0:00 as a product of a lot of a female household I think I could have used yeah look what happens to me dude look how soft I am yeah I have no hair on my legs it takes me forever to grow a mustache and he has toxic masculinity he's always fighting all the time yeah and I you know I could have used a lot more masculine energy growing up I think no like I think about that a lot actually I think I think I could have too honestly yeah for sure that's why we get along so well all right turn it off dude it's [Music] over welcome back to careful boys where we are afraid of absolutely everything and today we would like to give unsolicited advice to a parent and that unsolicited advice is dot dot dot oh beat the ████ out of your kids man that's great
0:51 they're so stupid that's a good start whoa how hard how hard would you beat him uh I do think that some people do not discipline their children correctly so then everybody else is kind of like bothered apparently open hand slap on the butt in California is okay yeah that's the legality of things I think so I well I mean discipline could come in different ways right but there's parents that just like let their kids go ████ wild and they just sit there and don't do nothing do you think it's because the parents are undisciplined I don't know man I don't know why like like they'll just be crazy kids on flights and everyone's just looking and then the parents are just like you know kids some parents are kids still that still need to that that still
1:41 need to be parented and then they have a kid that's true so like it's tough because they don't even know how to like parent themselves yet and then now they have something else they have to parent which is tough I do think this is me from having high school kids working at my shop there's a huge difference you can see a major dis difference between kids that were like taught to do chores and and like kind of like they were they had structure they're part of a family team yeah versus kids that like I think their parents did everything for them so like one would be like a princess who doesn't know how to do basic ████ like wipe off a fridge correctly use like a broom like it's almost like they never touched it
2:31 before because their parents did everything for them and I think that it's like you didn't you don't set up your kids to like win in life at all cuz you do everything for them do they is it that or are they doing the husband cheat code of like oh how does it work and then your wife's like let me just do it and then you're like like the kids are doing that and then the mom just does it for them well they they succumb to that manipulation like they or they're falling for it or perhaps are they doing that to you in the store oh no okay yeah yeah cuz they just cuz they lose their job they just we make them like learn like I'm what was shocking to me is like so this is how I found out is you can't tell someone oh oh can you clean up that corner real quick it has to be very specific and what I realized is you don't know in the very beginning who has
3:23 these skills and who don't like I thought everybody knew how to mop I thought everybody knew how to clean a counter mhm like basic ████ right and I was so wrong because some of these kids that were like um their parents cleaned their room their parents do everything for them right this is might be their first job and they literally don't know how to like ring out a rag and then wipe it down and make sure that there are no like streaks or like I was just like what the ████ like and then they didn't know how to use a mop bucket like they didn't know how to like squeeze the mop out ring it out I was like what and then so without embarrassing them I realize that in our training what we need to do is just show them the example and you do it first so you teach them how to all right make sure it's like this and you explain the thought process
4:13 it can't just be this you got to go under here you got to make sure the dust is clear the handles all that and I was like damn dude you got to really like spell it out that's pretty crazy cuz then like how how much lower do you have to make sure the the lowest common denominator the anel has to cater to that's why I think McDonald's is genius dude what cuz they know how to train people that might not even know how to speak English like it's like it's everything is like so simple that you can get you don't you don't you know you can't expect everyone has common sense I think so jumping back then to Parenting how does this now how would you parent a kid to to maybe Pro progress them enough so that this this isn't happening anymore well what we do for the kids that
5:03 probably are not parented with life skills is like I try to not make it like a shameful experience like you don't know ████ ████ dumbass even though that's what I'm thinking I give them the tutorial with thorough explanation and if they don't get it right the next time then then I can tell them got it that they're dumb ████ yeah I think for I think as we get better at training too I think we have to explain things correctly and communicate it right and then and then not expect people to know I think that's yeah I I do expect Tao to know though like so like so like there's some things where I think it's like you have to teach it's impossible there no can be like hey Tao ████ go on ████ Facebook for me he's not going to know how to do those things but I feel like
5:53 once I start laying these things out I expect him to connect the dots cuz I'm not not going to be able to go there and go like this cuz I'm just handholding right so like now with taica I'm going to go like if I see something I don't like that's like I think he should know his age I I'll look at it and I'll like hey ta I'm going to give you 3 seconds to fix what I see wrong before you do 20 burpees and he'll just see him like and then out of the Hun the ████ the ████ thing he fixes 10 things that are even like above what even what I talked about I'm oh you're really good at connecting the dots so he'll like did you ever go that was 11 seconds [Laughter] but he'll he'll like he'll like fix like he's like putting caps on you know I'm like oh so you recognize there's a lot of ████ that's ████ up here it's just when you're in your kid mode like everything is just like you know the
6:43 ████ cup is on the edge he's ████ swinging the ████ scissors around like he he when he's in kid mode he's oblivious but then if I like smack him back into place like you got 10 seconds to fix this picture right now it's like boom boom boom this is recycling bin ████ things are color coordinate all like he'll fix it like real quick and I'm like oh ████ are you teaching him that exercise is punishment I think I am and then it also backfires because in the middle of it he'll be like he wants to do more he'll like can I do 20 more burpies I'm like God damn it you're not supposed to enjoy it you're like yeah I actually think that's that's still parenting even though he doesn't have to spell it out right cuz he creates an environment where it's like there's an expectation to me yeah and you're not doing it whereas like I'm telling you dude there's so many ████ people
7:34 where their parents are not even existent dude they don't even give a ████ it's either they do everything for them or there's no like level of you have I expect this out of you you need to get it done you're accountable for something bro like no it's just is so crazy and I'm like I wish that's what I wish parents would do is like stop doing everything for them stop like making it too easy just like at least have a bar and tell them to do it so then they know that they got to do it it's on them like and I don't even know how to uh really teach that cuz I'm only looking at it at a as a workplace not from like a parent yeah like you see you see the result yeah I feel like that should be taught at home and then you come to the workplace and then like you know you're not learning it there yeah I don't know what do you think R all you know what's
8:24 interesting is like we didn't learn how to use computers from our parents we just learned how to turned the thing on and we figured everything else play around PornHub on her own that's that's the advice that I would give I don't have kids or nothing but like my advice is that like because my parents had no idea about the internet and no idea what I was looking at I saw some ████ up ████ way too soon whatever that is for kids today whether that's internet again or that's just something new understand what that is and put some gates on that whatever that is cuz that I don't know what that is for the kids of today I love that cuz if that's internet again holy ████ it's probably even more Wilder of a West than it was cuz like we saw some ████ we saw lemon party I saw lemon party I saw lemon part Grandpa sucking his own dick dude no grandpa sucking
9:14 each other's dick oh sucking hey show me lemon party bro I'll watch that you never seen lemon party oh watch that ████ I W even Yak once have you ever seen meat spitters oh yeah cuz it's men that's why you're not going to care about lemon party you care about blue waffle I've seen blue waffle easy ████ to S is lemon party still around oh they like they took it they scrubbed it pretty good they didn't pay for their Go Daddy that's cool don't worry about it I guess we can't find it guess try to Google a picture of 11 and this gu suck it goes straight to Adriana's Insurance now what's the other one where the guy sucking his own dick I don't know that's cool but yeah that's that's my that's my own advice safe search off that's just based on like my childhood and how I knew I was getting away with everything and even to this day they don't there's no reason for them to like go back and go you were looking at what it's like they missed that whole ████ thing and it was years of like unsupervised use so
10:06 like whatever today's device or thing like figure that ████ out yeah that okay I found it oh good all right here you go That's a classic oh no they didn't have the Santa hats on oh my someone put Santa hats on that's not that bad at all that's cake Dude Looks Like Me and Anthony's Friday night am I right bud have you seen a tub girl huh the sad tub tub girl oh tub girl is a classic the one she's covered in ████ she's in her own ████ all time classic is that the one I just can't get you what about you Anthony I'm in I like how someone's going to click this parenting video hoping that maybe they'll learn a thing or two and all they learn about is the lazy Workforce and a ████ and they have to take their kids out of the room they're just getting porn suggestions what about those kid those
10:56 dudes that are like yo I've been watching JK since I was 9 years old oh my God where were their parents what the ████ yeah their parents should have been supervised on the internet for sure dude oh I have advice I could give myself because I'm such a ████ ████ ass dad sometimes I'll I'll like lay out the rule and the consequence cuz I want him to know structure and everything and then like Midway through like the consequence I like soften the blow a little bit and I'm like ████ and I wish I could like really stick to it because it's like were you going to laugh so the advice is to stick to it don't puss because it's like you got to think about like what you're doing in the moment actually doesn't matter the effects are going to come 10
11:47 20 years later compounding you know so like I forgot you got to compound the pound yeah so I forgot what it was it's like me and Gio were like telling taica something if this happens again like I forgot like you can't you're not going to get ice ice cream tonight or something whatever and then um you saw blow on not getting ice cream tonight you punished yourself because you wanted ice cream I'm just give you an example I forgot what it was and then he he's like okay cool he he you see the remorse he's changing and then the rest of the night he like ████ crushes it does everything he's supposed to do homework jitu whatever right and then so like me and J like we just go take I'm to get the ice cream and then Grandma was like No And I'm like oh thank God one of us was ████ has like a kind of sticky to the standard cuz you can see where like someone still has Integrity yeah yeah and that way they know like you can't
12:39 ████ up and then be good temporarily and then now like the world is going to bend washes away yeah and he obviously he doesn't know he's just but if we like as the parents we're creating the tracks you know so like he's just the car that's moving down and if we make a really soft track at the end when he becomes 15 he's like ████ I'm ████ entitled because you guys so just like kind of keeping that in mind like everything we're doing now is like like stick to it like if we said something if as much as it hurts us emotionally you got to stick to it so that he knows the rules are like this you know you're doing them the consequences are real my biggest thing is like your kids aren't like I you're not your kids aren't my kids so your kids not like the gift to that God gave everybody and ████ yeah so like when he's jumping on my ████ bed I don't think it's the cutest thing I've ever seen want your kid to not jump
13:30 on my ████ bed especially if it's someone else's bed yeah that's what I'm saying that's what he's saying yeah you're talking about like kids going to your house and jumping on your ████ yeah jumping on my ████ and it's like why are you ████ jumping on my ████ and I'm like oh I don't find it cute like the parents like this is czy so cute look at them they're all so cute and I'm like no they need to not jump on my ████ bed cuz they're I don't even think they're cute at all now like I wish that the story books were real and then an old witch would eat them in a St keep jumping on my bed dude with your shoes on yeah you little ████ but these people just think their kids are just the ████ ████ dude I I wanted to um choke the ████ out of this little ████ team cuz first off he was in first class and I just don't believe that that should be happening you got send the back my boy Kids In First Class yeah well like he was probably like 16
14:22 or something right he should be where you store the luggage exactly with the chick under the plane so he's with his parents right we're on the same row and then um this ████ waits till we're taking off to go to the bathroom the the this ████ plane is lifting off he had so much time he takes off his thing the the uh flight attendant he's like where do you think you're going and he's all like well I have to go to the bathroom he goes oh sit back down the the the the thing's on and he goes we're not ready you can't go up and then so he gets back down he pouts and he's like complaining to his dad and ████ and then he goes I need to go and his dad's just like oh just hold it and then he's like I have to I have to go and he's like pouting and ████ right and his dad's just like well don't let him see you yeah and I'm all like I would ████ your
15:13 whole family up right now and then the flight attendant had to deal with like an emergency so in the mid takeout off thing he gets up he leaves and then he ████ looks around the corner and he bolts through and goes into the bathroom takes a piss comes back out and I was just hope he spilled everywhere dude I was like dude this is how they teach why these ████ kids grow up all in titled we had a parent like that at Jiu-Jitsu so Jiu-Jitsu they try to teach it as a team right tell about if if they ████ up everyone's doing push-ups like they don't even care like if there's like this whole group's talking all five are doing push-ups right so there's one time where all these kids are like doing push-ups and the dad goes up to his kid you don't have to do the push-ups you did nothing wrong and I'm like your kid is going to get beat so bad when he's ████ in high school cuz he's going to be the not me I'm not on the team yeah
16:05 I'm like what the ████ dude I'm glad he's not there anymore but I was like that makes me want to ████ up the dad is that a surprise that he didn't stick around that's that's not a surprise right no it's not but I was like ████ ████ dude doesn't that make you want to grab his dad's ear and pull it and go now you got to do pushup good dad of course he doesn't no people do this ████ that their kids like the anointed one and ████ my kid's the ████ second coming of Christ he's special yeah it it's just like dude you know like you got to you got to realize that not everyone cares and not everyone thinks and by the way oh my kid's like you know it's really crazy cuz like he's already learning the ABCs and like he's just way ahead and it's like your kid um I know how to do algebra yeah if your kid can do algebra and he's seven years old then we then yeah then you could be like Oh I'm not blowing the
16:56 ████ away that your kid knows how to say ████ hats all right when I was coaching Jiu-Jitsu class for kids CU we give the kids like Stripes as like a way of like okay progression it's a sign of like hey you know these amount of techniques you've been showing up consistently you've been working hard so it's like okay this is like a reward thing it's earned it's not something we just give out just because you're there or whatever right but there's one parent she would bring his kid and the mom was so annoying dude just like she was a pain in the ass but and she would bring her kid like once a month maybe right and then all the other kids got promoted and then she's like how come my son didn't get promoted this kid doesn't really listen that well he doesn't really pay attention so it should be clear why yeah yeah and he doesn't show up consistently so it's like how is he going to understand the moves if he doesn't show
17:46 up consistently this is not something you just do once a week and then says all right that's it so she like complains about like well he you know he's been working really hard and he's been doing such a good job he should get these Stripes blah blah blah blah blah but it's like think about what you're teaching your kid to be that entitlement because I think my kid is so special but in reality it's like didn't put the work in well it's not even yeah it's that too but it's also like Jiu-Jitsu is not about getting Stripes bro it's about being able to defend yourself and be competent in these skill sets so you can be able to like KCK ass exactly and if you don't have that why are we going to give this kid a stripe it's only doing him a disservice yeah take him to techwondo yeah exactly and on top of that he sees his friends getting stripes and he's not getting Stripes don't you think that'll help him like be like oh you know what maybe I'll start working a little bit harder maybe I'll do a little bit more but the mom is like I'm ████ writing email I'm complaining and I'm
18:36 going to threaten this business and write like bad reviews and you're like oh so you're the ████ problem you know like this lady dude but it just happens she should she should take her kid away someone should take her kid away this is like I I started seeing more about this I don't know if this would be like major offensive to everybody but like is it uh I was reading something about how like damaging it is for young boys to be around too much feminine energy I think that could be potentially true I think kids I think you need a balance no everything they need cuz you know we we most in most of History we were in like a very diverse age Society like with grandparents and other kids our age but now we're very like Factory assembly line where we're in our group's generation up until we like die cuz I
19:27 was reading something that show every age you know it showed a statistic showing that like 70 something per of the teachers they will have as they grow older are going to be women so that's already a large chunk of their time and what they're learning and then if their dad's not around as much then that's almost 100% influenced by like women as a product of a lot of a female household I think I could have used yeah look what happens to me dude how soft I am yeah I have no hair on my legs it takes me forever to grow a mustache and he has toxic masculinity he's always fighting all the time shaving his leg to get his tattoo we couldn't tell which one he shaved yeah and I you know I could have used a lot more masculine energy growing up I think no like I think about that a lot actually I think I think I could have too honestly yeah for sure that's why we get along so well all right turn it off dude it's whatever I would like to share one thing
20:17 and I only got this because uh you know nah is a doc of occupational therapy and I would say in terms of unsolicited parental advice uh that it a little Laurel and Hardy bit that's all well he was talking about Junie for like half an hour I think it applies I would say that I had to plug in my business parents probably should not have too much pride or fear of like maybe having their kids uh take advantage of like government funded developmentally delayed programs early because there's a lot of times where kids will have developmental delays and they might just be like oh let me just give them more time or they might be concerned but not want to say anything you know what I mean and it's like these there's a lot of programs that the government is already paying for it you know what I'm saying so it's like take your kid in and get an assessment and
21:08 see if like they could get speech therapy they can get like you know some more resources exactly it's already there but there's a lot of times that people have pride and they don't want to do something and then it's a little bit late and if you would have just brought your kid 6 months in early or something like that it could be a huge difference dude if my kids aren't even then I'm going to start doing that ████ you should yeah it's like I insist no he needs help free service ████ put him in there Hooked on Phonics baby it's already there you know so I like what Joe was saying about jimby a lot more he say it again this kids don't on a mop
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