as a woman too do you ditch the date without paying or do you actually see it through wait do you mean just bail on the person bail on the like you just stand up and walk away and leave if it's if it's going

0:50 really really badly not as in like oh we're not connecting but like's the being very like yeah like we're at dinner yes I never been in a situation where I I I can't never always you always see it through no matter how even if she's like calling you racist or something I don't know cuz of how you like that sounds like a fun date though she sh she saw my JK video she's trying to cancel you yeah just like if it's going maximum badly that you could possibly still see the day through I I would politely get up leave pay for the bill and Say Goodbye Oh you would pay yeah I think so too if it's like the worst case scenario's exit like if she just po The Squat and just started pissing on the chair I'm like I'm so sorry but I need I'm out if my dat she just like said you said you and

1:42 she's just like she starts peeing I'm like oh sh he's like this is too freaky see this at what point would it would it be worth like walking away from your day because that's just that's just crazy like what I don't know like there's no threshold yeah I don't even know in that scenario if your date just missing squatted on her chair I'd be laughing too hard he would love it in fact he'd be like here's a 100 bucks be like yeah I'm pay cuz it's a story right but there's I don't know I think yeah what is the threshold let's say she's being really really rude to you and the server well I'd probably be fighting with her at that time if she was rude yeah yeah yeah but then like do but then at this point did we order food yet is it a good is a Place restaurant is

2:32 the restaurant really good it's good cuz I'll probably fight through the meal cuz I took time to dress up and eat oh so like shut up you ████ ████ and I'm just eating I'm like all right whatever D I'm punishing ████ we're yeah I mean I'd actually pay for both of it cuz either way I had a great entertaining time wow you would just ride it out different okay like I've never been in a situation where I felt like I needed to run if I was present Ed with that there's probably a good reason of like oh this ████ is psycho like she's going to kill me like she told me about poisoning her ex-boyfriend and I just don't feel safe with this girl or like if I thought it was a scam that's when I would leave I think it's I think in these examples that people are thinking of they're less extreme and they're more just like oh um this person's being really obnoxious I don't think that

3:23 constitutes like it's a bad date yeah it's a bad date so when I was waiting um tables I saw this really sad ass sit it was weird right where um these you could these like Eastern European dudes picked up these like Asian girls or whatever on on Colorado and Pasadena I know they were strangers they probably just just met them yeah so they brought the group there they were eating and then like the girls weren't really like flirting back and then the guys were trying to getting they're kind of getting touchy and ████ and then like the girls weren't responding well and then so like they just bailed on them and left them with the bill and then and then the girls were like what the ████ like we barely ate these are they were like pound in alcohol drinking eating they barely order a tight move a tight move so I was like and then the manager

4:13 was like yeah but you came together like I don't even know these people and then I'm all like ████ that was my table too and I'm like ████ man that sucks for that time when it's your table Yeah but it I guess that's the I've never seen anyone bail on anyone I think a lot of these people in this discussion have done that they've bailed on people they've got up and left without paying and they just ████ walked check for the girl yeah but did they order something yeah like at least pay for your portion at the at the bare minimum I think if you're if you're a chick and you're like y this dude's you should you could leave for sure like you could leave without saying ████ but if you're a guy I think the is that because of safety like you just never know I I would imagine I would agree with that like I think it's if it's a girl like who cares like if you're a guy though I think you price pay for this ████ I don't think walking out is would

5:04 you walk out on a date clean if I have oh and did what caus that situ can we ask what what happened no you can't I want I was just I just wanted you to say no can he ask about the situation yeah can I ask okay you ask her she'll tell you steak was well done was good we set it up we set it up boys we got it we got it we got it I want to know what made that happen yeah but I didn't I didn't walk out as we were eating or things were ordered youed properly said hey no than did you sit down you go oh ████ that ████ it's TI oh exactly hey hey what's up you're Daniel look you're not the photo that's you look nothing like what the this is not you that's not

5:55 you that's exactly what happened well so so what is it you sat down and then like what is it that you what gave you the a well the thing the it was kind of one of those where Like A friend brought a friend for you but you weren't really a part of it but you kind of dragged into that situation yeah it was a feel out it was an ambush day it was a feel out Ambush type situation um and then you know your friends kind of leave you and then it's just you in this that sucks um and it was just it was nothing against him it's just I wasn't feeling it and so he he didn't do anything wrong per se there didn't do anything wrong per se he just no magic no magic none he should done better than could even was it not only no magic but there also just was like just zero common ground to talk

6:45 about anything was that it or like what made you go like I'd rather be somewhere else most of the time I think that i' rather be somewhere else cuz I have more fun on my own time than than with really yeah I think that every time you talk I think I'd rather be somewhere else we can't wait to leave right now like ████ no no um she's like that with all of us it's okay yeah so what did you say do you remember yeah did in that in that last 20 seconds you're like sorry bud you're whack I got to go this was so long ago this is probably like over 10 years ago I don't remember for btim what I said to him um I think it was along the lines of like I'm so sorry I have to leave have a great night at least you said something you said something that's different that's I'm go to the bathroom and then just never come back yeah no

7:35 like I have no issues with telling the person that I have to leave so in these cases are they being told or they just walking away they're just walking they're just piecing out okay wow not even a farewell of any holy ████ H it's like that man you know what ████ this and then they just leave I want to know the reasons why and how they did they're all different but it's just like it's just the fact that they're doing that at all is kind of but everybody got their line though you know like once talk to somebody and if you feel like cuz we might might see a date play out and we may not see like oh that wasn't that was kind of ████ up interaction but that guy might have said something to the girl or whatever or hit a soft spot you're like you know ████ you I'm out of here take a personally and leave like there is that one video I think it's like an Indian guy and he's on a date with like a black girl or something and they're in the car and then she's like so mean to him oh cuz a Cheesecake Factory wait what's the Cheesecake

8:26 Factory I just noticed the ████ teach he has every right to leave her at that point I agree with that he actually left that date you know what what B like I'm just like someone was mean to an Indian guy yeah what was the back story of he took her to Cheesecake Factory and she was like are you ████ serious Cheesecake Factory really she said I love cheesecake first date all the options you can imagine everything's goodes it wasn't just that he took her to Cheesecake Factory is that he was taking her to a nice place but she was late so they couldn't get the res anymore oh so then the next thing he could do was go to Cheesecake Factory and she was like are you serious look at this like I got ready for cheesecake well that's interesting cu the context that made it seem like that that was a video that blew up was that he promised

9:16 her this nice restaurant and he thought Cheesecake Factory was a nice restaurant that's what that's what people were thought but then in the video he's he's telling her straight up like no I told you we're only coming here because you're an hour late like an hour is that's complete grounds for I think this isn't going to work out you we go yeah that's exactly what he said but what I don't understand here is how do these guys get into all these situations with like these horrible dates like I've rarely had horri well because like yeah I vet them like can't you tell from text what kind of a person they'd be how long do you stalk them before but you got options some guys don't got options that's true you have you have op you got options no but okay you got options Jose choose but no my question is guys can't choose that much not not even options but can't you tell just by like don't

10:07 people ████ text or just have a quick chat before they see them and some people don't have discernment and some people are so desperate that they'll do anything for wow some sort of connection so okay that's that's true so so you're telling me that some of these dates it's just hey uh click on Tinder hey uh let's go on date Friday and then they're like yeah and they just ████ really people are so bored too I also don't think people are intentionally dating with the purpose of actually finding like a a soulmate or a connection you ever talk to a single person it's just a yeah it's a I never dated that way because I I actually want to vet them to make sure that my commitment to that time is going to be fun like I don't want to ████ show up there the good one but I don't want to show but even even I don't I don't want to show up and then just be like ████ I'm wasting 4 hours on this ████ so what's the worst date you've

10:57 ever been on I don't know if it was like in your experience exactly like just nothing no connection food was she ████ took forever to eat that was probably like the worst one maybe she was scared of eating her what kind of food was it I think it was Vietnamese food the Vietnam just just put it in your mouth just here let me help you eating in slow motion your J relax your J yeah she was an extremely slow eater here let me just let me help you here if I grab right here your jaw will just click was she old I don't know I she had weak teeth she had denters she like 75 she's 75 years old he vetted her for 15 years he was like she didn't have Dentures but by the time I asked her on

11:48 a date she had the other thing though too is sometimes you're talking on text and it's lit and then you meet and it's just nothing that's true I remember one time I went on a I went on a date it was similar to like Colleen's thing was like a double date and like it was it was cool and then I met her and as like literally the first exchange when I heard her voice I was like I'm out yeah yeah out I'm out and I didn't talk to was her voice do an impression of her voice it wasn't it was it wasn't her voice it was just like it's just the high pitchess and it's like the like the the how long she would take to kind of like how you would say how long she would take to eat how long she would say at her words it was just it just took too long just her being rubbed like you're not no patience no patience these two yeah this person is taking forever eat and this girl is like are you going

12:38 to finish are you your food she sits down with Nick and just goes so here we are Nick's like oh ████ dude he like Nick you look really cute uh I love the way you text your text style is so attractive no but it was like it was the way the girls were interacting with each other too and I was like yeah just don't think this is like and I I just left I left I left you you didn't say goodbye kind of you kind of like why you were like yo peace out see you later no it was still like we're still ████ bunch of young idiots so it's like you could just like leave and it's did you leave money on the table how oh did you pay yeah I paid for my but I just left yeah I PID for my I just left Nick like I I felt physically uncomfortable like that's what it really was saying were saying they were saying the n word a lot yeah and I was like that's not that's

13:29 not okay I think the worst thing that's probably happened is is like the girls didn't look like what their picture were that was that was the worst have an experience like that I deep cut it was me and it was me and Steve Tado we were in New Orleans and then we uh we hung out with these girls and then we went to this like club and we're on like this mezzanine looking down at people partying and these girls just started saying the n word like crazy white and were we go they were just bagging on everybody and then like mad normal me and Steve were just like what the ████ you're like I've never been this close yo because it's just I guess that's we were just in that climate so you stayed the whole time right oh bro we had the greatest night say the best night no no no but then it's just like crazy that like that would be a situation I could see someone walking out on because it was so like so jarring there's some

14:20 places in the US where they are like you're weird for not talking like they are and it's just like holy spot like if you don't act racist yeah because they were clearly they weren't they weren't even like let's see let's say it and see what happens if they're like on our team or not they were just mad comfortable test testing testing dropping the Edward let's just test it out I was like they've been doing it for years I could see that being a walk out one because it's just like that could be trouble right what if they take too long to finish their sentences that's worse yeah is that a good problem I walk out if I think that she's she's um bait bait like if she's too young no no no like she's like this is a sting yeah like she's like like her boyfriend's going to rob you and yeah yeah and it's Medan if you're in columia he's like so

15:12 if they're going to steal my liver or any sort of vital organs I I usually try to [Music] SC

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