0:00 You know what's kind of funny about my interracial marriage? Because I feel like there's like adoption ratios, if you will. So, for example, like how much more Mexican am I with Gio's family versus >> Oh, that adoption. >> Yeah. Versus how much Chinese is Gio now with my family? >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. The funny part is uh in Gio's family uh one of the first times I was introduced to her dad. Like her dad's a very traditional or was a very traditional uh Mexican machismo guy. Like he's just like very stoic man of few words, you know, that kind of stuff. He just sits in the corner. Usually it's like all the women arranging all the stuff or logistics in the house of what's going on when there's like a party. Uh Gio's like, "Oh, this is my I want you to meet Bart. He's my boyfriend." Whatever. And I I shook his hand regular style and then I went up for a kiss and I kissed him on
0:50 the cheek cuz I I knew I was going to catch him off guard. So he was and he was just like, "Oh s███." You just feel him all stiffening up and I was like like that. And then he was like, "What the f███?" And I think from that point on [laughter] I think from that point on >> you're Latino, right? >> I think from that point on he was like, "Okay, [laughter] this ████ I can't have any expectations cuz he's not really Chinese. He's just his own thing." >> [laughter] >> So from that point on, I didn't have to adopt anything. But on the flip side, Gio is pretty ████ Chinese on our end. Like all our rules, the typical like uh take your shoes off when you >> she sees your mom. >> She addresses all of my elders by Chinese like like yay po whatever. She addresses all of them by their Chinese titles. Is very respectful. She all the traditions that we do when we go eat,
1:41 grabs the food last, you know, like all that Asian stuff. She does all of it. But when I'm with her family, I see her mom like bent over. I'm like, "Oh, look at that coolo." So [laughter] at her family, >> that's crazy. >> It's like >> that's pretty that's pretty Mexican. >> It's completely like opposite. I don't do any Mexican ████ >> But like the crazy Chinese guy is here again. >> Wild China Middle. Are you more more ready to listen to or is more comedy to hear like Bad Bunny in your house or like Terresa Tang? >> For sure. Bad Bunny than you're adopting, you know? I'm just kidding. >> Yeah. Okay. Okay. >> As if I'm comparing the same generation of art. Food-wise, Tao ████ hates Chinese food. >> Really? >> Which I kind of hate, too. So, I'm like, okay. >> Okay, that's fair. >> Cuz it took me a while to get it. >> Annie hates Panda. He hates Panda Express.
2:32 >> No way. >> Yeah. I was like, dude, I was like, I don't even like >> Because Mexicans like pandas. >> Mexicans love Panda Express. >> His blood's supposed to be like, I love panda. >> Mexicans love orange chicken. Mexicans cook it. It might be because he's ████ whitewashed. >> Oh, >> cuz he doesn't even like tacos gordo. You whitewashed your own child. What does he want? Casserole. He probably wants Taco Bell. >> He likes his grand chili. >> He likes his grandma chili chilles, though. That's bomb. >> Okay. >> Anything grandma makes, that's bomb. >> But tacos algoro. He's an emotional Mexican. >> Maybe that's part of it. Maybe it's like the thing of where if you have it from your family, it's like substandard to have it at fast food. >> Uh tacos El Gordo though. >> Grandma. >> Grandma cannot make tacos. >> Brother, you haven't had tacos. >> We're going to go there today. >> Yeah, especially the one off of uh town around town. >> Bro, next time instead of tea, Brazil,
3:23 dude, would you just go tacos on Gordo for birthdays? Wait, didn't what if I just You took Ace to Tacos del whatever the ████ And he had the worst diary of his life. >> Huh? >> That didn't mean he didn't enjoy the ████ out of it. What did he order? I never had diarrhea from there. >> He said he got the pork or something. >> Look at him. Look at him. >> One of the Kinjas guys. He took one of the Kinjas guys. >> Not just one of the white guy at that. Yeah. Yeah. You know, Ace. Yeah. Look at him. [laughter] >> He can't handle spice. Come on, dude. bring bring uh bring one of our minority people there. [laughter] >> How much of the adoption do you guys have in your guys' relationships like of each other's culture? >> Cuz mine mine is zero on my side, but [laughter] then Gio is like probably 70 80% Chinese. >> Obviously, mine is still very Asian. So, that's going to be boring. >> I'm still learning British culture. But what I found out, this is the ████
4:14 cool part, is British is like the perfect in between between Japan and America. And they actually are more similar to Japan in a lot of ways than America. >> Yeah. So like one of them is that um we both come from countries that are like well I was born here but it's more like there's a royal system and with that the culture has a class and like system of like hierarchy and like class system. So because of that, I think there's certain things that bleed into the culture for having that. >> Well, give me give me an example of how that bleeds into. >> You guys both have a lot of burning churches, too. >> Burning [laughter] churches. And we have a lot of bombings. [laughter] >> Wrong side of the war with America all the time. >> Yeah. But how does it bleed into your household? >> In the house? >> Yeah. You and Hannah's household. It's very subtle to where like I think man
5:06 it's hard to nail a perfect example but like while we're having conversations there's just certain things that like >> we see super eye to eye on and don't even need to discuss it because >> it's almost like the same culture. So So a lot of the stuff that I would bump heads with with like maybe Americans or just um things that are like man how do I even explain this? I don't have to explain it to her because she gets it. Like they have the class system, right, where there's like posh people or whatever. We have that here, but in America, it's more like they see it as rich. Over there, you could be broke, but high class. >> Oh, I see. And then same with Japan. You could be highborn, but you could be like >> you ain't got no money, >> proper individual. >> Yeah. So, it's kind of similar in that way where it's like Yeah. So like it's
5:56 hard to expl. So because of those nuances, it was so much easier to just like for her to get ████ and then like >> when you guys both start talking ████ on China, you guys click right away. >> Yeah. Former ████ colonies, you know, big n colonist nations, you know? Like it's like we could relate on how many countries we colonized. My ancestor was a colonizer, too. Yeah. I get it. I get it. I think the biggest one that I'm probably adopting from her family is like being is like is like more like talking like as equals and like discussions like Asian style is like you don't really talk as equals and have discussions with your parents. Yeah. Like elders are elders. You're just subordinate. >> No, but I text back and forth with their parents all the time. Like we we're like friends. like it it's so different from
6:47 like >> Asian style community like in my my mom will like reach out to Hannah and stuff too but there's this level of parent child dialogue. >> Well that's crazy. >> See cuz cuz that still contrasts even for me obviously with Nina being Asian still like I'm I can speak more her parents speak better English than my parents so I feel like I can speak with them but it's still like that that's those are parents. >> Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. There's a line. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. But they're see like British people like Europeans I think they're just really ████ good like conversationalists. So you could talk about hella ████ and I mean I think they just do that more than Americans. Americans are more like surface level or nicities and like you don't really get deep. >> British is good at banter. >> That's true. >> Yeah. Like so they're like really good and like you could talk to them for hours and it's not boring. Right.
7:38 >> Yeah. So, like me and her dad would go back and forth with like long ass texts. And I'm like, I never had >> that relationship with someone that's considered above me. Yeah, that's that's dope. I was like, that's something I think we'll keep. And that's something that I'm adopting cuz in the beginning, I couldn't call them by like I still can't call them by first name. >> Well, when you say keep and adopting, when you have a kid and your kids starting to talk to you like a friend, are you really going to keep it right then? >> No. But so there's that's the thing is there's this level of hierarchy still where there's respect and that there is a it's different man like it's not like um it's not like disrespect where it's like >> ████ you mom you know like that American ████ >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> It's it's uh >> the lane of communication is open as long as we don't break any rules type stuff. Like it's understood kind of respect. >> It's with stages. So once they become an
8:30 adult, they're treated like an adult versus like we could be 50 and our parents will still treat us like we're five. >> So I think that's the difference. >> Let me give you a example. Let me see how you would uh deal with it because I'm on the fence with this one. >> Let's say you're playing a game with your kid and your kid's like, "A man, bro, is that [laughter] okay to be equal or is that you're like, >> "Oh, calling me bro." Yeah. or he would say like, "Oh man, bro, what [laughter] you that's diff that's so different once you put an accent on something." I don't know. We're American. But >> yeah, I think [laughter] that's a Yeah, I don't think that's respectful cuz you you can't address your father as bro. Like I would, but I don't think they do that either. >> No, but if I saw a little British kid on
9:20 like Ted Lasso, talk to his dad, be like, "Oh, bro." I'd be like, "Man, that's tight." >> Oh, he does do that. No, I'm just saying >> I was on the fence because there's the side of me that goes what the ████ you don't call me bro. >> But then there's the other side I'm like oh. But then it just rolled off the tongue. It's like one of those like like nah dog. You know it's like that. So ah I'm like >> don't make it a habit. I'll just say that. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. >> So I was like I don't know. >> I'm not I'm not your bro. I'm your dude. [laughter] >> Yeah. I think there's still a way to respect it without being such a ████ hard ass. I think Asian style is too uh >> it's too rigid. >> That's Yeah. I think that's what it >> no room for like wiggle room for anything. Yeah. >> Yeah. So I I I think I like that her the way her family has like they still respect the parents and and and like there's like a lot of love there, but
10:10 they can have really sick ass conversations and it's civil and like all that. And I'm like why the ████ can't I operate like that? And I think Asian style is like you just can't. It's always a lecture. It's always something like proverbs and ████ It's always like, yeah, there's just no conversation. >> Yeah. The biggest thing that I feel from that with my parents is because they always wear that hat and uh of like parent and kid, there's this wall you can't get through for you to know the real them and then for them to know the real you. >> No. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's for you. >> Yeah. But once you guys can break through, that's awesome where it's like it's so refreshing >> to be able to just like, okay, it's just person with person. Who gives a ████ what identity or ████ hats you're wearing? >> Cuz I think it's a huge difference in western thinking and and like eastern
11:00 >> where like eastern is like it's very like >> hierarchy. You just you have your role and you just stick to your role and you don't really break through. Yeah. >> I had to prime Smack on being uh almost like feigning dependence. So like for Filipino culture when they they're they're always trying to give you stuff, right? But if I was telling Smack like she never wants to accept it and I'm like, "Oh, you have to accept it. You have to act like you need that's exactly what you needed." So if they give you a ████ vacuum, you got to act like, "Thank God you're giving me this vacuum. I needed it so badly. >> I was praying for this last night." >> You don't go, "Oh, we already have one." Like that's rude. But from her culture, it's like rude to just Why would I take these things from these people? Like I should tell them like to keep it. I'm like, "No, no, no, no, no." It's a total opposite. So she had to learn that like uh you know uh cuz it's like she's being modest and saying like no thank you not
11:51 like greedy right but then in Asian culture you have to accept >> want you to they want to know that they were able to do something for you so like we'll go out to dinner with my or lunch with my parents randomly. This is when I was just dating her. They would just give her hundreds of dollars. >> Oh ████ >> Yeah. For no reason. They would just be like here you go. And she's like what? >> That's ████ awesome. And that's coming from her family who ne she had to pay rent living at home at 16. So it's like stark opposite. So I had to be like, "Okay, I know it's really uncomfortable for you." >> But that's the best gesture you can give back is like, "Thank you so much. Like this is going to help a lot." Like >> and then give it to me later. >> And then give it to me and we buy PS5 games. >> That is true though cuz that's their love language. >> It is. Yeah. >> That's their purpose is like my purpose is till you die, I'm going to take care of you. Cuz even my grandma at 90 was
12:43 trying to ████ give candy to my mom. >> Oh, dude. Yeah. >> Yeah. My mom's like, "I don't want candy. I'm I don't want to be diabetic." My dad right now called me like just the other week and he's like, "I have a deal for you." I was like, "What?" And he goes, "I'll I'll pay for one year of diapers." I was like, "A year of diapers?" Like, that's a lot of money. And how are you quantifying that? What's a year of diapers? He's like, "Don't worry. I'll answer for it [laughter] >> just randomly. But what's the deal? Because you're supposed to give it the >> That's not even a deal. That's just There's nothing in exchange. This is the way I want you to understand how I'm >> That's his deal. He did that before I went when I was looking for a car too recently. >> Me on Instagram. [laughter] >> That's his deal. He goes he he did the same thing a few months before that. He's like, "I have a proposition for
13:34 you." I was like, "What?" He goes, "We pick you buy your car and I'll pay the down payment." I was like, "What's the deal? You're [laughter] just giving this just free. There's no deal." So, like, I couldn't accept it cuz I'm like, "That's crazy. That's not a deal." But he just he just want like as Filipino parents, they just want to know that like they're helping you. You >> That's sick, dude. >> Yeah. But it's But then Smack is like she's like it's uh important to her. It's like it it it almost makes her feel like sick, you know? >> Yeah, >> that's crazy. But that is that is a huge difference of east and west cuz Hannah was telling her parents about how like so one of her family members married a um Indian and he inherited like a home in like ████ I don't know like 500,000 or some ████ Wow. >> Like Yeah. Or whatever. And she's like,
14:25 "Yeah, that's like that's the difference, you know, the culture is like they think about." And then she's like, "That's why she's like regular common westerners, they're different from rich westerners." Like like they these high class like white people, they think about inheritance and passing ████ down. But common Asians, even the brokeest ones think about >> passing down inheritance. So she's like, "That's the difference is like we if the upper class think about it but not the lower." And then and then but then like lower class Asians, it's like it doesn't ████ matter if you're Indian or Japanese or whatever. Like everyone's trying to pass something down. And she goes, "That's why they
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