0:00 thank you [Music] welcome back to careful boys we are very careful boys and today we're talking about what was the most intense moment where in most situations say you're in you're in a relate of your relationship or in a relationship where breakup was imminent where you accepted something that maybe your younger self would have clowned on your ass for accepting wait I totally like started thinking about Dubai what's the what was you just said do you think about peanut hookers no so what was the most intense moment where in in most situations breakup is about to happen but you accepted something where your younger self would have clowned on your ass for accepting because you wanted to save your relationship
0:50 like something simpy anything whatever anything anything your younger self would have clowned on because yeah your young violated your younger values whatever it is all that if my younger self saw me now he would have thought I was super homosexual I mean at the brink of breaking up though like where you were like you know where you did something oh no I look at my younger self like he was the he was the homosexual there you go get him at the brink of I think we're trying to do the whole sentence but you're not you don't have an older son you don't have an older selfie yet in this scenario it's just every relationship that's really important if you're about to break up yeah you only want to stay together and so you kind of you know how like David so has a story how he dropped his knees and grabbed their ankles it was like like that like his younger self would clown on him for
1:40 that yeah did you have a thing like that Yeah I broke oh we I broke uh broke up with my first girlfriend that we like had a lot of virginity times together too and then like um we had long conversations after and then she was like she did the whole like oh uh I I think uh we can still be friends thing so in my head I thought like oh that means like it's a break yeah and then been there and then so but then she told me she still loved me and stuff like that and I'm like how you make it confusing just ████ just chop it off don't like make it confusing like that I don't know what that means especially when you're like 17 you don't know what that like gray area love thing is right so I was like I ran out of words to tell you so on her voicemail I just started like playing r
2:31 b songs so she knows how I felt because it expressed better than what I can say which song Brian McKnight so you guys got back for sure [Music] ████ Boys to Men okay the river the rivers run dry one kid you were a teenager would have been like this guy's a ████ loser dude that's a whack move D that was me at the time and I looked back like a month later and called myself gay yeah nice as you should well handled yeah the r b thing that's nice yeah because that's like I don't even think do do kids now or like teens now go to that I feel like they probably send a Spotify playlist oh yeah like what song are you trying to
3:21 tell me recently didn't Boise they still tour yeah but do like is that thing a thing still you know like like it's so common back then to like use songs as like a I can't express myself but this will now they send voice memos dude probably oh oh no I don't know probably not or Snapchats or some ████ damn definitely Snapchats Spotify playlist yeah probably Spotify playlist like I made this playlist for you I'm thinking of you they probably do something like that yeah man that's sad well yeah being on the brink of breaking up does drive you to do some pretty stupid ████ yeah for sure especially when you're a teenager yeah or your first love or your first love like yeah like over using your phone to call them or text them oh God picking up
4:12 like that is the most cringiest thing and you look back you're like oh my God just shut up shut up stop calling and stop saying leave her alone leave yeah yeah just keep digging your hole Yeah Yeah Yeah girl that I was like talking to in high school and I like thought I loved her and then she you know she she met she was over aim and she was like you know like I don't think we should see each other anymore I remember thinking like I still love you you know something and then she was like cool this is over oh thanks it's all good baby like this would be great and in my head I was like oh it's gonna be a break but it was like the way I reacted to it was like I was so ████ like sad I didn't want to eat were you crying while typing no because
5:02 at the time I was like I was like fine I was like okay he cried in this ████ I cried in the shower that would probably be one where I was like oh you have all your clothes on too dude I did the thing where you slide and your dad's like quit jacking off in there yeah and I'm like all right as well he already said [Laughter] those little Chinese those little Asian stools did you get like the little kids tools yeah yeah we had one in our shower and I was like sitting on it like the little four-legged ones in the corners it was like a little like bear on it or whatever oh God ████ dude that's definitely one where I was like I felt that one for sure I did that mistake of like hey like how are you how are things so I've been thinking yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah just
5:52 just oh we can fix the situation yeah yeah I came up with some solutions yeah yeah yeah so like I was tripping like I'll be so different this time I think I was um my first girlfriend that I ever had when I was 16. we um this was like I think when we finally broke up like a year and a half later or some ████ we would I ████ did this it's not this is not that remarkable but like we were we were in front of my house in Downey like breaking up and you know it takes forever when you don't know what you're doing and uh I think like at one point like we're standing on the uh the curb and then at one point I just like was like what's the ████ point man and I backed up where I'm like in traffic and I'm like waiting for a car to come to like I'm not gonna I'm gonna dive out of the way yeah yeah yeah but I wanted her to like to like grab me but she was just like looking at me crying
6:44 and I was like what are we ████ doing man it's like and then a card game this is like middle of the night and the car actually came ████ and he's like obviously not going that fast because see me and I'm just standing here looking at her and he like stops in front of me with his lights on and he's like hey what the ████ going on she just like pulls me you guys do this thing where you guys put your foreheads together like yeah exactly like I would obviously and then we still broke up anyway yeah you know but that's a good moment though that is so hilarious stupid like why the ████ would you when you're that young dude yeah did you see these exact situations going on in the world when you're driving around you're like what a ████ loser and it's all from movies
7:34 dude yeah the other day I heard this couple from across the street in the same alley where the another fight was breaking up uh there's a couple a young couple they're probably like maybe College they were just like yelling at each other I told you to stop ████ you're the girl was like you have a girlfriend and you're you're trying to talk to me like this and they're crying and yelling at each other in the in the ████ alley and I'm like who the ████ is making all this noise and then Tiff is like she's like go check out who it is and I go look and I go oh babe you gotta hear this I'll walk I'm in my underwear too I walk all the way outside I'm like what this is crazy like other couple fights are pretty entertaining oh for sure but it's not you yeah when you're observing of course because you get to see like them like double down on their emotions yeah and
8:24 just like take it to the next level in the in the argument like oh somebody snapped it is sad to see when like sometimes you catch a girl on the phone and you know that's kind of what's happening to her and she's just crying those are sad yeah those are pretty sad fights did you you I feel like Colleen you never had something like no that's what I'm saying I was that person as a teenager like cry let me text it a whole paragraph like write a note um so you were sipping yeah you were like like for breakups or something like that like even if I mean maybe I mean now I know so I'm a little bit biased to my own train of thinking but as a teenager like you think that's like the end of your world you like you think like this is real so you know you end up being dramatic about it mine was when the girl too are you
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11:48 leather backed notebook so let's go buy like a notebook that was like you know the ribbon that you can like yeah College line paper it needs to be something where it's like cool this is a Keepsake you know yeah yeah she's gonna cherish this and then I was like and I remember um I remember also finding a pen I was like what's your favorite color green [Laughter] so I remember writing all my feelings out quill and ████ and then writing out like the life that um that I imagined we would have had oh my God that hit me good then I gave it to her and then she actually read it in front of me
12:38 but then it still didn't work out your reaction oh what was her immediate reaction when she read it you know where she read it you know the garage you know the the 619 yeah there's these like trees but my mom likes to collecting three steps I don't know why true we just had tree stuff free stuff to sit on she likes like wood and ████ okay so she said they were like ghetto ass tree stumps that you would use for log fire oh so they're not like they're like this big redwoods they're like this big and if you don't carefully sit down and get a splitter yes so there's like one that's there I'm seeing trees tree stumps so you invited her over to read it yeah so I can like because I knew if I just talked to her I would lose track of my train of thought so I wanted to ride it she reads it so
13:31 she and then that way like we can kind of talk through it didn't work out what did she actually say was she like it's still not enough you know what was cool about her she um was really positive and she like it felt like she really empathized on how I felt but she just wasn't in the right place to be with me right because she still has the guilt of but she didn't make me feel like I was a ████ creep you know so that was cool she was very nice yeah that's a sweetheart move but then later on you think you're like why do you treat every person like that's gonna be your last person you know uh sure like as you get older you're like every person that's like like you're gonna meet so many people in the world like why do you treat it like this is the last person you're ever gonna meet like why did I even imagine
14:21 this crazy life yeah movie The Notebook with with her I think when you're younger you thirst so hard you can't control it and their new experiences though too yeah like when something's so new to you you think man like this is all that's all this is it right until you start learning a little bit more I have one of your bracelets that you gave me at home so it's real we have to get married everything's so meaningful because it's the first time exactly yeah that's true and then it's it's literally a drug like the way that you feel so intensely in that teenage level like it's just the first time for everything it's so it's like your first hit of weed you're like oh my God and then you're eating that hamburger on weed for the first time oh my God and you had this hamburger before but not on weed you know yeah yeah yeah and I feel like the same thing with just the flirting and the in the romance and
15:11 all the highs that you're getting in in those teenage years it's like it's hard to follow that up older and I think it's because like it's not the very first and then your your emotions and hormones are crazy yeah so I feel like yeah you can't regulate it dude when I was 18 and I broke up with my girl I had a community college dance final which was like it was its uh Cypress College you know the Cypress College theater was like a kind of decent theater so we had to do our final all the people in dance classes or dance uh programs got to like perform at the theater and like friends or family whatever would go yeah and then uh we were already broken up but she came anyway to like kind of like patch it up or something so she's in the audience and I saw her and I started dancing oh
16:01 dude you're ripping it sorry you're tearing it up but it's like so stupid because it's like I'm doing a ████ College dance show yeah but you proved to her that you're like he's dancing and your sneaker's all squeaking but also I'm I'm I'm absolutely no one at this point either so it like but I thought it's funny that at your most nobody you think you're the most somebody oh yeah you know what I mean do you think she's staring at you the whole time that's the best thing or I think that I'm doing something cool at all yeah but yeah we didn't uh I I left right after that so I never talked to her or saw her again yeah are you sure showed her I sure did you ████ served her right you know though looking back at all the relationships that I desperately wanted to keep like because because you just oh the pain hurts from breaking up and you just don't think you'll fight
16:51 another I'm like so ████ glad that I it didn't work out and it you didn't stay for real right you see them and they're just completely different people who they are now I was with a cheating ass ████ and I was fine with it she was cheating on you yeah she cheated on me and you wanted to keep her I didn't care I was like yo I love her I was like man I'm so into this ████ anyway and then I was like how old were you this was like my second serious relationship so I was like mid-20s got it and I was like dude this and she like admitted to cheating on me how long were you guys together we were together for like three years oh so you already kind of committed yeah I was I was hella committed yeah yeah and then she admits that and then I had to say something kind died in me for sure like something like that trust was just gone but I just I just thought I loved her so much that I was like you know I was like I'll push we're gonna push through yeah
17:42 we're gonna work hard yeah and she didn't even because because of what she did it wasn't like she was like ████ and sucking and getting dumped in and ████ because if that was the case I probably couldn't have made it happen it's getting dumb she like they like just did like a little kiss I mean that she'd love well she was a she was pretty forthcoming about what had occurred maybe that's still like truly cover up [Laughter] [Music] if I'm honest he won't think that there's more yeah okay preemptive yeah everything there because you never really know right right it's like we just had a little kiss and then you you rewind to what actually happened and she was going kissing the dick exactly
18:35 turned out better anyways I did yeah but that's the thing is I I already because like I remember I remember talking to Nikki and she she told me she was like I remember you always like used to talk about this chick like you guys were like set you're gonna get married and all that ████ and then she's like one the one the one time that you were like she was like how's it going with that and then you're like um you think you're gonna get married and ████ and I was like nah nah and then she was like really and after that that kind of also she knew you and you knew me during this yeah and then um she was like oh ████ Steve we might not be ████ getting married this ████ after all and then but that was when I had I had found out that she had cheated so it just completely changed the way that I saw my relationship how long afterwards when you found out where you guys it's two months and we were done oh yeah dude and then how long after that were you with Nikki I was ████ Nikki youth
19:25 in seven days so romantic been ████ her ever since like oh so you're not getting married great come with me you should you should have said I was I've been stepping on her head since I have been yeah yep well I started stepping on her head three years ago okay so it's a new thing oh yeah I started double stepping we got to keep the relationship back yeah it's funny too how like you know like you're thankful that you didn't stay with all these like different people in your life but then sometimes you look back and you're like ew I was with that but it's like also you just changed too yeah they are all they all turned out whack yeah it's like you just kind of also maybe you were a little whack then too yup yeah or your waxes oh thank God right yeah it's probably Mutual in many ways and they're right we're all right as a kid or like even me
20:16 like the Romeo phase of like I love love and all this ████ um I would have definitely taken a big shot at me for staying with and cheating us cheating ████ yeah and that's that was I definitely looked back on yeah Jesus you would have sacrificed a good chunk of your own self-esteem exactly there's girls that I felt like were gonna be married and have kids and I can't wait and then like I was devastated when it didn't work out and then now I'm just like damn dude I wouldn't be able to have this life if I chose that one and I thought that one was gonna be so much more better but you just don't know because it's my imagination of what I want it's not the truth and I think that's where guys really sabotage or just young people sabotage their own mind is like you are so sure of the outcomes because you just
21:08 want to relieve yourself from the current pain that you're in so you you just have a imagination of what the outcome will be with the partner that doesn't even want you back that's the ████ weird ████ your true feelings right now true yeah thanks Joe why you just brought up old memories dude and I'm ████ pissed about it but you're you're in a better situation now yeah but you know but the memory of that point just think of someone not wanting me dude is just ████ soul crushing hey but there's times when you didn't want others too right so it goes kind of both ways I don't think he has oh wait never mind he doesn't have the same experience though I don't really have those experiences dude he only has one that didn't want him and one that maybe doesn't we still don't know like she said yes but every day I'm like
21:58 are you sure are you sure about that yeah you sure about that most people have experience of going back and forth so you do have an incredible success rate though if you think about the amount of relationships you've been in oh dude you're killing all of us killing everybody yeah he has a 50 success rate he's been in two and one worked out and at the end of the day it's all about dedication and just mindset and information yeah so if you guys want to buy my course on relationships exactly [Music] foreign [Music]
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