0:00 [Music] Man, welcome back to another episode of Careful Boy. Today we going to talk about the Bose, man. You up boo. I got to bleep that one, man. You didn't have to bleep the B. ████ I got to bleep that one, man. Dang for your gains. You got some gains, bro. Kettle bell. Candle bell. How many pounds is that? That he's just yelling that work bench press. Bench press. Bench. Cable machine. Cable machine. Oh, no. This is heavier than 25. This is like 35. Yeah. Curl it, dude. 35. Curl. Oh, yeah. It's like 35. Curl for the girl. Curl for the girl. 35. My wrist is injured. I can't. ████ you. Yeah. He jacked off too hard. Jacked off too hard. Both wrists, right? You're about
0:51 to roll over your phone right here. It's okay, dude. It's worth it. This is 25. Is this for Is this for film? Oh ████ It's heavy as ████ What the ████ It looks way heavier than it feels. Holy ████ Ryan, put that in my ear, man. Whatever, dude. Whatever. Dude, ████ put this in the microwave and then ████ warm. Dude, that's so Chinese, bro. Hey, do you guys have a sock with rice? No. Oh. Oh, I thought that's what you were referencing. No, but like they have like those sandbags you put ████ Okay, so Nina on some like OT ████ like she literally has a giant tube sock, fills it with rice, and anytime like there's some sort of ailment like that, we just throw it in the microwave and then just boom. Oh yeah. Damn. Does it feel good? That's legit. What is What happens? Like
1:41 it just It's just heat. It's like heat compress, but it's like heat and pressure. So it feels good cuz it's like weighted. Yeah, weighted heat. That's a good idea. Yeah, it's actually really helpful. Just tie up a tube. physical therapy. Sometimes they just put a heavy ass warm blanket on your back and then makes it better. Anyway, curiosity. Um, what do you guys all your parents do now for money? Beg. ████ My parents still work. My mom actually went back to doing nails. How old are days? Uh, she's like 60 something, mid60s. I remember she worked at China Airlines. Yeah, she used to work at an airline. Why you don't want to do that no more? Uh, because she got injured. her hand got injured like with a bus incident like you know how they have shuttle buses and then like the door closed on her hand and she was like she got hurt hand out like that but then um trying to collect the ████ workers
2:32 comp. Yeah. So basically that that's what happened like she uh she was trying to collect workers comp. Oh no no it was an accident. It was an accident. She was trying to collect it legitimately. Oh yeah. Yeah. That's exactly what she did. Yeah. Vietnamese. No, but basically um she she there was like a she had a settlement and then they they paid her and then after that she couldn't go back to work there and so she was like you know what ████ I'm going to do nails and then and what was the settlement was like over 10 G's. Yeah. Just for she's not allowed to go back to work there. I think so. Yeah. I think because maybe now you're like a risk because her lawyer they have hard feelings. So like we don't want you lawyer was like recommending like no I don't think it's it's a conflict of interest. I think something like that. But yeah, anyway, something happened. She's way more at nails now, right? Oh, yeah. Way more at nails. So, they break
3:22 it in. She works a lot for sure. And the tips are like pretty solid, especially the area. She She's in um near Santa Monica. Oh, Santa Monica. Oh ████ So, she commutes, so you just go there. Damn, man. But it's a good tip. And then how many days a week she work? Uh I think five. Damn. Yeah. Santa five or sixish. Dang, that's a full-time job. Yeah, for real. For real. Yeah, for sure. Ain't easy either. Yeah. And then my dad, he's like, he half works because he's like way older than her. He's like 70 something, 77, something like that. He does contracting and so he just works from home like building houses. Uh he gets other people to build the houses. Oh, he organizes it. Yeah. Yeah. He he gets the engineers, he does the blueprints and whatever. Yeah, that's all that's what he does. And then um yeah, they still pretty much
4:14 work all the time. Like hella well off. Uh no, we we were read. You said it like you're hiding something. I think I wish we were. But um I think it's because if I think about how they came here to America and they just started from nothing and like they're finally building up to where they need to be now, it's like damn, if they started like that back then when they moved here, then it would be different. Yeah, I'd probably be well off. But yeah, so I I feel like they're doing really good now with their money. And obviously there's like way better ways to make money, but for them they're like kind of just like at the age where they're they're just stuck like that, you know? Well, at least they don't got to ████ take care of your sorry ass. No. Yeah, they they can take care of me. Um I mean, they let me have a place to stay,
5:04 which helps a lot for my business because then I'm saving money on rent. That's cool. And so I'm just like I'm a lot of money. Yeah. So, I put all that time into my business and like the money that I'm saving, I put it all into my business. Grow your business, man. So, I'm trying to take advantage of that first generation, you know, whatever Asians coming here and like trying to really build something so that later on, uh, the next generation is like, okay, they already have the financial literacy. They have a good starting spot, you know, but yeah, that they're still working. The coup. Nice. Are all your parents retired? My dad's retired. He's in He was in Kentucky, but now I think he just went to China for a little bit. What does he do for money when he's retired? Does he have a retirement that he's cashing He's really good at budgeting. Yeah, he has retirement. Oh, cool. Cool. But it's not
5:54 much. Um, but like he's living off that. My dad's very frugal. He knows how to like live off of uh like a like a solid amount, but but you know how they they say like you have your retirement, right? Are you supposed to just have that money and it's going to last you till like you die? Is that what supposed to? Oh, or or depending on like where you place your retirements. It's like maybe dividends. I feel like I wouldn't retire if if I were their age like with the type of mindset I have now. I feel like I would want to just keep doing something and not truly retire because I feel like there there's that whole trope of like once you're retired, you just kind of like, you know, get old quicker. Yeah. Well, see, here's the difference though. I am super down to retire because I know that I can retire and not do nothing. I would just do things that don't necessarily need to make money because I I'm also a hobbyist. I like to do right.
6:45 ████ yeah. I want to go fishing, dude. Yeah. Fishing, golf, working out. I still do very active things to keep me healthy and happy. Travel, eat good, and stuff like that. Right. What do people do when they retire? I thought everyone does that. Well, some people when they retire, they don't do anything. And when then they feel purposeless and then they they kick the can like in a year. So they just like veg in front of a TV and then they just probably I wouldn't do that or I think I wouldn't you know I would enjoy myself cuz the thing that makes me want to do so much stuff is because I know like I'm working towards this or you know what I'm saying like there's a mindset of where oh there's a fire under me. I have to work to make this money. So it it motivates me. So you enjoy the stress but if I Yeah. But then the thing is if I did if I stopped needing to make money that would be nice and I would be like okay cool but then I
7:36 feel like for me as a person I would be less motivated to do more things. I would want to chill more for sure. I would want to like do stuff but then I I just feel like having that fire of like oh you need to work makes me more excited to live. It feels so I like the feeling of not being able to pay my bills too. Yeah. I can pay my bills. It's just that um I'm at a good level where I'm like pretty much debtree, but that's a good place to be. But it's not like I'm at the point where I'm like I'm living exactly at my means right now. I'm just right there. And the but the thing is I can only stay there. But if unless I if I want a house or something like I need it, you know, you're one Korean away from being bankrupt, dude. You're one Korean away. That's a measurement. Hell
8:26 yeah, dude. Dude, all it takes is one. That's like throwing a Chinese lady on a freeway. So, it's chilling. They're like one car crash away from setting the whole thing into ████ gridlock. Yeah. I Yeah, I don't know. But yeah, retirement doesn't feel like uh something that I would choose if I if I had the option. ████ test me, bro. But I feel like as you get older, you just start to have less energy to want to do ████ You know what I mean? Like you just want to take more. I've seen it in my own my dad. My dad used to be he's very active but then like you know hang around him. This fool's like I got to just lay down for a little bit and they're like oh dude I look at like all those people that retire in like retirement areas like Florida or Palm Springs or whatever that like oh we live in this neighborhood community that has 174 golf courses and they just ████ have everybody has got a golf cart parked in front of the house. I'm like I can do that. That's
9:17 the American dream is alive and well. You know what I mean? like like the fact that you don't I think the coolest part of retiring is not so much like I'm not going to work and I'm going to stare at the wall. It's you finally have true freedom. You can actually go what do I want to do versus if you're locked in to whatever like let's say I have to do this to pay this bill. You technically don't have freedom. You have to keep this hamster wheel going versus like someone that's like, "Oh, today I will edit a video or tomorrow I won't edit a video or today, ████ it. I'm going to go play golf with Anthony and drink whiskey all day." You know, it's like that's pretty ████ cool. It's like being a teenager again kind of. Yeah. It's like a second life. I had a little bit of that. um had a taste of it during lockdown and then I was like I wanted
10:09 something that um I don't know I felt like it was too early for it. Like I still wanted to do stuff that had a little more purpose than fun all the time. Yeah. Yeah. I know. I know what you mean, too. Cuz sometimes it's it's fun to do fun stuff, but then when you're doing stuff like business or you're like you're building something or whatever and you know that even though you're building this to make money, it's like it's still just the process of building it just to do it cuz I could just get a job if I wanted to make money, right? But then I'm like I like the challenge and Well, that's the thing though. You could still be you could still be retired and not need to make money and then be like, "All right, well, I want to build something." That's exactly what I do. Even if I get to the level where I don't need to work anymore, I'm still probably going to work like just for the challenge, just for like the problem solving and get keep my mind active, you know, for sure. That's a big one. I think I honestly
11:00 think that's why my parents today haven't like gone like scenile or like, you know, had weird patterns because they're constantly active and doing things. But they're not that old though. 77. Nah, they're not that old. Okay, but the Okay, 77 kind of old, bro. Yeah, but like for dementia and all that ████ like that ████ doesn't kick until like 80s, dude. My dad's friends are either all like passed away or they there's some sort of health problem or mental problem or whatever, but he's like the only one out of his friend group that's like still normal, sharp, like because he's still working. I think I think there's a correlation for sure. Yeah. What do you guys What does your mom do for My mom's retired, so she gets I think like uh her retirement check or
11:50 she she's like one of those corporate ladies that did like 20 30 years at a company. So she gets like a good amount. She got also the whole 401k situation that Yeah. some sort of pension type thing which is pretty cool. She has social security and then she owns um like she kind of did the whole burr like real estate thing before it was a thing. All right. So, she lives in she kind of so technically it's like house hacking. She owns a property. Um it's like a triplex. She lives in the back. Um it's paid off. So, she gets income from the front, too. Oh, that's a pretty set. I feel like she probably makes more now in total than she did when she was even working. Wow. So, now she has extra time to pray to Buddha and give extra money to Buddha. Give to Buddha to give to time travelers. She has all that money to give. Does she have a lot of hobbies or is Buddha her
12:40 hobby? I think her daily routine is probably wake up at 5, ████ pray for an hour, be on her knees, do ████ Buddha ████ and then I think she ████ makes apples and drinks like goat milk or something. That's kind of sick. And then she goes to the park, uh, makes up her own tai chi for another hour, comes back home. She does her own style. Yeah, she does her own style, comes back home. I don't know what she does for the rest of the day, but then she prays twice a day. Both of those are like an hour long. Nice. That's pretty sick. Yeah. And then she's and any open house she see. I think this is where I got my real estate like probably like uh inception from as a kid. Ever since
13:30 Yeah. Ever since as early as I can remember, anytime there's an open house, my mom would pull over and go inside and look. What does she look for? Do you do you She just likes She just enjoys looking at homes. Open houses are fun. And the value. Oh, why why is this one Why is this one cheaper than the other one? Oh, it's because this one's on a corner, so you're more exposed to the street. or how come this you like she like and then we would talk like that as as like um mother son as a kid. So I think as a little age I started to like take in all that stuff. Oh, that's pretty cool. Mother sun dates. Yeah, mother sunund dates. Yeah. Yeah. Mommy mommy sunund dates. Non-creepy white mother sunund dates. Nice. So what about your mom? She's in Japan. Yep. She's retired. Is she a weeb? Where does she get her income from to live? Cam girl. That's crazy. No, I'm just kidding. Retirement.
14:20 She has uh social security. Oh, like American. Yeah, she she kept her citizenship, so she gets that. She saved up like the checks or or just direct deposits into her account and then she could pull that from Japan. Yeah, it goes into her account. And then um I think well my stepdad left her stuff and then he had money. Um so I don't know. I think I think Yeah, she's pretty frugal, too. She doesn't do anything. She's chilling. Yeah. And then she just plays piano or does her hobbies and ████ I really don't know what she does to stay occupied really. But I She worked hella ala long though. She worked into her like 60s. So, she retired pretty late, so she had a lot of like just money saved up. Dang. Yeah. But she's not a hustler though. Yeah. And I think I
15:11 don't know what the ████ my dad was doing. He's ████ scamming people or something. Unemployed. Yeah. You think you got your hustler mentality from your circumstances or from genetics? You think? I don't think I'm that much of a hustler to be honest. Like I don't think I work hard. Really? I work a lot cuz I get myself into situations and then I got to get myself out. But like, well, maybe cuz I'm comparing it to some entrepreneurial friends that are workaholics. Like they sleep 3 hours every night and like work like crazy. So I've seen like what those workers do. But then when you work in like restaurant or like certain industries where it's normal to do like a 12-h hour shift, you know, like but other people be like I don't know. They'll be like, "Oh man, I did a 8 hour." And I'm like, "That's normal."
16:02 But like, you know, nurses like they'll do 12 hours. That's normal. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. But then um but people that do less than eight will be like, "Oh, I did so many hours today." And I'm like, "Well, I don't know. It's relative to what, you know, and I'm surrounded by so many like Yeah. business owners that were like, they don't even look at the clock. You just work. When you wake up, you work until you go to sleep." And you do that for like Yeah. You do that for 365. You know what's crazy? I bet you when you became an employer, you start to notice like, damn, there's so many more people that don't want to work versus people that do want to work. Like way more cuz you're down. Nobody wants to work. Right. Right. But the people that have to work, the people that have to work that. No, no, no. But I'm saying like the people that are getting these jobs, like why are you getting a job if you don't want to put in like work? Cuz they just have
16:53 to. Well, cuz people got to pay bills. So, I think nobody really wants to work, even if it's their passion. Like, no one wants to work like that. But it's it's a it's kind of like a um everyone's got to do something if you don't grow up in a rich family. Yeah. Yeah. Everything gets old eventually, bro. Even if it's your passion. Like, as much as like I Oh, I thought holding pads was like the sickest thing in the world. It's one of my favorite things ever for coaching people. Yeah. But you do it long enough, you're like, I'm never holding a ████ pad. And I'm good. Like I think one of the only things I'm good at is pad holding. I'm very good at that. But there's a point in time where I'm like I don't want to do this ████ ever again, bro. And that's like a passion thing, right? Really? Oh, but I just feel like over over a period of time, no matter what it is, you eventually get You never had a passion that turned into work. Yeah, I did uh with dance, but I still love doing it and I still do it for money like now. But take your shirt off
17:45 and dance for me. Would you like it then? Yeah, I would like it even more. Probably take your pants off. No, that maybe. and then you'd be like this is not that fun anymore. It's pretty it's pretty unique that like uh especially with all of us being like Asian that none of us currently are in a position uh where you know normally when the parents get old or they retire. It's like the parents go live with their children and their children take care of them. But none of us are really in that position. I'm getting ready for that. I know it's going to be some time where my mom's going to start needing assistance. So I'm definitely open to that. But I know how annoying she's going to be. So I'm trying to prolong that as long as possible. But the minute she asks me, I'm like fine. Like my mom lives with my sister in out in out here. So they're pretty close to us. So we we go see him a good amount. But Ooh, deliberate. Oh
18:37 ████ man. You know what though? They trying to get mad at me. Oh, what happened? He thought that I didn't put in the information correctly. I love when they do that. Oh, but it was the delivery people that didn't put it in and he was trying to get it mad at me. I was like, "Hey, just give me my box, bro." Dude, what are you talking about? Delivery guy. I thought your friends are driving. Oh, it's a They sent a delivery dude and he was like, "I've been waiting 10 minutes
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