0:00 I think it goes in along the lines of what you were talking about and I think that really struck part with me is just kind of like just waited out dude it's gonna be fine like you know the issues that you think that you come up with in your head and I think all the issues that I found out [Music] so we we are back on this amazing episode of be careful boys right here but we're currently off the Record and we're doing part two of an OTR prompt of a two-parter I told you it was two-parter you're right right uh we got through being able to talk about Steve Ryan and Bart but now we're gonna go into the other half the cast and this OTR prompt was submitted by a Jenny dang so thank you hey it's a good one Jenny very good very good question got us all thinking from the patreon by the way yep and if
0:51 you're a part of our Discord because you're a special patreon member you can ask us questions so think about your most difficult time during your teenage years and then what advice would you give that Team part two starting off with Nick I just uh skip nah skip didn't have problems when I was a team no I was proud can you make one I didn't want the attention I'm an introvert it was too early for me I can't believe they forced me in that situation one problem that I had that was like really hard for me was like just having too many friends to pick from I'm just kidding I'm joking like so when you graduate high school two years yeah too many girlfriends too
1:41 many friends and she was crushing it too hard no no he was prom King couldn't handle this one was tough because I was really trying to figure out like what really stuck out of my head that was um I think it was very unconscious for a lot of my time like a lot of my teenage years but I think there was always a sense of never really belonging to something or like just not having like really good friends to be around like I was always kind of I think I felt some type of way about it for a while I think from like my middle school to high school I just was really worried about making sure I was really worried about people liking me and I really wanted to make sure that like okay I had like a good group of friends kind of it's kind of hard to explain but it was one of those things
2:31 where I just never felt like I belonged to any group of friends and I never had like a really true good friend if that makes sense is it because you were leaving early in I would just bail out the report yeah yeah did you ever have like a best friend growing up like guys that I would people that I thought were best friends that would like do things that I was like they would kind of be like mean or like kind of like backstab me or do something in a way in my mind at the time like I don't know if it was really backstabby or not but I perceived it as like damn I thought this guy was my friend type of deal you know so maybe I'm just a piece of ████ maybe I'm just the scumbag you didn't have like a click or anything that you hung out with not really like I would have like a lot of different groups of friends but I'd always feel like maybe this is a
3:21 reflection of what I do today bro I would keep them at like arm's distance kind of or or not even just that I think I did that later in my high school years but um yeah it's I'm actually kind of thinking I'm trying to like think this out as I'm talking to you guys but um let us in man but I'm trying I'm trying I'm trying someone tell me it's not my fault they'll start crying it's not your fault did you ever um ask me more questions like I really don't know like your best friend that you thought was shady back then do you think they're still Shady now no I think which is my perception of what like my expectations and I think this is also true like the first girl I was like uh interested I think my expectations were so different than what reality oh yeah yeah I remember you said it was like weird so I think um that was kind
4:11 of hard for me but it was just lessons that I learned really quick where I just was like oh okay maybe it's just not what I thought it was gonna be you know so what did you think it was going to be like based off of movies or something kind of like I think I was kind of raised off movies like like because growing up I think I did with no sound effects yeah yeah I did spend a lot of my time by myself so I think like in my household like it was like my sisters would be with each other or whatever and my mom would you know you'd just be watching speed yeah honestly like I would just like I would live through movies I would live through TV shows I would think that's what real life was so I think I went throughout my whole life thinking and I would always be kind of chasing that in a lot of ways that gives you high expectations for sure yeah definitely and I think like the reality was never as cool as true
5:03 what I I dealt with and I think did you want you're like your own like three ninjas type crew like like is that what you're looking for like a that would be tight yeah because Goonies I always wanted that Goonies are always better like a Brotherhood Circle Dude I think maybe that's what it was I think a certain degree well I was looking for something like that I remember as a kid I'd always read like Calvin and Hobbs all the time yeah I love cows yeah and I had all of them yeah and I would just like I would should have joined the gang bro I know that's the perfect place but in a lot of ways I think I didn't really feel that until I started until like found a gym in that camaraderie like that's what I really liked I think being around that environment taught me a lot more that's cool um but as far as advice I give it to myself I think it goes in along the lines of what you were talking about and
5:53 I think that really struck part with me it was just kind of like just ████ wait it out dude it's gonna be fine like you know the issues that you think that you come up with in your head and I think all the issues that I found out I said like pursue what feels more natural you're gonna don't hide that card I literally [Laughter] all these kids the guys that skateboarded yeah I distance myself from those guys that I was immediately cool with on day one because we're not judgmental yeah to the Asian kids that did crime I felt like I had to prove to them when I should have just been like oh yeah all my skate buddies I should just be more of my skating instead of being with the group he wanted to he wanted validation from the wrong group yeah I don't think that's what you said do you think that when we're when we're all talking Nick's just thinking I can't wait to get the ████ out he's all
6:45 checked out and ████ I got my go back so if you could talk to yourself in that period rather than like telling the youth from then how to feel differently about it is there anything you could tell that person to do differently like it was being advice on like yeah it's things to do with places to go how to make friends like if you want friends so bad if you want that Circle so bad because a lot of people feel that now I think more than ever there's so many more lonely just people that especially like coveted kids and ████ like they don't know how to make friends they're socially weird I think like um yeah they smell bad they have dandruff how else can we roast our audience they have walleyes we can't quite get away from their eyes I have walleyes would you would you tell yourself to join uh fight gym like
7:36 sooner man what would you tell that lonely ass boy no I because I think in my mind I thought I was I wasn't lonely you know what I mean so if you talk to that guy he'd go what are you talking about man yeah he'll deflect you he'll deflect your future he would deflect yourself I think the lesson is just managing your expectations you know what I mean like the future nickels look Little Nick check this out I know you want friends no I don't he's like nope but I think that's true though I think yeah a kid version of me or just like early 20s version of me too like in my head I thought I had it all figured out
8:32 [Laughter] yeah yeah wonderful wearing a fanny pack yeah like that guy that's gonna be me just ████ walks into traffic or your younger years like why is that guy on YouTube do you think you were so stubborn you wouldn't even listening he's like he's like dude you're not older me it's like I hate cyclists oh ████ that's me I think for me I think I had to learn the hard way in a lot of things I think I really did all right let's say like it's your son same age same problem now you have the same yeah you're a stubborn little ████ and I know exactly what you're going through because I was going through that but you still have to let them know what the remedy is for loneliness here we go Uncle Bart says wait it out
9:26 oh man I dropped that one huh oh man that's that's a tough question this product is hard stuff I haven't been processed I think there's props and like there's bullets under it which are Nick prompts you have to like arrange it down the line Nick it's special question yeah your son is lonely yeah and your son's not a pug Nick gets special friends you know what you know you know what Nick's problem is he ████ wants a perfect answer just shoot your goddamn shot and it could be wrong yeah all right right no because I'm really trying to think like if I was really gonna try to help this person in this situation man I don't know if I'm well equipped enough to say it but I will
10:16 say something it's you I would say manager expectations that's what I would honestly say you'd probably yell at yourself you'd be like yo you don't have ████ figured out you think you guys should figure it out that means no hope manage your expectations means hey Leonard you have all these locked expectations let's go down like like if like if your son was literally like I don't have a dedicated group of friends I feel kind of lonely I don't got like a true homie and Nick's like sucks to be you dog maybe you should be used to being lonely instead of wanting friends my boy damn that's I think I might say that that's bad advice no no but I would say um just start with one friend
11:11 you know because a lot of people miss the baby step that's that's like I just want my Goonies crew yeah yeah yeah it's like how are you gonna make three ninjas if you can't even make two Ninjas that's true you guys start with one yeah you're the first Ninja first you have to want to be the ninja yeah I want the Phoenix to get this is hard it is because you think you think words that an adult would process but kids just want to hear references and I'll get frustrated be like I don't know that's that's my move yeah honestly so what about you Anthony yeah what about you Anthony what would you tell your dry cleaner ass kid I have um so I'm sad ass dry cleaner boy spoken on this before so I'll say this one it's very similar to Barts um where waited out wait it out
12:01 no it's it's be it's just be way more in tune with your natural self right uh uh I definitely knew that I like liked dancing and I wanted to or if I saw people dancing as a as a pre-teen as a teenager but I didn't start dancing till college but again and this is such a a dumb time because there was one dude who was on the dance production team at my high school at Sunny Hills and he was like pretty for sure gay or at least that's what like you know the school kind of status quo assumed he's like for show gay yeah so everyone had a stereotype that all dancers were gay because of this guy sexual orientation okay my ignorance my ignorance was like Yo dude like I don't want to dance because I don't want to
12:51 you know like give myself that social suicide that's just how the times were oh no no yeah I don't think anyone looked at a breakdown sir and called him gay that's what I'm saying I just didn't connect the mature thought yeah yeah I was waiting for you dude for your ████ self out I could picture Stephen high school and there's a break dancer doing a head spin and he's like once you suck a dick it's easier might as well such a dick you spinner boy and uh yeah so there's that honest thing yeah I like that but um I've spoken on that one before I think um that and just to just to give something else just to be vulnerable in this conversation and to add something else I I was thinking about something else uh I remember when I first uh somebody broke up with me and I thought
13:42 it was the end of world right I was like one of my first girlfriends um I was so into her oh my gosh and even though we only dated for like a month or two and then she breaks up with me and I remember just like trying to listen to all the sad songs being depressed and so like I think my world and then uh I think coupled with just feeling like a loser in that moment and then also being like you know how I like always joke around about being like if I saw my high school so I slap him yeah yeah oh me too yeah that guy's honestly a ████ dick he was a loser is an idiot right um like I that that kid I'm speaking in third person so I don't have to acknowledge it was me uh that guy didn't you know try it out for different like sports teams athletic stuff didn't make any of them got dumped by this girl right and so what I slash he did pretty bad ████ it up no you're not I am and it
14:34 still hurts you you caught him a loser dude I did call him you did call him a loser yeah um but Bart said wait it out but there's one thing that I think I've never I never really thought about this too until I had to process it I think there's one thing that I maybe didn't at time maybe it was a coping mechanism but I also think uh if I think about it now I'm a little ashamed of um I maybe felt so much of a loser in a certain way that I felt in order to make myself feel better I had to uh especially in the in the women's scene and like the dating and stuff like that I started flirting with like kind of the less desirable girls in like my class and stuff because I felt like
15:25 that might be the only space that maybe they would give me a certain type of attention and so inadvertently these like less attractive and lesser cooler nerdy or whatever girls that would normally not be a top three pick in any conversation ever and you dunk all of them a little harder with you can you rip their heads off a little bit [Laughter] them on and played with their feelings I didn't know that's what I was doing sure about that sure about that sure about that dude Anthony's going over to the mutant section for an ego boost hey but I remember I had a I had a group of girl girl friends or like like female friends that would go to the club for ego boost for the same reason they're not gonna date any of these guys
16:15 they know they're like yeah not guys but they want to feel yeah they want to feel the attention you did the same thing you're a club girl that's that's feeding off with the attention that you know you want to it's like when a boxer loses a big fight right yeah they gotta get back to the ring they need a tune-up gotta hit some scrubs yeah yeah I didn't know I was doing that until like later on yeah like later on my cousin who went to the same high school as me and he'd be like yo like why does this person like like you or whatever I'm like nah dude like what are you talking about and I'll just go around because word will get around because you're a little flirt dude you are a little flirt well that's how I maybe that's how I needed to learn it for myself as well yeah because in my mind or in my in my world my universe uh I was getting dumped on right like I was a loser in these girls these girls weren't super into me so I felt like I
17:06 needed to go to a different you got to read the game you need to reset the hierarchy somewhere yeah that makes sense but then I probably inadvertently was like leading certain people on and stuff and like doing it probably a very asshole-ish way you know like hey man she hopes really into you and like you're like you're leading her on a lot but again why are you flirting with job with a baby she-hulk's kind of hot though I think the constructive Point uh to the first thing just like Bart said with the whole dance thing it's like you you just be be in tune with what you want to do like I think the world is made for the takers not for the waiters you know what I'm saying that's very true for show gay guys you have told your younger self to just join dance if that's what you want that's what I mean it's like if that's what you like just do it yeah like who gives a ████ you know what I mean like and if it's like no but like what if
17:57 people think I'm gay or whatever because that was just a real thought back then then that would have to lead into a more mature concept of like not worrying about would you tell your young self hey being gay is pretty cool the future that is literally the future though the most popular kids are I probably just I'm probably just trying to correct that idiot mind sooner in just those same words those same words would you tell a kid today like hey dude don't be slumming it with those fives you want to be like aim higher like automatically what are you doing I know you know what the thing is though like I was probably a four at that time sure you know what I'm saying so I don't know maybe it's very hard to say maybe they
18:48 were doing that to you yeah maybe they were doing it too yeah yeah but would you like actually go to a school for example and just go like hey get out of the ████ box in a speech don't be like me you know treat yourself like you're a new release what was your method of flirting at that young of an age you know what the thing is though like when you're going to The Bargain Bin oh my Lord that's what he said I'm just using his words so I could be relative to the conversation for example it's like with nixes for example that's not what I'm saying it sounds so mean I think that like um like you're bent over that Marketplace and you're just like you're going to the Box going all the way in there I would assume I would assume that like me at that time I wasn't getting ████ like hit on by like hot chicks or anything like that just as much as because I was probably a loser ass dude
19:38 just as much as like maybe the same level if you will type of like ladies maybe weren't getting the attention from other dudes so it felt like okay this is like free-for-all safe space I could just go in you know what I mean because it's like they're not getting the the love and attention from anybody it's like and that's what high school is about too right it's like oh who asked you to the dance like people ain't asking these people to dance it's as objective as that so you're just asking them to the dance kind of but not really don't you dance like this that's when everybody starts lying about boyfriends or girlfriends they have from another town oh yeah that's a good movie yeah yourself like um like he had to learn his lessons just like Nick said right you just have to do stuff yeah and it's not intentional just wait it out
20:28 just wait it out you'll be okay just try to get better at stuff that's it just try to do trying to do something that's different than waiting yes you're doing something yeah yeah that's true versus just oh that's a pass I'm not gonna do anything yeah yeah I'm gonna take a nap try to do better you wasted 20 years of your life just doing nothing it's funny because Bart's saying waited out is such a non-bark thing to do like he would never say that this will pass it's such not a bar thing um it's such a it's such a like he just filled in multiple choice answers that's a filling answer baby theme to Nick it's like hey just start with one friend yeah yeah honestly yeah yeah one friend yeah well we go through
21:19 so yours just start with the ones yeah oh no it doesn't get worse than that next you'll get to two you start with the most ugliest person in there just keep trucking along dude just keep tracking and he's like find the nuclear power plant in your city and start dating around it start dating around it go to Chernobyl start moving away yeah don't go for Princess Leia look for Jabba the Hutt and then give them attention get your reps in look forward you look for a job on the hood practice with them ████ it's a joke but honestly it's true though it's kind of tricky oh yeah you opened up Anthony Lisa start with the uggos first Auntie Lee says go to batting practice
22:10 Anthony Lee said it we didn't say it Steve said Bargain Bin dude and then nuclear powerful and he showed himself digging to the bottom of it that's the worst part and that's his story dude that's his ████ up story you think we're bad people yeah don't go don't go to the cheerleaders go to the lunch ladies go to the lunch lady hey honestly got a good advice though dude please don't say you said learn to be Charming with the Lunch Ladies [Music] foreign
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