0:00 I think it's consistency of like the relationship like it that's what it was for me it was like that's so sweet the consistency of my relationship sounds like I just settled no but it was just like it was just going like this and I was like yeah [Music] and welcome to careful boys well we are currently afraid of everyone all the time and today we're talking about the moment that you realized your partner was the one was there a situation perhaps they said a phrase a turn of phrase they they touched you in a weird way I think we should start with Nick you know why because I feel like all of us have a little bit of life experience so so I think through life experience you're like okay no I don't like this I kind of like the Toyota Camry but Beamers are kind of cool and you're like
0:51 oh you know but I really like the Lincoln right for you he knew since high school yeah you're like Hyundai and then you're like I want the Hyundai the rest of my life yeah he was like Elantra all the way yeah I'm dead no he got in his driving school car and he's like I don't ever want another car yeah two steering wheels student driver stickers two steers never won another one how did you know and how did were you like I don't care that I'm only like 17 the most dumbest time of my life and make a bad decisions but I'm gonna stick to it how'd you know look me marrying Tiff total mistake me staying with her for ████ 15 years total mistake okay so this is gonna be kind of lame but 15 years you're a high schooler yeah yeah so when when I when we started date well we were always friends and I just always thought um it
1:42 was definitely not just one moment it was just like okay I think we have similar values we have similar interests and things that like uh what kind of values did you have in high school though whatever High School values you have in your head no but what do you have like I thought she was very loyal at the time I thought she was like a real sweet sweet gal you know and I just thought she one she would laugh at my jokes that was ████ very important it's a good value so you may you felt important and funny yeah probably because my values in high school was if I got down is she gonna jump in yeah that wasn't my value at it and then the other one is now if I went to jail is she gonna stay loyal yeah I felt okay so you take that don't laugh you know those are probably yours too but but you take that mindset and I felt like I felt like she was that kind of girl for me like she'd always have my
2:32 back I felt like she uh she was a writer you know hers the way she was with her family I like that I liked the fact that she would spend time with her family all the time and she wasn't a ████ slurp you know what I mean she wasn't a she wasn't out here hoeing these streets so I really like that I went in these streets talk about my high school values if we're thinking about the lens of what I was thinking about that and then that node it down to one I feel like that's at least 400 yeah but then you're so ashamed a lot of people but they if they like it but if they like me back oh that's that's when it was like that that brought me down to one I think you brought it down to one that's one of one man yeah you're right one so if you like me that's a big one dude it's a red flag yeah if you yeah if you just hold my hand for five minutes I'm like I think I'm gonna marry you but honestly like that was part of the the mindset of of
3:22 how we started doing I just thought she was like I just thought she was a good person I really felt that you never went like but what the ████ isn't there other fish es yeah but that's the other fish ideas mentality I I felt like I talked to a lot of different people and I felt like she stood out differently yeah I would talk to like random people here and there and I'd be like oh there's something that it was more of a feeling really especially it was like you were doing test drives somewhere else we just we just hit it off did you ever get the feeling that like if I don't get her now someone else will and then I'll never get to somebody wow one of the homies was trying to holler and I was like and that was one of the first time I had to have a conversation with them and I was like hey man back off that's mine you knew I was talking bro like you better ████ chill dude what are you saying you really had that conversation I didn't think I was ever that guy but I did I did have that conversation dude I
4:13 rolled them all the way up here was she laughing at his jokes huh was she laughing at his jokes you know what's funny is like back in the day he was trying to like like dunk on me all the time oh he's like in front of her yeah it was he was like Dave Chappelle and Nutty Professor yeah yeah yeah yeah he was like dunking on me and I was like oh and I remember from that day on I was like oh okay this is gonna be the thing it was he so he didn't even really like her he just wanted to I don't know I don't know or maybe that was his way of trying to dominating you in front of her so then it's like yeah and he was trying and I and I was thinking I was like okay we'll see when you when you confronted him was he like May the best man win kind of was he kind of did have that energy really he kind of had an energy and then you got her and then what happened what did you rub it in his face nah we just didn't really like I would have made out in front of him all the time I'd be grabbing that ass in front of him [Laughter]
5:04 just making out with her with your eyes open looking at him this dude was a little Casanova like he would he would holler he had like so many different girlfriends like he was he was like one of those guys oh yeah I just remember I was like nah bro you ain't gonna ████ but she's like disposable to him like you just watch the next one I have no idea like the a lot of them are like that yeah like he's not trying to plant yeah long term he could have they could have gotten married it could have been them two you know but um but at the time no never ████ never ████ that dude they probably would have had Rottweilers Rottweilers but yeah I just think at that time I just that's how I thought I obviously my vision was this scenario you know what I mean but I just felt like it just it was easy to hang out with her it was easy to crack jokes and have fun and it was it was easy to have a relationship with her but that's that's what got you in a relationship with her and then you're like prom king
5:54 that's just important to know because that's amazing but when was it like you know you're like I'm gonna tie this knot it took ████ 10 years dude wow 10 years like year nine eight when we really started have a conversation of well I just always imagined like yeah like I'm with you so my intention is to be with you for as long as we can make it work right but once you come to that conclusion like what was the thing that like tipped it over the edge I think it's consistency of like the relationship like it that's what it was for me it was like nothing really changed that much to the point where like um that's so sweet the consistency of my relationship sounds like I just settled no but it was just like it was just going like this and I was like yeah chill it was a moment but it was it was
6:44 like proof over time right it's like it's like this person has my back uh I think the word might be reliability or like yeah yeah that's true like the trust and the I think I think romantic stagnation like still water I felt like I couldn't it was more of like I just wanted to be with her all the time like that was it like that's what it really was like I did it wanna not hang out with her anytime I would hang out with other friends I'd be like man it'd be great if ████ my wife or my girlfriend and all your friends are like God damn she's so annoying you know but it just that's what it kind of was it was just that uh I just ████ loved that bra dude I ████ love that hey [Laughter]
7:34 yeah just comfortable yeah they didn't have to try no it was just easy dude that was so romantic those CUNY I love that ████ I mean I love her we should go to the answer one with the least demand experience doing one who has had a 4 000 person body counts that's not an internet rumor at all because that means she really stood out yeah first of all she had to I just settled dude okay fine she was a needle and a haystack how did she stop it how did she stop you from your player ways because weren't you going through on a rampage to like Sweden turkey wasn't it like like an Indiana Jones map and your plane was like going all over the ████ place I heard dancers are as promiscuous as
8:26 traveling I heard that too okay ████ no just no all right that's probably why you get sick all the time you're ████ all the time yeah your old STDs are come back isn't there a term for that what like when you crack your knuckles and ████ okay anyway trying to try to follow the Romantic channel it's hard isn't it it's ████ hard we're on the magic carpet here okay Whole New World all right all right we're gonna we're gonna shut down everything you said don't sing it guys we're almost out of time we're all married guys we're gonna Zing you dude okay so uh to be honest I think I mentioned this before but to be honest uh when I first started dating Nina we went on one date and then I went to like China for like three weeks and I totally thought it was gonna end is that the kite date yes it was okay yeah your first one is that romantic experience I can never keep up with you man that's experience wait remind me the
9:16 kite day real quick he went to the beach and bought a kite he's just ████ romantic you already ruined it for him after this ████ romantic I think the difference is women should get with dancers because they're romantic but if you want to get with comedians your whole Life's a joke and if you want to get with the fighter he just wants stable yeah I just want you to have my back home I don't want you to do things for me yeah so so I wanted like a three week trip so I was like I don't know if this is gonna last but I just ended up talking to her every day still and I was like oh ████ this like works out but that was like the beginning of my like hardcore travel like entire generation so I was like I was never home for longer than three weeks at a time for like for the next like six years today's video is brought to you by coffee meets Bagel so if you've been watching this OTR I know you're curious about
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11:49 that like in a weird way also kind of kept its like stagnant I could never get too far into or out of the relationship it was always like maybe we'd get in like a fight and then I'd leave and the distance would make the heart grow fonder and we'd come back and be like settled you know what I mean or like maybe things were going really really great and then I would leave and then it would be like oh ████ I just miss her and then how come you didn't want to keep it open because you're traveling so much you didn't want to go hey like let's just I think I was just getting older I think when I was like younger like before I started dating her and I was traveling like from time to time I wasn't traveling as frequently but I was still traveling I think that was like definitely it's always fun yeah but um but you're like young too you know what I mean so like you just have different values you just want to you know make sure she don't read on you when you're in jail yeah now you're thinking those are 16 year old morals but that being said uh I
12:40 I feel like I was just you know I was never really able to like evolve the relationship because I was only home for like three weeks at a time so that was like all the time we get together and then also for her she was like you know going into like you know uh like not not a shoe finished undergraduate and she was going into like getting her extra credit to get into like uh you know her her medical school type stuff and and whatnot so like she was on a whole educational like higher educational phase which was really really focused as well um but it wasn't until kovid actually so kovid was when I had to stop traveling and then she was like doing homeschool and stuff like that you know our online courses and we got stuck in this little ass artificial Box by ourselves and that forced us to stay there and you remember that was like months that we weren't allowed to like go out and it was like lockdown and so that I feel like was the ████ first time we really got tested
13:31 if we could like do this thing what made you guys even want to move in we were living together from like 2000 we started dating two hours out of convenience like maybe we should just move in with each other she had already started living with me in like 2000 17 I think and would you know just like sharing the spot because other than that she was like basically either at like her College apartment before when we started dating to like living back with her parents or whatnot so I was just like you could just move it with me you know and then you know she was just kind of kicking out my spot and then from there it was like we were living together in Arts District and then she like for real we just had to stay together and I feel like that was our first real test you know and then like when like maybe a month and a half went by and I like wasn't leaving and I was like seeing her every day you know when you wake me you can't escape there was a part of me I was a little concerned because I was like I've never done this with her before yeah but it just got way
14:21 better and it just like ████ evolved into this place I just had never experienced with her before and then you didn't want to escape and then from there I was like you know what she's just my girl yeah dude I love that bra I just love that bro you know I want to lock down this relationship yeah we should get shirts that says I just love that bra that's like the most Boomer ████ ever [Laughter] she's sturdy she's she's a good bra she's a sturdy bra she's stable because the laundry great and she's reliable she makes a mean casserole um and then uh so I just feel like it was maybe 2019 2020 that part of all
15:12 that covid uh time took me to like really just fall in love into different levels and not be able to leave uh and it was it was then that it was during covert that I proposed to her that's tight yeah that's tight geez so yeah love that broad love that love it it's a good broad good Broad okay that was very sweet I hope you guys didn't interrupt him the whole time what's going on because they ████ hammered me at the beginning who are we gonna popcorn Bart he knows how to tell a good story too yeah I don't know Ryan because he's one of the more recent ones oh yeah we're all married he is it oh yeah um mine's super super clear because it was like at a time I think she actually caught me at a really bad time uh because that's when I was like living in a house that I was having like parties
16:02 every other day and like I was too much a ████ yeah well I was just hanging I was just he's like yeah I wasn't trying to like hang out with any one person ever too much of ████ and then um and then she came along and we had been friends for years we'd even like worked together and done certain jobs and then um once I started hanging out with her more uh I was like still kind of on the fence about it I was like I don't know if I want to like put that much time into it and she knows this and I was just kind of like do I wanna keep doing this and then one day I told her I was like Hey like I thought it was so ████ being so honest and cool I was like hey just so you know I'm kind of hanging out with a lot of people right now so I don't know if I want to like stick around
16:55 [Music] booze normally guys don't like I thought I was doing a cool thing but like let me let you in on what's going on around I love that voice just to be like but just to let you know I'm transparent it's so yeah yeah yeah I thought it was like I thought it was so cool for being transparent yeah but it's such a stupid thing it turns around with a pipe in his mouth yeah this is when you do this chair thing gotta let you know they're Shades too a gentleman never tells how many but you know and then but then the thing is she's because of your friends like she's seen she's seen me be myself my true actual self I know she never saw me turn it up to be cooler or be anything else and she's been to those same parties and everything so she gets
17:47 the environment and then when I told her that she had this Vibe of like [Laughter] as if like me telling her had some real estate she's like why do you need to tell me that like you you don't it felt like you don't have me so why are you saying it as if like you're not doing me a favor and I was like her name is smack yeah and I it literally like I could not stop thinking about her after that damn now she's the player player yeah did you pull your hat over your eyes [Laughter] it was just a thing where like and I I never had somebody like just be that
18:38 confident about like dude I have my own life like I'm not revolving around you you know what I mean like I'm I may not be here tomorrow you know it's not just about where you want to be yeah and I was just like ████ dude that's dope and then um it just made me you know like when you meet a girl that just does the opposite of so many things you're used to you just are like so drawn to it and this was a positive thing because it it took me out of my own stupidity my own like ego of like I make all the decision about my life from blah wall it's like yeah you do but also like in when you come face to face with a person like that it's so 50 50 and like to even think you're 51-49 is like bro like chill out a little bit you're silly yeah yeah so from there it I wasn't I wasn't so like
19:28 it wasn't so much that I was like oh she's the one but I did know whatever she is I don't think there's any others of that so that's where I started to take her like more seriously and I was like I need to just be a better ████ human like this is scum the next day you're like just let you know like I've been hanging around less people now and then she's like oh my God oh my God as I'm like in a hammock with a martini how do you Court her after she basically just ████ packed the ball out of your ████ face but that's that's the thing is I I don't I didn't Court her because I would have courted her if I thought I was the ████ but because of that I was like dude we ████ know each other I don't need to like glitter this ████ up I'm like hey like play games or whatever let's go do things that we ████ like
20:19 okay and that's it like you want a ████ banana custard that's our ████ day you know what I mean like I'm not trying to like you know go on ████ Carnival cruise lines and ████ it's not that that's like the coolest thing but it was it was very like it was the most like it's up there though it does sound like I've never even done that before we're all gonna do it together so watch it we didn't feel like you have to like put up a friend or be extra about anything you never felt like I want to get to know the real smack I want you to know who the real Ryan is that's the problem is that well not the problem but like the cool thing is that when you're I never dated anybody that was my friend because she saw you in your true element ever and I think like when you reach that I was like we don't have to be like what's the real you what's the real me it's like we ████ know that let's just Wow Let's just sit in the pocket more that's a friend zone
21:09 Love Story yeah yeah it really was like uh I it's crazy how many years I've known her and like and then we got closer in just the most like I guess genuine way like no fancy ████ just nothing but like what's your life what's my life was just ████ parallel that ████ A little better yeah that's tired that's a Libras that's cool all right we're gonna have to do a part two on this one guys because we still have three more wait wait I love that Brad oh I'm looking for one huh foreign
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