0:00 foreign welcome to an extra spicy episode of careful boys today we have with us Mr Anthony it looks like it's so spicy it's gonna ████ you up it does try it this is like the regular one see it's the color they just make you they go wow yeah don't get cocky bro hey here's a here's a hot question speaking of spice oh you're opening up another one are you laughing at me I thought you're gonna eat one today I know but there's more coffee gotta have your coffee with your donut I already ate three that is a check bait very logical you know when there's coffee you gotta have a donut wait that means if me and you ate three not everyone only a one I had two one I'll have three I didn't have any knives that's why oh
0:52 my God these are this is like a briefcase with a million dollars in it it's Kevin for those man thank you Kevin [Music] all right what's um if you can answer this let me know what do you do for a Klondike bar almost anything this will put the donut on top of every napkin by the way what the hell is that yeah all right what do you do if you know that your friend is abusive to his partner wait what oh girl whoa what would I do physically verbal or what yeah if it was a girl my female friend was beating up her boyfriend I'd laugh yeah if it was
1:43 a male friend beating up his girlfriend I called the cops you would call the straight up cops I ain't no rap for your friend no I ain't no rat ain't no rat you're literally ratting him out but the cops you're literally rounding out to the cop my friend just so happened to be a sheriff so I'm talking to him as a friend and what he does with his information is up to him it's up to him I ain't call him I'm ████ no rap yeah you know that's true that's to be a sheriff way down now I like that loophole why no cop though let's yeah I mean let's say it is it is physical abuse yeah like I said if it's a girl I laugh at his ████ ass you hear a rumor or you see the girls let's just say you just know for a fact I know like what do you mean like came to that conclusion why the ████ are we friends like that like
2:33 you I don't think we would be friends because you didn't because you didn't know that if it was a guy friend I first asked my friend all right I'll first ask what'd she do to deserve it yeah that's a valuable question you never asked that ████ yeah you act like you're on their side you know what did she call you because you're trying to you're trying to fish information dude that's what you're doing I'm trying to be on his side so he tells me everything oh so he can have a conversation with a person it happens to be a sheriff if a guy ████ you ████ girlfriend up he's not gonna be like yeah did that ████ he's gonna be like no no no you know what happened she made me do it you know like and then you go oh tell me more and then he'll be like yeah so that's that's Joe fishing information he's like she burnt the toast yeah yeah or if he was like nah man this ████ ████ she was so mad at me because she made oatmeal in
3:23 the morning and she was balling it up and she chucked that ████ burned my body dude and I'll be like oh she abused you that's why I abused her and I'm all like it doesn't justify it but I understand both of you guys need better help so use my promo code right now Joe 10 and go to betterhelp.com hey that's a good solution yeah counseling couples counseling see that's different but then if it's more like she burnt the toast then I'm all like bug let's call the cops it's called my share a friend who burns toes I'm like that's ████ up dude that's an emergency dude you gotta yeah that's not ready you call the cops too oh no um I think um not because he doesn't believe in burnt toast okay it's gonna be like let's do Ayahuasca together that's right that's exactly what I do no if I found out dang that's kind of crazy I don't know
4:14 if I would like you found out you let's say you found out I was whooping Geo's ass every day um but you can't take down bar bro what are you gonna do dude I don't know if I would call the cops though because how do I know but I know for sure it's true yeah it's true maybe one day one day you you've been seeing Joe come in with bruises oh and then I'll show what's going on and then one day you stayed late at the office and then you saw me like backhander a couple times that's where it's coming from and then I would okay first I would confront both of you guys at the same time what if he beats you really really yes in the moment you would run out to the parking lot uh no I wouldn't run because Bart is very logical he'll he'll not when he's beating Geo yeah he will only
5:04 beat up Geo for a logical reasons you got my back so me coming in I oh oh yeah yeah I started maybe acting like a ████ he might like start punching me but if I see it happen I would go up to you guys and go hey like what's going on oh ████ what was I doing oh God oh God I'm so clearly now now I feel like if you did that if I I just whooped on Geo like that and you're
5:54 like hey guys what's going on I feel like Jill will suck you see but then it would switch up the the mood you know and then everybody at least someone else is getting stuck yeah yeah at least at least you're not the one hurting if it was if it was Bart NGO and like I was witnessing it I would run over there I would confront it too I don't know if I'm winning a sock but I'd run over there because I'd be like that dude would you go like this would you like stop I'd probably do a lot of yelling first hoping that I wasn't gonna get punched and stuff but yeah I'd probably jump in there Jill's a friend too that's an honest yeah yeah yeah yeah that that would happen if I heard about it then probably what I would do is I would hit up Joe and I'd be like Hey Joe I've been I've been hearing some stuff and then I'll see it and then if Joe knows if Joe
6:46 Knows then I'll be like Yo dude like you're his best friend and then I'd be like peace wouldn't deal with it at all that's me doing something you know and then when Barton Geo are fighting outside and I go out and bar smacks up I'll be like don't let her bully you bar don't don't yeah because like a part of it is as hard as it is especially if you're not witnessing it a part of it is also like um it's like none of your business kind of in one way you know what I mean if you're not seeing it if you're just hearing it you know what I mean if I'm just especially if you have zero relationship with the other person so I guess yeah if I'm just hearing something and that's my friend then I'll probably still ask if I was I'm like hey I'm hearing I heard that or somebody said this about you I would probably ask you know I mean I would ask if it's a friend
7:36 but it's hard because I wouldn't I wouldn't be able to like uh to judge them without knowing the context I wouldn't be able to like dude you can't be doing this ████ you know that's like not my business and I don't know the ████ facts if I'm not seeing evidence of the girls ████ up right if I'm just hearing about it no matter who I hear from but hey this person's saying this ████ about you you know what I mean bring it up neutral like let's say if Nick was I'd be like hey Nick can I talk to you and be like uh hey I don't know if you know but there's this thing about you that's kind of going around people are saying that you're being daughters ████ out of two the whole time I'd be deflecting making jokes [Laughter] it's just completely a different character than your shower tip at the house no that's crazy I wouldn't do that but it's a girl I mean not just girl but the
8:27 other partner is also a friend then it's like that that's gonna get really complicated you have to measure out a lot of things I'm not saying I have a generic answer for the situation but I feel like that you'd have to take a lot of variables but but it but like intervention is still for sure yeah physical abuse absolutely see the one thing to like see it and then hear about it like hearing about it is crazy let's say either way you there's no doubt that it is true if bar was being if I saw Bart beat up Geo I'd probably tag in dude I'm just kidding on which side yeah I'm tagging with Barton no I might I might get I think I the reaction would be like for me I think I might get really upset at this dude I'm like yo what the ████ yeah I might I might do something like that like if I saw something like that but what if you get knocked out no dude
9:22 bro I'm tearing them up come on I don't think me and you could do what Nick's willing to do what if it was a stranger okay so like all of this is just people close to us right what if you're just hanging out at the hotel and in the hallway there's this guy you smacking this girl around I'm ratting the ████ out of him yeah I think that's when you call the cops I don't want you to stop would you go hey let go her would you do that hey I'm going to stop you when you don't do that was 16 I did really yeah when I was six I was at my girlfriend's house in her front lawn and then I'm gonna probably try to also be macho too because you're in that age whatever but then we were like just talking in the middle of the night and then there's this like older like uh Hispanic lady walking on the sidewalk and there's a guy is creeping right behind her in a van yelling at her like an older
10:12 Hispanic dude and he was just like cussing at her throwing ████ at her whoa and then um I don't know maybe it reminded me of my parents getting into fight whatever so I immediately got up and then I ran to the dude and I told no ████ do that and then I guess he got scared over and he he drove off you'd be like you could beat her but do it in the house keep it in your own yeah open the van and I grabbed it up take this home bringing back traumatic memories for me they're triggering me dude I know that I know when it comes to like strangers having domestic uh situations I have heard from like cops that you don't get involved yeah that's the thing you don't know so many people yeah also I think when you're a kid you're naive right yeah so
11:03 you just see one thing like protect all women you assume but like you don't know full context and they could be doing that ████ every day like it ain't nothing like the dude pulls out a gun or some ████ you know yeah we just don't know situations she starts stalking you because you're holding her dude like it's always just they do that yeah oh that's a very that's a very frequent thing I told the story here but um I saw this like homeless couple they're not homeless but one of them he's a guy who like I've seen around my block yeah and I see him all over like Pasadena but and he was like he was getting beat up by his girl and I thought like dude and then they're they're across the street from me oh yeah and I just was like yo chill like stop like stop please stop and I don't know I should probably
11:53 shouldn't have done this I probably should have just called the cops but he was like call the cops man call the cops and I was like I don't know if I should call the cop so I just I just went over there I went across and like they were probably as far as like Joe and can are for me oh okay and I just was like I was like yo stop like just don't don't do that and then she was like ripping his ████ shirt like trying to Sock him and he was like trying to restrain himself and I was like yo please stop like what's wrong with you yeah just don't do that and she's like spitting on him and he's like yo bro he's like she crazy dude like she crazy and he's trying to like walk away and then they eventually like I think I just kept saying stop like please stop like don't do this here don't do this here and then they eventually separated and walked away but it worked and I went
12:44 home and I was like I probably shouldn't even done that I probably should have walked into my house and like maybe call the cops but I don't know dude but what if she killed them dude you could have stopped that I don't think I could have stopped that dog I don't know dude you said hey stop I don't know if what I did was it I mean we were talking strangers right is it different if it's just two homeless people like you just leave when it looks like a recurring problem I just leave it alone yeah yeah you know what I mean because I'm like this like yesterday next time it's time but today I try to stop but then tomorrow Joe tries to stop it's not gonna stop like they have to fix their own problems oh the next day I saw I saw them at the uh the bus stop making out hanging out no they were just sitting they were sitting down with each other I was pumping gas and they were like and I was like Brenda that's the guy I try to break us up
13:44 dude that's what it was it was ramping up I feel like when you're younger right all you think the the things are solved so much quicker so you're more naive and you have more Justice in your mind you're like this needs to stop man you want to be the police yeah but then like you become older and you see like your friend calling on a domestic dispute thing like from her boyfriend or whatever and then they get even like a restraining order and then they get back together and it's just like why am I here for you like why am I like like what are you doing yeah and then you're like causing so much drama because you just can't let go of this relationship but then like it's such a bad place to be or like there's so many situations like that right like where you would watch like a episode of Cups and then like there's a domestic
14:34 violence thing that that you have to like go answer a call do and then the cops see this guy and then this girl beat up and they're like oh he's got to go to jail now and then she starts hitting the cops like let them go yeah and it's like what the ████ kind of Stockholm syndrome ████ is this it happens I had things recur too much and then I start to feel that I care more than this person that I have to walk away yeah that's the key yeah because I have a friend who's like kind of like a not too close to me but she's like been with this dude for many years and um she just loves to update me and go like guess what he did now and it's like do you like this whoa it seems like it proud of this like ████ update and you're like what a Shiner that was yeah it's like last time he broke my ribs this time black eye it's like what the
15:24 ████ it's like she's showing off it's yeah it's like a weird thing and that you can really classify it as this you just exist in this ecosystem now it's not abuse anymore but you know I don't understand the situation because you know there's a lot of like weird things um no wow a love language you're like a hostage on your own like it's like you're you're like some people that are um so like I have a family member who grew up physically abused beat up all the time from her dad right so she got into a relationship with a guy that beats her up and then she was telling her sister like you know what's weird is that I've been with other guys safe guys good guys but I'm so Twisted because of my father beating my ass but also him being passionate and fun and like he's she's like I kind of associate this man it's comforting like with love
16:17 and then she's like I know it's ████ up but like I feel the passion here stronger than a guy that doesn't ████ me up and I'm like so there's some kind of weird like psychological thing that's going on too like that I can't really judge is that a disorder it's not a disorder is it I don't know it's a complex that's what Stockholm syndrome is right but it's almost like so like let's say uh if you grew up being abused and you associate that as comfort so like but that's like saying this is not fruit this is my meat or he was so like what happens a lot too is they associate it as oh I deserve this I'm not yeah the low self-esteem all that ████ too yeah so I don't want to be like blaming the victim but at the same time someone's got to take responsibility for their situation that they're in so if it's like if you choose to continue and
17:07 you can't overcome your your fears of leaving someone then that's like something like no one else can help you with I also don't believe that dudes just magically stop hitting their girl I don't think that's like a I think if it happens I turned over a new leaf and like maybe not very easily at least but I've never seen that firsthand you know I think the only way most uh fathers stop beating the ████ out of their kids is when they become afraid of them yeah that's like the main when they stand up not because they just don't want to one day yeah yeah they don't get tired of it no in most cases they're forced to yeah so I think it's the same thing with the guys that keep beating the ████ out of their girlfriends it's like what makes you think one day they'll just magically stop if you just wait patiently we knew this uh we had a friend who would run
17:59 domestic violence like support groups and it'd be like a like a like a meeting with like a bunch of like an AAA but for like yeah and they would talk about like the patterns and they all had the same patterns with their Partners where the guys would hit the girls or something like that and then they would start like being really scared and like oh my God I'm so sorry I did that and like kind of curl up in a ball and like start crying and like beg for forgiveness she should then kick his ass while he's on the ground they should do that but then the uh the woman would like oh it's okay no it's fine like you know and they would and then uppercut yeah boom that's what I should do but it becomes a cycle of like I hit you I beg for forgiveness then the woman forgives them and then it
18:49 continues again we can work on this blah blah blah blah woman I like that woman yeah but then they would also see the um the perpetrators the guys and what they would do is they would understand like the complexities of like how to take advantage of this yeah like they they they sit through like oh yeah I'm trying to get treatment but then they they become better at abusing the system it would get worse so it's like it's like really ████ up so I don't know and maybe that's not the right um situation for them to like get better no I think but it's uh it's it's a pretty dark and twisted uh situation I I personally think like because I remember this one time we were all talking about uh like some battered women's situation and then there was like a bottom comment
19:40 way the ████ down in the abyss like it was some girl saying wow a bunch of guys trying to discuss women's issues and like it's a man's issue too because it's a man beating the ████ out of a girl what are you talking about there's no men involved we should turn the cameras off we should talk I never engaged that bottom con but I'm like this person I need that ████ dumb like it's a guy's responsibility first to get other guys to not think that's cool like I think that makes more of a difference if you grow up in a circle of other dudes you respect and they don't respect that you won't respect that you'll just like naturally go be ashamed that you're a girl beater it's not cool yet yeah so you guys have to influence each other to be like no we don't roll like that that's a guys but also guys have to step in and protect women like that's just the honest to God truth like if women don't have guns or an equalizer or
20:30 the physical strength to restrain a guy like we're not talking about ████ WNBA women out here um protecting their home girls you know like they don't go to their games anyway it's also yeah huh yeah it definitely but it's also it's also men out there have to know that this is ████ up so then they have the desire to step in it makes a bigger difference than women asking men to not do it to be honest yeah that's like asking all of man to stop stealing from liquor stores and it's like we don't want to those are criminals that's like like yeah you act like guys wake up one day and go I can't wait to beat the ████ out of women today right guys I think
21:20 guys have a better chance of convincing other guys that certain things are not the way you ████ her up I better I guarantee you if a guy finds out that another guy's like and and you threaten them and you say if I catch you ████ up my sister my cousin I'm gonna come over and ████ kill your ass and then they're like okay I'll think about beating her it's not even a straight no it's all right enjoyable you know
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