0:05 Welcome back to another episode of Careful Boys. This is a question that I receive a lot in the inbox uh for the JK account. And then this it's not going to be a happy one, all right? People have uh confided in JustKiddingNews about loves that they have lost. People that died and ████ Not died, but like So, you know how it feels They got on a shipwreck? No, not a shipwreck. Well, they didn't die, then I'm So, they're alive on a shipwreck? Like a missing person's uh milk carton thingy. You mean they got lost in the Bermuda Triangle? Amelia Earhart dead? They're not dead. Change of address. So, they just went into a different dimension. The tough thing is that you guys all remember what it's like to be uh to have a girlfriend or something or date someone or like someone, and you really, really believe
0:55 this is the person you're going to be with the rest of your life, and then they, you know, They said, "Fugazi. It's a fugazi. It's a fake." You know, they're out of there. But then the difference is that we have all moved on, and you understand now that like, "Oh man, how silly was that?" But then, you know, you have to take for a second and then like and then like think there's a lot of guys out there that are still thinking about the person they lost many, many, many years ago. And what could you possibly say to these guys? What advice could you provide for people who truly believe that they lost their soulmate? I got you, bro. The only reason why you keep thinking about her is because you haven't met a new one that's better. And on top of that the longer
1:45 you don't you're not with this person what ends up happening is your brain only remembers all the good times. Not the bad times. There's a reason why you're not together. Yeah. It's true. That's the truth. >> Your brain's trying to What's trying to protect yourself from the pain that you might And you miss ████ so bad that you want her back. So, you're saying that like objectively the relationship was probably much worse than they remember? It must have been if she left your ass. If they don't want you, you got to you got to walk, dude. >> This guy is hurting, man. Got to be sensitive. >> No, I'm telling you because I was that hurt little ████ >> Okay. You thought you lost your soulmate? ████ every relationship in high school. I thought it was my I was going to marry this girl. When I was 19 years old, I thought I was going to marry this girl and then I was going to be a ████ father at 25. And I'm so
2:37 glad that I never stuck with any of those girls. >> But what if this guy hasn't reached a a point where he's so glad? He's just been sad for 15 years. Well, that's the problem. You're 30 years old, get over it, you ████ You know why? Because I would have been much nicer to you when we were in our 20s doing JK because you're probably young. But if you're a JK fan now, you're probably 35. God damn it, stop that ████ Yeah. I agree with that. >> Can I tell you something what I think is one of the benefits of religion? Yes. So, one of the I think more so than like actually believing in a higher being and all that stuff, I think one of the main purposes of religion that that uh that has like a bleed over into your real life is practicing the muscle of faith. Mhm. Having faith that things are
3:29 going to get better. Absolutely. Cuz I think I think when you like, you know, regardless of Buddhism or Christianity or Islam, whatever all that stuff is, right? Your goal is like it's you're going to go to the promised land. And I think you're really exercising this muscle when you're like 5, 10, 15, 20, 30, 50, 80 years old and you're always exercising this muscle and everything is like this is God's plan or whatever, right? And I think um like yes, we've all been there you you're in like this when it feels like you lost your soulmate and it's never going to get any better. There's no way you could ever meet anyone that matches the current person now. If you fully immerse yourself in those thoughts right then and there, there is no going forward. But if you have faith that things will always get better if as long as you put one foot in front of the other, you will eventually this will end up being the like catapult for your next relationship
4:21 that's that much better cuz you're going to learn from all these things. What worked, what didn't work, who you actually are, who is actually more compatible, and all those all that pain and and those lessons will manifest in your next person. But you got to have faith to get there. But if you just keep sulking in the pain, you're not going to get there. That was great Pastor Bart. That was awesome. Let me take a little moment. Then money guys, then money. I got to buy the I got to buy the I got a new Bentley. That for some reason visually didn't translate the way I think you saw it in your mind. Everyone can just pass me some money. I want to I want to insult him just a little bit more. Tough love, okay? >> He's already crying. You son of a ████ Listen to me, you piece of ████ Look at me in the ████ eye. All right, if they were supposed to be your soulmate, that ████ would have happened naturally. That ████ would have ████ You don't
5:11 have to ████ work for it, you son of a ████ Soulmates are Isn't that one your camera? All right, let me do this ████ You son You son of a ████ ████ Listen to me, you hurt little ████ I remember and I'm talking to my younger self. Soulmates they happen and they happen naturally and it and it just works for you. That's how it should You should never have to ████ beg your soulmate because then if you have to beg, it's not a ████ soulmate. Ooh. That's a bar. That's a bar. I'm sorry. I think that one's your camera. LISTEN, YOU SON OF A ████ DON'T YOU EVER THE EDITOR'S LIKE, "WHICH TRACK DO I use?" >> her back. I need HER BACK SO ████ BAD. STOP. STOP.
6:02 I HAVE A FEELING the editor is going to cut to that angle and it's going to be the back of Joe's head. He's like, "That's the audio I use." All right, Joe, give you some advice. I'll give you a real person, okay? This is a real guy. All right, I'm not going to talk ████ no more. I got that out of my system. >> All right, this this this This is a real guy who needs advice, okay? Well, he's not asking for advice, but this is this is actually a very close friend of mine. This is absolutely true, okay? He um This is a close friend of yours? Yeah. No, no, no, not the guy I was talking about before. The guy I'm talking about from this point on. This dude, right? So, he had a girl and uh was his soulmate, I would say. And they were very, very uh you know, like good to go. And he ████ up hard and uh she left him. I didn't know how he ████ He cheated? Yeah, he uh he did something bad, yeah. And then
6:52 uh and then so this guy has since, you know, moved on with his life. He um he has kids, he has a the wife and everything. Anytime we mention you know, the lady of the past this dude goes spirals back into that feeling of like, "F███. I ████ up." What does he mean he ████ What What do you want me to say? Yeah, you did, you stupid ████ Now you made your bed, now lay in that ████ >> That's why I don't have a lot of friends. But there's like some There's some moments where this dude is like you like, "How can I get this girl back at this point?" Like he ████ still thinks about it. It's like It's like, you know, like like Al Bundy dreaming of his old football days. It's like that ████ but he's like "You think there's still a way?" >> And he has a new wife? >> Bro's got He has a new whole ████ life. They both do.
7:42 This is ████ like two decades back. >> Really ████ up. >> two decades back, bro. This guy ████ up. >> Okay, my question my question But this But this dude still is like, "Let me see your phone so I could go see her Instagram cuz I'm blocked." I have a question for you. Oh, that sounds like a stalker. But this fool still in love, dude. Do you feel like um he has he's like um when he's looking back at his relationship, do you feel like there could be a way where they can get back together or is it Is he just being delusional? And he's just coping hella hard. It's because I know them both so well. It's one of those things where like maybe ████ ████ If the cards were right. >> ████ would have to fall apart for both their lives simultaneously. Yeah, dude. This This is ████ was like 20 years ago. I don't think she even wants him back. >> She doesn't. The reason why she blocked
8:33 this dude is because he's probably an obsessed crazy ████ >> She doesn't. But But this dude he's still in torment. So like >> What would you say to like ease his pain? Ease his pain, buddy. I'm not your friend because if I was single, I'd ████ the ████ out of your wife right now, steal her and the kids because you deserve to be a sad ████ for being a piece of ████ >> dude? Yeah, I'm going to make sure that the kids love me more cuz they deserve a better ████ parent than a piece of ████ like you. >> So that's how you going to help somebody? Yep. I'mma help him. But No, cuz you know what's going to happen? >> Take it all away. >> TO BE LIKE, "OH, I SHOULD HAVE BEEN NICER TO THE KIDS and her when I HAD THE CHANCE." >> EXACTLY. I'MMA BE SITTING THERE like I'll be holding his wife and ████ kissing her. I'mma be like, "The kids love me and s███." Yeah. And I'mma be like, "Bro, Yeah, you're
9:24 right. You're right. You should have ████ appreciated WHEN YOU HAD THE CHANCE." AND THAT'S WHY HE LIVES LIFE GOING, "OH, I I SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT BETTER, MAN." WHY HE'S JUST going to He lives life this way the whole time. I guarantee you. HE'S DRIVING HIS ████ BRAND NEW TACOMA. OH, I SHOULD HAVE NEVER GOT RID OF my Supra. I guarantee you. Just like you. I'M NOT TELLING YOU. I'M TELLING ME. I'M JUST fighting me right now. Yeah, I'm fighting me. That's actually good advice. I'm mad cuz it's me. That's good advice. That's good advice because then he'll realize that he had his soulmate all along and he's just still ████ up. >> feel like people that think like that it's like Hey dude, a relationship takes two people. Okay? You desperate begging son of a ████ waiting for the other person who
10:15 thinks you're invisible. Why are you so pathetic? Like why seriously like get over it. Like don't to me it's like you don't have no self you don't have love for yourself. Like you you're okay being ignored by someone that you want? And you're okay with that and you're like I miss them so much. It's like no move on because there's so many people that want to love you. That's my point. And then and then it's like oh but I don't want them. It's like well too bad. THEY WANT YOU. THAT'S ONE OF THE TOUGHEST THINGS I FEEL like is controlling the thoughts of your mind. Yeah, it's hard to do. >> Like you can but most people don't realize they can't and then and then when they have yeah when you got crazy powerful thoughts like that. Cuz this ████ is in like he's in one movie theater thinking about the
11:05 other movie. I'm like dude then why did you go in this movie theater? You should have sat in theater one and just stayed there. This ████ is in theater eight thinking about theater one. I'm like dude thinking about theater one. He's in a small theater thinking about the IMAX back there. He eating a hamburger wishing it was a taco. And some but sometimes though it's the second movie that makes you realize how sick THE FIRST ONE OH. THEN you got to be that TURN OF JAFAR. YEAH, YOU'RE RIGHT. YOU'RE RIGHT, SIR. Aladdin wasn't in this one. You're hoping it's better than the first. You don't know. All your thoughts, you know. >> It was just a Jafar movie, dude. >> also means you never learned from the first movie. >> Yeah. Cuz then if you learned you don't
11:55 like that movie, the second one shouldn't even be close to the first movie. It should be a way better movie. >> Based on what they're saying about him, is there any grains of truth that you could apply and see from like your outside perspective on your friend? Well, it's hard because it's it's So, this is over 20 years this happened. >> Mhm. This fool's in his 40s, huh? Yeah, he's my age. And then the crazy thing is that I it's a highly illogical uh irrational thing. So, my go-to has always to been like the ████ wrong with you? You know, like that's the first thing I But then like it hasn't gotten much better. So, I'm just like maybe I'm there's something else you could say or do. >> Cuz you saying the ████ wrong with you also doesn't help either. Yeah, because like when people when people message JK about the same kind of issue of like I just felt like I let her go or I felt like I ████ up and I'll never have it again and I don't want that to happen to me. And then um I'd always tell them, "Dude, don't worry about it, man. I'm ████ I've had that feeling before. It passes. You meet someone else." But then
12:45 I ████ remember this homie and this fool's still saying that ████ Then at that point 20 damn ████ 25 years later. At that point shouldn't you just be like or even the person messaging the Shouldn't Honestly, dude, just go for it. Do it like the movies. Yeah, leave your family. >> ████ leave your family, fly over there. >> ████ do it, then. >> Fly over there, knock on the door, don't have a speech prepared, knock on the door and just let it rip. And then you get a restraining order and there's your answer. >> Yeah. ████ the other movie theater, then. >> Yeah. Yeah, dude. You want to watch it so bad? So bad. Like they got to they got to be like, "This is why I blocked you. This is why I left you. I'm getting a restraining order." And they sear it into your mind how regretful it is to keep thinking about somebody. Cuz it Guys can go to the other theater and be come back out crying saying, "Someone was in my seat."
13:36 And that's life, baby. I'm sorry. >> that's what he needed. Hey, we have a lot of people on this planet already. We don't need everyone to procreate. Like, you know what I mean? Like It's cool, man. He already procreated with his Dude, we you we don't need you to go back and find more love. You already did extra. That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm telling you this. This is ████ nuts. happened between the one that got away and then the wife. Was it like was she a rebound? Or was it like he had some time to himself? rebound. That was very, very long. >> Currently there she like ugly and fat and it's like everybody wins a little bit. >> Oh, this is a crazy part. Hell no, she ain't ugly and fat. Sick. What the ████ is this guy's problem? >> I'm saying, dude. And she looks at the one from 20 years ago now and still gets him as fired up? Yeah. >> you Maybe we just never seen a girl as
14:27 fine as her. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 20 years ago like just like took his virginity type ████ This dude has had nothing but like great-looking girls all the way up to this point. Like that he could This happened bam bam bam bam bam bam bam bam bam. Anthony leave this whole area and then ████ ended up marrying this chick. Surpass Anthony leave? No way. Woah. I mean not sur- I wouldn't say surpass. I'm exaggerating. That's crazy of you That's like out of this guy. That's crazy of me to say. I thought we was talking about Little Joe the whole time. >> You'd have to be like Wilt Chamberlain or something. But he ended up in a spot where like he's got everything. He has a great everything in his life is ████ perfect and he goes he'll still talk to me as the one thing this fool always wants to talk about. And I'll just be like, "You think you think there's any way?" I think that ████ needs ayahuasca or some ████ dude. He might, yeah. I think the next Ayahuasca might make him leave his wife. What if he actually does it cuz you're just like tired of it? You're just like just
15:17 ████ do it. And then he goes, "Well, Ryan told me to divorce you." You know what? He might He might need to and this it's so sad that there's collateral damage. But, I already feel like it's already ████ because the wife doesn't know the husband has these secret thoughts anyways. >> Yeah. You know what I mean? He already has these secret thoughts. I just think he's a scumbag. He has children and it's like you're so focused on your love life. Shut the ████ up. You're a father now. You don't deserve a love life. Yeah, that's true. That's the tightest answer ever. You're a father. You don't deserve a love life. Yeah. You have a duty to raise a child. >> Bills? Cuz you decided to ████ in a girl and pop a and bring a life into this world. Make sure they're well fed and ████ grown up. Maybe when they left the house and ████ now you can go ████ SOME ████
16:11 CUZ YOU GOT TO CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS, MAN. THAT'S CRAZY.
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