0:00 as far back as I can remember I can't have a normal conversation that doesn't feel like it should end immediately that's like being my half brother you have a half [Music] brother welcome back to a marvelous episode of careful boys where if you are a member of our esteemed patreon you get to send us questions anytime wow Link in the description box below to become a member of the patreon all right we got a question from uh ARIS Escobar he's our homie that he's uh I believe he's finished with medical school now and he's on his way to becoming a doctor wow doctor in there thank you for choosing a life of saving people yeah he's great uh he had this question that's very very simple um I don't know if you'll be able to answer it but he's he just wants to
0:50 know what is our Dynamic with our siblings each of us oh interesting our Dynamic B you go first um I killed them all it's just me in last one standing he had a he was a quadruplet but Bart started Pac-Man them in the womb rest in peace b b and you just took on you took on the total mess Bart b beat and beat beat be be Bean oh it's for sure Bert Bean BT and B what my mom said is I if I had siblings I would have been the oldest cuz the second one was aborted and I think the third one was a miscarriage see I told you it was abort wow you would have been the oldest that's how you got your name this guy's good cuz I wasn't aborted I was Abed do it I just got it I just put it
1:41 together what's your Dynamic with your sisters you have two sisters they're both older hotter some people will say they're very hot one of them is lesbian I won't one of them looks exactly like him remember yeah one looks just like is one lesbian or both how do your parents feel having two lgbtq kids you and your sister dude are you roasting me right now what the ████ man I'm married to a woman oh ████ for now hey damic now so okay growing up it was mostly like I had three moms grown up like they were all just you know hovering six and seven years apart they're a lot older that was Heaven huh it was a good time I think it it's turned me into the man I am today a very weak weak small man cool um but now it's like I don't really talk to him that much just because we're all busy with
2:33 our own lives you know we do talk a little bit here and there we're not as close as we used to be um one of them lives in Florida the other one lives nearby so it's like whenever we're in town we do hang out but it's just like we kind of don't really talk that much anymore I don't know if that's just us getting older I kind of feel guilty about that a little bit you shouldn't sometimes when I hang out with them I'm like I don't want to talk to you guys that much you know if you guys weren't blood related yeah would you try to make the relationship work like probably not well that's what I noticed too I I'm no not with you but just in general yeah you like diagnosing it's not like it's not like I'm actively like trying to get rid of them or anything like that it's just like you know get rid of them yeah I'm not trying to like murder my sisters yeah um but they're just not the
3:25 same people on the same wavelength type of thing yeah maybe maybe but like we we have the same like core like sense of humor like you don't have any common interests even with the your lesbian one no not really like music maybe we like we like talk about music and movies but that's about it like it's not really anything you guys like Daddy we we're more of a trillville like that's what we really like those too of all the artist no I just made that up I don't know I just made something up we're more TI fans got it um but yeah like I really think about it it's like you're these question you know the problem with these ████ questions are it makes me re reevaluate like my own life feel bad I'm like ████ like damn am I uh looking at this thing all wrong well I think the funny thing is when you start to hear from like like Colleen and her brother very close very close like that's the
4:16 kind of relationship that I think anybody would want how many years apart a year and a day apart see that's the key to success but I mean growing up we were either like worst of enemies or best friends but as adults we're we're very close so growing up you you're like Irish twins but he's like the cool thing is when you hang out with them together they're like homies like he's that guy's ████ funny and he's cool he's buff see my two sisters they're a year apart from each other they're way closer together than I am to them and how many years apart are you six and seven years AP that's the recipe I rest my ████ case I grew up I grew up kind of being I want to say alone but like they would do their thing and I just kind of be like oh you know doing my own thing annoying little brother yeah just either ████ with them and they'd be like get the hell out of here and I'm be like all right and then i' just go set things on fire outside or something put things in
5:06 sockets being closer an age definitely helps I don't think so I think it does cuz Hannah's brothers are all a year oh wow they're just back to backs four yeah within the four year Dam and um is she tight with all of them they're all cool it's it it just feels like a nice environment she's the youngest she's the second oldest second oldest so she's the oldest sister because they're all Brothers and I think growing up as we got older like in our 20s we're all in different stages in our life too so like I think that's when it really Chang what's the most personal thing you've talked to your sisters about in about your life dude I don't really talk to them about anything personal are you able to talk to your brother about something real personal yeah see that's like foreign territory I'm the same way I can't imagine how many years how many years well we're only two years apart I rest my case it's not one it has to be
5:56 one more than one but she is one going on too yeah I barely miss one in a day one in a day 366 days is two years oh ████ uh I don't know if that's correct it's probably wrong [Music] but that's why you're AED how what's your Gap with your sister uh a year and 10 8 months oh does that qualify months are you guys close no you just have to say rest your case for no it's CL no I okay I'm I'm going gamble here and say no because it's 10 months is closer to 2 years than than one year and one day this is this is
6:47 quick math wait what when we were growing up uh I feel like I had a not good relationship with my sister but it wasn't like terrible it was just like a like you know there's a number of things I can count on my hand that like I resented her for she's older she's older so like for example like are older because she's older especially in like I don't know an Asian household it's like I had to ████ bow down got listen exist in her ecosystem you know what I'm saying or like like if you're bored and there's nobody around maybe we can hang out for a second but the second a friend comes over I am scum I am literally the fungi of fungus you know what I'm saying like same it's just that level of just I was nothing your sister's a ████ yeah she's a ████ I would call her a ████ when we were young and I would get slapped or some weird ████ right I don't
7:38 understand however in my adult life either and I'll give myself credit for being less naive and ignorant I won't blame her for it um but because I've grown up and matured and just like recognize that uh I don't have to like you know brother sister I don't have to equally like whatever like I love you my older sister I respect whatever you know like you got and stuff ever since that maturity I feel like we've gotten so much closer and I genuinely like I love anytime I get a chance to see her or talk to her or her family or ask her for advice I'm super willing to ask her for advice I have no fear asking her about anything we We complain about her mom all the time so I feel like you know bonding through suffering is like what is so what's something that your sister's like an expert in or like
8:28 really good at like dancing nah I beat her in college ha we competed against each other she was on ACA what you served her up maybe that's what humbled [Laughter] her um she uh I think family she's she's raising three kids right now so any questions that I've you know in recent years had about like familial life what's her industry that she works in she basically is like uh in finance oh okay brokerage can she help you with anything she actually does help me with like my uh retirement Ira my Roth IRA like she helped me set it up she like helped me uh before when I like didn't know ████ about it but she told me to set it up she helped me set it up and then she's like just make sure you pay this monthly or yearly or whatever and then she would allocate my funds that's and it was only in recent years that I was like Hey I want to kind of allocate
9:19 some of my funds to this she's all right cool you know what I mean so it's like we'll just talk about doing stuff like that um recently in house hunting and house buying stuff like I you know being able to get Zoom calls and then ask her like how her experience has been cuz they bought a house before they sold it they were able to use the profits to down pay their bigger new house now for their family and buy two cars off of it because they need blah blah dope so just being like I've never done this before you have and just knowing who I could turn to because the crazy I think it's also more important to also understand in context that I couldn't do that with my parents interesting they have the knowledge they just didn't do things very well they're too stupid they're not yeah they're not financially liter they you know what I mean like the best uh Financial advice my dad could offer me is like make sure you save money but it's like any poor person could tell you to save money you know what I mean like
10:10 what's the advice to somebody who like was able to make it and and give advice and that's somebody that my sister was like that person in my family that could do it so I just feel like being able to turn to her is is also a result of maybe not being able to turn to my parents in some things um and that's why our relationship I think is really good in our adult life interesting there's a case that that rest it but I didn't even tell you first but when people are one or two years apart very young uhhuh they have separation because that age Gap feels way bigger cuz like if you're ninth grade and a 10th grader right cuz Hannah she's like in high school and and Junior High like they're like oh we're not we don't we pretend that we're not family true and after high school that's when they all feel more closer I think that's the maturity thing that anony is talking about too you like that with
11:00 your brother too we're like we're not brother sister yeah we would kind of ignore each other yeah in high school right see another case rest what about like you and your brother how many years apart 12 12 it felt like I had a ████ Uncle couch Surfer 12 years apart pretty massive though and it's crazy that you have like an uncle that would whoop your ass cuz he 12 is 12 is huge that means when you were 12 he was 24 yeah that's ████ up they know better by that you guys I wasn't severely beaten I was entertainment okay good so it was funny no it was funny to do a lot of ████ yeah you red old but it's a one it's a oneway fun you know what I mean it's like it's like ████ man one way f one way fun and then uh so I I think I
11:51 probably had him to around till I was like two so when I was born until you were two you said I was like 2 years old this is in your memory no this what my parents told me well this I know because I know what happened is around two I was a hectic ass baby right terrible twos came in my brother was being a troublemaker ditching School skating being that so they sent him to boarding school for 4 years so I only saw him every summer during summer break which he would come home and terrorize the ████ out of me and that was his routine every summer ████ summer break is here and then my brother's back in town that F be waiting what hog timey with my underwear I'll just be wiggling around trying to get out you know yeah what was your brother's name Tony Tony Tony Tony Hawk dude so I don't know if this has
12:42 ever happened to you guys but have you ever had a wedgie so hard that they could put the underwear on the back of your head oh I always thought that was just fictional no dude he would stretch my underwear he would stretch my underwear from my back pull it over my forehead like this and I would be like this bini bottom are you wearing that stretches that part I've tried to do I've tried to do that to guys and it always rips I had some stretchy haes dude Hester his ass crack goes all the way up to his gut yeah what's up guys if you do not know we have a patreon I want you to click in our description and go over there and check out all the beautiful stuff we have for you it's super duper access for only our super duper exclusive lovers like yourself you're going to be getting one never
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14:24 well he doesn't talk to people he only talked to my mom oh okay he's very talks to trees very Ted kazinski he's very uh Cabin in the Woods kind of guy the bombs yeah he's really um writing letters does he look his age does he look really old I don't think I think you know I think he's like 52 now um I got a recent picture he came to Hawaii with my mom and then we all kind of had uh lunch together he looked the same he give you wedgie what do you mean kind of had lunch well we all had we all had dinner yeah we hung I met him once right I don't know he's really skinny yeah I think I met one time yeah do you ever like dream of giving him a wedgie like no I don't care you should one now get him back this is what you get way better now you remember that ████ those
15:14 Summers were ████ terrorizing be like drink up that June he's like the total opposite he's like this really quiet he's serious no he's just really relaxed like he's just chill but then the thing is he doesn't own a car he only rides motorcycles that's cool yeah I think he's a researcher over at Davis or something like that but a researcher yeah he's still into extreme sports and he he's a man of very few words so we're like the complete opposite I'm like extroverted always talking out there and he's like a super quiet guy yeah 12 years AP I my Cas I know right there's a case that rested it's crazy how people are inside their home and out inside their home like recently I went to one of ta's uh classmates birthday parties I'm just
16:04 like chitchatting with u like one of the parents there and then one of them uh somehow we got to like where we grew up and then I was like I said citos and he was like oh I grew up in SOS and they like wait what the ████ I'm like you're out here now and then we started to see if we knew the same people and then I brought up my best friend who lived across the street um his older brother used to whoop the ████ out of us every ████ day and then uh I was like hey you know Eric and then he was like oh yeah the super quiet guy yeah he was just kind of shy and quiet to himself right cuz this guy was like two years older than me so I think he was of that guy's class I was like dude this guy used to come home with his other homies and just jump the ████ out of us all the ████ time and then he was like dude I could never imagine him doing that I'm like what the and that's how I picture like Joe's brother be we're like at home
16:55 he's tying him up doing all kinds of crazy ████ and outside he's like hey guys with his peers what that makes sense I'm mad of a few words yeah he I think he was always internally high energy but externally just calm internally sounds but he's like he was he wasn't like loud constant trembling no like sounds like inside out the movie yeah oh yeah yeah like he he had a lot of like Brazilian skater Surfer friends and then they they're loud they're like big personalities right so he take me out and then they're just riding the halfpipe ████ doing all this crazy ████ and here's my brother just like calm as ████ and doing the same things but I'm like all of your friends are like high energy pipes but calm as ████ yeah no excitement everyone
17:45 else is riding screaming woo woo woo right and then like he's just doing fingerboards dude he's just chill yeah super quiet what are some similarities that you still have with him we had a pretty long combo and I think like we both see the the world similarly and react differently did you have it in Japanese no we don't speak Japanese could you at least try just hear them try I think we we like the simil like so we both are into like we like extreme sports or like hiking and all these things right but he just does it on a different level like I actually get scared he doesn't get scared do you have any personality similarities and it's like do you guys sound alike in any way no not at all you wouldn't even think we look related we don't even look related like he's like super skinny and um yeah his movements
18:37 are slow minds are big and yeah the one time I think I met him I remember and he was standing a little bit behind Joe it looked like Joe found someone that's related to him in the attic and brought him down that's what I remember I was like wait that's the Des I think that's Joe's brother I think that's why I had my my voice St he look like a relative rather than my like own brother yeah yeah yeah yeah wow and because Joe's personal is so big like this guy was literally like I think he's like a little bit darker than you too right yeah he's super dark darker skinnier and he's just kind of like like this and it was almost like he was like am I allowed to speak now or no okay be quiet like that sounds like bad casting if it was like a sitcom yeah cuz it's like he's yeah he comes off timid but he's actually way more crazier that things that I'm afraid of he'll always do like normally and
19:28 what would was the story again on why it's 12 years apart was there an intention no I think that was an accident or so like oh like you know they they already had cuz my mom was like late 30s and my dad was like late 30s early 40s yeah wow yeah good for good for them getting it in at that age wait no no late at that age I get late 30 yeah mid to late 30s at that fire never burnt out that's pretty impressive 12 years straight or just paused for like 11 years God dang yeah how about you how many siblings you yeah I have one sister she's 2 years older than me but we're just super different we've never gotten along since day one one look at that less than more than a year yeah I think it's just you know sometimes kids just come out with
20:18 totally different personalities we just never we just never found a common ground but from the beginning it was like that oh yeah did your parents ever try to encourage it I think so yeah I think they did I mean just one sister yeah just one sister and then and we went to high school together Grade School junior high all of the above and then teachers and everyone was always like I didn't know you guys were related cuz we just don't have the same anything you don't look the same either I don't think we look alike at all is there like any concept of a relationship between you two like even if you guys don't talk or whatever but it's like she would call you if an emergency happened and therefore blah blah blah yeah she tells me like like she tells me things if like my mom has to go to the hospital for something whatever she just text me and be like oh hey she's in the hospital this is a deal and I'll just be okay cool it's like cordial communication it's not like an actual relationship
21:09 it's like yeah it's weird it's like um would you ever put her down as a emergency contact no can't even count that's the real question yeah I and I also don't even know like like throughout my life people have always been um like oh hey how's your sister or like my other family members and I've never had an answer I'm always like I don't know cuz I just never see her or talk to her and neither do they because she's a little bit more removed from like in terms of like family gatherings she never goes since like 8th grade she didn't want to go anymore so in general she's estang from everybody a little well she's a little yeah she's more strange from like cuz you know like how Phil there's like a weird Filipino culture thing where they could be just really rude to you they'll just be like oh you gained weight oh you lost weight that's not just Filipino yeah exactly it's it's kind of like a but she the
22:00 first time that happened to her she was like ████ this I'm never coming again and she meant it and she never went to any more family ████ on that side of the family she only hangs out with really select uh cousins that we have other than that she's never come back and then they're always just like how's she doing like they don't know that like she hates them she's the definition of No New Friends um she St basally gave me uh I try to remember the quotes I had to pull this up but do you do you guys have you ever heard of this the family we choose for ourselves is more important than the ones we were born into yeahh yeah absolutely I kind of feel that's true how did your sister feel when you first got on TV was she like you know I don't even know was she like oh my brother's on TV or is it like whoa oh Ryan yeah I guess he's on ████ TV whatever I I have no
22:52 gauge at all I never even spoke to her about it so you would she's definitely not someone you would celebrate your wins with hey I got this I can't even imagine anything I can't imagine any interaction we're so like apart that like the the idea of me thinking like hey good news this happened like I can't even picture that you don't know random person at the park yeah it's yeah exactly it's it's or it's like I don't know we've always been like really weird I think you know there's like a when there's just like an awkwardness with a stranger it's been that from birth like I've never settled into to like talking to this person since I could as far back as I can remember I can't have a normal conversation that doesn't feel like it should end immediately that's like being and my half brother you have a half brother M on which side like same dad
23:44 different mom how old how much older more than 11 10 years oh I rest my K it is I thought that's where Joe was going to go he's like that reminds me of this quote that I you know I rest my case but he's been around in your life since you were a kid no when did you first like interact he had a really troubling history in past um he was in prison he just you know had a so he is very distant from the family um my brother and I didn't really meet him till like maybe 9 or 10 does he look similar to you guys at all not really not really wow he's not a part of the family and talking to him is just like I'm an aunt now he has a he has a kid oh he a kid my brother and I have not met him is there like potential and I'm just curious like uh I don't know it's like
24:35 underlying resentment that like wait was this sorry the personal question was this a half brother born out of like adultery or anything like that no no my dad was with her prior to my mom Rel oh the first relationship got it yeah no I have no feelings I'm very indifferent about him got it so how about your brother how does he like me um Lance was probably the only person in our family that put in any effort to try to have a relationship with him but unfortunately um our half brother just comes across very greedy and um so the value system's the value system is cute out of whack okay do you want to try to be more of an aunt I mean for an aunt sure yeah um but for my but what if he comes with the pack he comes with the package he does but I mean he he has to be the one to initiate at this point you
25:27 guys should just loan him a bunch of money just just test them yeah well my mom's kind of written him off at this point because when my dad passed away he shows up and he's upset that he wasn't gifted certain items from the passing but wasn't there to help with cleaning out the house or like be there for moral support and so he's kind of been written off um trying to get that Thunderbird yeah we sold it yeah we had two he must like God damn it he actually got one of them oh he did got one of them he got a Thunderbird still came up then but not the one that we customized together damn yeah having a half brother with and the Gap is that big yeah that's tough yeah there's just no connection there we didn't grow up together it wasn't like Lance and I where we grew up together we had a relationship washing
26:18 rocks I don't force relationships with family and relatives though if I don't like them ████ them go to hell that's good you know what and he R his a lot of people really try to keep it together you know yeah some people do try but let them go let him go ████ it well I mean Lance he what family means to us is is um very rooted we have a very close family bond so Lance tried his best to try and bring him back into the family but it was just you know you can't help the situation yeah for further details see Colleen's mom's comment below yeah seriously
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