0:00 [Music] welcome back to another episode of careful boys we are currently off the Record yo let's do it I like that one that's a new one all right we got a question from a fellow uh podcast called why not podcast these guys are big fans of JK I I posted them before on the JK Caro and James big shout out to you James and uh for all of us and it is what is your most toxic trait ooh my I'm Petty as Fu trait that's your most toxic trait yeah I think so what do you think it is but is it also like you embrace it you like it or you know how to channel it in a good way I like it because I I find it funny that I'm this way because I can step
0:50 outside of myself and see that this way but I'm also actually this way that's a really good way most toxic tra D sometimes question I think talk something that can be toxic is also good like for example like the thing that you love in a person can also be something that get annoys you the ████ out of it you right so like let's say someone's caring as ████ so you're like oh I love how caring there they're always thought but then it could also backfire to where you're like you're so ████ like annoying overbearing stop carpet for somebody else yeah or the the mom that like loves her kids too much that ends up coddling or enabling them yeah so I feel like exactly that for me would be how much I believe in something and I get tunnel vision
1:40 that once I'm on it like I'm obsessive about it so then I I think if I channel that well then it's like I can channel that in a way where it's like we're going to ████ make our dreams come true right but if I channel that bad then it can go like I obsess over um reg things or something you know hell yeah yeah I'll get you ████ what's a tell us a time where it was the Revenge part it was very toxic so these guys in high school um one of one of these uh this guy had an ex-girlfriend right they just broke up I had no idea and then um I hooked her up with something in class and she was thanking me that day with cookies so she hooked me up with some cookies I didn't know they were broken
2:30 or whatever and he saw her give me cookies so he got hella jealous he went on her account and at like 2: in the morning was like hey I'm at this party there's all these weird dudes I need help can you come pick me up so I was like all right sure so I pull up to the driveway and when I pull up um bunch of mask guys come bash my car and then like I'm inside I couldn't turn on the key and then they stick stick their hands in they pepper spray all inside so I'm just covered in pepper spray they ████ run I drive back my car is just destroyed all the glasses broken my mom's like what the ████ happened to you and then she took my car to the uh you know to the auto shop had to pay hundreds of dollars and I was so ████ mad after
3:20 that that um so the main guy he went to the military so he's gone so I went down to list and I started looking for every single one of these guys found out that um I I I asked her I was like can you get me the names cuz it's ████ up like what they did to us and then she was I had no idea I'm so sorry he had access to my account so I I decided to figure out who these guys were or who his friends were so I went down the list I got one guy in the middle of the street me and my buddies took care of him another guy found out he worked at a barber shop so I decided to go get haircuts from him and then every week I would visit him and have conversations and and I was just deciding what I might do while he was cutting my hair and then one day he said Hey Joe uh I'm sorry what happened to you but I wasn't there and then I never confronted him about
4:11 what happened but it was kind of a good feeling to know that I I was ████ with him and then while I was getting my haircut I was just like stewing I can go and maybe stab him one day but if he's apologizing maybe really wasn't there so I asked him who was there and if you're willing to tell me then you know we can be friends like I don't care I I don't really have any hate toward you I know you're just backing your friend up and then he gave me the names and then um I was been I just been fortunate enough to be able to get my revenge like on some of them yeah how were the cookies how are the cookies the cookies were kind of salty came in them not worth it dang but then yeah this is me what 19 20 I don't know I forgot but I I feel like
5:03 I don't know if I do those things now but I spent a lot of time like so angry and looking at where these guys were where they live where their families were at and all this stuff and it's like after a while it's like why it's a lot ofal real so sick that you did that it is that's a cool ████ story it's ████ sick you're like that Mom that hunted the cartel down oh yeah that's tight but I also have empathy where I know like if if it was on the other side and if like one of my friends told me this guy's ████ my ████ ex-girlfriend and she broke up with me I'm like what do you want to do and then it's like well we're going to go bash his car you know then I would have been the ████ knucklehead that said whatever you say we're going to go do it and then so I got all of the people around him but the guy cuz he ran away yeah damn so we still have to finish the
5:53 job one more person still got one more he's still out there well actually B helped me get a couple of them yeah wasn't yeah we were at the a bathroom and and we uh one of our friends was like some of those guys are in there Bart came in see he was one of those guys too it's like what are we doing all right we're going to ████ all right let's go who are you dude and now Bart's on somebody else's just sitting there now like he's just built dude he's just like I'm a man of peace I would never do anything scariest ████ me and Joe first became like friends and we hung so we met at an MMA gym ████ around and we realize like we really like to be goofballs and sometimes you know we're like hanging out and you have like deep talks when I heard that story I was like dude that's ████ up and then I'm and then you know when you have like that sworn Brothers Moment Like if we ever catch him they're ████ dead they're dead that's the funniest thing is Bart had nothing to do
6:44 with it a blood nothing to do it with when he was ████ up some guys that had nothing to do with it I'll be petty over your guys' ████ we still got against that one guy we are all tatted you guys we're all ████ and then we were at and then we're in like Little Tokyo and then I was like uh we're all hanging out drinking there and then I remember like seeing them I'm like oh ████ those are the fellows that Joe was talking about hey but if you can call them fellows did you I don't know why if they were hell big Simone guys would you be like I handle a joke no we'll figure it out we'll figure out a way we're like I can always go like this and bar can push him hell yeah that's a technique dud I was like Joe I think I just saw him I think they went into the bathroom and I was like what do you want to do and he goes let's get him and and so him me the other guy that has this tattoo oh yeah and then we found out there's other
7:35 surprise attacks in the back like I guess all the dudes that we thought it was just him but there's other dudes in the bathroom that was also peeing that are also his friends oh so it turned into like a ████ WrestleMania supposed to be a one-on-one between me and the guy while Bart and the other guy holds the door but then yeah there were other guys in the bathroom that started punching me in the back of the head when we were going at it did you tell them it's one-onone only yeah one V one no it was ████ kamakazi attack dude hey gck rules what the ████ One V one yeah damn dude yeah I almost forget about stuff like that but that used to consume so much of me you know that used to just be like for the stupidest reasons too and then there's other things where I'm like I still kind of get like that but I still get satisfaction of knowing I know everything about this person but they
8:25 don't know that I know it's such a that's still like if that happened today if somebody really wrecked your car like that that's still a pretty big ████ thing that's true but I i' be able to that how do you pepper spray how you get pepper spray out of your inside of your car saw those Christmas trees hang them everywhere everywhere dude I didn't even know I was pepper sprayed I just felt like I was crying and I was like driving and I was like hitting I thought like so emotional I did just get be ████ jump and it's so hot in the middle of winter and then the windshield was the windshield was all broken in the money I thought that all the air was making my eyes irritated I was running red lights and ████ trying to F and then I went home and I was like ████ dude I guess when wind really Gets In Your Eyes ████ you up and then I
9:17 realized they pepper sprayed me yeah and my mom was like smelling it in the car and ████ yeah god dude that's a massive thing to do I your mom starts crying you're like Mom don't cry it's okay I'm okay who has pepper spray in high school like that all because you got cookies when you weren't supposed to yeah you did no good deed as they say but what were you hooking her up with though what would you get you know I don't know we always used to like no it was nerd ████ it was literally like there was no interest I think it was just like answers or some cheating thing or whatever like yeah it was like ████ yeah damn man but I don't know why it was if I gave a chick some answers or some stuff and she got me cookie she saying today's video is brought to you by Factor shout outs to factor they sent us a bunch of goodies the smoothies they
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10:57 first box and two free wellness shots per box while your subscription is active that's code off the Record 50 at Factor meals.com slash off the Record 50 to get 50% off your first box and two free wellness shots per box while your subscription is active it's on and popping bro she's saying something which one of your toxic traits you want to F I'm not going after that this guy's talking about stabbing people I'm sound like a ████ ████ please please save me Steve saying you're not toxic enough is that what you're saying to stab some that's notx you didn't do that I thought about it to sit there and get a ████ haircut from the dude you might might stab dud that's sick to be hold a knife under the ████ cloak that's so badass the day or Joe has like a gun underneath the thing he just like yeah but it's like his third
11:48 haircut he's like building rapport with the guy he's got that ████ that you know that that cloth over you and he's got like piano wire in here wrapping around the Garrett so sick hey but me and the guy ended up becoming friends yeah that's creepy when you smile like that sure sure you did oh we're friends we're best friends oh yeah no we ended up becoming friends and now we know everybody in his family no exactly go ahead Anthony start with number one ████ you U Anthony will you take the rest of the video need like we can do a special one we can do like a 25 minutes gender between the what's going we could do like a 25 30 minutes I don't know there's anything else to be toxic what you think you're perfect no not even close but perfect I figured it out I don't have a badass way to come back from it is all it's different yeah it's it's hard when you go after that story
12:38 what is the definition of toxic it is it is pretty I I guess like the easiest way for me to find that is to think of times where I've been told I was being toxic yeah and I think that's a good way to sort of find it but nobody said that till like 5 years AG yeah yeah it's I I think like but then I think like in retrospect I understand when I was like kind of like how you think back to find it I think like when my mind immediately goes to how I treated past relationships 100% yeah cuz I was the I was every type of guy that I tell girls not to date now because understand it cuz that's how you know and then like you know I was the jealous guy I was the the um controlling guy I was every type of guy and it's like it's disgusting to me but it's like but it's relieving that I recognize it internal that you were ever that way but that's how you learned
13:28 and then now like I try to make you know like cuz today I'm with smack and I try to be everything that I wasn't so it's like oh she benefits from me Having learned like the 10 times I was the worst ████ guy in the world you know yep and like real like ████ like real jealousy real controlling like I didn't like when um like my girl went out with her friends without me and ████ and I would try to like cause riffs so that she's not friends with them anymore because I was like jealous of her time like ████ I mean this is like when I was 18 is like um abusive and destructive yeah I think like I think but then I played an emotional game which I think is worse like I wasn't a physical abuser but I was highly like covertly emotional where like I wouldn't even make it very um clear that I was being toxic I would just there would just be like punishments that were like
14:18 she wouldn't understand why she's going through these hardships but I get it cuz I'm like Oh no you're going to pay for this thing ████ Asian Dad over here dude weird but I think like after I'm like do I have to be this scummy like I was like can't I but then it's because I also wasn't happy with myself the P of my hand yeah I think like in terms of toxic that's that's where my mind always goes I think like every Rel almost every relationship before uh 2015 I was probably not a good choice is it then only relationship based or is it with yourself too um I think it comes out in relationships obviously like if you're insecure as a person you're going to to be a bad partner and I think like it's weird because when you feel the most secure I think is when you're kind of not like I went all those years thinking
15:08 like oh I have my ████ down I know my method I know myself but it's like that's when you really are missing all of the the blind spots yeah yeah you don't it's like and because I'm such a typical dude in terms of like I don't learn as much until I've lost something I needed to lose I need to lose lose L lose in order to like get the lesson cuz if I keep ████ winning or you keep giving me the ████ candy I'm just like oh did it right yeah so I think every every guy is different but like I definitely had to like be toxic and then like see the wake of my destruction to be like ████ man like some girls that that I dated like one of my ex's um from like 200 uh 2012 like one of my really like we were a we had a really great relationship uh in terms of being close but it was very toxic in terms of like
15:58 how much emotional damage we both put on each other she barely started dating a new guy this year W cuz she had to recover from that relationship and that's and she told me that straight up she was like yeah it was so taxing on her that like she couldn't like she couldn't date you're the reason why women are out there going men ain't ████ but at the same time internally they're like they're everything yeah yeah yeah it's like not that that's like I I think I'm cool for that but like when she reaches out to you she's just like hey I finally got back on the bike oh that took a long time it's such a random yeah it's like it's one she was one of those people that like we became friends like a couple years after and then we kept in touch and like it's it's like I I kind
16:49 of tried to repair it in the friendship like the damage that I did to her and I tried to like but then like I knew that it could never you can honestly you can never fix it I think she's just a slow [Laughter] learner you can never really like fix it yourself it's like a thing where like she just has to like go off and and try again and be like oh this is what it's was meant to be like you know it's also not my place it's not my place to be like I'm sure you helped her with the closure and the healing that you guys were friends and then you show that you grew and you you probably apologize I'm assuming yeah I all the time we had a lot of ████ to apologize to each other about but like I kind of the difference is I knew what I was doing and she didn't so that's where it goes into a different life so you feel like yours was premeditated murder she was was like murder of Slaughter vehicular I see yeah
17:40 she was in the moment and you were like planned yeah I wouldn't I wouldn't be on parole damn well I guess it's Anthony's term now yeah yeah what is somehow it always goes back to murder and death though ████ how do I do this um when were you abusive and destructive um is it traits now I think something yeah see everybody's talking about past things as if I'm still petty ████ well I think I think I think these traits never really go away you just learn how to ████ like I know that's a part of me to be like that and I try to ████ suppress it forever you know I do think sometimes that I do get in trouble especially relationship wise too from Nina and stuff like that because like I know that I'm like I can be witty or like quick with my words or or just know how to like construct my words in a way that like is I guess just borderline
18:30 articulate enough to get myself out of situations or to explain something so like the ultimate gas lighter I get too dude I just wish you could just give me space and respect the way you respect everybody else okay this is why I'm uncomfortable guys I don't want to talk anymore no he's doing it he's doing it he's doing it he's gas liting smoth SM that was Fu how could you get gas L you idiot he's quick at popcorn Nick oh he's too good go ahead man go ahead finish your example of when you did that and you caught it no I think like for example um I'll even be able to like I can know when I'll do something wrong and I'll know how to apologize for it and I like I honestly give myself enough like
19:20 respect because I couldn't do that when I was younger so I've grown from that and I know how to apologize but I still find myself using my words and apologizing in a way that still might like I don't know self- preses my the nature of why I did something okay you know what I'm saying it's never like it's like gray to you now even yeah it's it's never fully like damn I was just wrong it'll be like man I was really wrong really sorry like let me make it up by blah blah blah blah and like put myself in a space that just like allows me to I don't know walk through that moment without as much guilt as maybe I should hold on to you're trying to get a w you still maybe yeah yeah maybe you know what I'm saying hand because bend the L into a freaking DB that's it for ████ in there yeah that looks right yeah yeah ex you um but creases in that W though it used to be L here it's
20:12 a Walmart yeah you see the creases in the metal but like I I I'll have to like tell myself like literally have to have a conversation with my brain and be like no dude like this is where you Mees messed up understand where like she or they are coming from whether it's somebody I work with or whatever you know what I mean and and do what you got to do to like put yourself in that their position but then there's still somehow this like underlying okay this is why I did it BL like as if I I can't just be sorry for it I have to have like reasoning that like allows my apology to like make more sense to me you know what I'm saying I see something about that in myself where I was like I can work on that I can work on just being uh or just maybe understanding them more versus needing to understand me in that moment yeah you know what I'm saying sure right cuz when if like if you made a mistake then the other person deserves to be put first in every way exactly but you know
21:03 that's the thing like uh conversely if it's like not an issue or if it's not a problem I did do something wrong that same you know wit if you will is useful or is like fun to be around or like inspiring and stuff like that like in terms of like like using your pow for good yeah but then when it's like using it for yourself then it could also be toxic just like Joe was saying sometimes your best traes are often times your worst you turn that into a W2 yeah that was sick so good he's good I like being G by him
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