0:00 It's not about the race. That's what it really comes down. >> Millionaire, not multi-millionaire. Oh, yucky. [laughter] >> Yucky. >> Welcome back to another episode of Careful Boys. Today we have Nick the Ear, professional Asian with us. >> Professional Asian. >> Two-time professional Asian. >> I don't think I'm that professional. >> We also have Mr. Jason Chenny, six time professional Asian. That's about [applause] right. That's about right. >> Six time award-winning Asian of the year. Okay. Um, so recently, you know, with the whole like love love is blind thing, I think it kind of respsparked a lot of the uh the whole like anger between Asian guys and Asian girls. Namely, that Asian men are like pissed that they're being overlooked um you know, for whatever reason. But one thing
0:51 I did notice is that in the comments of any of these topics or debates, whatever, as soon as someone like an Asian girl says, "I don't date Asians," as soon as an Asian girl says that >> Oxford study, Oxford study, >> they just get so triggered and like pissed off that I wanted to just focus. We we do talk about this topic every now and then, but I want to focus on just that. Just the girl that says, "I don't date Asians." and what actually is just the most angry person will just clap back and it's like a landslide of Asian dudes being like you self-hating ████ blah blah blah. So like what exactly do you think when an Asian girl says that? >> Like like what what do I think the person that's angered >> or like how does it actually make you feel? Does it make you feel anything? Does it make you feel >> me personally? I'm like anyone could
1:41 have whatever preferences. So to me I'm like okay this guy likes black girls. this guy likes white girls. I mean, it's just that's just a personal preference. So, to me, it doesn't affect me even if I was single cuz I'm like, if you don't like me, then we'll never date. I'll go date someone else. That's how that's how I feel >> that these girls are are saying it, insinuating it in a tone that makes Asian men feel like the lower choice. >> I think if they already feel that themselves, it's going to trigger that. >> Yeah. But if they don't feel that themselves, they'll just see it as a preference. Because I've never seen a hot ass Asian girl say that either. [laughter] The hottest Asian girls I've seen, I've never seen them say, "I I don't like Asian guys." It's always like some busted ass Asian girls anyways. [laughter] >> Like, have you ever seen ████ like
2:31 Sasha Singleton saying, "I don't date Asian guys." Or Francine D or you know what I mean? Like >> all they probably date mostly Yeah. They don't they don't I've never heard any of those chicks say that. Misa Camp, >> Kelly Hugh. >> Yeah. Like I've never heard egg I've never heard any of those chicks >> I don't know say that. >> I think what the guys that are pissed about this what they're pissed about is is the the safehatredness of it. Yeah. >> So, like there's a segment of like there's a stereotype of there's this archetype of a Asian girl who's like, "Oh, I don't want to I don't want to date Asian guys cuz it's like dating my brother." And then a lot of people from outside like Mexican or white, they're like, "I've never really heard that, but Asian girls say that." So only Asian girls say ████ like, "Oh, like that's like incestual." But that's really weird
3:21 if you think about it, right? Yeah, >> cuz like that you're talking about millions of people out there is your brother. >> We're all related though. >> But I kind of understand it. Not in a way where like I I love Asian girls and I always dated them. But the brother aspect I understand it because the first time I went to Japan, I felt a connection to everybody there. So if these girls grew up in like they were the only Asian family, right? Like like I was the only Japanese family on my block or whatever. And then when I went to church, my association of Japanese people is my extended family, like my church, my relatives. So they were familiar, right? But everyone I went to school with was like black or Mexican. So the outside world or whatever was not Japanese. >> When I went to Japan, I'm like, "Yo, you kind of look like my aunt and you kind of So then you start making these associations of you're too familiar." And then the girls were cute, but they
4:13 started feeling like maybe you're more like a cousin. I don't know. Like, so I kind of get it to a certain extent, but then what I don't get is the disgust. Like, sometimes these ████ be talking like, "Ew." And I'm like, >> "That's just some young kid ████ though." >> Like, who do you pick? Who are you picturing? The ████ like, "Are you picturing the Chinese cook that's outside smoking a cigarette and going like, "Yeah, that's ew." But when you say Asian guys, we we hope you're thinking about the handsome one, not the guy that's doing that. >> I think when girls are doing that, that's doing too much. I think that that looks like, you know what it feels like? It feels like when uh like if that girl wants a a guy to like her that she thinks he thinks Asians are like that. >> So, she's trying to be like, I'm one of you. I also don't like him. You know what I mean? I'm like, that's kind of
5:03 weird. Like, why do you got to go that far? >> Yeah, I know. That's I did a pretty deep um dive on this and I and I talked about it for like an hour on my on my channel because at the end of the day what I realized is like whatever happens outside and she doesn't like you why the ████ does that matter? Even if she has a hate and disgust toward Asians, that's her like self-hatred to deal with. It's not the consensus for all Asian women. >> It's a small fragment of like I would it's kind to me it's like kicking down, right? Like if if I find an incel Asian guy, it's hard for me to kick down on him cuz I feel like he's pathetic. >> Same with the Asian girl that hates herself so much. I'm like, you're already in so much pain >> and you're busted like Bart said. >> And it's like, okay, so why do I have to like correct you or beat you for that? >> Okay. >> You know what I mean? Like I just feel
5:53 like she's already in a pathetic state. >> That's why I think it's the dude that's hella triggered and then that thing like set that off. [clears throat] >> Yeah. Yeah, cuz if you were to think about it logically, if you say you'll never date any Asian guys, you're also pretty much saying your mom made the wrong choice with your dad, right? Like if you're really trying to break it down logically, you if you you would if that's how you feel like you would be like, "Hey, mom, why did you date an Asian guy?" I would never date an Asian guy. You date Asian. >> Gross. Mom, why'd you date? >> Yeah. That's disgusting. Yeah. Exactly. Right. So, it's like >> there's some merit to that cuz I do like like if you you you associate negative triggers with your father or or men in your family because of something happened or whatever because um I was I was talking to this Latin girl and uh she could speak Korean and then she's like for some reason when Korean guys get mad or angry or whatever it doesn't
6:44 trigger me but when I hear a a a man speak Spanish and get angry it triggers me because my dad was abusive. >> So, she's like, I that's why I I I have a clean slate with Asian men or other guys cuz we could get into arguments and it doesn't hurt me as much. But she's like, if I date a Latino guy and then he starts yelling like it just it's like too much attached to my father. >> That's kind of what Tiff says. Yeah, >> that's a lot of her mindset. So, like she she used to always say to me like I I would never date a Latin guy, a Latino man just because of all like the negative associations of >> all the Latin incelss are so pissed if they in a comment. >> But yeah, but you think about that like how many Latin incelss are there? Like I don't really see that >> not as many Asian incels, >> but we're also not in those spaces. >> That's true. That's true. That's true. Way more. I feel like in every race,
7:34 you're always going to get a a group of people that will say something like, "Oh, I don't want to date my own kind cuz it reminds me of >> I've heard it from black people, white people, >> everywhere." So, it's also like what Barb was saying was like, you can't really take it that personal. It's just it's just a it's a human thing. It's not a race thing. It's a human nature type of thing, right? So, and I feel like growing up too, I used to think like, oh, I grew up with not that many Asian girls that or people really. So, like for me, anytime I saw Asian girl, it just reminded me of my ████ sisters, you know what I mean? So, so growing up, I just kind of was like, I'm not really as attracted to Asian girls. It doesn't mean I'm not attracted to Asian girls completely. It was just >> But he hasn't acquired a taste. >> Exactly. >> You're not saying ew about it. >> Yeah. My preference was >> happen to be, you know, my wife or whatever. Yeah. Papooseas, whatever. Right. [laughter] Cuz that's what I was around. That's what I knew. That's what I feel comfortable with. >> I like all titties.
8:24 >> Exactly. But at when it comes down to it, that's the real answer. It's like, yeah, it's all fair game, whatever. It's just it's just like a weird thing that we do in our head, especially when we're young and we think we kind of got it figured out. So, we say things like, "Oh, I would never date Asian guys, blah blah blah blah." But in a couple years, she might look back and be like, "Man, I was tripping. I probably shouldn't have been saying all that." >> You know, the funny thing is when when you have the the the um dichotomy of like you have the girl saying, "Ew, I don't date agents." And you have the guy saying, "You motherfucker." So, those two people, right? >> I find it hard to believe that either of them is satisfied with their dating life. >> Yeah. 100%. She has that chip on her shoulder because of something to happen. He's got that chip because he can't date anybody. >> I think they need to ████ >> We just combine. I'm like, if I can get some >> If they ████ they'd have ████ fireworks and they'd be coming like crazy. >> Yeah. What do you think, Jason? What was >> about about Asian women that say, "Ew, I don't date Asian guys." E.
9:15 >> Um, >> say that you're on stage and and you have a heckler going, "Ew, Asian guys. I would never date Asian guy." >> From an Asian person. >> Yeah. >> From a busted ass Asian ████ chick. busted ass one. >> Yeah, cuz usually it is >> busted. Yeah. >> Yeah, that's sad. [laughter] >> Do you know what I mean? That's really sad because it's not like uh Yeah. It's like from objective like societal standards of of beauty. If if they're really busted then but then maybe if she's in another place that >> with less gravity. [laughter] >> Yeah. Then maybe maybe that's better. But then >> Yeah. But you know what's weird to me too is like it's only in America that we're the same kind. >> Yeah. Yeah. You're right. You're right. Yeah. >> If we all grew up in the Philippines, Japan, like and if you dated someone like a Japanese dated a Filipino, that's
10:05 interracial or like that's inter that's mixing. Are there mainland Chinese people in China saying this? >> E Asian. [laughter] Chinese. >> Don't date them. Asian Chinese are way too practical. Poor guy. Yeah. [laughter] >> Yeah. Yeah. It's not about the race. That's what it really comes down. >> Millionaire, not multi-millionaire. Oh, yucky. [laughter] >> Yucky. >> It is weird though. But I I I do think um going back to kind of Nick's point, like I didn't know um how attractive Asian women were until high school because they develop a little bit later. their fashion and stuff isn't like they don't have the freedom until high school. So they look younger where like
10:55 most of my Latino and black >> they also don't flirt. They don't flirt till way later. >> So you don't know if they like you. So like so like um yeah like you're already like flirting and and dating and and then like >> he has move faster with flirting in in those ages. >> They like you, they'll tell you. And then I'm pretty sure on the flip side that's probably the same for Asian girls experiencing like Mexican guys or white guys like they're getting corded when Asian guys are not even playing the game yet. >> We're late bloomers. >> So they might just >> Yeah. >> I feel like I'm I was a late bloomer, dude. >> But I think it's a acquiring the taste, right? So then high school I moved to Asian neighborhood and I'm like, "God dang, there's so many ████ cute girls here. What the ████ Like we didn't have this." [clears throat] and then you start talking to them and you start dating and all that. But I just think people that probably say that
11:46 I highly guarantee they did not grow up in an Asian neighborhood >> really >> because like I wasn't like that. But I knew some people in a white neighborhood that were like that where they wanted to be the token like Asian guy. They didn't like they were so >> like what do you call it? Defensive of their like their identity of I'm the Asian one here. And then I'm like, it's not that special, bro. >> Right. Okay. They're tokenism. >> Yeah. Cuz we're around so many already that like you can have your personal identity like you're the funny one. >> You're the whatever. Imagine if your identity is you're the Asian one. You don't even get a personality trait. You're just the ████ race. >> That sucks. >> Yeah. So, I think some of these >> I've done that, brother. >> That was you, right? >> Yeah. >> I talked about it before. like on my yearbook it would be like whatever uh attribute they attribute to me and then
12:37 like Asian, you're my favorite Asian or whatever the ████ So they'd always just bring it up the fact that I'm Asian. >> Yeah. >> And I'm like yeah. >> So you won. You're the one that is four time Asian of the year. >> Yeah. My school I was. Maybe not. I had some good competition. >> Girls, right? They're like the Asian one and they're like I want to stand out. Well, I don't want to ████ be with the Asian guy. >> Duality thing. >> Yeah. It's like I don't know. I feel like they grew up in a world like that where they're they're the ones that are seeing the hierarchy more than, you know, other people. >> But at the end of the day, we all know how difficult it is to maintain a relationship. So why limit yourself? Like why you why you got to hate on other people? If that's what she wants, that's what she ████ wants. Let her do that. >> And you don't know where you're going to end up. Like whether you like what you like or whatever, you could just end up with something you didn't expect. It doesn't mean that's the only thing you ever liked, you know? >> But the but the self-hatred ████ like just keep that to yourself.
13:28 >> Yeah. Yeah, >> I think every grade my crush was different. >> Oh, player. [laughter] >> They didn't like me back, >> but every Yeah. Yeah, >> that's just your crush. Okay, >> player. [laughter] >> He just crushes a lot, baby. >> Well, have you guys met anyone at all though that says like, "I don't date." Whatever. >> It says that like a real life person. >> Not like a [laughter] real life person >> in our 20s, baby. >> Yeah, back in the day I did. >> Not anymore. You don't really hear anybody's talking like that. >> Like not in real life. Only in video clips and stuff like that. >> That's why I think it's so age dependent. Like I remember I you know I used to say ████ like that when I was in my 20s, bro. >> Yeah. I Who know? I've probably said every possible sentence on earth. >> 100%. Cuz I think by the time you're 30, you're way more practical. Like I want someone that doesn't have debt. >> Yeah. >> Has a good credit score. It's good with their family.
14:18 >> I don't give a ████ what their [laughter] business is. >> Preferably Latina. >> Extremely Latina. [laughter] >> Yeah. Yeah, if you're like seeking out races a little bit, it's a little funny business, I think, in general. Like, I only date this. It's a little like, all right, man, relax. >> Have all of you dated all different races? >> It's none of your ████ business, Jason Jenny. >> Okay, thank you. >> Yeah, yeah, horny guy. Stop trying to think of us sexually. >> Oh, >> the only two I never dated, but I I wish I did, was uh Indian and black. Oh, >> I had crushes on both. >> Indian? Yeah, I missed that whole trade. >> I just never had access. The one chick I did talk to in college that was Indian. She was so set on ████ uh arranged marriage that it was like so close to little India, right? >> He could have penetrate the community. >> Cream of the crop. >> The younger we were, I think I was able
15:08 to like in elementary like fifth or sixth grade cuz I think early. >> I think everyone is buy cuz I think everyone is um what is it called? You're way more open-minded when you're a kid. >> That's true. Yeah. >> Those family like values, they're not really instilled like late until later on. But yeah, we we we had a bunch of Indian in in the schools I went to. >> Almost feels nostalgic whenever you see that same dilemma pop up in the comments because it's like you've heard it in so many different forms your life >> ████ doing that ████ >> No fighting about it. And it's just like, you know, until you know what everyone's personal situation is in their dating life, then you can't really, you know, cuz if that's part of it, then it's completely swayed by that opinion, you
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