0:00 So, you know how everyone was like, in the Asian community, is always talking about, "Oh, my parents don't support me being passionate about things." Like, I would envy white kids all the time, be like, "Oh, if I would probably make it if I was if if the if my parents just loved me like that and supported me in anything I did." And none of those ████ made it in anything. That's what I'm saying is all of us making it, it's because we had haters. >> So, do you think to help your future kid succeed, whatever he's into, you're going to unsport it? >> I'm going to talk so much ████ dude. Because the thing is there's no pressure. >> So, hear me out. With Gen Z kids, right? They have the most loving ████ brother sibling relationship with their parents. And what I hear them always say is you could be anything, you could ████ just do it. But the the thing is
0:52 it's always take your time, you'll find out what the ████ you need to do. And then they never get to it. They just suck at everything. Versus our generation, we had, "You're not going to be ████ ████ Be a pharmacist." >> Your dad was Vietnamese, too? >> [laughter] >> I'm just picturing that's what happened to you. >> Pharmacist. I didn't even get any of that direction from him. Just ████ where it stopped. But, yeah. >> Were you guys forced to hurry up and get a job and like do ████ though? And quit being a loser? >> I I think it was like, "Hurry up and stop being stupid." And like, I wasn't smart enough to understand how to do that for a long time. >> Stop being stupid. >> You know what I'm saying? Like, I feel like that's what that was It was always like I never did ████ right, but you never you never gave me the ████ answer clearly, explicitly. You know what I'm saying? >> What about when you graduated college?
1:43 Did you Did your dad like take some stress off or take some expectation off? Like, you know, or no? >> No, I don't think so, because I also think that I'm like the second kid. So, it's like the first kid already did that. Like, why should he be proud that you made it through as well? You know? I think everything's and then not only that did my sister 2 years older go to like UCLA, I went to UCI. So I think that's already like a I expect less from this one. >> Cuz I remember when I graduated college, my dad was like "No, you know what to do." And then I was like, "I'm going to do YouTube." He goes, "Why would you say that?" >> [laughter] >> I'm like, "Babe, I thought you said now I know what [laughter] to do. But I just can't do what I want to do." >> that?" >> That's a great response. You You know
2:33 Cassey, Blogilates? >> Yeah. >> So she's probably had less support than we had. Like I heard her story and then I was like, "See? I need resistance like that to be as great as she was." She's like surpassed us by like thousands, right? >> what's gangster though? She ended up hiring her dad. >> Eventually, after they made but then her story is that she basically got ostracized. Like >> Like >> to the point where like you're not family no Make it on her own, come back and be like, "Look, I was right." And then they're like, "I was so wrong." >> Maybe that's what you do. Instead of like badgering them every day about how your dreams will never make it cuz I think eventually that'll cut them down, you just kick them out of the nest, dude. You just say, "Don't come back until you make it." >> You got to flap your wings. >> Flap your wings or you can't come home.
3:24 >> What if I miss my kids cuz I want to see them? >> You got to deal with it, dude. You That's That's That's your burden to bear. That's your burden to bear, okay? >> As a parent you you would see signs of this. You would see this pattern. Therefore, by the time they're at the adult age, you know what's going to work for for your kid. So like, you know, it's like it's not like suddenly I'm I'm figuring out my kid with his life choices at 18 or 22, just went to college, and it's like I don't know how he responds to my energy. >> Yeah. >> Whether it's the you know, whether it's the right ████ or not. I I knew at age ████ seven the very first time. This is what I'm assuming by the way cuz obviously I don't have a ████ 7-year-old in Europe somewhere, you ████ Um I I I knew that >> Slovakia. >> I would assume that I would know Never
4:16 Slovakia. I would assume that I would know that like, "Hey, when I tell my kid that he can't do this, and then he like gets a chip on his shoulder, and then reacts this way." And obviously it's way easier to see the tells when they're an infant when they're a ████ child. I would assume that that trains you for the 700 more times that you got to do a version of that. By the time they're going into the college version, right? You know the limit of being like, "No, like you shouldn't do that that you that you know the depth of your s███-talking." I would assume that. >> They ████ reverse psychology us? >> I think now with my parents, cuz at the time I was always convinced that it was just like you don't get it. You don't get me. >> I think our parents didn't even pay attention. I think our parents were stupid. >> Yeah. >> I think they're not paying attention to the the thing. I think they're still paying attention to something about us,
5:07 is what I'm saying. >> Like they know you well. >> don't think my parents knew like it would be like, "Hey Dad, I'm going to join the Marines." He's like, "What the hell?" Like I like I'm like there's like I'm like you didn't see me know what the ████ thing as a kid GI Joes and ████ Like there's just like >> No, but I think I think see, I understand, but I think your dad knew that no matter what you were going to do, he was always going to go, "What the hell?" I think that's what he knew. >> What [laughter] do you mean? What do you mean? So even if I if I >> I think that if you one day did something and he went, "Ah, that's what I was expecting from you." Yeah, right. That's not his son. You know what I mean? >> What the hell? So there's zero zero things I could have done right? >> No, I think his son from day one was always doing the most ridiculous ████ Like getting kicked out of everywhere, having the most ridiculous reasons. I think at that point a parent has to
5:58 understand that that's always going to be their kid in every version of it, even the success. >> I see. >> You know, and so like at that I'm not saying he did great parenting. I have no idea. I'm just saying you got to at least see the signs at this version. >> like he's a he's a random dude. He's always getting into ████ That's his personality. >> You got to know that by the time you're getting to that the adult question of like what they're choosing to do as a career, it can't be so like what? >> But I'll tell you this about Asian parents. So like I had a I had a like one-on-one with my mom recently and she goes, "You know, for like the most of your life, I didn't know who you were." And then she was like, "Because I always had an image of who I wanted you to be. And my image of you was that. So, the things that didn't fit in this
6:48 circle, I just denied it. That it wasn't you. She was, "That's not my son. My son doesn't act like this." But then when you did act the way I wanted you to, that's when you got love from me. So, that's the conditional Asian love. >> feel like that version of maturity is like a ████ fairy tale in the regular Asian parenting culture. >> You realize this at 70, right? >> That sounds like literally a proverb that should be written into like a religious text for people to aspire to discover one day like nirvana. >> [laughter] >> I I don't think that's possible. It's not happening in my household. >> But it's a blend, right? Where in the moment, she doesn't know that's what she's doing. She thinks she knows who you are, all this stuff. So, she's just like, "No, you're not my son. Whatever. This is crazy. You're ████ crazy. I Mama knows best. What you need to do is you need to do X Y Z." And it's like there's no pattern recognition. There's
7:39 none of that. She's just trying to fit you into the idea of who she thinks you should be. >> You know, I would say I would say growing up on that blanket statement I wish you introed, I would almost fully agree. Right? The idea that like like, you know, ████ diamonds. Diamonds are are are created through pressure, right? The idea of it makes a ton of sense. People going through boot camp. We see it in every parallel, right? It's just very funny, especially because when I went to like the whole dance world and stuff like that, too. You know, like people are like, "How did you What's your success or how did you get there?" So, you're going around you're almost like evangelizing your own understanding of your own personal story because you're like, "This is crazy." And the first time I told the story I didn't think it was crazy, but after thousands of people are like, "That's insane." I realized it's crazy, right? It was so difficult for me to get here
8:30 without the support of my parents blah blah blah blah blah, right? You you really understand that it's probably what defined your journey. I agree. And then you ████ meet somebody else who's also amazing, and then they also just have loving parents, and you're like, "Wait." >> Yeah, you could have both. >> They shattered it. This is not a one or the other. You're saying you and and? >> Yeah. >> And then you then you're like, "Man, this ████ sucks." Again, you all over again. >> Yeah, cuz I I I'm with you on that where I feel that way, and then I remember one time Justin Gaethje who just fought on the White House card in another fight that he won. He goes, "I want to like shout out my parents, the ones that drove me to every single wrestling competition or tournament, and it was there for everything, paid for my hotel, didn't have money at home, would save up for flights just to compete. This belt goes out to you." And I was >> [screaming] >> They supported him every step of the way. >> Champions also have that story.
9:21 >> That's ████ up. >> And all I'm saying is if if if top of the mountain can have both sides, I just prefer the nice one. That's all I'm saying. >> If I can have chocolate sundae and sprinkles, why not? >> [laughter] >> So So, yeah, to answer your question, I'm always proud that like it was a tough journey, but I will always wonder and be jealous at the same time. >> I I am separating the lack of love. I think that's a completely different story. But I think if I can isolate the pressure cuz I guarantee you these rich kids or whatever, their parents didn't let them miss practice. Their parents didn't let them like be like, you know what? Today you can you cannot go to So, pressure is probably the main >> Okay, I'm just curious I'm just curious about this pressure. The pressure of making sure that I do my best on this competition because my parents are front
10:11 row and they're watching like this with a sign. I don't know what that pressure feels like. >> That's a loving pressure. >> Okay, well, that that's a curious one. I've seen that on white people TV. Is when you you look at the seats and they're empty? >> Yeah. >> [laughter] >> No, because because even in that story there was an expectation. Like there was there was never an expectation my parents were there. >> No, his pressure is more like being on ABDC and then they finally see you team on TV and go, but you didn't go number one. >> I remember like I was I was I was wrestling in high school and my dad hates violence, right? So, he didn't like like wrestling or football or any of that stuff. So, he's like, you can only pick one. I was like, I want to wrestle. I remember I was trying to convince my dad to come watch one of my matches and he finally did and then I don't know if he was there when I was was my time to go on the mat. Afterwards, I I caught my dad in a parking lot and I was like, "Dad, did
11:01 you see my match?" He goes, "I got lost." I was like, [laughter] "Motherfucker." So, he didn't even know how to get TO THE AUDITORIUM. >> [laughter] >> ANYTHING LIKE THAT. HE SHOULD have just lied, bro. He should have [laughter] just lied. He's like, "I'm never coming again cuz your school's too confusing." >> [laughter] >> Is us with our personalities >> Yeah. >> would we have actually done anything if we had love? >> I say no. >> Yeah, I it. >> no. >> No, no, no. All I'm saying All I'm saying is I don't think the trajectory of Bart's career would change if his dad made it to the match or got lost in the parking lot. >> I wouldn't have this story. >> Yeah, that's true. >> He needed He needed to have gotten lost. >> have had a better life though. [laughter] >> Hey, but then Bart wouldn't have been funny.
11:52 All these ████ crazy things, bro. Like that's what builds character and personality. >> I'm just saying I'm just saying test me. I think we're coping ████ I'm saying test me. Give me a successful and loving parent and let me see if I can be successful. >> Give you the most boring guy in the world, dude. The most unfunny dude ever. >> The reincarnation thing really is weird for and real Let me just try it like >> Successful but unfunny. >> But you chose this one. >> I'm not funny now. >> Shut up, dude. End the video. >> You're funny and you're successful. >> Yeah, yeah, yeah. >> Triple triple triple triple. >> designer. >> [laughter] >> And you're 6 ft.
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