0:00 I think he's likable by default yeah he just has a Charisma yeah he's got the res as everyone says oh I think he just he just carries a thing where you're like are we talking about cool Anthony regular Anthony yeah [Music] welcome back everyone to another amazing episode of careful boys today we have Bart Nick Colleen Joe Steve and myself everybody has to answer this I don't care how you feel about it okay ready what do you believe makes you likeable I don't care if you like me that's what makes me like them all hey I like that I think that that's it I really don't care what if I cared so much about what people thought of me I don't even think I'd be on the tubes for as long who
0:51 helped you get to that my um was your mentors yeah my mentor Trenton yeah damn he really did Supply you with the good big time Big Time I got lucky yeah that's a hard thing to I think come to like it's hard to arrive to the point of like you know what I really don't care well you can let people uh Drown Your Voice out with what they think right and and I hope that people listen to me on this if you're especially if you're new and you're making you're trying to make stuff for yourself one of the biggest Follies that people fall into they're making something and they have a small audience and they really do care about their audience I know they do and they're like hey give me feedback and then the feedback becomes the content mistake that's not your content anymore you're just letting other people Wag the Dog there's no longevity in that too because how long can you keep that up you can't you're making you're trying to please other people so then eventually they'll turn against you you're not innovating you're just people pleasing
1:41 that's it wow it's not a way to make it's called pandering yep huge mistake but yeah I've only ever survived in any in any of this ████ by not worrying about if people like me or not because I don't care I do like it when people like me obviously I'm a human being but I don't you're not disappointed you know someone's like Ah that's Steve green guy Mama I'm like yeah good uh I I don't like a lot of people too like you know what I mean for damn sure yeah what about you man that's a tough question dude uh they're really tough because I never thought about that yeah like why do people like you or what just what do you believe yeah what do you do what do you think why people like you oh because I'm entertaining as ████ ████ hell yeah extremely I say intrusive thoughts I do things that people probably keep in the in their own
2:33 mind when it's all true and I'm like laughing at the facade of what we call reality and then they think that's funny because they're afraid to say that because of social like I don't know like it's not it's not correct it's it's socially incorrect right so then but then after disruptor he's also a non-sequitur user I think that makes you hella likable a what a non-sequitur user a sequitur non-sequitur what's that you'll just be like I like to watch dinosaurs fighting in my head I mean who doesn't and people are like I've never heard that before and it has nothing to do with relevant relevance of the conversation they're like but I like it or the article and I'm laughing I think when I realized that people care more about themselves than I
3:23 care about what they think of me I that was so liberating because then when I was in class and I was like like a kid like I was about to read the story and I didn't practice and I was just like ████ I'm just like so scared and then I looked around and everyone's practicing Their Own Line in their head and when you're doing the speech everyone's just worried about them doing their speech right and then Saul's like why do I care if they don't care then why does it matter and then and then if you make someone feel not on like if you don't judge them because there are a lot of people that are judgy as ████ right then they they feel relaxed around you and I think that's that's the key is p if people feel like you accept them and and and they feel relaxed around you and not judged that's it's so simple they love you after that
4:13 I love them yeah that is cool I think there's like two versions of the question like one what you think and then going around the room and everybody thinking or saying what they think about you oh yeah that's nice like the internal reception and then the outside perception so I like I like to share anything because Jiu Jitsu good technique we should start with what he thinks and then we can tell so you go first what do you think uh because think about you have friends and then people on on uh uh people that are fans of JK they instantly liked you why do you think that is don't ████ Dodge the question you answer it you ████ I always feel like especially recently I I try I really do try to take uh because into consideration what you guys always say
5:03 about me deflecting and I really try not to deflect and I really try to answer the question wholeheartedly so my question is my answer to the question is Barb do you want to go no I'm sure is is uh I I think I just don't take myself that seriously yeah yeah I guess that's great people people need to I don't know you're like the anti-bragger right he talks so low of himself that nobody wants to get his business [Laughter] that is absolutely true he's a he's a he's a he's a trainer and everyone's like I'm not gonna learn from you then yeah you can't even tell people well we throw them on grinder for 10 seconds he's 100 you guys want to ████ them so what does that say to be fair I think I
5:53 think if we throw you guys on Grindr you guys will get the same if you could um like if Yelp asked you to rate your own business because they just needed something would you give yourself five stars yeah I think I do a good job what do I do yeah that's dope wow you know what a lot of people think so Ryan had to destroy his phone because so many grinder things he deleted the grinder app and he was still getting notifications he had to put his phone in the toilet and flush it yeah yeah I just ████ on it you got to figure out your push notifications or something I don't know what it is first of all is there anything likable about you no that's what's so likable are you so honest like what's likable I think maybe because I like the goof around he's a goof the guy he's a goof he's a goofy guy we all voted no on that we all voted like to ████ around a lot and I
6:44 I'm usually I retract my statement it's hard to I think like for me to be in a bad mood maybe that's why because you have no emotions because you don't you don't deserve to be in a bad mood right yeah yeah yeah I'm being an idiot if I'm in a bad mood yeah so he has forced fun yeah that's cool it's also what we portray bro these are weird because it's also what we I think there's also another layer to it right it's like the people who really know us in real life and why they like us and then we're also entertainers so why do they like us for that aspect the layers the layers right well for you it's obvious right you're a ████ fantastic father like unbelievable father like you care more than anybody about being a dad I see Jill doing everything and Bart just like nothing
7:36 and Mark nothing at all I'm more into anything than his kid yeah like no that's true he loves being a family man you won't shut up about Taiko dude he's like oh shut up then well now you're not likable yeah now we hate you all but no that is something that I've noticed about you knowing you pre type of post haika like you just like all of a sudden became like Dad mode guy and like it's an it's really awesome to see oh thank you yeah I love it thank you yeah I think it's cool to see you I think once you decide to do something you put all your resources and effort into it and I think that's really cool that's likable to me it's not like oh that guy's a ████ well no but you're not a pain in the ass about it like you will actually downplay it yeah so we're like man that's cool Bart you're doing lifting thing next one he's like yeah but it's ████ whack it sucks would you do it all the way in a fledge
8:27 and you just like keep it to yourself you know but that's cool unless we have to pry it open out of you you know but like it's cool to see you go in that mode to me at least say you know what I realized I have a lot of autistic friends that are close yeah first one of them right I'm one of them and then I realized that you need to have one though you gotta have yeah the reason why is because most folks with autism are just straight up like there's nothing like no filter no and I and I appreciate that like it's it's just even if it might be socially unacceptable like it's just clear and it's like with great intentions and it's just easy yeah there's no like you know this ulterior motive or there's no like person that's like I thought you were my friend but really you're my friend of me or you're
9:17 competing against me or no snake snaking yes yeah and actually snaking and the weird gray area of friendship that's actually normal out there that's why I was like oh that's why all of my friends are ████ because they're straight up they're completely honest whereas like like have you seen have you been in I just been in other friend groups like these days because like like I I've been hanging out with you guys mostly but now like I'm meeting so many more people and going back out again and I'm like damn most people just talk ████ behind their friends backs all ████ day true and I'm like damn this is like old high school and then what did they do on the weekends just get piss-ass drunk and then the same thing again and like if you hate these people what the ████ are you doing that's just so weird to me yeah yeah I can't wait for all Steve did we're gonna talk about someone who s████ all over people all the time and they're but
10:08 you're doing this is our CB and she's a big time tuber cool we'll talk about tomorrow let's do it oh whoa okay yeah let's do it let's do it how are you Colleen uh what I think or what I think um what do you think first thing what I think yeah what do you think um I think nowadays my ability to listen is is more of my strength um because I think before I would speak more and now in a group like this I've actually been a little bit more reserved and been able to kind of like pick up on certain things and that's actually been really refreshing um but I don't know what the Thousand perspective is you've you've actually had a problem with like just speaking like your ████ or no no what I'm saying is I I usually speak too much like I usually in the Chatterbox you've got a directorship yeah I'm usually the one that's leading the conversation and the
11:00 majority of my life in my my day-to-day life and I think in a group like this in an environment like this I have my moments um but it's nice to just take a backseat for once but aren't you just overpowered by a bunch of guys we're overpowered yeah maybe maybe that too but it is nice to just ████ you know being around a bunch of Alphas you know yeah a bunch of Sigma males yeah like obviously we're gonna be doing you know what I love about Steve is that he's such a beta I love that Steve's such a beta it's like what it was like a best traits about him he owns it yeah he owns it you know like do beta step on their chick's head whoa dude I'm really insecure about this holy ████ he was working his way up to be beyond the cast of fresh and fit but you just took that down he'll never be on it anymore that's Pity Me of success nowadays that's the
11:50 epitome of alpha everything dude show me the back of your shirt oh dude I'm a ████ king of crypto what are you talking about crypto is the crypto king of beta I don't think so bro if you call yourself a king is that bad no it's not that's called Alpha it's called Alpha energy it's called compromising it's called exaggerating too to a degree I think what it's likable about you is they're very open-minded because uh when you first came in like I'm always just scared with like new energy and then like so I kind of watch out for that like as we say crazy ████ kind of like what people's reactions are and then like you have a keen sense of like they're ████ around or they're being sarcastic or they really believe this or oh I need to be sensitive and and like in this moment you know and it's like your ability to
12:40 kind of adapt and like understand the energy of the room versus like some people I feel like they get like butt hurt over something or whatever I'm like yeah there's no feeling of that weird insecurity or just judgmental thing yeah and I must touch this here do you guys find that with a lot of women that come in more depends on if they're into comedy or not I noticed the ones that are really into comedy like they get it and the ones that aren't I think they don't know what we're doing so they don't know if we're doing sad like they think they're we're like we're literally meaning it and it's like no that's just an act but also with dudes like you can tell how attached a dude is to their ideas so for us like there could be something I'm extremely or any of us are extremely like he obviously like Nick
13:31 who loves Jiu Jitsu right he's trained he's trained it for ████ 10 years he does every ████ night if we ████ on Jiu Jitsu and say how ████ gay it is he doesn't give a ████ okay he's not attached to it and then so you can kind of feel like like when people are really attached to their ████ you're like dude you need to ████ chill out and you kind of don't fit the energy of the room that's so true but you guys don't think juice is gay though right we do yeah we do I thought it was meant to be this is is this that tire is this is this good concept it goes back to actually what BART said right he doesn't take himself too seriously that's kind of the key to this room I think yeah none of us really do yeah we're all just ████ around I think I think for the most part like I'm maybe I'll speak for myself on this part but like I take humor as like a coping mechanism for anything in my life and if I don't have humor then life is just super cynical and it gets really
14:21 depressing yeah so I mean I have to have that you're always good at knowing the joke though like even outside of here like you're you're good at knowing it and playing along without Auto agreeing which I think a lot of people do as a method of thinking they get the joke because they just like you know try to just be on the same page verbally but you kind of just get it you know who's good with that too um Shannon boudron she used to oh yeah she's a master like yeah I mean she might not participate in certain jokes but she gets it and she understands you mentioned they mentioned I did she's like a sex there loves to ████ loves to suck that's her tagline yeah see she would laugh at that yeah Colleen's really good at just being able to flow with everyone and kind of like what you mentioned earlier about just observing and seeing
15:13 and then jumping in like you kind of ride the wave together and it's not like this you're not trying to control a narrative and I think a lot of people do that right they have a they have a stance of what they really believe in and then they think we're just gonna join that journey and we're like no I don't believe that I mean I also circles back to what Steve said it's like I really don't give a ████ yeah like I'm not trying to prove anything to anybody like you can think whatever you want about me like I'm here just having fun with my friends and conversing and if you want to pick up on something and create your own narrative and run with it it's like when people bring up politicians to me I'm like I don't believe in them yeah yeah yeah I don't care what you think I think I don't think I don't believe in these people no like believe me but they're entertaining so then when we talk about politicians it sounds like you might be supporting one or the other but no it's just we're talking about how entertaining that's
16:04 the topic Trump is funny yeah has good lines yeah Biden is hilarious at physical comedy that's a strength yeah exactly yeah he's incredible he's maybe the greatest president we've had at physical comedy ever yeah yeah but do we believe in them ████ no I never met this person in my life and now I want RFK you know why because he cares about Bitcoin AKA pump my ████ bags I don't give a ████ pump my ████ but I do feel like in order to exist in this room that's the energy that we need and whenever there's someone that's smoldering oh I can't believe you just said that yeah that's I do I do it creates so much tension in the room I really love faking that tape though yeah yeah yeah that's funny I like acting like what you
16:55 said is so appalling like when I do bear videos Ryan's like I'm ready to flip the ████ table he doesn't do he doesn't do it for anything except for when I do bear videos only because I always send them to the group chat for the boys when I'm not around and I said I send all these bear videos it's such a Hot Topic guys this is ████ crazy the Bears are like doing all kinds of human ████ this is getting insane and it's like it's like a Yosemite sham to bugs moment it's like ooh Steve I like doing that ████ I think that's really good but when Anthony Lee is here I do get offended by the things that he says especially because he could have created that dance and how it didn't really happen and a midgets 35 pounds how funny could it be yeah you're throwing a ████ around how much could you throw it like a bowling ball maybe what about you Ryan what do
17:47 you think is uh what you think is likable about you I think I think something that I've always thought is that I I try to remember a lot of details about people yeah you're very attentive very true and then that kind of like I think that kind of sort of at least hopefully shows not paying attention I think a lot of the time I've noticed people just get surprised at like why would you remember that can I say a criticism yeah sometimes I think uh that's a different video because Ryan's too likable we gotta even it out wow okay constructive constructive feedback sometimes I think you remember too much and that's scary and also too it's like it's like I better not make this guy mad well he's a psychopath for good yeah that's what I'm saying he's too thoughtful sometimes I'm like how the ████ did you remember that yeah you know and then I get mad I also genuinely think it's fun I just like collecting like that about people at
18:39 least behind you at an ATM he memorized your ████ code yeah he's a little he's a little too no but he did he withdraws your entire bank account but then he like cashes it out and then he gives it to you the duffel bag like 10 months later and he's like hey he's like see it's all good and you're like I ruined my life my life is over yeah I just go oh am I still likable no I think Ryan has the pretty much everybody or make or make people like feel extremely comfortable like anybody yeah um there's like a sense of like compassion um or I don't even know if relatability is it because like there are people who you wouldn't think would be relatable to
19:29 you but you have all walks of life all all walks of life like ████ you made friends with big herc looks like a bank robber I went to jail yeah what the ████ I wouldn't be friends that's such a special like skill as a human being to be able to like naturally and authentically too you're not faking it yeah you're not putting it on a front he is a friend collector yeah Franklin hey you see how many people came to his ████ birthday his roller rink birthday it was like it was a small militia dude I was gonna make you guys ████ come to that ████ yeah that's a that's a human superpower and it's needed in the world the ultimate yeah is to bring in a pedophile and then see if Ryan could still befriend him and then if that guy's like dude Ryan makes me feel so welcome I bet I bet it could happen that's the ultimate test well you make everyone
20:19 feel good all the friends you have at least all the friends you have at least one of them is probably Anthony if I don't know which one it is it's probably me that's the rule holy ████ well we got to the bottom of it Steve said it yeah I'm just saying yeah I have my suspicions why do you think people like Anthony Lee I did send Anthony a picture oh I did send Anthony a video though of Tom Cruise jumping out of an airplane for Mission Impossible and I was like obviously you're gonna think this is funny and he's he replied not small enough and Tom Cruise is five one damn I think Anthony Lee's like more of a fan of three guys he didn't even laugh at it he's not small we're talking about
21:09 regular Anthony I think he's I think he's likable by default yeah he just has a Charisma yeah he's got the Riz as everyone says oh I think he just he just carries a thing where you're like are we talking about cool Anthony or regular Anthony regular Anthony yeah he's definitely the I think he's he's pretty pretty likable yeah yeah but also his I think I think once you really get to know him it's it's really fun because he's he's very inappropriate yeah in like really great ways he's really funny but then you also find that his immune system sucks ass yeah and he's always breaking down all the time I think he's releasing and he says yes to every gig that exists so it's like their favorite car that breaks down ████ day like a DeLorean I can't even drive it he's like a DeLorean yeah like he's not here right now because he's opening he's opened a
21:59 car dealership yeah in Indonesia yeah come on dude I'm gonna break cool yeah that was pretty cool it's it's definitely a hard question to answer for yourself yeah because it feels so freaking weird and then everyone has to pile on what they think but wait he's it's a fun introspective thing he's performing at a grand opening at a car dealership in Indonesia wait is that for real yeah for Mazda at a for a car dealership that is so weird oh yeah by the way gotta get the word um I I also wanted to point out just as a side funny thing about Anthony yeah when you look up Anthony Lee kinjas and you go to image search one of the uh top results is Steve talking about how Anthony did A Dance that denies 911 ever happened no
22:50 no way you ████ made it it's so good did you get to hear look oh we got there so that it shows Steve's face made a mock top of the world above all of Anthony's success he had a dance about how 911's not real Anthony Lee posing going like this not like the length of Anthony's like career and his success hey there's a there's a couple shirts that I randomly found I thought you guys would like it oh ████ dude yeah baby this ████ yeah baby oh it has bullet shirt I just saw I just saw him when I was shopping and I was like oh she's a dumb shirt thank you
23:41 so much bro holy ████ let me see this is Bin Laden and George W [Laughter] dude this is way better I feel like this bit Steve yeah a little bit more I think this is pretty on brand the best thing about this is Anthony Anthony Lee would be like so what oh my God
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