0:00 [Music] Welcome to another episode of Sweep Shop, boys. Okay. Yeah. Today we're talking about what's one thing you learned about relationships that you wish you knew when you were younger. You know what I mean? It's about the journey. Oh, you know what? I really wish I knew that. Like I think I placed a It's this already's answer off the bat. Sorry. But I I wish I like when when you're younger and you're a guy, I think you you know like when girls grow up, they have that feeling of like value instilled in them from like their parents, they're like the princess. Guys have to work upward for that. And I think you as guys, you end up always thinking the girl you're with is the best you can do. And I think
0:50 that's where like you hold on too long. And I think I would have liked to learn that like, oh, that doesn't really apply. Like there's like a feeling of you you you get disgusted at the thought of being with your second girl that you were dating or third girl because like at the time you would have like fought for every way to keep that. But like what a ████ waste if you did that. You know what I mean? And I think it would have been nice to like know so I could so that I could walk away sooner without your heartbreak without straining it so goddamn hard. We were both simps. Yeah, but that first heartbreak, I think it destroys everybody. Yeah. What a way. Not a heartbreak. No, for sure I did. You did? Yeah. The first girl. The girl that Yeah. Yeah. The first girl that I really But I thought Tiff was your first girlfriend. One and only and everything. I was talking to this one girl. Put it in him. He's talking about the one before. Put it in him. Yeah. The one
1:40 that pegged me the first time. Showed my showed me where my G-spot was. Broke his hyman. Yeah. Yeah. She did it like this and she went and he was like, "Please stop. Please stop. Please stop." U. But yeah, I I was like really I really liked the chick and it was one of those situations where I felt like, oh, she's the only girl that likes me, blah, blah, blah. All that kind of simp nonsense, gay mentality. You think you'll regret it forever when you let her go. Yeah. But then you realize It took me a year. Yeah. It took me a while. And then you realize like, oh, yeah. And then you find someone that's like, "Oh, this is the complete opposite of the last person I ate. This was like way sicker. This is way better." And then you're like, "Oh, this is great. I should be looking for something a little bit better." you know, there's something that is um plus you change a lot and that's a part you don't ████ factor in and it's something you had to go through so you understand that like oh yeah I should like yeah you're trying if you're in a
2:30 relationship you should try to provide some value to that person especially if you're a guy but then if you just do everything for this person you're going to lose yourself you know and I feel like that happens to a lot of guys that are sing hard you know the simps and they get left out to dry it's a lot about losing yourself and then and Yeah. Yeah. And that's where my inspiration was. That's where I learned that. Okay. You got to Did you play that song over and over while you cry? No. Oh, no. Dude, isn't that I just cried by myself in my own shower? Isn't that such a relief to know that you didn't fight that ████ hard like for these exes that are now gone? I thought I was going to get back cuz you could have probably like strained it till now. Mhm. And I'm trying to make it work. I was always just trying to ride so hard that it just made no sense eventually. Like like eventually like you're like wy coyote walking off of a cliff and you
3:21 don't even know it yet. And then one day you finally look down and you you fall cuz then that's you're really just doing that for you, which is the dumb part. You're just you're just trying to stay true to your scruples, which really ████ makes no sense. And that person that you were with may not even needed you or asked you to do that, but you're like, "Oh, I'm going to do it anyway cuz I'm that I'm that guy." Watching a movie of you and you're like, "What would I do to be badass?" Yeah. Yeah. It ████ sucks. Yeah. Once I stopped seeing life as a movie, it really became painfully obvious who who who else was doing that. Do you like when people go, "Damn, bro. Last night was a movie." Oh, ████ all. I feel like you like that instant face punch, too. Yeah. That like preace it. They go, "Tonight's going to be like a movie." Yeah. Though the top those guys are the best hang ever, though. Yeah, for that one night. Yeah,
4:12 cuz they'll they'll put on a show. Yeah, for that one night. They'll put on a show. But some guys even take it farther and they're like, "My life is a movie." Oh, sick. That's bio. It says that movie look at my life like it was a movie to be completely honest. And I think it got really good when I started to understand that movie is a comedy and life is just a comedy. My life's a documentary. Funnier. Mine's a tragedy. Mine's a porno. Mine's a porno. Mine's a porno. Check. I thought it was sick. That's gross. So, it's bad acting and just constantly sex. Everybody who comes to my house like eventually like music starts to play and I'm like, "Oh ████ are we going to ████ mailman comes, he ████ you. Pizza delivery comes, they ████ you. Homer comes, they ████ you. Everybody starts taking their belt off, some weird music starts." He's like, "My butt is tired, man. My butt is a movie.
5:04 I really just thought you were here to fix the internet." Hey, but your life's a movie. Yeah, right. Neighbor comes over. Never boring. ████ you. Can we just turn the music off? Stop coming over. I wish stuff would stop breaking. Got to stop answering my door. Something that you would have wanted to know early on relationship wise. I feel like you probably have a better answer than mine. I just not overthink so much. Not take things so seriously. Especially as a kid, you go through so many different phases. That's so true. Yeah. Everybody I know when I meet when I like I I know a couple people who are like, you know, you know, their 30s or 40s and they're like just very intense for some reason. Everything's so serious. Like there's so much pressure to have something at a certain time. Yeah. I can't relate to that anymore cuz I was like that in my teenage years and I grew out of that.
5:54 But so I feel bad for the people who never grew out of that. You see people in their 20s and 30s still being intense as hell and 40s like intense. There's a girl there's a girl that I know that's currently she has a teenage daughter and she's currently at a war with her daughter's boyfriend who is like really abusive and it's got to the point now where she's posting on Facebook publicly all of his texts between her daughter and this fool is like straight up telling straight up telling her like I will hit you in public. I don't give a ████ Like he's mad that So the source of this argument is he's pissed that she didn't say that her ex was circumcised. Wait, what? Because because he's not and he's mad and think and accusing her that she likes uncircumcised dick more. What the ████ That guy's amazing.
6:46 Invite him on the show. It's a comedy. It's a comedy. So she leaked she leaked all of his text on her Facebook page and it's kind of like getting out there. Like it's kind of cuz she's like I don't know what to do. She and cuz her daughter based on her like ████ value system is like adhering to all of the things he's saying. She's like I'm sorry. Please just don't be mad. And he's like no ████ you. And she's like please. I love you. Please. You like his dick better than mine. No. I know you like his dick better. No. I promise it's not because it's uncircumcised. It's because it's bigger. Yeah. It's so ████ weird. And it just like reminds you of like there's a lot of dudes like that that really are so embarrassed. You ████ love them more than I do. Yeah. It's so stupid. That's the bad I want to meet him. I want to hang out with him. Yeah. I mean, that's that's an easy hit for a girl. You just have a small dick. Yeah. Yeah. Ever say that to another guy? Hey. Hey. It's because he's uncircumcised. It's not because it's
7:37 small. But aren't some small dicks really cool? Yeah. So much better. They say personally speaking. Damn. Yeah. That's really messed up. This is a um so serious when I was doing This is so simp. When I was doing like research to figure out like how to write my vows and I was just like looking up different things and trying to you know, you know, you take time to just like figure ████ out. It's a big ass. Uh, one of the things my buddies told me was how he had heard about this idea of like relationships when you vow to be with somebody is that you're not just like making a promise to like be with that person through thick and thin. You're making a promise to be with that person and also the person who they're going to become because it's not always the same. Yep. So, I feel like with relationships, especially if you're in one for a longer period of time, we all mature, we grow, we adapt, we change, and different
8:27 things like turn us into different versions of ourselves. And it's like when you get into a relationship knowing that that person that you fell in love with is going to change and you're going to change and it's like you're committing to being okay with that change versus being like oh I got with this person because of this but now they're like this so like it's not going to work out. It's like yeah it's like people who say it's like it's like oh man that's not the person that I got with initially all ████ Well you didn't grow together bro you didn't you didn't that's what it is. Why would you want the same person? That makes you a pedophile. I've been saying that for years. There's so many expectations. I know. Make you a better, but but when you start hitting your partner with that, you're not the same person I met. It's like you're you're just using it as a weapon now. There's nothing productive happening. What can they what the hell can they do? Exactly. I mean, like, did they have a
9:18 crazy moral value shift that's like now this person's joined a cult? And it's probably not that extreme, right? But that's the only time I would take that. It's like they're not the same person. I ████ man. Yeah. If they start doing like crystal math and ████ Yeah. It's like that's like Yeah. So many things like can mature a person and change them, right? It's like they're a new career trajectory and like the way that they need to output in order to like chase that new dream of theirs or like having a child like you no longer live your own life. You become somebody for somebody. You changed ever since you had a kid. No, but it's so negative cuz it's like you could you could cheat without cheating. That's the best ████ ever. Your wife ████ changes her hair, ████ becomes different, gets into a new hobby. It's like ████ like that's the best. The auto cheating without cheating. Yeah. You get to ████ break up with your
10:08 old girlfriend and now you got a new girlfriend, but it's the same girl. You call her different names. Yep. And Stephanie. New identity. Stephanie, what's your style? Without cheating. Stephanie, you get a new job and ████ Yeah, dude. Nikki lightening her hair up a little bit. I'm kind of like feels like I'm cheating. New person. Does Nikki like knowing how like does she know that you really like trashy ████ Oh yeah, she knows better than anybody. So does she trash herself up for you? Yeah. No, she does. They bought a trailer just to play Just to play the role. You know, like when we're going out and like it's date night or whatever, she wears like trashy ████ That's so cool. Do you wear trashy ████ Yeah. She doesn't like She doesn't like being in trashy ████ She likes me like button-up shirts and ████ like that. He wanted to wear his Puma print jumper,
10:58 but well, the wife beat her in a gold chain under. Come on. She wouldn't let me wear my pacer hat to the to the wedding I was officiating. I was like, how did you make I think she made a good call. He had to wear a fedora. Oh, you know what's one thing I would have liked to know? I I wish I learned that you don't you shouldn't try so hard to get a girl to like you. Yeah, because like you you're instilled with that as a dude. You're like, "Oh, I need to like conquer this or like win her over." But like the harder you try and if that's not really you when the relationship starts, s███'s going to be bad, man. Like you got to you got to follow up your own act. Like don't do ████ that's outside of what you do on a normal daily or even selling yourself too hard. It's like you really want to impress her and give her a whole list of accomplishments you've done and ████ but it's like at that point it's like you're just bragging and you're just talking about yourself the whole time. With a resume, you know, people
11:50 watch that again out there. Some of you making it all about you all the time is such a huge mistake. You're the main character of the movie. Yeah. It's it's it's some ████ But when I when I did that ████ it's because I want I I wanted to be accepted. I wanted to impress. So, but then it's like you don't do that by telling her your accomplishments. It sounds like you're just showing off all day. That's true. cuz it's like probably 80% chance you're setting yourself up for failure because you're probably not as good as you think about all the ████ that Yeah. And you're not even learning who she is. You're just trying to sell yourself the whole time. What accomplishments did you guys have to brag about at the early dating age? How do I start? I got an A. No, I'm just kidding. I got a A. Is that what you said? It's not even any particular subject. Just I got an A. I just got an A at school. Which class? She like just think you got
12:41 into it cuz I was with my family and and she doesn't know that like I have this thing with my family where like they for some reason they just like ignore something that I've done and then they like they actively Yeah. and they hyperfocus on like what my siblings are doing for some reason. And and I so so when I was around my family, I was like gassing up like, "Hey, I got this movie coming, you know, you know, got it's in the pipeline. We're we're talking to Legendary all s███." And and Nikki's like, "Why do you like like we get in the back of the car?" She's like, "Why do you do that?" Like bragging family about your ████ And like it's such a turnoff. And I was like I was like I was like I I'll was like did they come to my Smiley premiere? She's like, "No." And I was like, "Did they come to any of my other s███?" And she's like, "No." And I was like, if I don't like try to start selling them now, I don't think they're going to come to this one either. And then she she got all teary eyed sad. And then she like apologized to me, but like
13:33 I didn't know necessarily that I was like selling so hard, but like I was like, "Wow, that really helps me like like helps her to see where I'm coming from cuz I'm not like a braggy guy. You know me, dude. I don't try to do all that." You're a downplay guy. Yeah. Yeah. But but that's the real me, right? But then the you know the the guy I want to be on this show, you know, he talks about But but in your family it brings Not in brother. But in front of your family though, they bring the Hollywood out of you. Yeah. Yeah. That's pretty ████ Well, just to get them to like I was just trying to get them trying to sell them so they'll come to my Damn. It's all good. But then are they like, "Okay, let's hear from Kenny now." Yeah. No, it was like it and she started seeing that. She would see like my dad do that and she'd be like, "I get it. I see it now that you point it out to me. I can see it the whole that's a big Why do you think they do that? Why do you think they are you the oldest?" I think it just drives me like it actually gives me like little gas,
14:24 you know? So, whatever. For whatever reason, it's because you didn't give them grandchildren. Oh, they they don't give a ████ about that. Are you the oldest? I'm the oldest guy. Oh, that's probably why. They're like, "Ah, Steve can handle." Busty Sue is the oldest girl. I do think that it's it's what you're saying that I think they're like, "Oh, Steve's fine. You don't have to worry about Steve." Usually, I think parents just either they're ████ annoyed of you or they think you're so like strong and confident that they like to give attention to the weak one. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's just that they My brothers are both introverted and I'm not. And I think that they just probably assume I'm fine, but like like when we were going to their you know, I'm not going to bleed on you guys, but when we were going like we were driving out to my brother's Air Force graduations and like that was like like you know and of course and I couldn't wait to do it. But like I love my brothers. And then when
15:14 it was like time for my movie premiere thing, like sorry we can't make it. I'm like it's in LA. It's like it's like a a 90minute drive like 2 hours maybe. Yeah. But Air Force but but for but for airport graduation we rented a They rented a van, right? They rented a van and like we booked hotels and like stayed over there for days and it took like days to drive there cuz we had to drive to Texas. So it was like I was just like this kind of like is wild but Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Damn, dude. Yeah. I got I got traumatized when I was in fifth grade because um I went to astro camp like for school. It was like a space camp thing and I came home and I was like, "Oh my god, mommy, it was so ████ cool." Like we got to do all this stuff. We got to make rockets out of clay and shoot it up to the I was like talking about it too much. And then my parents were both just like, "Okay,
16:06 he went to space. He thinks he went to space. Wow, that's immature as hell. I like instantly started crying and I never bragged about anything again. I was like, "Oh my god, I thought I thought I was just like Yeah. My mom's like, "Do you want do they have Do they let you live there? Can you go back? Can you live there?" No. My mom literally said that to me. She was like, "Can you live there? Cuz if it's so much better than home, can you go back there?" Yeah. They were just They were both in unison just killing me. ████ you ████ marry him. when they're hurting on the inside because of the process. And now that you never brag about anything, they're like, "We did what we had to do." That's why That's why I kept everything like mad secret after that. That's why they were like, "Why did you tell us you ████ like to dance? Why'd you have to go on TV and talk ████ Because you crushed my dreams." Yeah. I was like, "Because you ████ made me feel like ████ over Astro Cam. Cuz you kept me on Earth. You kept me grounded. You cut my wings,
16:57 Mom." Right. That was like 20 years ago. Get over it. That was freaking nuts. I had to go to the dark web. I have to go to Silk Road. My pops would always tell me he's like, "You don't brag about stuff." He's like, "You don't do that." He's like, "You don't say ████ You just keep your ████ mouth shut." And ever since then, I was like, "Yeah." He's like, "You don't want to be that guy." He was like, "So disgust." And I remember how disgusting he was to the point where I was like, "Yeah, that's a very that's like a cannon event in my brain as a kid where he's like, "You don't ████ do that s███." So he never talks about like his credits for movies and ████ to anybody? No, dude. He'll ████ kill himself if he talks about it. Wow. Are you guys like hanging out on Easter or some ████ And Raiders from the Lost Dark is on and he worked on that movie. He's not like, you know, oh yeah, that was a little ████ right there. We're like punching grapes for an hour trying to get that sound. He won't even he won't even talk about it. He'll just be like He'll kind of like, yeah, it's all right. He's like that. Like
17:47 it's okay. So he's not a nerd about sound in other movies that he's not in. Well, if we watch only if it's bad. Yeah. Like if something happens, he's like Foley's ████ terrible ████ awful ████ That's really funny to think. Yeah. He hasn't done it in a He hasn't done it in a while though. He hasn't done that ████ in a while. If you like Can you like as a kid if you're watching a movie he didn't do and you're like, "Whoa, that was a cool sound. How did they make that?" Could he tell you? Could he be like they take a ████ loaf of bread and then a piece of meat and then ████ go like this? Yeah. He'll probably not that specific. He doesn't He doesn't get like too like oh that you know what that sound is? That's celery. People don't think of celery. He doesn't he doesn't. He would just be like, he's like, "You hear those footsteps?" I'm like, "That was me. I did that s███." Like, there'll be one time he's like, "Those sounds pretty good." You hear that? That's your mother running away from you and I'm holding a hammer. The
18:39 only way you can get an effective sound effect. Isn't that really cool though, that you could you could say that like, "Wow, some footsteps in ████ speed were taken in my house floor." Not in my house floor. It was a piece of of wood in my dad's with like shoes on his hands. He's like, "Oh, I don't know." style. But like they would do that ████ like that's how some of those guys do the foley. I think it's funny to do that sound with your mouth but do the do the motion with your hand. He does all the fun.
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