0:00 I don't know if you know this like don't don't tell Ryan but um Filipinos are the Mexicans of the world you don't think I knew that I'm the Mexican of this world [Music] all right everybody welcome back to another awesome episode of the careful boys where we are currently off the Record and we have Mr Walter Hong here wow and uh operation get Walter married what's going on man because I'm old and so uh how old are you now I'm 49. oh wow look really very good moisturize I moisturize yeah um but I'm old and uh you know my parents are obviously getting older as well and so um I think one of the things like as your parents get old you know if you're single they they don't want you to be alone you know and so um so you know the added stress of all that you know so I'm like you know what my friend calls me and goes hey I think
0:51 I have a message from God and she's not even Christian I was like okay cool um I think we used to go to Korea and try to find like a wife in Korea so it's like cool you guys gonna go on a Korea trip together we're gonna go we're gonna go in uh uh April this was a message from God this is what she said but she slamming Christian so I don't know where it's like Rich God you're like a missionary to go get missionary something like that yeah it'd be like if I made up a facade and I'm going to Korea is she calling like Ayahuasca God or something I don't know like what like when she said I don't know if she meant like God God or if she meant just like the proverbial figurative God like I don't know what whatever I didn't I didn't question it got it I was just like cool god let's do it um so yeah we're going to Korea in April and then um I signed up for uh like the dating because I have a friend that got engaged in Korea and so she's like kind
1:42 of helping me out and guiding me like navigating through all that like how do you find your partner is there like a dating so they have Tinder and Bumble there and so those are the it was like I guess the bigger ones and then Tinder is similar to here other except that they also have a lot more people that are looking for long-term relationships on Tinder um oh but the difference the main difference for me uh between like because you can if you pay for Tinder and Bumble you can change your location and they'll say oh he's doing travel mode but if you don't pay for you can't do that so I had a business travel mode the same thing as like hosing different area codes type like talk I I suppose if you're just looking yeah if you're just looking to hook up you're preemptively setting the things kind of right how's your Korean skills it's it's better than a friend of mine who's a translator so I feel confident oh oh
2:32 cool oh wow if I was a translator he was in the military and then he had gone to uh Korea to be a translator even though he's not Korean at all yeah so I feel like the my Koreans is better than his really I don't want to mention anyone's names dude I'm gonna mention anyone's name I don't want to give him away I'll give you I'll give you his initials though Bart Quan uh yeah but yeah no there's a lot of barkles that is true that is yeah if you Google is like 17 000. hey Quan is a Korean name it is yeah as well yeah yeah um but you know the big the main difference between dating apps like with me doing travel mode is I'm getting matches like out here I get like zero to one per like month I mean isn't the stat like Asians are the the most left swiped on dating apps yes Asian men Asian men it's ████ up Asian men have the highest like rejection yeah Asian women are the
3:22 highest uh most responded to wow they're the least responded to and then number two a little side note yeah at least uh the second least responded to are are black women so there's a subculture of Asian men and black women that hook up I'm telling you it's a good match dude right yeah because top two top two should always get together top bottom two yeah yeah you know what I'm saying uh hip on bottom uh sorry that was a call back to another episode which I'm not supposed to do but I did it anyway [Laughter] so are you trying to find a wife in Korea through the app or is there like a wife in Korea type service where they like kind of line it all out or should they have these uh matchmaking services in Korea which I I heard pretty pricey like they're into the thousands of dollars but it's supposed to be like you fill out this long questionnaire they
4:13 ask you Financial questions they ask you personality questions and all that and then of course it's Asia it's Asia so they match you up with compatibility but I've been finding out that a lot of companies don't actually do that they just go oh you're single she's single boom let's match them up and they don't tell anyone revolutionary yeah and then people the automatic assumption is we're compatible so you already start off on the right foot so I'm like I'm not going to pay thousands of dollars it's like a placebo compatibility exactly I'd rather just do the app and pay like 80 bucks you know it's fair yeah that's actually true the apps are hilarious though yeah I wonder if the e-harmony still works because I remember that their whole pitch was we want to create like the best matches by having the best profile and you can see each other's profile or something right I've seen eHarmony work in real life dude me too how I have I had my friend
5:05 Mike Japanese Mike his older brother's best friend uh had a hard time finding like a lady on eHarmony he uh met the lady they got married I think within a month like they just clicked wow the month right after this ████ got into a car accident that flipped his truck oh he's paralyzed oh oh the lady if I put myself in her shoes I'm out laters see you later I've only known you for a month I can't be having no husband with no ████ it's peace Harmony yes she stays takes care of him wow for the whole year while he's like coming out of a coma and all that ████ uh and I was like they love each other they really love each other
5:55 what's that episode yeah yeah I have I have family members that met and they they uh well not they weren't family before but you know yeah like they became he became always the best place for incestors a successful marriage story from eHarmony too that's within my family so I've heard that it's best to keep it within the family within the family yeah kind of Lannister but you know what I mean just to call A Lannister kind of how you feel so your your strategy is to start talking so that when you get to Korea you'll have dates yeah so set up dates before I get to Korea um but it's just you know like getting matches like for me I don't know about
6:45 you guys but for me it's exciting because like oh I got a match like it's crazy because it's totally different um but then like the way they ask questions it's super direct like how much you make annoying actually I haven't gotten asked Financial questions how long is your penis oh you're talking to the girls yeah yeah like because you know you're messaging but I I got one the other day it's like are you are you a kind person and like I wrote back who says no to this question yeah what does she say yeah and then she's she's just like answer the question stupid that's not very kind answer yeah I got I got one where um she goes when are you coming to Korea and I told her and then she goes oh um I'm not going to be here so she goes why don't we just like keep in contact for the next time you come I go she goes when are you gonna come like when are you gonna come next like oh I don't know probably in the summer like June she goes okay when in June I go I don't know
7:36 I haven't set child plans yet well okay but you don't know when in June I'm like no I haven't said travel plans so Kevin just like hit me up basically when it's near and I go oh she goes but I'm not going to be here in June so after that whole thing of like winning I'm not gonna be here I go where are you going to be she goes to Europe I go oh where in Europe her response why because this is how people have conversations like yeah you ████ block her ass and then she was like um okay be decent like be it and I'm like what's that mean oh it's because I'm using Google translate or some ████ no like no we're using English actually because a lot of it a lot of them why she's speaking like a father like crazy speak English lady Jesus in Google Translate yeah she's probably using Google yeah she hasn't left her country but she's still a father you have to speak in Korean what the ████ dude some some girls I do want to
8:27 tell them that like hey just speaking Korean because I'm not understanding because you're turning me off ladies is that how your friend um found like a partner from Korea is like they went through the dating apps there she did it through the dating app um so she found a husband and that's so much easier for women though yeah so and then it helps that you know she's a half breed and she's hot so she found someone rather quickly so she was having trouble dating even though she's hot because in Korea because her Korean is not good at all like she doesn't know Korean so she used the dating app to like meet people because she wants a Korean dude she wanted yeah oh but obviously like you know she puts that she doesn't speak Korean so the guy has to be you know aware and honest with himself like oh can I communicate with her and so she found her fiance spoke English oh so
9:17 he's oh okay so like they're able to communicate but like it's same with me like I put like I'm not good at speaking Korean so the girl is gonna have to know how to speak English somewhat but like one girl I match with she told me like I don't speak English well I go that's cool like I'm cool using you know the translate app or whatever and then she's like Okay cool so like that's fine but like the questions that they asked there as opposed to here and like what's acceptable is like a little bit different like I'm noticing like you know like for instance like that one girl she's an extreme of like where in Europe we're gonna go like if you're gonna go to a continent you can tell me like which country you're gonna go to I'm not gonna like stalk you or what if what if her in her mind when she asks are you decent that's the same thing as saying are you prude no she didn't ask are you decent she said no let's be decent she was think she was accusing me of being mean to her like being mean to her like asking like well like you know
10:07 when I ask like where in Europe are going to be and then she goes like oh why and then I said well this is so she can ask you these questions but you can't ask her you stop being sarcastic dude and so yeah that that's but like the but for me like the biggest difference is like the matches like the fact that I'm getting more than one match I'm like wow like it's already already been an amazing feeling so even if I don't go out with any of them I I feel good like you know what I mean like I got matches because here it's like like I don't know if you guys have ever been on a dating app um it's like no matches I remember during covid um I was getting matches and then they're just trying to get me to join their only fans I was like man you wasted so much time but I'll check it out but I didn't buy it you're being nice
10:57 what's your ideal um girl that you're looking for then subscriber someone that says yes I I feel like that's a good start what someone says yes to dating you should like have dinner with me you know or like are you really like are you really like no you know like I've noticed okay as I've gotten older like let's say like when you're younger like in your 20s and 30s you have let's say like 20 or 50 things you're looking for in a woman or a partner older at least for me that that 20 this is 25 or 50 it gets smaller and smaller and it whittles down to let's say like 15. but then those 15 you really want whereas like when the 2550 if they didn't have a few you're like okay that's cool no big deal but now if my list is probably boiled down to like five or seven things that I really want oh yeah they're deal breakers do you have a do you have an actual list of whatever
11:47 I don't remember all seven of them but like one of them is just like because no I have to think about it but like uh like a deal breaker like warm big girls are pretty warm I I don't mean like in terms of a blanket warm oh because girls are always cold and they're always complaining about how cold they are and I'm like dude it's hot Joe's got a point because that is I want a girl that runs hot dude I I dated one it's not fun dude yeah or you run cold I run hot and so she ran hot too it was just like cuddling it's like drips of sweat you need the opposite actually yeah you need you need the opposite uh but like yeah someone who has a warm personality decent and like genuinely like when I say nice I mean like nice to everyone because you know people say I wanna like girls will say this I want a nice boy okay but then I asked him well
12:37 do you want a boy that's nice to everybody or just you and then they go just me well that's not a nice boy that's just the guy that wants to get in your pants yeah yeah that's cool like I want a girl that's nice to everyone like that's genuinely nice you know um someone that like I feel like is smart intelligent she doesn't have to be like the smartest or the most but she's dumb you can't be dumb triple digit IQ yeah yeah because if you do it like you know when you fight with your girlfriend things just come out you don't mean them but if I'm dating a dumb girl I feel like what'll come out is dude are you stupid and you mean it yeah and then like you can't recover from that you can't recover but main calling is good though what was that name calling is good name calling is cool yeah especially when they know you're just mad yeah but if she's really dumb and then you say are you stupid it it only doesn't work if they are that yeah because I called you a dumb ████ all the time but she's but she's ████
13:28 smart yeah so it makes it even funnier when I call her dumb ████ yeah yeah yeah dumb but she really is a dumb ████ and I can't say that and then it takes my fun away the syllables you emphasize do you care how much money they make you know I do but not in possibly not in the way you might be thinking like um she makes more than you no I don't you know honestly I don't care if she makes more or that but what I care about more so like like the beyond the money like big picture wise is do we need each other like I If if I like if I meet a girl and she's like I make my own money I don't need you well okay yeah you don't need my money but then you're basically what I'm hearing is you don't need me it's nice to be a team exactly like so if you if you're codependent you need each other to me that's a relationship and I know people may disagree they may say oh I'm independent cool do your thing then be by yourself yeah yeah I agree with that because it's
14:18 like there's nothing wrong with codependence and depending on each other for different things because you're a team like if you're thinking about long-term marriage and everything else then at that point it's like what's the point of fighting for Independence so hard yeah or not so much needing each other but like do we make each other better as a team right yeah that's included this includes well like yeah do we make each other better because when once you become a couple from that point on you're no longer um like you're a unique version of yourself based on that other person yeah like you're you're no longer what your your trajectory is all different now and the US is more important than what I used to want exactly you know because I hear people talk about like you know I was in a relationship and I didn't like it because I couldn't do what I wanted like well but it's not all about you because now you have another partner and so it's about both of you yeah so now I don't like that then be single yeah do you care if she has a kid already
15:10 so I had a conversation with my mom about like what threshold is of what she would care about you know I'll rephrase Ryan's what he's really trying to ask is if the girl didn't have a kid that had a loose ████ but a girl had a kid by the tightest ████ which one would you choose that's what you meant welcome you're welcome I would choose I would choose whichever one said yes no I think you know but the kid things like that kid thing okay I brought the divorce thing you know and my mom said like divorce she's like you know okay because she understands that at my age and the women that I'd be dating their age you know it's inevitable with the kid she kind of paused and said you know what but if you guys are in love with each other like what could I really say right at that point as long as she's not a widow
16:00 [Laughter] there's a thing of like okay divorcee or what about if the woman was never married but her fiance left her at the altar oh that's very technical it's very it's like you know we're like because I think what did she do wrong you need to ask him why especially our parents our parents have no problems victim blaming yeah no problem so though exactly like what did she do wrong what's wrong with her why is she so annoying it immediately go hmm so it's it's she must be the problem yeah clearly that is so true though so yeah I think like to me like I'm open to it of course if I had a choice all things being equal yeah you know I want the like you know when it's ever been married no kids Virgin of course you don't mind uh like becoming a dad
16:52 like they really that's pretty cool if I were to be like a I want to be a dad yeah but the same time I know my physical limitations like if I'm watching Korean dramas for 20 minutes and I get up to go pee everything hurts like joints hurt yeah like everything hurts dude huh your dick hurts too that's chlamydia actually chlamydia is the painless one it's syphilis and gonorrhea wow so for you instead of getting a puppy you rather go to the pound and get one that's about 10 years old no actually I do get puppies you know it's just what about what about faith and like religion yeah for yeah someone who's a Believer like who's Christian um what if she goes to the unification Church like the Moonies the Circle K people well at least she'll have a cool gun collection yeah I know when you when you get into okay so as I've as I'm older is one
17:43 thing is like we think like oh yeah these people think the same but it's they're to the outside like they're the same but when you're inside if they're off the mark by a little bit that creates big problems you know so like they'll say like Oh Yeah from the outside oh yeah they're all Christian but then it's like when you're inside it's like no but they're the unification church it's a little off the mark but from the outside it's the same but yeah we're like oh Christian yeah Baptist Catholics what's the difference it's all good it's all the you know so I think it's yeah as I've gotten older I've gotten more particular which is probably people think oh you're picky but it's just but you also know what you want more yeah so how did you go to Korea and you meet somebody right let's say you got like seven things and this chick's got like six yeah dude if she had two I'd be okay oh I I honestly at this point like the
18:34 biggest concern for me is this is where do we live right because um before like in the 80s 90s and early odds a lot of Koreans wanted to move to America but not Korea's soul is like thriving there's no reason to move to America so I have to find a niche girl that hates her life in Korea that hates her job these U.S citizenship yeah and it wants to come over here exactly but like a girl that like is like a head of marketing she's like I want to come here all right right right but like a girl that like you know works like a 10 to 10 job you know like on her feet all day maybe she wants to be a cattle rancher in America what if she that'll be dope what if she works at KFC in Seoul that would be perfect and then she would hate KFC here because the KFC there is better because he's better chicken but yeah it's it's you know so I think about these things where like if I find like a
19:25 girl that's like highly educated and has a great job she's not gonna want to come here right they're going to want a movie are you are you looking specifically for a Korean girl at for this trip yes he's going to create a look for a Filipino girl I don't know if you know this like don't don't tell Ryan but um Filipinos are the Mexicans of the world you don't think I knew that I'm the Mexican of this world no Ryan he's carrying this team but yet on the apps there's a lot of foreign women that live in Korea that are on the apps oh cool you're open I'm open but if I had a choice like if you know yeah I I choose Korean because you know what there's there's less explanation that has to happen I see yeah it looks yeah I did it a white girl and she couldn't my house she knew the shoes thing so she was cool but then she would like in her outside clothes she would like lay in my bed and I'm
20:16 like and I don't want to be that guy that's like hey we just sat in the beach and it's dirty and now you're gonna go into it's like like a Korean girl would never do that she would never do this is more like culturally a lifestyle Harmony there's no explanation like for instance example like you know we're all Asian here we know that when there's a platter of food we let the parents eat first yeah yeah yeah yeah but like white people or like different cultures they may not have that doesn't mean they're bad people it's just it's a culturally they don't have it yeah it means they're monsters disgusting people like Sacramento people yeah yeah but like for certain things like that how much of that is like I don't say a deal breaker but is is it conflict it's not a deal breaker it's just more like it's just like hey like I'm open to different ethnicities and different races and all that but if I had a choice I'd rather select the girl that I don't have to explain things but of course like dude if I fall in love with like um
21:07 you know whatever some Swedish girl that's like blonde hair oh God forbid that happens yeah right but then she's like I have to wear my shoes in the house all right like you know yeah because you're hot cool everybody looks hot in those shoes anyway but if she's Korean it's easier for them to get along with your parents or at least have a conversation yeah so it's there's more of the family bonding yeah like I consider that stuff like that just stick to your kind dude I think it's gonna be easy yeah stick to your damn kind stick to my own animal Animal Kingdom well good luck dude thank you true luck man let's go get it come back married none of us are preserving our cultures
21:57 thank you
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