0:00 okay he's going to go burn down you're not in trouble first of all you're not in trouble you're not in trouble do you take it out of the nearest chiropractor you're not in trouble at [Music] all so a while back Bart told us this story about how like he um he had to do an assignment when he was a kid and he was supposed to tear these construction papers off to make a picture and the teacher didn't believe that he tore it and that he actually used scissors and he got blamed basically for something he didn't do has that ever happened to you guys where you you got blamed for like something that you completely did not do and you're innocent he was like did you tear the paper too perfectly yeah I did I did the and then I did the licking one and then he got it out so clean that they're like you use the scissor Bart
0:50 yeah every single shape I did was RI the teacher's an idiot you can tell for sure right but that ever happen to you where you were I feel like Bart does so much though that they're just so tired of it like repetitive offender they was like nah he's he ████ it doesn't have to be like when you were a kid it could be at any time in your life but were you did you basically ever get blamed and it really wasn't you that did it blamed yeah man if I was accused I'd like uh-uh that's not me like they just believe you yeah wow what wow I'm like I can't think of a s one time where it was like they didn't believe me oh you know like if they like incorrectly were trying to blame you for something you just you have to have I'm innocent no it's usually I did do it
1:40 wrong and I'm trying to like get out of it what's that situation a lot of situations dude did you ever get out of it oh yeah what's the best one okay so I used to be innocent you know like all kids are used to be innocent okay and my mom told me that um you should always plead guilty uh whenever you're caught or whatever you should tell the truth give up and be like right yeah and then um I started going over to my friend's houses right yeah and my f I didn't know at the time but my friend my friends were like families were like generational gangs I didn't know what a gang was back then yeah yeah yeah and then like they'll be talking about how uh you know if someone if someone pushes you you you you ████
2:30 ████ them up and they they said say that to their sons so I'm getting a different set of like morals from my friend's parents yeah they say stuff like yeah and then we'll go out and then they'll all steal from the market or whatever and then they'll be like here's some candy and then I'm like oh but it's stolen and they're like yeah but does it change the way it tastes and I'm like no it doesn't it's still delicious you're right right so like yeah you're like a what second third grader right like so then by that time like okay I was stealing with them I was doing all these things and then they also tell you like oh whenever um you get caught you just never plead guilty and you hold on to it you just never plead cuz then and then it also was true like they you know they they get into running with the law and
3:20 then like I don't know about this stuff but when I got caught for graffiti it was the same case like my mom was like oh just say you're guilty and all that even the freaking lawyer afterwards was like why do you plead guilty and yeah cuz you did the deed and she goes oh no but you're not supposed to though and then so cuz my mom's like Christian and all that and she goes you're just supposed to be like moral but then the lawyer was like you know what happens for the people that are moral is you get the harshest punishment and he goes the game is you just have to uh argue your way out and then you can get away but now you can't because you because you plead guilty so goes it's not about morality it's about it's about like arguing your case and you get the least amount of punishment because they don't care about you it's not about morale and I was like oh ████ so this is me and my journey of morality up until like I was 15 years old but like there's all these
4:12 things that I think um I stopped listening to my parents because all these other people felt more right like for example I felt like they back their kids up so like let's say they get into a fight the parents would be like did you ████ them up okay good job good job yeah you don't let nobody push you around my parents were Christian pacifist so if I get into a fight they're like did you turn the other cheek what they really asked you that yeah they're like you should not hit back they're like you got to be like Jesus you got to let them beat you that's the real strength right oh my God and you know how Asian parents like when the teachers um when they're when they when they bring you in for parent teacher conference right the teachers will be like yeah your kid hasn't been doing so good whatever whatever what happens when you get home you get your ass beat by your parents right but all my other friends their parents would fight with the teachers no he's a good kid you don't know what the
5:02 ████ you're talking about right and they get into art and I would watch that and I go oh ████ like dude they got their they got their kids back knowing now that's like the stupidest thing you can do you enable your kids to be horrible people but back then as a primitive little child you think man those parents are way cooler like they got their kids back right and then my I'm like my parents are lame like they don't like fighting they're so weak like they they always get mad at me they take the teacher side you know and then so my morality got really screwed up and I would I would lie all the time I would steal all the time I would get whatever I wanted yeah and then I had a group of friends that would be on the same page with me yeah yeah but yeah there'll be a lot of things like I stole people's rulers or whatever and then teacher be
5:52 like did you take that and I'm like nope 50 of them yeah like just for fun you would just oh you would just see something and then like they'll be looking the other way you take that you put it in your backpack or whatever and then they're like where was that I don't know I don't even need three four yeah but that's kind of the evolution of a terrible child right like you're kind of trying to navigate what's right and wrong and then like you have so many different people telling you what you should do and what you shouldn't do yeah bad influences yeah damn and then I also thought if you whenever I did tell the truth I got an even in more trouble I would get beat harder I would get so you get you become professional Liars because like if you don't want to get beat up you just lie and then your parents believe you you you escape a ass
6:42 whooping yeah or else it's like you know like if you tell the truth you're going to get ████ up so you're you're escaping violence right sometimes you could lie to the point where your parents are like this Ain worth the effort they don't want to deal with it no more yeah yeah they know when you're lying probably yeah it's just taking too long sometimes I do think like that's kind of how a lot of people evolve to prob like going off into like the deep end of you know you're it's a gateway to being a criminal you're a child you do crazy ████ I think that's how I think that is how criminals find their level up yeah cuz if you think about even like like the gang stuff right they think they're the good guys they think the police and everybody else are the bad guys because if you think about it like yeah they're
7:32 the ones that are the victims here they're the ones that are in their perspective right they're the ones that are always being like hey you're Outcast you're not a part of us whatever and then so there's kind of like this weird like different set of morality that I think people I can kind of see that because I was that as a child so I'm like if I kept going and I did have friends in that world yeah I could have completely went there all the way yeah you'd probably still think it's not your fault yeah yeah yeah I would sad yeah I know right it's crazy but I I don't know um going back though I wouldn't I wouldn't even know like how to tell a child to like what is the right path if you have so so so like if I didn't have my parents and good influences right
8:23 let's say I was like my friends who were born into the generational gang stuff cuz they're like their whole thing was like oh I can't wait to go to jail or like I can't wait to like yeah cuz that's what made him a man so it was like like there the way that their their dads and uncles talk about it is like that's their man right of passage I went to jail I was for there for this many years and you're hearing this in like third or fourth grade and you're just like ooh when's my turn I want to I want to be like that too crazy yeah it's crazy so you're hearing all these stories and then um yeah I I think like how how would you even set that kid straight if all of his role models are that way yeah there's no way I wouldn't I wouldn't know yeah yeah I used to work at a like a juvenile correction center
9:13 and like all those kids were like that like right they have a different set of like reality yeah like parents kind of encourage it and everything it's it's it's weird that's the trippiest part is that the parents are just mad at you guys even more yeah for everything you're doing in the jail you know like when parents get mad at like uh you see it all the time on the news where like somebody robbed a liquor store and then got shot and they're mad at the cashier for having a gun oh yeah yeah yeah even though they both had guns but then they're on the news being like well he shouldn't had a gun he's a cashier it's like too L like he came into maybe even it's like that's the logic this kid was raised on like no wonder like dude that's rough to have to grow up with that I was just going to rob you you didn't have to shoot me yeah yeah that happened in like a recent uh like news thing this guy I guess he was
10:06 like he got in trouble for assault cuz he beat up some random person right and so the child services went to his kid who was in school the the child services case worker went to her classroom and pulled her out and had a meeting with her like in a private room to ask like how what's going on with your dad do you feel like you're in danger there 9-year-old like girl and then um and then I guess the dad found out later that this case worker had visited his kid and he was like upset because he's like he wasn't supposed to put her in a in a room all alone like he could have done anything so he went he scheduled a meeting at the office went to the uh Child Services office waited for that guy to come out and then he turned on a live stream and he choked the dude out and was trying to kill him and he was just like you're a dead man and like on live stream on the live stream yeah I'm like yeah what and then and then it's
10:57 like uh so now he's in jail for 10 murder and uh and then the his whole thing is like he doesn't even pay attention to the fact that he committed a crime that caused them to have to come out well in his mind it's like I'm doing Justice for my daughter yeah he's only looking at that and he's like what kind of guy would do that like that's not acceptable even though the guy didn't do anything well I guess not there's nothing nothing came out like the daughter didn't say that he did anything but the fact that like they had to send someone out to check because this guy was a dangerous criminal who had had tendency so they couldn't go to his house and he confirmed yeah so he just confirmed it the concerns but he's like not seeing how people are like dude what you did was bad man yeah the logic there is yeah but getting blamed for something you didn't do definitely like that sucks
11:47 for you I felt really bad for you with your little paper thing thank you that's why I think we set a um we we set this like little policy at home and also one thing I really like about the Marine Corps yeah is um you know it's like it's pretty hard and then people get hazed for stuff but if there's any time that you felt like uh something was happening that was unjustified you could always do this thing called request mass and so whatever situation is it goes straight to the next supervising officer and he overlooks it and if you feel like it's still not justified you can go all the way up to as high as you need it to be for someone else to take a look at the situation so no matter how hard it got it always felt like okay cool there's always going to be just is somewhere yeah so because of that we have we established our own policy at home where we told taica um if he ever needs to
12:38 tell us something say and he doesn't want us to get mad first ask for a safe space and then me and Mom or 100% give you a safe space w it will never get mad at you even if it's a crazy thing um you know how I like burn down the building as a kid even even like ████ like that right even like even ████ like that I like if you request a safe space you'll never you'll never get in trouble you burned down a house no no I was like a car pack office what's what's what's funny though is Tao now he uses it wrong he throws it away like he'll get in trouble and he's like can I have a safe space I'm like no that's it's too late we can't wait till we catch you oh you know it needs to be like hey this happened that F's trying to do a times out when he loses time out times out no
13:28 you already lost fool yeah like no that's not how it works you got to come to me with the honesty and vulnerability first and then we'll protect it I think that's really smart because that'll teach him it's not about not punishing him for what he did it's about the fact that he feels safe in us enough to come to you guys and be honest that's a huge lesson cuz like in my situation I just learned how to manipulate and lie better to my parents cuz I never had that space where they wouldn't get mad at me it was guaranteed ass whooping yeah and I'm like okay yeah we wanted to make it where there's like a like a two-way street cuz that's how I felt too as a kid it's like a one-way street it's just this way so you're like okay if it's only this way if I know how to lie and maneuver then you won't have you you'll get out of trouble but with him we wanted it to be like this so it's like a and he'll come up come to us with stuff too which is pretty which pretty cute when he actually uses it oh so he's used
14:20 it for real yeah hey can I have a safe space I did this blah blah blah blah and we'll talk about it and we'll debrief it yeah and try to like work through it and then how many other things aren't even things that you get mad about but he's guilty for um or are they all things you're like oh yeah you messed up some of them are stuff that makes me go like oh man he's a really sweet kid cuz he'll be like hey like hey Papa can I have a safe space I'm like yeah what is it and then he was like you know earlier like when you're like outside I kick the soccer ball against the window like 10 times and then I'm like oh that's really sweet because as a kid if I did that and there was Zero evidence yeah why I'm just going to leave it as is exactly I'm going leave it as is they don't have to find out cuz that's just the ass whooping you know well that's nice that he felt a guilt about it yeah I'm like that's really sweet that's so sweet 10
15:10 times I and ask for a safe space later yeah he's like I I know you didn't want me to you told me never to kick things against the window um but I just couldn't control it or something I'm like all right fine thank you for telling me Oh man so I don't confid get the soccer ball or anything I just go thank you for telling me um but you know what the rule is he goes yeah I know what if he's like what if he does that every day then I'm like safe no he's abusing the safe space then if he's like hey Dad can I get safe space he's like I I went on your computer I just deleted everything yo that that sounds like my if I have a kid that's going to be my kid yeah ████ I think I have to be like you're right I'm like okay he's go
16:01 burn you're not in trouble first of all you're not in trouble you're not in trouble do you just take it out of the nearest chiropractor you're not in trouble at all I'll I'm going to go see my chiropractor I know when when he was a kid he he set fire to a chiropractic like table yeah you know the little paper they put for for so when you sit on it the wax paper I over the bed he's he was unsupervised and just started lighting it on fire just had like matches no my mom was getting like those glass you know the glass cup the suction things so she's in the other room I was just walking around the waiting room and then yeah so I had a I went into the other room and I had a lighter and I was lighting the wax paper and I would light it and it would go and I I blow it out and so each time I wanted to see how much further it can go before I blow it out that's some buyshit see this is why
16:52 it's like dude you got beat up and then finally it went like this and it got on the pillow and it was like and I'm like oh ████ so I go to the receptionist uh you know have the water cooler I'm like run and the Cup's like this small right and I'm like pretend like nothing's happening I go like this and like doesn't do ████ I'm oh my God so I'd make bunch of trips and then U my mom's like signing out and I'm likey mom we should go we should go she's like why why and then I would hear like like one of the nurses go oh my God there's a fire in there wait did they find out it was you they didn't find out cuz by the time we got in the car I just remember going oh my God I would look back and I would see through my mom's rear view that there was like smoke coming out of the building the fire oh my God so your mom doesn't know to this day I don't think she knows you never told her I never
17:43 told she never knew I thought you told oh my God she never knew think I ever told her and this was a this was a chiropractic office on Garfield next to ABC Cafe are you guys familiar with that wait is that the same guy that we went to no no no it's a what's liation us to be there but it burnt down yeah wait it really I don't know how much it went down but there's smoke coming out for sure I think I was like five or something that's so funny dude the fact he's just like the move the Flames move really cool you ever see it like the Flames move really cool yeah yeah yeah cuz it goes like like that you're like wa that's was TI so you do it longer and longer and longer wait I forgot how did you get a lighter well it's next to the
18:34 suction cup things you it yeah there's a whole tray there's did you take it with you no no there's and nobody nobody cared that this kid was just walking around the place their fault it's a Chinese establishment Chinese they're La they're la like yeah like they're just doing whatever the ████ they're doing and I'm just wandering around this kid got hold of a lighter that's crazy no was like yeah man you deserve the blame for that one to think you didn't even get in trouble for that one was crazy that no I didn't that's nuts dude
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