0:00 [Music] welcome back to a careful boys and with our special guest today gilbert jr yeah gilbert jr is that pretty accurate making it cool again [Music] that's not bad yes it's not good either that being said we have a couple prompts and uh one of the ones that bart suggested this morning what don't put it on me yeah let's put on bart you definitely i have text message proof of this one you said you wanted to know from all of us that moment where we all knew how did you know
0:50 when you weren't gay that's true you guys know like how did you know that's true that you don't like boys do you guys have confirmation because of proof proof of it i don't think i do evidence now that you asked this prompt i'm like i don't know if i do see i never really questioned it maybe i just fall society met with a woman and loved her but i don't i actually love her i call that laziness you didn't find kind of ████ up you didn't find out you're gonna get married too that's happening very soon didn't i remember when i first realized i had a crush i was in kindergarten and i met this girl and i was like oh i like this girl i like looking at her i got like fuzzy feelings when i looked at her yeah just ████ stare at her dude you're we're all creepy as ████ kindergarten huh your defaults to be a creep i don't yeah i don't think it's creepy when you're like a little kid though but look i okay because you're discovering ████ right i don't
1:40 know because i remember i remember um i really liked this girl we were in different classes in kindergarten and but we would share a recess together and i really wanted to like talk to her and then every time i saw i was so excited and then one time i saw her and this boy cuddling he was like squeezing her boobs and her head and her face and i was just waiting do you fight him was squeezing her boobs yeah they were just cuddling and she sugar yeah we're just in the playground and he was like squeezing her boobs her shoulder her face and everything she was ████ snapped head shoulder knees and boobs knees and foot she was he was wrapped around and then like squeezing her like that and then i was just like man that's my girlfriend dude and i walked away and i walked away you were the bigger man in that situation yeah well at the same time it was a only a one-way relationship
2:30 because i was like yeah she's my girlfriend in my head i never talk is that a thing like kindergarten pda i don't think i even remember that i was too afraid to even i remember guys squeezing titties mostly in kindergarten a big kindergarten memory dude dude that's a wild memory man kindergarten that's pretty common yeah i remember in first grade it was by the nuclear power plant i remember in first grade where um i thought that you got chicks pregnant i thought the order was you get chicks pregnant and then they're yours and so so in order to get them pregnant you you do that through making out so when everyone would leave when people would leave from the lunch table to go play i would go to everyone's high seas and just slick it damn for what if you got all of them pregnant that's what i was hoping to do they all got mono though i was hoping that i was going to get all these chicks pregnant and they would all be mine but it didn't
3:20 everyone's like it's all taste like black vinegar that is why my kids not going to public school just because that's where you're alone oh jesus christ because that's how they develop immunity though you know what i mean yeah that's true did you guys ever have like a best ████ friend though where like you wanted to do everything together like going pee together hang out together whatever right and then um like just it was like that your friend was a guy it could be mistaken as a gay relationship but you're just like just best buds you're just best buds yeah yeah which is very appropriate to the prompt of how did you know when you weren't gay when you're a kid it could you don't know what's not a like i think anyone could just think you're in a gay relationship if you're a kid because you're not trying to not look gay you're
4:11 just doing whatever like you know when you're a kid you just show your dick to like yeah yeah like that's kind of gay but like but you know that you know you don't know that yeah yeah i just do it all the time and i was fine and you don't have that intent either yeah yeah all the time wait what was what was the context of you taking your dick out uh so like during nap time in kindergarten like what's the bit yeah this is the bit and that time you're in kindergarten i would go to the uh the boys bathroom doorway where like only the kids could see me and then just take my dick out and just go whoa that's pretty funny everyone loved him i guarantee everyone everyone loves writing but like all the guys were always ████ laughing they just when you're kidding my reactions yeah so you have no correlation that it's your dick out it's just you're getting a laugh wait you guys i feel like us three didn't do that because i mean i don't know how you guys felt about i think i was conscious of my foreskin no bro that's how i knew i had at the time too because everybody liked
5:01 peeing together so then like take it back like i don't know in kindergarten when it was bathroom time everyone's liked peeing in the same bowl or same same stall yeah and then that's when you see other people's dicks and you're like mine's different and then you start thinking like why is mine so different well if you don't mind somebody goes yours is different i didn't really know about the whole race thing until later on but then um a lot of kids i remember going to the bathroom and then we would do these things called sprinklers so kids would just drop their pants and then they'd start speak peeing like this oh that's a good time in a certain circle just all over the bathroom they might yeah before that his parents are like it's not a great school system it was horrible dude but i remember when we would go and we're
5:52 peeing kids would come in and do sprinkler on us so then they're on you yeah so there's so so imagine the wall right imagine that's the wall and we're peeing like this right and then the kids would come in imagine that the wall by the way just for camera's sake and steve where yeah yeah steve's the wall steve's the wall street his mouth is a hurdle so that's your child so that's the urinal right and then the kids will be like oh ████ they'll run up right behind us and start peeing in a circle like this and all of us are like no trying not to get caught that's pretty funny though but like when did it when did it start like you know when you discover what gay even is and then you just start to kind of change what you do because you're like well i don't want guys to think of gays it's usually the first time when someone makes fun of you for doing something like that so gay even though we don't know what game is you know that's just bad it's like the fourth grader when you're in second grade who like just discovered it themselves from
6:42 their older brother yeah and then they just perpetuate and repeat whatever they their older brother said to you yeah it's not even the word it's the tone like oh that's so man yeah just like what i don't want to be man yeah you couldn't have any other way anyway like i remember i didn't even know what it was but i remember uh the i'm not gonna say it but it rhymes with maggot okay and it starts with an f right no saggit yeah he's dope he wants no but and i remember like hearing that oh and i just remember not knowing what it meant but wanting to repeat it and then so i'd repeat it by calling somebody else that and then i got like ████ decked but i mean
7:33 other than that i think that same concept applies where it's just like you get made fun of and then that's how you learn that that's not cool anymore because you just don't want to be made fun of again i think i used all those words without even knowing what they were because you learn it like first or second grade and then you just keep using it and then later you find out oh it's it's actually guys love guys and then some other kids be like no gay means happy oh yeah dude i remember that too and i was so almost like your epidermis is showing i'm like oh my god that's a little different though if you go up in christian school like the idea of you know like how do you know you're not gay it's like well you're ████ taught you can't be gay oh that's true you just treat them not allowed that's true it's a different thing growing up i think the first time i ever heard that term like gay and all that stuff was probably at a christian school in my middle school well that was the first time people would like throw it around like casually and another thing in this
8:23 school that was thrown around very casually as well was calling people no calling people jews these kids would call each other like you're being a jew like they would say like that if they're being stingy or something just anything just like a like a bad thing i just remember being like so i went home then go to school in the 40s or ████ it seemed like there's that one eighth grader that's like hey i caught everyone's shoes this looks like juice it's a cool world from where i'm from i say juice my big brussel my big brother talked to me i don't know what that means they point and say i don't know mom picks them up it does okay it's time to go home buy juice goodbye do you think the the temperature of like conversations on school campuses today with kids like is so different i mean kids find out about gay education like
9:13 men earlier i think they're they're better at maybe that's the worst education we didn't have that yeah no we didn't have that at all we had we had avoidance yeah do they use different words now though dude i had a i had a dumbass teacher well she wasn't a teacher she was like a teacher's aide right and then um we were waiting in line and this kid kept calling me like a like a chinese chinese and doing the whole eye thing and i was like and i'm like oh steve is laughing a lot huh and i'm like i'm like i'm not chinese i'm like at least say the right one i'm japanese right yes and then the the teacher's eight is like hey quiet settle down and i'm like he won't stop calling me chinese and then she's like it's the same thing and then she walked away she's like steve come to my office steve green that's conflict resolution right there right it's the safe to say ████ thing but like it's pepsi coke who gives a ████ yeah she was just like
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11:43 kids just following you do the most blatantly racist ████ i know jesus christ but that was normal back then it's a different time yeah it was so weird how everyone was just plainly ████ up racist homophobic and they just did it to you i got called ████ so much i didn't even know it was korean i thought it was filipino because people people always call me google i'm like i guess peop that's for filipinos i think that's my name he's like no it's ryan they told me but i don't know i can call this along and then the movie came out there's like no filipinos it took me 20 years so god justin john i don't know but is there is there education on that for uh like a particular age today maybe it depends on which school you're going to and all that because some places are more i guess progressive
12:33 and other places are more like you know bible-y wait did you guys all grow up in california pretty much yeah i don't even remember people i was in georgia and people didn't even they just they never called me anything asian really they never did this to you they did maybe i just blocked it out and i think about it did you feel more included or you felt kind of but i simulated pretty well that's why you wanted a trucker hat and some ████ ████ yeah yeah this guy trump trump let's go let's go trump trump trump it's upside down dude yeah the way he flipped it was cool yeah that was dope um but yeah i remember maybe like in my neighborhood i'd get called buddha occasionally buddha buddha why buddha or like fat some people just say you start a fat mexican kid they would just call you mexico they would say fat mexican kid that mexican kid
13:25 is that like a casting director yeah fat mexican come on improv great perfect okay go ahead you have 30 seconds just slate yeah all right gilbert fat mexican kid right before sleeping yes greeting for peter parker maybe i'll get his friend we'll see i remember in high school those when i started to see and interact with like gay couples like like like they were openly gay really yeah in high school in high school there were um you know like lesbian couples or like you know just gay dudes holding hands and stuff and like it was just a thing you know like it wasn't it's probably not as accepted and common as now because people will still pick on them and like there'll be some gay bastion but i remember it was um there were some open gay people yeah
14:15 see that's one thing you you knew who some of the guys were that were gay at our high school but in georgia that's not open you just go like oh we know oh yeah yeah that's probably the even the musical theater kid you're like yo come on man but i'm stretched i'm gonna play my vr game now you know i i actually wanted to get into dance in high school uh and then my because my sister was on the dance production team but they were all girls on that team except for one guy and that guy it wasn't open but it was like everybody in the school always just assumed and made fun of him and i thought to myself that if i were to join dance in any way that people would feel or think the same thing about me so i didn't dance in high school wow yeah and that's why i started in college because finally i went to college and i started seeing these like you know like guys and girls dance together but it was cool and i'm like that guy doesn't look super gay here at all and all the girls are really hot are
15:06 ████ all the guys that dance yeah well that's like me and joe in high school where like i would see drama or theater and probably majority of them are straight but since all your friends call them the f words they're all f words and even though if you want to do it then you're like oh i don't want to be a f1 yeah just by association yeah yeah that's one thing i regret it has nothing to do with their sexuality or anything i think i regret that the most where it's like i'm so afraid of being made fun of that i didn't try a lot of artsy ████ that i was really i was like damn that looks fun like the drama when they did the performance in high school and all that i was like damn that looks really fun but then i i was like damn i don't want them to like make fun of me because i'm a hard thug you know i think i hella benefited from because i know there's a lot of parents out there there's a lot of like advocacy groups that are saying like i don't want like
15:57 gay agenda talk to my kids all this ████ but dude one of the best things that happened to me was having a gay teacher because you just you just see they're not some scary thing that's like hiding in the woods or some ████ like it's they're just a normal person just a completely normal person like nothing different about them so that was what was great for me i think especially as a young person it was like oh well you know i see that that's not really a big deal i don't know why you know it's a lot of people who don't know yet it's kind of like scary yeah has um like in his preschool right now they'll have like random days that they just get to teach them stuff and on parent day they're like some some parents are are mommy and daddy some of them have two daddies sometimes the like ones short one's tall like you know it's like it's it's really cool that like at such a young age it's just already taught to be like that open and inclusive yeah so so did tyka like see something like that and like ask you questions about it or did you
16:47 guys have to no it's just the norm now like it's it's like it just jumps past it because i think it was like i guess taught or informed about so early yeah or just the exposure is just there in like a nonchalant way yeah like if we're at the park and there are two dads it's he he doesn't even question it it's just like oh okay cool he's like lucky you got two dads i know yeah mom's not bad but that's probably what's gonna happen she was like what the ████ man that's probably what's gonna happen eventually you know what i think it's gonna be tricky though oh i think for a lot of parents that are struggling even for kids i i think that even the trans uh gender conversation is a trickier one yeah because that's like so many things you have to like that's tricky for adults right now yeah so i think how do you even but i feel like it's still progressing though like i think slowly i think we're in a the way kids talk about it nowadays and the way they grow up about it it just it is normal it is just
17:37 something like oh yeah like i have a classmate that's bi or my classmate is gay and it's like totally fine i have a classmate that's trans and it's like they understand the concepts obviously like middle school maybe sometimes and then even like high school like i use coaching kids who are entering high school now and they have conversations about this and they tell me like oh yeah i have a classmate that's trans they understand it and they kind of yeah that that girl that's really important for like especially your developing mind to be like exposed quick because same thing with me like the second i finally had a gay friend and again this was my first one that i knew about ended up being all the way in college but the second i had a gay friend is the second i changed everything by understanding about what it like a gay person was what it meant to be homies with a gay person you know what i mean or even like hearing somebody else make fun of it in a naive way and then being like yeah that's actually not cool you know what i'm saying so like if you don't have earlier exposure then i'm guessing
18:28 you're going to develop a lot more conclusions in your own mind that don't make sense you know yeah there's always people right now i think there's a lot of people who are seeing like you know when you when you turn on tv shows or like you're watching commercials they're like well there's just so much gay stuff why is it always like it's like they're attacking me with the gay stuff and it's like bro it's just like a it's like a reflex right now because we're making up for a lot of lost time oh yeah we're growing up all that ████ was like considered weird if you're a kid like you're like oh i don't want to be seen as weird don't please don't call me that you know but now it's just it's kind of like we gotta kind of make up for lost time a little bit and like i think everyone wants it to just be normal where it's like who gives a ████ and that's how it should be because it's not that long ago that even in you know liberal cities you would have dudes just roll up to gay guys and beat the ████ out of them that was that was still like in the late 90s early 2000s
19:20 i remember watching that ████ on the news and being like a bunch of guys rolled up on this gay couple and beat them the ████ up and then it's like dude that was what less than 20 20 years ago that's a that's very ████ recent because we remember that's when they killed that kid matthew shepard too it's like the same era they beat them to death yeah yeah see and then it's like it and it's like did people get amnesia that this was it was even having these conversations and even like gay people just openly hanging out and all that stuff that wasn't even a safe thing yeah so that that ████ blows my mind is like why are people saying like ah we don't need this you know there's too much dick on camera or i don't know what they're saying it's like who can who gives a ████ dude yeah i don't know yeah nick's been saying that a lot actually i've been watching euphoria and i'm like bro yeah there's so many dicks on the show actually
20:11 righteous gemstones yeah lots of penis a lot of penises just filling that up with a great show great show great shows mainly because of the penis euphoria is a great ████ show it's so good but it's too intense i have to like i can't drink red bull while i'm watching forever he just got into shock but but that's a good example though too right like all the things that they talk about in like euphoria i know it's like a newer show but this is just mainstream now it's like all these these concepts that we used to think were so crazy yeah are being shown with high schoolers yeah so it's like norm for them and it's a norm and it's a really ████ good show you know what's so telling is that like i feel like kids now like the whole like the gay jokes were even like the dick jokes i don't think they don't really do it as often but you can really tell from our generation even at this age in our 30s we're still doing like gay jokes even my gay friends in my age love the gay joke yeah it's like our culture it's our era yeah yeah
21:01 yeah it's nice that it's there's an irony now though yeah like it's nice that you're not actually scared of being gay anymore yeah yeah yeah yeah i don't have gay friends i have gay best friends and 20 years ago i was the one that beat up those kids i'm steve green that guy's name steve it's my truth say my name do
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