0:00 There were members of our family that she had taken care of her whole entire life that didn't go to the funeral because we had it on a Saturday. What? >> Yeah. So, the religion became above family, I guess. >> That's not even a rule. Like that they're making ████ up. Welcome back to another episode of Careful Boys, where today we have Mr. Nicholas uh uh uh What's your Chinese name? What's your Chinese name? Jia Rong. I thought it was Wong Fu. I thought Jia Rong. Jia Rong. Wong Fu. Why did you say it like it's a question? What's What is your Chinese name? >> She's judging my name already. Yueh Sun Ling Yueh Sun. Ling? What? Oh, you're Ling? Why is it Banos? What the ████ That's my stepdad's [laughter] last name. Oh. He thought that was connected to Ling Yueh Sun. Like Banos Yueh Sun.
0:52 All right, what's some things that your parents told you that you couldn't do, like they restricted you from and it just didn't make any sense? Like something they uh forbade you from doing. >> They said that kung fu was too dangerous, >> [laughter] >> but I could do karate. They just didn't want you to do Chinese stuff, that's all. No, they literally like we all watched Bruce Lee and my I think I told this story before, but my cousin was like, "Why do we got to do lame freaking karate? Like kung fu's way better." And he begged his dad. He was like, "Can I please do kung fu, right?" And then um and I and I wanted to be like him cuz he's doing Bruce Lee ████ And I was like, "That's so cool." We watched Bruce Lee movies and and I was like, "I want to do kung fu like him." >> You didn't think karate was cool? No. I I had the exact same instance, by the way. Really?
1:42 >> My cousin was doing kung fu first and then I wanted to do kung fu with my cousin. They wouldn't let me, so they took me to taekwondo. They were on the same street, like walking distance from each other. >> What's the deal? So, I don't know if it was like, "Oh, kung fu's more expensive." But they learned their lesson. Korean Taekwondo will scam you for way more money. Kung fu looked gay. I thought karate looked gay. >> doing kung fu. I did kung fu for like five or six years. I wanted You always want to do the thing that >> your parents What did karate look like to you? Well, cuz like I think for kung fu, you're not doing Bruce Lee. Yeah. You're doing like crane form >> ████ like monkey ████ or whatever and you're like, "What the ████ I want to be like Bruce Lee. When are we going to do the nunchucks?" And you'll never touch no nunchucks. >> Yeah. Dang. And then you see your other homies doing karate and they're breaking boards. And they're like, "That's ████ sick."
2:32 >> karate and I wanted to do kung fu. I wanted to do what Bruce Lee did, right? That's That was the whole thing. But it's cuz like every time you're watching Bruce Lee movie, who's he beating up? >> Karate guys. >> Exactly. So you're like in your head you're like karate is way worse. What the ████ is this? But even But even in Bruce Lee movies, he's not even doing kung fu. >> He's doing ████ wing chun >> MMA. He's ████ throwing spinning back kicks. >> Yeah, I didn't know that, but my parents would watch and they'd go, "This is too violent." He's doing wushu. They're like No, he's not doing wushu. He's doing Jeet Kune Do. Jeet Kune Do, yeah, that's what he's doing. Like Like they probably thought we were going to do street fighting and like And they didn't know what kung fu was. But at least they knew that karate they probably could speak to the teachers, too. They could speak the same language. >> Yeah, yeah. They know how it's structured. They're like there's also rules behind the honor and all that. I think business-wise, too, it was easier to find a karate and a taekwondo school
3:22 versus a kung fu school, I think. Depending on like If you didn't live in Monterey Park, Monterey Park has like probably like a gang of kung fu schools. >> I went to one in Buena Park. Oh, never mind. You went to kung fu in Buena Park? >> Yeah. Was it on Ninth Avenue? There was a Yoshinoya like >> Yes. That's exactly the one I'm talking about. No ████ way. >> walk there from my home. And then you know the taekwondo spot next to the China King by the Stater Bros. at that time. There used to be a Stater Bros. Across from the Big 5. I worked at that Big 5. That's the Big 5 I steal from. I worked there. That Kung Fu spot is the one I wanted to go to. That one? >> My cousin went there. >> Kung Fu on it. >> It says Kung Fu with the Yoshinoya right in front. >> He got to go to the one you wanted. >> I wanted to go to that one. >> like that one. >> like, "This ████ is gay." That's crazy. You could have met so much younger.
4:12 >> does your cousin look like? A nerd. Was it the one that the one in Montebello now or no? Yes, that one. He went He went there? >> Yes. Bart used to beat him up. >> went He learned from Sifu Duke Chen. Probably. Sifu Duke Chen. Sifu Duke? >> I'm about to ask him right now. He doesn't look like a nerd. Yeah, ask ask him is Was your Sifu Was your old Sifu half Korean, half Chinese? What? >> Oh. Cuz he was this half Korean, half Chinese guy and he was he was really stern. He and he would smack you and stuff. But it was But he was dope. He was dope because of it. >> Sifu Duke Chen. Duke Chen. We got to find Duke Chen, dude. >> Duke Chen. Dude, that's funny that you got to go to the one he wanted to go to. So what was your guys's parents Why Why do they say you couldn't do karate? My That was too hardcore. >> [laughter] >> I think it's the same ████ >> Yeah. >> [gasps] >> Can't be breaking boards. That's blowing
5:02 my ████ mind right now. I'm like never been more jealous of Bart. >> [laughter] >> Stupid. >> 5 years at that same place? Yeah, I went there. There's a Yeah, there's a Big 5 there. Yoshinoya. >> only went to that Kung Fu school the whole time? Uh the whole time I went there. >> Holy crap. Yeah. I mean I'm assuming for like a 30-mi radius when you look up Kung Fu that might be one of the only spots. >> means you you were probably going to your school at the same time on the same street. Yes. The You know what I'm talking about, right? >> Yeah, the one next to City Brothers. Yeah, the China King. It's a taekwondo next to like a water ████ dispensary spot. Yeah. What the heck? [laughter] Wow. >> how many years to figure this out? >> to be It used to be What was it? King Lee Taekwondo when when that Kung Fu spot was there? And then when this other Korean guy took it over it was King Han, that's when he started scamming us, added like 1,600 like little in-between belts. Had to get tested every month. It's
5:53 good. Put you on a payment plan because the kid wanted so much ████ Introduced all this extra stuff, so I had to get like extra new suits and ████ bamboo swords and stuff. >> The liquor store in that plaza was the first place I learned how to play Street Fighter in the arcade in there. >> Liquor store, that's where I fell in love with Babe Ruth's. Anyways, candy bar? Babe Ruth's. Ew. Did your um mom or dad not allow you to do certain things that kind of don't make sense? I wasn't allowed to do a lot of things. Like what? [laughter] I grew up in a really strict household. My mom was really strict. I couldn't do anything. Couldn't go to places after school. I couldn't do extracurriculars. I Getting going to dances was really hard. It was always a big >> Oh, like school dances. Did you go to school dances? >> go anywhere after prom. Had to come right back home. Do you think cuz every single moment is a chance you could get pregnant and she's like, "I'm not going to raise no slut."
6:43 >> know. I was just the first child, so she was just super like, "Don't do anything." >> there a theme though? Was it like was she scared you'd be a criminal or scared you'd be a ████ Like what was the God. >> [laughter] >> Or both. The worst is a ████ criminal. There's usually a theme. It was just like just focus on school. You know, just be good in school and nothing else matters and don't like don't you know, dress different or we just just be under the radar and go to school and go make money. But you also probably couldn't eat too much fried food either. Yeah. >> And you're like, "How does this have to prevent me from being a slut?" >> [laughter] >> The rules don't ever make sense. As if that's the established theme still. She's like, "You see those ████ eating french fries? Only fans." >> [laughter]
7:33 >> She can see the future. Dude, my cousin just texted me. He's like, "I don't think he was half Korean. It was Duke Chang." Oh, yeah, he's half Korean, dude. Dude. that's crazy. It's Duke Chen. Holy ████ Damn, what if I knew him back then? >> Cuz yeah, you guys met like now. >> Now. How How old is he? Are we the same age? Uh he's my age, 39. 39? >> though. >> younger. Wow. Do you know what years you went there? ████ I don't know. I was like maybe six, so maybe like 1990 to like 1995, 96. Oh, you were like a 4-year-old when you were there? Five or six. I was small. Holy crap. I don't think he was there during that Oh, maybe I'll ask him. >> Yeah, the same freaking master. Crazy. Is that fool dead, though, I bet, Duke. >> [laughter] >> The way you said that. Check the
8:23 obituaries right now. Duke's got to Duke's got to be dead, man. You don't have to say it again. >> Oh, sorry. So then, what were the restrictions put on you for school dances? You just had to come home after, that's it? >> I just I I had to beg to even go to them. To Did you go your your junior year? I did. Could you have Could you go with a date, or you have to go by yourself? >> I could go with a date. >> No way. So my dad was way more chill, so he would have to convince my mom, cuz my mom would always say no to everything. And then he'd be like, all right, hold on, and then he would take time with it. But Did you ever ever ask her why she was so scared of everything? The She never gave good reasons. It was like, just don't. It's not good. >> Yeah, doesn't explain. >> good. Yeah. And she was right. That's the answer. Well, then I wilded out in college. >> I was just about to ask that. What What college did you go to? Cal State
9:14 Fullerton. So like when you when you finally got your autonomy, you wilded out, right? >> out. >> Cuz that's like my sister. My My parents were also super strict, and then again, I'm I'm the baby brother, so I just got to witness when she went to UCLA, and then I was like, who is this? >> [laughter] >> This criminal ████ THAT WAS CRAZY. >> [laughter] >> GOOD CALLBACK. CUZ I WAS ALSO still stuck in like the prison of my my parents. >> Would you try to actively get her in trouble? No, cuz I wasn't like super dick. I was just more like I can't wait for 2 more years. I'm going to wild out and be a criminal ████ too. >> [laughter] >> And here you are, still doing it. Uh just the ████ >> [laughter] >> Still doing it. My mom had a unreasonable one. So, when I was 10, uh she wouldn't let me ride bikes cuz her ████ fortune teller homie told her
10:04 I was going to crash. Sucks. Knowing how my mom is, she always takes things and then bends it into her own rules. So, I'm supposed to get into a car crash uh on a bike when I was 10. So, she made it I can start to not be able to ride bikes at 9:00 and then I couldn't start again until 11:00. So, just to add a 1-year 1-year buffer, yeah. And the funny thing is, whenever she wasn't home, I would ████ sneak ride all the time and I never got hit by a car. >> [laughter] >> Luckily. Yeah. But if you did, imagine how much reinforcement that would make. >> I would actually believe all their ████ >> No, but But all the things I would go against her, it slowly didn't like become true. So, I'm like, what the ████ dude? I'm not going to listen to this ████ >> telling specifically said you would get into a car accident with your bike? Yes. When I'm 10. So, my mom was like, okay, then you're
10:54 not riding your bike when you're 10. Damn, to not let a kid ride a bike at 10 is tough. >> And And all your homies, there's ████ a whole crowd of them, like 5, 10 of them riding bikes up and down the street, going to the donut shop, 7-Eleven, or whatever. I'm like, "Oh, can I go on my rollerblades and you pull me?" Oh, you got to rollerblade at least? Yeah, cuz I'm not going to get a car crash on a ████ rollerblades. >> [laughter] >> Hey, did you ever question like a lot of the religious restrictions? Cuz most of the unreasonable ████ was that for us. Cuz um one of them is when I went to this Christian school that was protest like a Sunday worshiper. Yeah. The Bible teacher was like, "Hey, we're going on a fishing trip." It was so sick, right? And then everyone got to go and then we I couldn't cuz it was on a Saturday. And I was like, "But Jesus was fishers of
11:44 mans." And there's stories of him ████ fishing, bro. And my mom's like, "You ain't going fishing on a Saturday." And I was like, "That's ████ up." So there were so many things that probably pushed me away from the religion cuz I was like, "You can't do this on Saturday. You can't do that. You can't do so many things." But did you have a question about You know you want to know how hardcore my family still is about that? So my my dad's sister just passed away like not too long ago. There were members of our family that she had taken care of her whole entire life that didn't go to the funeral because we had it on a Saturday. What? >> Yeah. So the religion became above family, I guess. >> But that's that's not even a rule. Like that they're making ████ up. That's what I hate about it. >> They're just so dogmatic. And why did you do the funeral on a Saturday?
12:34 That was just the best day to do it. And no and like most of my family was there. There was just a few people that are just so hardcore. And that's the same family. And they're not going and some of them did go and and were like, "I almost didn't go. I was it was really like a struggle." >> let me finish. Why did you do the funeral on Saturday when that was my baby shower and you were supposed to go? >> I didn't plan the funeral. >> [laughter] >> Why did your aunt die then? He kept He kept on going, "I'm going to come after. I just might be puffy eyed." I'm like, "What [laughter] the f███?" Don't come. I may not be very fun, but I'll try. Well, that's what it doesn't make sense. It's not doctrine. They no what like they made that ████ up. >> Yeah, they just >> They ████ made it up, dude. >> they just really feel like like, "Oh, I better not break this streak or else I I won't be in heaven." But that's just insane to like miss the funeral of
13:24 someone that like pretty much took care of your whole life. >> But at least Jewish people write out their Sabbath rules. >> [laughter] >> They don't even they just make ████ up cuz they feel like it. That's what pisses me off. >> That would be the one that makes the least sense. Was that like from sun up or like how the next day starts on the sundown of the previous. So like if you can't do ████ on Saturday, they're technically saying Friday night. It starts. >> Oh, Friday night is >> That you can't do nothing. Oh, cuz that's the >> Sundown yeah. End of the day. >> End of the day yeah. So if the sun goes down on Friday, you can't watch TV, you can't Starting Friday night, it's over. But then like you're waiting for the sun to go down on Saturday and I'm like got my hand on the power button on the in Nintendo waiting for the sun to break the horizon and bam. Damn, that's crazy. So the minute it's Sunday [clears throat] morning, you can go raving. Yep.
14:15 No, the minute it's Saturday night. Saturday night, you go raving. >> Saturday night, you can do whatever, but it was just such a stupid thing. Yeah. And then yeah, it really I remember going over after church and then you wait for the sun. It's sundown sundown to ████ play the video games and ████ >> But it's hard because that's the pride. It's in the name, Seventh-day Adventist. That's the pride of like why you are what you are. You know, that seventh day is so freaking holy. >> When it's so restrictive, that yeah, it's going to it's you're going to spill the all. >> It's to no real like purpose at all. Pointless religion. You might go to heaven. >> [laughter] >> I'll take my chances, dude.
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