0:00 I just don't what am I going to do Nick I'm like man that sucks you should probably figure that out major question I would like to know this myself cuz I don't really know the exact rules behind this are you obligated to help your partner's family with financial problems obligated I don't think you're obligated yeah I think it's a nice gesture if you can if the means to do it obviously depending on the situation but obligation is a funny word right but I feel like that's what is it your is it your responsibility I think that's what family should do if you can so like context it depends on context right yeah so like let's say your in-laws are
0:51 Gamble holics and they did it to themselves that's different from an unfortunate accident the fire is more of what you yeah yeah an unfortunate accident of like oh someone and the family got sick guess what you have the perfect amount to help him out with yeah that's fine okay but I don't know if obligation is the word but I feel like as a I don't know man I I in my mind maybe it's the whole like traditional Japanese thingy in me but like it depends on your rank and your AE and your and your status in the family if I was the oldest guy and it's kind of on me to take care of it then I'll just do it m it's just it's just easier because I have a blueprint versus like cir I don't know I think I think like there's like too much thinking when you have to like go Case by case you know
1:41 what I mean yeah it's easier to just have like this is the rule we're going to follow it yeah or like okay well let's say that there's already an older guy in the family that's way more wealthy and then they can step up and do it maybe I'll help I don't know like yeah it depends on who can help maybe yeah what if it's a what if this is a situation where it's not um it's not a medical need or something let's say that on the other side of the family there's a cousin okay just a cousin Aude kind of reputably a screw up cholo and it's just gang member and is just asking for money for there's no there's no like he's just broke oh ████ no get a
2:33 godd dang job yeah like just a second ago it's Japanese thing ████ no a God dang job but if you're not productive that's the most ajapanese thing you could do if you don't got no job you're not Japanese that's not even a in my mind I'm thinking everyone's pretty much trying their best and then they ran into some hard times if you're a mucher then yeah but if but it's just a guy that's cuz I've had family members go bankrupt and I and you know I actually had only had like 30k in my bank account at the time I gave them all of it yeah wow so cuz that's Japanese they had a family and by the way they took care of me for 2 years
3:23 they they gave me like a grand a month dude what a great ████ for 30 months yeah what an investment on there it's their 30k it's kind of that's that's how I saw it like I'm a bank yeah and all the money I saved I just gave it back no they I gave you 5% they helped me put they put me through college so I felt like that's the least I can do wow that's the least I can they gave me a grand a month well cuz they're just like focused on studying I I I'll give you a grand a month right who these people do you my family oh ████ so then when they went through hard times he had kids and then so he I'm I'm just like just take it I don't need it I don't have kids I don't I could I could figure it out and so wow in that case it's kind of like that's why I feel like that's what family does right is just sometimes
4:13 things happen and you know he got scammed um and you know it wasn't his fault and things just happen and I know people are good for it and we'll bounce back but then if it's just a freeloader well you know what I mean like it's not so much he's a freeloader he just like you know there's always somebody that just doesn't have Shame about asking for money and it's not that they're always throwing it away they just don't have that barrier to where they're too embarrassed to ask and sometimes dudes just go hey like if you can just float me for like you know a couple months maybe just like two 2K will be good you know I never had anyone in my life do that yeah plus I would consider it or respect it if they presented plan here's how much money I need this is what I'm
5:03 doing with it I'm planning on returning the money at this point yeah or I'm making monthly payments to get you back your money that's cool yeah right like if you come with the plan then I'm like okay now I can at least consider whether or not this is but what if the plan was like all right this month here we go I want a lot of crack rock next month I'm only going to smoke a little bit but sell the rest yeah yeah I think that's a good plan if there already a ████ up I'm already like ████ no I don't even need to test it I'm like you're already but then if it's like you're down on your luck or something and like let's say let's say um you live like a regular life yeah and then like out of nowhere ████ semi truck smash your car and you need a car to get to your job I'll help you but if I could already tell that you're a ████ up I would just say no right off what do you do when
5:53 like cuz I remember I ran into this problem in the past with someone I used to date but like her family wouldn't directly ask me for ████ but I would hear her cry about these topics and in front of me you know certain people do this thing where they go I don't know what I'm going to do about this and they know that you they know that you can help but they don't want to be like can you just like do something but they're just like I just don't what am I going to do Nick I'm like man that sucks you should probably figure that out what's what's an example what's an example like a like a thing like oh my cousin needs a place to stay for this like there he's stuck out there just needs money for a hotel I don't know why I got nothing to give him I don't know what to do and I'll be like there's some airbnbs that cost like $45 a night but it's like a 10 minimum you got to check
6:43 that out that would I would say that you got to check that out that's not like it's not even my wife or nothing it's just like I was dating her but then like I know that the answer to this problem is easily fixed by me just doing it and she's constantly just falling all over ████ tell me and it's almost like a situation of like I wish there was like you might as well just be saying I wish there was a man in my life to fix this what what did you end up doing oh no I I paid for it for a while what do you mean you just gave him a hotel yeah good guy that's tight though but it's because I want this to stop it's not because I want to help I don't even know I don't want to hear the whining I don't even know if there's screw up all it is is there's a problem in front of me and this is I could easily fix it in most of my examples it's like I hear something about it and I'm just like oh I could help him and I'll just do it but I I never had well yeah I mean
7:36 me it's it's it's never something where someone's ever asked me I don't think I've ever been asked yeah I didn't want to ask anybody yeah I mean yeah but that's that's what I mean by is a lot of give when people aren't and I think everyone here probably do does the same thing is when you hear that someone you you're that's that you feel close to or someone that you care about is like going through something then you go oh why did you tell me or you just do it right for friends is it's different but then if it's if it's your partner's situation that's where I was interested in because oh your partners yeah that's what the the question is like are you up yeah your partner's family or your partner's and like whatever because it's not yours you don't have that feeling of I'm going to take care of them but then you're not obligated but then they do and if they can't do you step up it also depends if you're married then that's family right so so you already signed up
8:28 for them to also be a partly of you if you're a couple that's a little bit different but I would do it to make her happy so like if if you're if you're girl whether you give a ████ about a loser ass cousin or whatever I would just be like your cousin's a ████ loser but I'm doing this for you not for them and I'll make that a point what she like why are you so mean you going to say that about him I have that the actually have the opposite predicament what do you mean opposite predicament what does that mean so it's really weird like they don't want no none of your help and they say get the ████ out of here Bart in their way so like um you know like when Gio's brother passed away like their family is good like the best family you could you could ask for and it's like they never burden anyone and it's the wife that's left and then they got four kids so that's a lot
9:20 to deal with and they have to still raise all four so I was like okay like what I'm like I want to help um and I know that they're just like right like they're just regular people that like they they do they have a W2 they live life like they don't think entrepreneurial outside of the box type ████ so they're just like very normal let me follow these tracks so any outside of the box type thinking I have to present oh right um so I actually made a like 30 page spreadsheet and I'm like I'm like you don't have to decide now you guys are grieving I understand but this is why I think it would be a good time to move to Vegas pretty much in my plan I talk about how I'll sell our house immediately and then we'll buy two cheaper houses but they'll be side
10:10 by side cuz the the month that the brother passed away me and Gio and taica stayed there for a month and it was super cute all the kids got to play so we're just trying to bring all the family together so I'm like we can duplicate this without the gunshots without that weird homeless guy that doesn't want to leave without the burning Factory without the burning Factory and in the fireworks at 3:00 a.m. in the drag racing without all this all right dude we could do it in like a nice place all right man my city dude said I go already I I created the spreadsheet and I was like well you literally won't have to um what's the word you don't have to worry about mortgage and rent cuz I'll sell our house we'll buy two of them side by side and they're just like oh that's that's cool and there's never like I'll take you up on the offer or
11:01 anything like that and I'm like I really want to help and I'm in the place where I can help but they're still in ████ cholo land you know and I'm like damn that's crazy wow sometimes it's hard to take help who are the ones set to make that choice you're you're saying the the sister-in-law it would be the sister-in-law but it's but also the mom or it would also be the mom but it's also a situation where like the mom will never leave cuz she'll feel like she's leaving the sister-in-law and the sister-in-law would never leave because she feel like she's leaving the mom what if they leave them together but some we'll all leave together though you know like so and that that that all that stuff happened in the summer ████ hot their AC broke down and then Jill's brother's super handy so he's is usually
11:52 the guy that fixes everything so they're like also really like they're grieving it's ████ hot as ████ in the house I was like dude I'll take care of it so I call AC person got it fixed and then um she heard what the bill was and it was like 1,700 so I just paid for it cuz I was like don't even worry about that stuff right now but I can just see that like the husband has been such a good husband she never had to really worry about anything wow so now that there's bills and random stuff coming she's like oh ████ you know and then so now kind of like Gio's mom is the one stepping in and like taking care like you're my son's wife I'll kind of take care of the whole situation and she did a really good job of saving her whole life so she actually has a decent amount but um but she's old so I want to come in and help but it's like it's weird because I almost want them to take advantage of it but there's no counterargument on their
12:42 side they're just not answering you I just feel like it's so daunting cuz if you think of like really shifting everything yeah if you think of like really small town people they'll be the type of people to go to like even though they live in LA but when you're like in a super Niche part of La in your so small town imagine the type of people that go to the same like your dad went to that barber your grandpa went to that barber so you'll go to that bar your foundations are there yeah and that the Barbara ████ everyone's haircut up but you still go it's like that you know they go to the same Supermarket down to Street like superior but what I don't get is they're immigrants too like this isn't like something that's deep rooted for Generations well I think it's maybe timing right when you lose somebody a big change like that already seems too overwhelm and also the gesture that you
13:33 created is such a big gesture or I could feel like a lot of people would feel guilty maybe it's stunning and I don't even know she they even saw a PowerPoint before but I was like I need that's why she's like what is this like no Bart we don't want to buy your ████ but I needed to collect my thoughts I didn't want it to become like too emotional of a conversation I wanted to have points one school district and it certainty driven too yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah and then I sent it to them take a look on your own well at least all that's left is for them to emotionally decide but logistically it's there wow dude that's crazy that's ████ you're the man dude yeah that's it might just be too overwhelming of a gesture that the guilt thing and like there even if you're 100% willing they might be like I could never take that I feel like they'd be like no ████ way I'm not going to do that ████ I'm not going to put you through
14:23 that you know like they're probably thinking that way they're like I want to put Barton Gio and taer through this like yeah I don't know for me for us we're like we're not married to anything we're married to family so we could sell a house we don't give a ████ like we this where we live now but we'll do anything and also how rare is that to have family members that are actually that down for you right like that's almost alien that's almost ████ unheard of that's valuable to have like how you're saying because the Synergy is so good it's not like you're being put out and having to have a negative outcome over this that's great for everybody everyone's together at least the good thing that came out of it is they know that we're 100% for them wow no matter what you know damn I'd love to see the PowerPoint though yeah I'll said it to you I don't want to check it out you want to move to Vegas he makes correction my m a house I know I'll take care taica ████ I was like yeah I'll babysit taica me and
15:13 does that PowerPoint transfer over to anybody else you get three houses me and Ry will move in the pugs too they can play with taica does t like pugs
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