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Off The Record: Just Chatting with @kazumisworld about Relationships :)

#boyfriend#falllove#tested#scarcity#hotelroom
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0:00 if you love your husband suck his right now there was probably 30 50 people on that boat and at all like half of us got on our knees and we started sucking our husbands off right and my boyfriend off and then like all around me it was like couples in loves going down on each other synchronized sucking that's like the best Church in the world [Music] did you participate in no not November oh yeah nah I gotta jack off that's too long that's a whole month what did you ask them no not November did you do it also a long time that's hard I don't even try it like what's the point of trying oh that's so long I don't even think I could biologically do it because I think I'll have wet dreams we'll have to come without even jacking it'll just come out then yeah plus my schedule don't work like that guys that

0:50 could do wet dreams that can do them like hey check it out yeah yeah no they can't they wake up and then they bust they wake up and they bust that's pretty efficient but I'd like to be awake during that I like to be doing some otherworldly ████ in here you already live in a dream sorry that's true like in the context of me I wouldn't want to switch and be a guy I like being like me yeah I think with your yeah with what I'm doing being like a girl this world is cool yeah York is hard yeah yeah you get access you get to choose I have girl wrists I try girl rigs what okay what is Riz like Charisma Charisma oh okay okay gotcha okay gotcha sometimes my boyfriend is like oh it's so easy for you you just go stand outside and then people are like please ████ me and I'm like no I'm just

1:42 I feel like a lot of I feel like I get rejected more than people think but you're shooting a lot of shots right I don't I feel like no I'm actually pretty picky about my shots because again it's I have to be really specific about the the battles I want to create and being like get tested and ████ so I feel like so I feel like like a lot of guys will like be like ew no and I'll be like okay okay like when that guy didn't want to kiss me I was like okay I guess that's crazy to me yeah I feel like sometimes the sexual history is kind of gross to the normal guy yeah yeah if you're like brutish it's like it's it's it's fair but it's also like uh if you're pretty like um like honest about it and you're you're sitting yourself all out there in the test and all those things and it's like all right cool then I'm with it I ████ with it yeah I know I forgot

2:33 there's guys like that out if you're like sketchum if you're if you would say tell me like uh I mean I just kind of just go off Faith like I don't really like that task yeah I'd be like that would be like wait that'd be sucks yeah I'm saying like no like I'm not a toxic person like I feel like I'm just a good little time and I feel like sometimes I don't know like I'm not like I need there to be equal feet like a good feedback loop of Attraction because I'm not gonna chase a guy I will reinforce the same energy though like if a guy is like into me then I'll also be vocally into him but if he's kind of like standing then I'm just like bro I have a job like I got like I have other things to ████ you know you don't want to do this yeah true yeah I feel like not having like a dick scarcity mentality has helped me be able to focus more bro she's got scars you know what ████

3:25 scarcity mentality is like oh yeah it's like I need this because I'm not gonna get it again like it's like I'm not gonna demean or degrade myself for dick because it's it's an opulence it's like it's a abundance it's everywhere it's true for you very true sometimes that even if we did have great sex if I feel like you're a toxic dude I'm not dick whipped anymore like I would have been a Slave but now it's like I'm a woman like I don't care like it's not that serious and there's just more people in the world you know guys guys need to have that uh as well you know to know that like yo it's all good yo I can't ████ is an abundance if you focus on yourself if you are a successful happy person with yourself then ████ is everywhere but can't tell you something though know that yeah I know that can I tell you something yes I missed thirsting you

4:16 could still thirst just wait four days just stop drinking water for a couple days no like when you're too confident like you don't you don't feel like oh I want you so bad you know I miss that feeling of oh I want you so so bad I can't take it anymore yeah this is funny adalation boner yeah and then and then I don't I don't have that and when you're too confident you don't want them so bad I feel like I like there's a little bit Cancun when I was at that swingers resort because it was like sexy groundhog day bro every 24 hours away and I had 24 hours to fall in love with you real quick and then ████ so it was like a Sprint it was just like are we gonna do this yeah we did it and then like the next six feet dating we could see each other in the pool be like cool and then I would move on to my next like victim you know you didn't even want to do the same person over again you'd be like we already had it person twice

5:06 because like he was like leaving and he was cool and like lived in some weird state so I would definitely have some weird State you know but like besides that it was like I wanted the experience of like variety yeah and it's also not just variety because of course these were sexual relationships but it was like spending the whole day with someone like I'm in The Bachelorette and like we're like doing cool ████ we're jet skiing we're making out we're having dinner conversations together so it's kind of romantic and then deuces you know and it's like something different lives sometimes you don't need the moment can be temporary and we're just two people intersecting and we don't need to keep this going because sometimes I feel like if I get to know you more and more and more and becomes the whole thing oh I don't like that what this was which was this one beautiful night you know yeah like it was like we were you were a cool ass dude on vacation we did the damn thing and I wouldn't want dancing too much either yeah yeah and then we know and

5:57 then later you find out he complains a lot yeah he is weird ████ yeah yes we think about that stereotype of like uh women women get attached easier because it's more like they're based off of emotions and having sex and it's more emotional chemistry all those things how do you block that I wouldn't say a lot of these like gender constructs are like really generalized and when we make these like generalized assumptions from people we don't really know before getting to know the individual it's more harmful because you're not actually getting to know that person like if we like set up these expectations and then don't communicate them and then but assume those people will do it then it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy like of course then woman would be like that I don't but in my world I don't feel like men or women are more predisposed to getting feelings if we're all really clear now if we're playing ████ games and then I'm an insecure person then I feel like I'm more likely to be like oh what is he doing what is he thinking

6:47 yeah what's this but it's like if we're really clear like hey I have a partner and I do porn this is really just the thing I want to do because it's fun then it's like we have managed expectations about what this is that's great yeah I appreciate you go you are this that's happened to me one time where like it was like a very like you know beautiful moment yo like a beautiful night with this girl and we danced we met off of like uh from like an acting class and then like we went out and danced this last night and came home drinking wine it was beautiful I had the beautiful sex too and I was like damn this is ████ tight yo afterwards I walk around to her car and she tells me she's like hey I just want to let you know um You probably we're probably not gonna you said what like I used to yeah pretty much like we're probably not gonna see each other again after this like I don't wanna I don't wanna and I

7:38 think it's much sure because sometimes did that break your heart yo that was this was actually the first time like uh that like my ego it's like a wake-up call yeah yeah because because she and she even said like she was like uh because she knew I'm Puerto Rican and Dominican so she was like I get to put that on my board of like I I banged a Puerto Rican she likes banging like different you know she's like you she's trying to connect a un U.N of sex yeah yeah so so she so I gave her like a three for one you know say Puerto Rico Dominican Mexico so she could like but she but the thing was is like uh I I was that that really like damn you could like you could just it could that could it could just happen it's just like sometimes like I think that would break my heart but did you feel like I actually wanted something with you man what did you feel like that never happened before well honestly I thought if she didn't say that it could have like been like unsaid and we could have just like oh that could have been a cool build for one

8:28 night stand but the fact that she said it and just in person like just right there was like Hey tonight was cool but it ain't yo that's respect that she knows that she really meant that ████ yo like I still to this day bro I don't know her Instagram I don't know her Facebook I don't know her number like she really like ghost Pro she's in here that experience rent free knowing more and more about them it's like sometimes it's not necessary like if you wanted a sexual experience and you got it you know we didn't want a relationship we don't have to rationalize getting to know each other like let's just have this moment and then we intersect it and then we move on and I think a lot of people try to prolong this experience because they are scared it's never going to happen again but it'll happen throughout your life yeah put scarcity let's see scarcity yeah if you do if you keep chasing it then you'll keep like you'll you keep ████ things so they are destroyed you know what I mean like some things are on purpose like my partner

9:18 and I like that's on purpose but like some of these things are just moments and they don't have to demean me or add value they're just moments I think I fall in love too fast I can't be ████ around I think I fall in love all the time but it's a very controlled sense that's too crazy because you said I have 24 hours to fall in love I was like okay so then how do you like cut that thing you know like I like establishing that chemistry and passion and then being like you know I think you should go to one of those things man dude it's a ████ blast okay so it sounds pretty interesting but I wouldn't want to go with somebody like who who knows the game like show you around me I don't want to go like green like it's just me by yourself no you should always go for girl it's easier to win that situation but yo you're falling in a little bit too much right now okay so you know you got a bunch of dicks around you you know the etiquette you might just walk in and start saying who wants them oh awesome that is the sexiest thing you

10:08 can do my partner and I we went on an orgy boat it was she was gorgeous but like we were kind of like huh like we're on a boat right in the middle of the ocean and at some point the announcer was like if you love your husband suck his dick right now there was probably 30 50 people on that boat and at all like half of us got on our knees and we started sucking our husbands off right and my boyfriend off and then like all around me it was like couples and loves going down like everyone was like synchronized sucking we're synchronized Origins dude my boyfriend was dabbing people up being like yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah it's kind of tight yeah that's like the best Church in the world butt ass naked I was like what's going on look at your neighbor give him head you have your girl and then they all we all like got eaten out like what yeah

10:59 that's crazy just like we were with our partner so it was kind of romantic can I tell you another thing okay why do you say it like that because I need to because I need you to um it's validate me I need to explain okay because you you're the closest thing to someone that I know that has experience in this field right so like so like I um so like for Hannah like she she's she's someone that I love is that your woman yes and then so I don't care if she has as many girlfriends as she wants it doesn't bother me but no guys allowed why do you think that is no PPS no PP allowed you may not feel threatened by like woman I guess I feel like oh yeah let's join but if you don't want me around that's cool too yeah you know it's funny I hate ████ with couples because I don't like people on Opps which is what you are what's OPP one penis policy no we're

11:51 here for equal rights baby if you I'm only one penis my penis no I there was like so many couples at that Resort and they were like please ████ my husband and I'd be like are you ████ with me and I'd be like yeah I'm bisexual and I'd be like nail check bro if your nails are this long you are not because why you're not finger banging girls yo I'm for everybody it makes sense I've learned so much ████ if your nails are this long you are straight as ████ I'm bisexual too look there was a night where um my boyfriend at the time my boyfriend was like he wanted to ████ this girl and this other girl but they were related so they were

12:41 weird so he was like can I please ████ in our hotel room and I was like for sure I'm gonna just go hotel room the hotel room being like a human flashlight Etc and at like 5 a.m I'm like bro like come on like no response I don't know if these balls deep in this chick and I just kind of was like I'm sleepy like what and I knew I was different because at some point I just like barged in and I saw my boyfriend booty ass butt cheek naked hot dogs in a bun condom still on the penis holding this like random woman like naked like tight and in my mind I was like man the average woman would be like well in my mind I also just like sucked off like hella sausage meat bro so in my mind I was just like I'm really sorry but it's six a.m and I just need to sleep in my bed wow y'all can sleep in wet spots but just you gotta go bro and my boyfriend was like I can't believe

13:32 you saw me like that I was like I don't really care my guy completely b████████ like what the ████ like damn yo clip that like if you are completely b████████ you are not my boyfriend like you need like not that I need him to be around at her woman but I like the outside validation that other women think he's sexy because I'm like I made a good choice here but what if I went the other way around would he be able to walk in and then you're being cuddled by a man and he's all like bro can you move over so I could sleep oh if it was like love what I'm saying that's the difference it's like um he was like yeah I wouldn't really care but he was like if I was caught into me like so my boyfriend has run trains with me like we've done orgies together but he doesn't really like to because I get loud and into it and he's like yeah you made a different noise with him

14:23 hey what did you do right time yeah yeah how you do that like if a bro make me squirt I know because my boyfriend and I haven't really figured it out yet he'll be like you know but it's not like in like a jealous way like I don't want you to have that experience it's just like that ████ is cool but he has to reach that level and he's like damn it I haven't got to that level for me I feel compassion like I feel happy and my partner is experiencing fun ████ like whether he's going to a football game or if he's getting double teamed by like two shorties of bbl's whatever the ████ that's got nothing to do with me you know because at the end of the day we converge and we debrief at the end of the night and then we like talk about it and it's like you're sharing it think about it you and your best friend you guys probably talk about the insane ████ you do and it's like me and my boyfriend have like the craziest stories but together yeah separate and then we're able to share it and exchange

15:13 like what we like and don't like about each other and then like have sex with the knowledge you know things we can't try what uh like other demographics of women like do you see in these parties like racially or like yeah racially yeah I would say it's like it's pretty diverse when I first started I was like I had a lot of Asian friends there was a lot of Asian women but it's like whatever Circle you go to um it's it's pretty diverse like I would say in Cancun obviously it was a lot of like Hispanic and white and black because they were traveling from the states here for the party yeah for the party and then like when I was in Berlin obviously hello European or something oh got you okay yeah I remember I was in a sex club in London and they they they like kept making fun of my American accent and I kept being like say literally literally that's literally like they're like just say things in

16:03 your American Valley Girl accent and I was like I barely have a family that's how they're getting off okay but we do to them when they're here I say literally literally yeah that's hilarious but like we sometimes go to sex parties and we don't ████ other people like I just like that's better to me than You're Gone without having sex at all no like I just like being around like I don't like normal clubs they're loud and I don't know how to dance and my ass is fake so I don't know how to twerk but I got a fat ass so people ask me to twerk and it's just very embarrassing so I just like I like lounges like I like sitting like talking well so you like when someone's getting sucked off right next to you and you just drinking and you're having a conversation and you get to look at it and you go that's nice that's what world peace looks like yeah yeah but it's like Fair argument it's not I think so too it's like the sex isn't the

16:54 objective but it's friendly towards it it's like if it happens like whatever bro but it's like like for me I've actually never met someone at a normal club and then brought them to my house I think it's really weird like I like my Social Security's there bro like my ████ my my furry porn is there I don't want you to see I don't know you but how about a hotel because I've done that that's okay but like I wouldn't bring you to my house and I wouldn't go to your house because I'm like lit like that's kind of weird to me like I would rather like I go to my friend's party meet a guy ████ him on the couch in front of the homies and then like sex isn't the objective then I'm just chilling if they're homies you know like it's like the party keeps going instead of like oh and now I left the party to ████ this guy it was five minutes it sucked like what like that like now it's not the goal or the climax of my night it's just a thing that happens it's just a feature but then now you get to stay at the party and be with your friends

17:44 yeah ████ Costco chicken get the Hibachi yo does your boyfriend have to get uh tested as much as you get tested he doesn't have to get tested as much because like he isn't as sexually active but like if he were to like if a girl were to like sometimes girls will message him and be like can you like just stun ████ it like can you just like ████ me for this video then of course he would get oh he's into he's in the community now is it because of you like adjacent like he like obviously has videos of me and my friends so like he has like a small like social media presence but like he's like an attractive guy so I think like sometimes people are like can we just like ████ and I'll ████ pay you or whatever and then he'll do and they trust him already yeah yeah so if it's not only fans but like let's just say he's hitting on girls on DMS because he wants some something else or whatever is there protocol between two of Life yeah so we have have um I don't have raw sex off

18:35 camera so like and so the same rules apply so like I wouldn't he wouldn't be having raw sex with this person and I always say like if it's a normal person I mean you should be getting tested bro like in general you don't have to do it every five to seven days because that s███'s expensive and crazy but you should regularly get tested for your own like Vibe for your own situation sure yeah and then we have a fluid Bond so I don't do cream pies I don't do facials um and I don't call anyone Daddy because that's awkward you know I don't get it for you like you don't like it that just like sucks like I don't know I just feel like why would I call this random dude Daddy it's like so embarrassing I'll call you something else like like Peter Mr Mister Mister father grandpa yeah Lola Lola and then like obviously they just have

19:25 to be aware that I have a partner and I and from there I can kind of feel out like if they get it or not because sometimes like I could feel like some guys like think I'm lying and they think I'm just cheating on my boyfriend and I'm like nah bro like my boyfriend knows what I'm doing they're just in disbelief like some guys do yeah well guys always like hey I'm in an open relationship but it was kind of interesting like I was in Cancun and I was ████ this guy and I my phone started ringing and obviously it's my boyfriend and it's like I'm just he knows what I'm doing so I don't care and the guy was like you should answer that and I was like for like I was like yeah like he thought I was being sus and I was like no I'm actually not being assessed in this world it's actually very unsus yeah unsus I mean that's more that's more rare to come by yeah yeah he was like answer that bro I was like we're good he had an experience where it was that

20:15 which one remember when that dude came barging in while you were with that girl you had to hide in the other room yeah it was a whole situation oh my God what's the team more often now oh man check out episode [Laughter] [Music] foreign

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