0:00 [Music] all right welcome back to careful boys it's off the record and today we're doing something a little different so we usually do this ask the boys on patreon but we just wanted to give you a little taste of what we do on patreon so if you want to check it out you go ahead and check it out in the link in the description box below we got the patreon exclusive stuff just like this and ask the boys is we go on instagram and we say yo we got some questions you guys want some life experience talks all this stuff our personal stuff ask us right here you could personally get these answered on video and we do it on patreon but we're gonna do it here on youtube today special time what a treat yeah it's great and everybody asks the weirdest questions that's not bad when
0:50 you guys send really funny questions but um what i want to do right now is i really want to answer this sincere question from angel muns thank you angel muntz thank you angela it's it's one of those good ones good ones from angel buns oh that's a good one what do you think how do i find love isn't that so nice that someone would just like really ask that first off i'd be like you lonely you're so lonely oh my god how long have you been single yeah what i lose everybody laugh at her face go you're such a loser oh my god you're so lonely nobody loves you okay real good question i got that out of my system yeah yeah you know what the heck you answer is the view answer it also kind of works like you before you can love anyone else you have to love yourself [Applause]
1:40 i mean that's so true though right that's really true for real though honestly that's kind of true though no it's really true tell me about your experience well you really can't like offer somebody like your full 100 if you're not 100 you you know and if you're not complete and you're with somebody else it's just giving them like 50 of you and that's not really love because they can't even receive that love from you you can't receive that love for yourself so that's true it's very true you're that british comedian he was ████ i forgot his name but on his honesty jimmy carr no no he's his stand-up special right uh ricky gervais oh i think he's him no no he did a whole love special it was about relationships and the guy that was just like oh like it's that one that everyone breaks up afterwards yeah yeah yeah that one i don't know that i don't look at his name
2:31 he has a quote in there and i'm a butcher this right a lot of ████ facts misusing right now but but it's along the lines of we live our lives like trying to hire people to fill the void and the love that we don't have and a lot of people do that right they get into relationships and they don't love themselves they don't they're they're searching for this thing called love and then they try they try to get with the person that will fill that void because they don't know how to do that themselves and then so now you're like putting all of your uh that love responsibility on your partner and it's not fair to them because they're like yo make me happy make me happy fix me or even even putting your self-esteem on your partner too yeah you don't make me feel good yeah yeah you don't make me feel confident you don't hide me that's a that's a that's true even though it's funny like it's like yeah dude how do you love yourself and find all of that before you
3:22 go out into the dating world and find a relationship yeah that's i think that's it's a reverse thing because people go i gotta find love so then they go try to hit on girls go on dates whatever and then they finally get into a relationship and they're like oh i found love versus like are you cool with who you are because i think we're all ████ up in our own weird ways right like everyone individually is just kind of they're in their own head like whatever your issues are i feel like a lot of times especially when you're young you don't really know what those issues are and you have to kind of spend some time with yourself and you don't even know you have issues exactly like you yeah so you i think you have to spend time with yourself a little bit and kind of understand that because when you get in a relationship with other people uh those issues can be shown and exacerbated with in relationships because relationships are really hard in general i was going to say though to that point like i feel
4:13 like relationships or dating different kinds of people like lets you figure that out yeah it's not as apparent if it's just you because it's true then it's like it's pretty easy for me at least it's pretty easy to excuse habits and things that i do by myself because i'm like oh this doesn't affect x y and z person but when it at least for me when it starts affecting other people i'm like oh these are all things that are negatively impacting other people's lives and i can do something about it so i should like work on that not saying that like you should go into a relationship looking to like you know troubleshoot your own life but it does have a way of like highlighting certain things that it's like oh like i should work on that oh and also like the person that you you're with like actually enjoy them yeah like like them like not just love like you can love someone but you can love someone from afar that's true actually like being with enjoy their
5:04 company and stuff because you can love family members but not like them exactly the same thing because in a relationship we see this all the ████ time where people fall out of like like they might love them and care for them but they're like i ████ hate hanging out with you you're so goddamn annoying and i think that happens a lot it's my mom i love her i don't know if i like you very much but that's so true though the point that you did though it doesn't sound like it wasn't was there a point that you did though doesn't sound like it it sounds like it's it's a different relationship i think i did up until i'm like damn this ████ is ████ great bro what at what point when she sent you to temple were you like oh this is weird do you remember that moment the moment that fashion was crazy the turning point that you went i actually don't like my mom i think like seven or eight wow dang that's pretty young yeah because i think when you start hanging out in
5:55 other people's homes yeah and you start seeing other moms found the dream mom that you wanted dream mom wait no one else does the ████ you do i noticed that hmm here here's another good question right here but from uh keaney leo i like your question this is a good one does a male have to be dominant while having sex with a female what it depends on yeah it's like whatever that's your business like it's like whatever works for you and your partner for me it has to be it has to be always one percent more dominant so if like she's writing me hard what i'll do is i'll i'll take one of the fingers i'll just i'll just bend it okay okay just something that's hilarious maybe the proper phrasing would be like do women expect that oh okay i think
6:45 that's a better place like as in like do do men have to isn't is that something that women want more often also we need a woman's answer it's definitely a spectrum it depends on like who you are and what you like yeah okay yeah because a lot of women are like oh i love to be dominant but then a lot of them are also like oh i want to be submissive um ask your partner communication that's the key right there can you don't make the decision until you've efficiently gauged what someone else likes i think it's um when i was younger i thought very black and white where it's like do all women like this well like i would ask questions like you could say do only like only black and white guys [Laughter] just like there's nowhere on this pie for me what about yellow what about asian no no but like we think in dualities right when you're younger you think like oh all girls do
7:37 this because you hear that you hear it because it's simplistic thinking and you're ████ 16 years old right but then you start to realize no like there might be some general truths but you have to interview the person you're with 100 and then work with them and talk about it there might be some women out there that are like i'm just super nurturing and i just you know i love it when a guy is just like you know a complete ████ sip yeah i don't know maybe for sure i'm sure i feel like you would be like okay sip in bed you know what i mean i'm just like please stop i don't have something like that like what do you mean like no please i don't want to say that or like she's trying to sex me and i'm like i'm tired i hit her with me that's not a sin what do you mean what do you mean what do you mean by he's like please can i hang your ████ please
8:27 like a guy who just like reverts to becoming like a slave to the girls like wishes ooh honey what do you want me to do honey return to a simple male mind of like i want to just appease you twice says it i'm like ████ i think i am it's a compliment to a woman when she makes you simp and you're normally not like that yeah yeah bro because i'm ████ super good men in the street sipping the sheets ████ tough i am dude i'm super tough i think it's a compliment whenever you are able to tell a girl like hey you're making me do something i don't normally do and i just want 100 women like that when you do you tell them your vulnerabilities you're like there's like a special bond between you two yeah because she doesn't want to hear that it's all the same ████ like oh you think i'm hot you like i'm always sipping and you're just vacuuming the floor i exclusively clean the house bro
9:17 i am a simple ████ but you're also a one-woman man which is like we can't measure up to that if you have to choose one you did it right here's a that brings us to alice owens question um she asked how to not be a psycho when you're getting rejected but if she's being really honest and open about that i i really respect that i i respect that don't take it personally i think the core there are other people in the world there's the core of the i mean the the answer here is just self-discipline right first of all take a breath take a deep breath you gotta hit him with i didn't like you anyway you're a loser today's video is brought to you by audible you know what i realized my parents are stupid okay and so i'm
10:08 like man my parents are so stupid that's what i'm so stupid and i don't know ████ you go to school and you can't apply that so i'm like mad school stupid and so these days i got wrong kinds of problems you know in relationships in the business and everything i'm like how can i improve myself and that's why i really like audiobooks because it's very convenient for a way to improve your life have self-awareness and like progress yourself and these days i've been listening to extreme ownership by jocko willink and he takes all these really cool war stories and he pretty much says in one sentence it's all your fault um i love that yeah like even if even if the circumstances you can't predict them ████ bombing you and ████ you know what it's your fault it's your fault because you gotta figure out what to do with it and in some ways i like that because it kind
10:59 of takes your life your you take control back of your own life i also learned that um i am an audio learner really not much of a reader because my mind drifts away and um it's a little bit harder because i think i absorb sound a little bit better when i listen to someone i'm more focused i lock in so i started listening to audio books much more than actually reading books because have you ever like bought a book and then you like you read chapter one you're like man this this book is so good but it takes so much focus because you have to sit there and like a lot time for it but it's much easier like on the go like on a long drive whatever to listen to it so this is why i love audible but here's the other thing it doesn't have to be about like all this serious stuff it doesn't have to be like self-help stuff they have so many things thousands of titles to choose from they have comedy they have podcasts they have so many
11:51 different things to go for so definitely check them out yeah so if all this interests you whether you want to grow or laugh or just be entertained go to audible.com off the record or text off the record to 500 500 go to audible.com off the record or text off the record to 500 500 and learn some ████ so you're not so stupid yeah but don't take it like this [Laughter] i think it's fair to say we've all you know served our time in being a little bit psycho right just me i'm the ████ weirdo we all have we all have but it's it's it's a funny question because it's like how do i not kill somebody for telling me i don't want i've been oh yeah well that's a different yeah hopefully she doesn't mean that exciting she probably wouldn't see me by psycho we're just gonna have to imagine that uh psycho just means highly rather really easy fix on how to
12:42 help how to calm your mind and i think it's a long term process of that's why everyone's getting into mindfulness therapy meditation because all these techniques really do work maybe some therapy oh yeah maybe something professional advice not from people like us right don't ask the internet about it one thing that i do i will always say uh because like i started out like super ████ jealous dude like what did you do you used to beat your girlfriends let me know the truth i think i think i had a complex with wanting to be wanted all the time and confirmed that hey you still want me like i'll check every day yeah it's ████ annoying and that is psycho and i think that like the only thing i could really do is like always say i'll do better next time like i ████ this up i deserve to lose it i'll do better next time so i think in in your case alice if you feel like you're going psycho with
13:33 someone just know that that means you're just not a pro at it yet you'll do better next week when did you get to the point where you're like oh i can let my girls hang out with anyone they want to without me thinking that they're trying to bone everybody i think the key really is to just look at yourself like uh i spent so much time judging someone else that you know i didn't take the time to look at me and go like who ████ am i you know like that's my main default now is anytime that i felt like i was being judgmental over who i was dating i was like well who the ████ am i first yeah yeah you are bro what's wrong with me so then you are you know that just puts you in a place that you can't really like persecute yourself because you got cheated on before or just you started imagining ████ i think it's just a complex you know like different different kids getting different complexes from growing up certain ways and i think like i was always never sure
14:24 if my parents really liked me oh manifested in women yeah because of that i was it's like you said you you try to fill the void that you've had growing up outside your relationships and so when you seek that in a partner it's like it's not their job bro like you're supposed to be whole already before you start seeking a partnership so maybe she has a huge issue with rejection yeah like something in her childhood is like hey nah man ████ what you said no yeah well then obviously that means maybe alice's mind is going in a state of desperation at times where it doesn't need to but again you only get better that with experience all i can say is if you are losing something because you're a psycho you honestly deserve to lose it that's the best way to learn that's true yeah like let it go man yeah and i know there's a lot of cases where they probably like probably gave you a chance and loved you but then like you scared them away yeah well scared them away to put it on
15:16 it's all your fault who has the weirdest fetish that's great we'll determine that after we each share what do you think my fetish is i'm pretty vanilla muay thai shorts i think nick's fetish is bart docking nick's booty hole while they're in battle that's oddly specific yeah nick is the sniper yeah yeah and he's on top of me do any of you guys actually have real fetishes that you actually think are weird nah mine's normal i like fun i like lingerie and i like white oh white white white white lingerie that's like everything aryan people why lingerie's hot yeah i like lingerie too but it's very it's very vanilla and i like business suits what about a chick in lingerie with a business suit over it oh i like the real
16:06 estate and she pops the buttons off her realtor i like that one the realtor business suits and it's low apr you mean like women with the with the pinstripe slacks in the whole suit and in the shoulder ████ the shoulder pads the shoulder pads on their blazers like the uh shoulder pads get you going crazy like uh like like a law firm like cia movies right where the chicks are like you know going around and ████ that's hot that's what the librarian look right they look like all dressed up like yeah or or you know john wick and john wick where he there you see the behind the scenes of the continental hotel the operators and all the chicks are like oh yeah yeah yeah okay yeah everyone looks like a librarian but with tattoos but they're all like tatted up yeah what about you yeah what's your weird face i'm pretty vanilla dude i'm pretty vanilla like yeah we talk about ████ nutrition all
16:57 the time while we're having sex honestly it's a weird fetish actually i just like spending time like being physically intimate with my girl simp i just like i just like i like physical touch crown by sway bro she nailed it dude yeah well just like i just can we just tickle each other and ████ cuddle no that's not what do you mean so not even ████ just just being naked and just saving all the like normal ████ yeah i like having my penis inside a vagina yeah i like having penises out of a vagina i like a lot of kissing i like a lot of kisser yeah i like kissing you're romantic folks okay how about this let me let me let me uh let me i'm gonna find it for you okay when it's not sexual what is something that that'll
17:48 trigger your mind that maybe your girl does out of the bedroom well it's not sexual everything is sexual well like for instance for me like something that really stands out to me that's not necessarily sexual is like when a girl is 90 degrees flexible and she bends down to talk to me like this oh really she can see her cleavage that's sexual i don't have to see any part of it it's just when girls talk to you like that when you're like sitting in a ████ like stewardess or like a waitress yeah and you're just like take all my tip money but i've always liked that thing and it doesn't mean that like i conservative fetish because i'm like that's unusual you're gonna be horny in japan specifically yeah don't have anything that like like that particular i can think of i like when my girl looks really beautiful like i like when she dresses
18:39 i like she dresses up such a romantic ████ she dresses up because she dresses to the t bro like she she's she's the sweet she's the fashionista you are so when she dresses up and she has like certain dresses that i really think are pretty fine i i get your boy he's like dude you're the best ████ guy no bro i'm just being nah i'm just i'm just boring bro i think sometimes i wish hannah wasn't such a top such a tall girl because i want to grab her by the back of her shirt like this in the back of her belt and throw her on a bed like that but my weak ass can't ████ do it i like lifting up my girl i like doing that so do you like go for the work you're helping him find more stuff yeah
19:29 we don't i don't throw her around you gotta you gotta work on the ████ deadlift i wanna use her as a ████ battering ram and slam my double doors inside of my my room and just slam it through and and then toss her to the bed and she'll land with her ████ pants dropping i'll run over and ████ dive and start boning her dude like this jazz being kicked out of fresh prince house exactly right but my fantasy will never become real because she's way taller never said never that's why you gotta go i gotta get like bark you know like ████ get buffed yeah yeah the key to your fantasy is to get more like i'll get the new leather lingerie just have bart do it and then you just come with it carl will do it and then joe will be on his back you'll be like yeah this is the horse thank man way of doing it bro and
20:21 then and then once she gets the throwing down bart leaves he's like all right or or wow bart throws her on the bed and then joe come on throws you on top [Laughter] while you're stuck behind his back yeah i had a friend who uh she said one of her like sexual fantasies was that and no one had ever done this to her because she didn't know how to bring it up but she her fantasy is that she's getting uh having sex she's getting done doggy and then the dude leaves switches with another guy and then the original dude appears across the yard in another house in a different window just watching dude that is so elaborate holy ████ he does this but she goes that would be the hottest thing that means the windows have to line up too i know it takes a lot of architecture the setting has to be perfect so like she wants what she wants she wants the
21:12 exactly it's the feeling of being pranked like very like obscenely oh so she loves prank concepts okay like hey what about here okay so thoughts thoughts to make this less convoluted so you instead of involving another person just record yourself get a big ass tv on the other side that way you could be hitting it from behind and then just hit play that's why you worked in ████ showbiz yeah do you guys like me watch depends on who if it's my mom probably not if it's an a game day maybe if i'll you like being watched um yeah really i think that's hot you'd be you you should make only fans then like that would have been my career [Laughter] what do you mean being watched like like let's say uh the 20th floor of a hotel they can't see who you are like ████ in public they're oh i say
22:02 is strangers more alluring or like keep friends or no strangers friends and family what about at the family come over for a watch party co-workers what about the fountain at the mall like what about like is there a place like the forest or like ikea or like the holy grail place to do it and is it is it like being watched or the fear of getting caught you're getting caught so then you don't want people watching but it's the it's the danger of potentially but like if you're watching might be huh that's that's part of the thing yeah i only want girls to watch me all right a lot more guys want girls to watch uh because if i'm like if i have an audience you know and i'm like yeah right and then there's a guy that's like i'm like stop well yeah there's this like place in vegas i think it's vegas it's called
22:53 like the green no green door green door i mean what who said that what is that i like went there and it was just like a whole bunch of guys watching it wasn't even fun what screen door what's green door don't they have a rule that you have to come as a couple no oh see that ████ everything up exactly and are they beating off together yes in a ████ circle it's weird so it's a real circle jerk yes well they messed up on the ratio and were they looking over to you and you're like i'm not one nope i walked right off you see dudes touching themselves yeah do they do they all do this together do you see a beat while chanting it's a that satanic performer that looks like five guys but it's all pipes connected with clothes doing it oh my god he's in there it was fun oh it's one guy
23:45 yeah the ratios are still fine i don't know that i have like a crazy kink or anything like that i think most of the porn that i end up watching is like stuff that like doesn't feel produced like the new ronin gear like ████ yeah amateur yeah that's always better i don't know because i found myself laughing how much it's important i'm just like what are you doing yeah nobody ████ like this like some guy like just stumbles in the room like oh no my dicks are like where did this guy come so nobody here has like king kings not really what would you consider like a kinky like like i like somebody smacking my butt with a whip like foot fetish or something like that no i like twitter actually i like tan lines i think yeah oh that's nice that's a good one i can't explain it either i don't know where that comes from you like that you like the one from [Laughter]
24:42 i love snorkel tans [Music] you
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