0:00 thank you [Music] welcome back to another careful boys where we are very careful boys and today we are talking about women having guy friends women I like it is it chill is it do you guys feel threatened if your lady has guy friends I did in the 90s I was hello 90s what were you like 12 earlier late 90s late 90s I was 16. stick that phallic in your mouth somebody make that a meme please no no please don't well there's there's some truth to it right because as guys we all know that most of her guy friends are trying to steal bone that's correct 100 that's a absolute fact it's a fact of of the
0:51 matter and it's duh because we're the same way that's why we know it's like yeah you should stay away yeah yeah but also the older you get the more you like so when is it acceptable what circumstance it's not acceptable it's never okay punishable but death yeah I think so it's a relative just let me put this on my my girl's got a couple guy friends that are like really really close friends but they're all gay and I'm like we should still we should still like do and you're like group and they're married but like or like you've known this person for like decades before like before like someone came into the picture and the nature of the hangout yeah Define friendship Define friendship
1:41 like you're not hanging out going over to his house late at night watching a movie yeah you know Netflix and chill like with your guy friend that seems a little like you're just doing like a vacation together Yeah Yeah by yourselves yeah yeah that's fine if she's laughing harder his jokes than mine yeah not down if she's like I'm just sucking his dick what's your problem big deal his dick fell in my mouth jeez I escalated quickly yeah great I do okay so we were just having this chat before like the cameras rolled right but I started to when I was super jealous in high school after that I was like you know what I rather just get cheated on if she's gonna do that why am I holding yeah no you're right about that that is a great control if she's gonna be a cheater anyway so then that's gonna happen I went the other way and I was so like just ████ hang out because I wanted
2:33 to see who they really were like as a person and then so so set traps from there yeah I set so many traps I would be like yo I'll get the most handsome friend that I got and be like yo try to ████ brains out go ahead go ahead now they're married and now no but then worked it worked yeah they got they're happily married I totally hooked them up Joe's just a Matchmaker that's it she's a Good Luck Chuck but then if I create that recipe it also was liberating for me because then I wasn't worried I wasn't feeling like oh my God where's she at how come she's not calling oh my God that is so sexy oh she didn't text back it's been five minutes you know hot hot Behavior right you just I just care about her safety yeah so make sure she's okay that's it yeah where are you where the ████ are you where are you ████ why
3:24 are you ████ ████ yeah I'm worried about you in terms of examples it is it is super true like uh when they say that oh that's just guys being insecure when they act like that and I will say it is true because back in my early days of dating when I used to trip about that ████ about girls I that I was dating having guy friends I would trip because I wasn't super confident in myself and I I wouldn't want her to discover really great qualities about a guy that I don't have and then I would go um fun go have fun with your cool friend so true throw a football you know just whatever the ████ and then as you get older and you figure out the things you like about yourself that nobody else has then you just go okay this is what this Shop sells and if this isn't what you want that's you're on you you know whatever and wouldn't you want to know early on in the relationship if they're gonna do it you want to know very early on before you invest more time so you're
4:14 gonna spend all this time controlling her for like four years and then she never had the opportunity to cheat on you because you kept controlling her yeah but also it is also a bad move to just be too passive that it's like you don't even ████ register anything it is still like a real thing to be like hey that guy's kind of crossing the line like your girl's still going to want to know where you stand on things like that because that's also unsexy when you just really don't give a ████ I'm all too Carefree right then it's just like okay oh go ahead go ahead I'm gonna hang out with Elizabeth later anyways no yeah that's a cool guy right yeah that's a cool guy told me early on in our relationship she ████ loved it when um we were at like her birthday and we used to do like karaoke at Brass Monkey in LA and there was a cat who's there and he's like putting his hand on her back and I was like like on like the small of her back you know what he's talking to her I was like hey dude you
5:04 don't gotta touch your back yeah and that was it and Nick he was like I ████ love that yeah why was he doing that in front of you I don't think he knew I was territorial boyfriend yeah sometimes they don't know yeah that's how people say you know what I would do though um I would just see how she would handle the situation that and then you beat off to it I would jack off while he's touching her and I go [Music] to see if she would respect the relationship well not only just herself but also the relationship that you guys have that's true also I want to see what her threshold is for like not violence but like how hard she can fight back or if she doesn't like a situation does she say something is she gonna be passive or not right yeah Nikki
5:54 particularly was with a guy previously who was who would laugh at guys hitting on her and he like loved it and she hated that like she she was like ████ defend me do something like this guy's like touching me and ████ and so that's why he would laugh but if you knew that about her I didn't know okay but that helped if you did because then now you know how to approach the situation no it helps that he didn't know and he still approached the right way it's like ah okay double credit that's just how I handle ████ because I'm like you're Crossing line dude what the ████ she doesn't want you touching her back yeah like girls don't like that there's still gonna be a scale of comfort you know yeah that makes sense but then you know what else sucks this also is a thing like the friend who let's say your girl does have a guy friend and it does get a little bit weird and you're kind of like hey let's uh let's not so much huh and then that guy gets mad oh that's the
6:45 best and then yeah exactly and he's like don't let your dude control who your friends are that dude needs to go that guy can't fight guys out that guy can't wait to cut the line and then control him oh that that dude had happens from the very beginning exactly exactly that's the only reason why he's there right because I've had friends that are girls that will end up with a dude that maybe doesn't know me and then so I I will respectfully be like cool like that's fine I don't give a ████ like Thrive and then whenever you're ready like what's up how you doing let's catch up but I'm not like yo you need to start hanging out with me more because ever since he came along you're very like rare that is so ████ it's actually crazy but guys do that ████ too so that makes it crazy I've also been uh I've been in like two former relationships as well where uh when I'd be like hanging out with that that girl um they would have a close guy friend that they've known for a while that's
7:35 like platonic or whatever and I'll call it out like that guy's so into you while I'm dating that girl oh yeah right and she's like what are you talking just super nice and they are oblivious though they really are and then when we stopped dating it's like they eventually get together and I'm like so is it a girl is she actually oblivious you know or she's just got a plan B yeah I think she's I think for him it's a down payment on a future ████ session yeah so when when he's when you break up with her he's like saying it's okay and then he bones absolutely as a rebound yeah I was born yesterday and that's a that's such a frequently occurring thing too that happened with one of my exes I remember like we were kind of at the tail end of our relationship and we went out to this like club and then this dude who was like she's like oh you're gonna meet this guy he's really cool he's like a writer he writes yeah I was like oh ████ grang that's the red flag right
8:26 there yeah exactly that's that's the number one red flag it's like there's a physical familiarity that you were not like privy to you're like whoa okay you guys got ████ things already huh and then uh I remember this one thing like she uh she was like wearing some hat or whatever this sounds so stupid she was wearing some hat and then he like took it over her head and then he started like dancing like and I was like that is a dumb ████ ████ that's that's one of the flirtiest moves ever I never said anything I wasn't like this is like I just took a mental note after we broke up first dude she ████ was that guy oh so she's been into um you think I think you could just tell like who's kind of meeting the threshold of like he I know that he's in the radar of like he he's smiled in a different folder than everyone else and also women we know we we absolutely know it's just
9:18 I think some women just play dumb because they like the attention from all fronts absolutely you are selling them out yeah sorry to be fair guys do too though right you know what I mean um I just think women usually have more options are infinitely more options yeah for sure yeah I mean um I think it's up to us too like I I remember situations where if I do start feeling feelings then I pull back in the friendship or anything because I'm like oh if I can't be honest about my intentions here and she's in a relationship and I I also don't want to create a situation where I'm like pouring my heart out to her and then now she's in the middle of like well ████ I like you too but I'm in this relationship I'm like that's too complicated so I'm like let me just exit
10:09 regardless of what she thinks is going on like I think that's the best because we don't have to main we don't this friendship is like to me it's like until you're married with someone like there's there's no real social obligations anywhere it's just like it's just moments that you share with humans right so then it's like yeah like whatever happens in the future cool but if I care about this person then it's probably not a good idea to pursue them selfishly when they're in a situation especially if they think I'm a friend so then I think for guys too you need to just like control how you feel in that situation and how to get out of it if you need or just to not put yourself in that that's right like you can't help what you're into you know what I'm saying so even if you're not strategically trying to be like I'm Gonna Keep options open I'm gonna Scout
10:59 you know what I mean even if you're not trying to you might have people in your circle that you're like I just happen to be attracted to that type of person yeah like for me myself included like um once I got into a committed relationship I subconsciously or consciously had to cut a couple friendships and really like hot homies homies straight up because you know what I mean because it's playing with fire yeah the ████ you were putting on layaway dude yeah like why even put yourself in that depending downloads yeah all the down payments you got to get my money back you're putting monthly payments into that ████ and now it's time to go and they're just collected they don't want the idol the ones you added to cart the girl so so one exam Apple I have is like I did have a platonic friendship with a girl and she was probably into me I don't
11:49 know um because she just had a breakup and like maybe we flirted or talked her in class I forgot what I did but she wanted to thank me with some cookies that she baked right and her ex-boyfriend saw that ████ and then he went on he had her password for her ████ AIM account he pretended to be her talk to me and said hey I'm stranded at this party there's a lot of weird guys I need to get help so I pulled up took my mom's car went to go pick her up and then him and his boys came out ████ bashed the car while I was in the ride pepper sprayed me whoa yeah so I was like I was like you son of a ████ jealous little ████ dude like you are such a jealous little ████ and you had to wear masks like nobody could fight me they were just I was like
12:40 that's something and there's no cookies yeah yeah it's just the dough and those cookies were so salty dude oh really how do you get salty cooking no she she baked them and it wasn't that good she put two she was crying while she was netting the dough that's how they get salty that's a red flag can you be in a can you authentically have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex if you find them attractive no no hell no it's playing with fire it's playing with fire I think it's it's rare but I think you can do it what's a friendship but here's my whole definition for this yeah go go for it I think I think it's if you develop some kind of odd paternal like like sibling type of friendship well you want to ████ them you can objectively say oh this person's
13:32 attractive but not want to pursue that but but it doesn't always have to always be like uh sexual either because you can emotionally you know kind of build it build a connection that's my thing yeah it takes you away from your your personal relationship as well you know so people love to do this meme of like yes of course you can be friends and then they like to roast me about this because I've never believed this ████ but it's because you're not a real friend with this person if you can't go hang out alone you can't ████ trust yourself around them you're not being their real friend you're more of an acquaintance I think if you're attracted yeah if you're attracted you have other that's not I don't want to ████ my friends you're not my friend but he still want to ████ you though so yeah you're so Ryan's my friend right like do I wanna like do I have a secret idea of like ████ of like ████ Rhymes that's so true you know what I'm saying because like I would hope that I would never ████ you dude I would never ████ you why
14:23 does that hurt even though it's straight you can't be comfortable alone that's not a true friendship because if you're still imagining railing the ████ out of them while you're talking about like games or whatever that's not a friendship no yeah I believe that because when I hang out with you Ryan and we're talking about cars I'm not imagining you wrapping your mouth around my dick talking about we're talking about the office of sex though so you're saying if for the opposite sex you're in a friendship but you objectively find them attractive or you think they're attractive you can say okay yeah you're an attractive human being but have no motive to to pursue that you can't have a friendship with them I think I think so I think for most I think so for most most guys right the difficulty here and this is why a lot of guys are like you shouldn't be friends with that guy's into you is
15:13 because even if he hasn't he has no intentions of being with you romantically they still would sleep with you if they have that opportunity so it's the drug part of it it's the male sexual desired drug part that they will ruin that friendship because that power is so strong and that self-control might not be stronger he's not a hungry Rosie boa he just ate you can oh you're the little mouse you can hang out with the rosie boat he just ate you're totally fine [Music] his instinct is to eat yeah shut the ████ up what kind of friendship is it if you're if you're the mouse and he's the snake that's all I'm saying like it's not really a real friendship because you can't be alone with them because he will eat you yeah okay what if it's a what if this is like a work Dynamic friendship relationship that's fine situation that's fine but but what Steve is
16:04 talking about is like best friends or like tight circle like you can't have enough authentic friendship when it's not real when you're thinking about railing Ryan in the back I think regardless damn it it just goes well work or not work I think that it's not that easy by the way you can't just do it yeah you're a little ████ he's just rail me when I whatever two-party consent you'd give it up dude give it up what kind of friend are you anyway then you would have thrown something to your voice all I'm saying all I'm saying is regardless of the work environment thing I think the variables you said if you're attracted to them like regardless work or not work it's like if you're attracted to that person in that friendship like I I don't think it can be super platonic I'm not gonna make it because like hypothetically yeah you're saying you wouldn't ████ ████ you all right you would still ████ you oh ████ you okay I'll dominate your ████ I'm down
16:55 to be ████ by you all right you know why because he's an alpha that's what I'm saying thank you dominate yeah but after a bus watch he's gonna be the Alpha and the cuddling all right so hey hey all I'm saying all I'm saying is like let's say let's say you uh are uh in a committed relationship and then you have an opposite sex uh relation platonic friendship uh that you are attracted to and you never cross that line but maybe one day in a long time this relationship something that's like that person ████ up a little bit or you're piss at them or like maybe they kind of cross the line in something else and you feel ████ vengeful or anything or you just go and get drunk with the person that you're comfortable with you know what I mean there's so many variables that can like lead you're playing with fire yeah yeah you're putting yourself in that scenario yeah so it's like not even being in that situation is the only guarantee as long what's the snake fed give me a ████
17:45 break then like you know I mean that's it's a snake thing because also it's like I'm a reptile guy I am an alphabet because you do I mean you know like I think also a reptile dysfunction another part of being an alpha male yeah thank you another part of it like that's a fellow Alpha as a fellow alpha male I think the duty of an alpha male is also to be able to control your desires so like what separates man from boy is like having your impulses controlled right but then when you are in these situations it is much harder to control because when I'm hanging out with Ryan and I'm thinking about sticking his ankles behind his back I'm not gonna disease yeah yeah yeah we can't focus on golfing yeah yeah Joe's just biting his lips all the time because I'm just I can't I and I and that's like I gotta
18:35 get her out of that situation you better look like I'm just spreading my cheeks all day in front of you guys you're just you have a ████ Vibe what's giving you that you're like this close to being fired already I seem ready Luke every single time you like shave your facial hair too it's like damn I want to ████ eat you up dude look at his face right now a new Ryan every time howdy ████ lips away he's like come on there's a little hair is a little ████ hey man as an example though I do I do have I think attraction is the key right there because like I have friends that are girls that I've not crossed the line with them either no because you want to vomit thinking about sleeping with them yeah but but do you think they're Attractive people absolutely okay but you're not attracted to them I'm proud of their beauty and I will represent it and be like oh like when she got married I like wanted to cry oh she looks so pretty in her dress
19:25 but I'm not like dress looks so pretty the dress is pretty the dress is better you know who your pretty friends are you know what I mean like it's like it's like how could you be a married casting agent then and not objectively know who's hot that doesn't make sense but it's not just hotness I think the key is attractive it's attraction it's attraction yeah because if you're like attracted and attractive yeah that's true exactly also your uh your significant other is like super shallow but your significant other needs to be like the highest Echelon of what you're attracted to as well so even if you're like your platonic friend is like really attractive as long as your partner is more attractive to you to you then you're in a more safe place yeah more safe but is it though because like
20:16 [Laughter] so like I think there's at least for me there's never been a time where I didn't want to ████ everything I saw yeah interesting so like [Laughter] no I'm just glad because that doesn't go over here quick that's why I feel better about that answer oh it's not just me because it's not me it's getting hot in here dude that's when we hear the deadbolt lock and rock and roll music starts to put it we can't get the ████ up it's like do you think he's still alive I don't know but we had to get that out of there but at least he's mad you have
21:06 a predicate to that subject well okay so no just end the video oh 21 minutes we all think differently right or we have a different experience in my case I think the the sexual part of it isn't always emotional and like I just want to have sex with a nice looking creature that's all it is and there's no I mean there's nothing and then like that intensity though not a creature it's like always there it's it doesn't matter how beautiful how I love how much I care about the person I'm with the only thing that prevents me is how my partner would feel like that would kill me if I break her or whether or not I would let you no if I want you I'm getting it that's a ████ hell [Music]
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