0:00 I'm like I'm not judgmental like in most ways but then in that I think that's just past my limit yeah can't be a hoe like that to find three guys in one night would it make it worse if there were other women there how does how is it worse with other women there Joe is so gay [Music] dude welcome back to another six episode of the careful boys with we have another patreon submitted question from Adder a d e r nailed it nailed it all right ad by ader okay great um talk about a time and we'll start with you Cen okay talk about a time you got heartbroken what helped you heal the most what's the biggest difference in you before and after said
0:52 breakup or any advice for single men in the dating world that's why you have to answer it or women whatever you like a time that I was heartbroken oh colen make us cry poor Colleen she like I never was heartbroken she has to file past I'm the heartbreaker she has to file past those I do have to file past those that's funny Ryan knows my brain I'm s██████ through them you're like when did I feel hurt lot of frames of guys crying yeah Ser me not caring me not caring me not carrying we not car still still crying yeah um I had to have in high school probably like the first real relationship I had and after we had broken up um I don't remember I don't I think it was me I'm pretty sure it was but it broke your heart to break it off
1:43 but but it's sad that like we had to part ways because it was the person I lost my virginity to it was like the person you experienced new things with she's like the Wesley Snipes memes with the gun with the with the tears com down yeah yeah I'm sorry I have to do this sorry I have to do this yeah why why did you have to do it um I don't know I don't remember how long were you together was it like they're going out of state for a different college and you're like what kind of dude was this guy was he like the ████ captain of the de team no he was like a he was like a tall like handsome big truck type of dude big truck type of big truck dude in high school wow that's extra oh was it like Limp Biscuit was it Lim Lim biscuit it's like it's like some at Wheel of Fortune it's like I'd like to solve they just started Li bis but I'm going to go that
2:35 style that style which is how did I overcome it okay she's more like Lim biscuit not 311 it's actual friend what and what helped you heal the most and was it Lim biscuit stupid so you don't remember like why you guys had to I don't remember I think it was just like High School's a long time ago oh damn how how did you like Get over over it I think for me I put myself into a lot of activities damn so with my friends or my hobbies or you know anything that I'm interested in so that helps me just kind of refine myself and build my identity back and be confident in myself did you guys have a circle of friends around you where it was like awkward after um I we had to like have a few
3:26 classes together oh was was he a about you for yeah did he try to win you back I would like to tell a story yeah it's a it's a presentation for class and he ends up yeah he never tried to win you back or anything yeah no did you guys have sex after the breakup no no no it was before oh was it a one and done like lost my virginity and no no no we were together for like a year dang both holes that's tight Dam all holes lost all virginities her face B hes that's it was just so quick her face was like like I don't remember that part and then what's the third part uh was it Lim biscuit was it Lim biscuit and why ask her ask her if if there's any holes barred yeah yeah well did you
4:18 see or is there a difference between who you were before and then after the breakup yeah I think because of the things I ended up getting into and ended up focusing on change the trajectory of my hobbies and my interests and what I do now oh that was very deep I think for guys sometimes it's usually just like I'm going to go get fit now yeah yeah I'm going to the gym that would be the biggest difference but ████ yeah yeah so it's a good it's was a good thing yeah I mean high school high schools SCH I mean unless you're Nick High School breakups are the best unless you're Nick you cry for a long time yeah I feel like high school breakups are the most memorable because it's the newest and that's why picked it and like you just got ████ like your Sony wman so you're so down to just listening to ████ emo ass music you like over dramatize you do because
5:08 that that's your entire world you don't have an outside world yet you don't have your Independence yet and when the song comes on when you guys really enjoy the most the memories come back and it's like a movie in your mind and then you start crying you saying that look like that it's a character I definitely the when I really think about it like the only time I was like heartbroken was also high school cuz that like that's like your whole ████ world exactly there's there's nothing and then you can't escape the feelings and thoughts of that so yeah you just dive into like depressing love songs and then during your black Accord days it wasn't as strong as uh High School the black Accord days what a reference no because cuz I don't want to say the name you know okay thank you
5:58 well that's the thing as as an adult that definitely that definitely would have been my most heartbroken but like as an adult I think I just rebounded hella hard oh I see I see but also when you're in high school I feel like I feel like everybody needs to go through the simp mode in high school to know not what not to do for sure like all the things that like after the breakup you're like oh I should have appreciated her more and you go I'm going to try to do that now or like you try to be like still doesn't do it yeah and and then or like or like when you try to win or back but you just become stalkery and like all the weird ████ you got those dnam all those things you got to make mistakes and cringe out all the cringy things you do in high school and
6:48 you look back and you're like oh I can't believe I did that ████ cuz if you don't if you don't make those cringe mistakes you'll make it way later and then it's so much more worse so much worse yeah yeah restraining orders and court and then when you like look back too you're kind of like oh that's why she broke up with me makes sense cuz you were like simpy or cringy or like whatever it is you know yeah I'm just glad social media wasn't that big of a thing back then amen bro dude the people out there who are currently doing like the ████ like oh my ████ they set up the camera to cry brother that is break up she's going yeah in the bed yeah in the bed yeah cuz what she wants to do is send that to her ex so he knows how much she loves him and then she they'll be like you know what she loves me really hard I should get back with her I forgot how much you love me yeah oh god dude never going to
7:40 happen brother well like you would know somebody is like ████ heartbroken because back then you would also like go to like your your Tumblr your Zango or some ████ change the song on it so it's all ████ emo and then write some really you think it's super poetic you're writing changed cuz you want them to like visit your Myspace or some ████ and go it's about it's for me wao he got deeper yeah yeah it's so embarrassing dude I did some cringe ████ I think it was 10th grade or whatever um but when I would when after we broke up I was like all right well we're not going to talk but she could get these messages from me and I would get like like a Brian mcnight song or Boys to Men song or whatever I would get like the certain part of the song and I would have to fast forward that on my tape and then I'll be like all right it's time and then so uh for
8:31 her voicemail like I would try to sink it to where it would be that part of the song and I press play that's so funny and then it'll be like so she'll ████ hear like that moment and know what I'm trying to really say you know do you remember what the line was hell no dude I just know it was like one of the it was like R&B songs it was just some ████ like that I just know everybody would do that for their voicemails yeah that was mad normal crazy that that was normal that was normal and then all the guys would try to sound three like tones deeper yeah hell yeah dude I would I would yell like for a minute first so that my voice would get horse yeah what's up before I recorded I would go yeah was up you would do like a metal warm up to try to like Tire my voice out you you purposely declin the call so
9:21 they can hear it and then you call them back and then we were it couldn't have been that baritone cuz we were yeah it couldn't have you were like 13 14 years old there's no way you just think it sounds's up girl you reach you just got at my voice mail hey what's up you got my voem get at me man you're talking to a real big boy right now I'm real grown up big boy I can't get to the phone right now but if you hit on my page I'll get back to you and then you gangster hotline yeah what's up I weared myself this morning I'm 85 PBS now so what up guys thank you for watching us for so along if you like what we do please support our patreon Joe tell them what we have to offer so every week you get two videos one never release director's cut and another one too hot
10:11 for YouTube patreon only every freaking week you get that and you get access to our Discord where you can come chat with us and ask us questions that become episodes here cuz we're going to answer them and we're going to take it seriously and we want to give you the responses that you want so come stay connected with us join our patreon click the description below for full details oh dude if you could hear your old voicemails that would be oh jeez oh no I can't oh no oh my God if I'm not picking up the phone right now it's cuz I'm probably driving around something you think sounds so tight but now it sounds like you're a loser have you ever really done that driveing around like driveing around it's but that's like whoo dve like holy ████ ████ this guy got a car oh my God hey all of you guys have done that though oh yeah drive around when you're just Moody duh
11:02 oh yeah of course that's the move of course full blast blast windows down yep one arm on the steer whe one AR ████ chair lean so back all you see is forehead with my CD player skipping sometimes cuz like my car was bumping do you think do you think people still Cruise like that though I think so yeah I think that's like cuz when you just like I'm bored you were like what 17 you have you you you steal your mom's car or whatever and then you try to gangster it as hell as like like as possible yeah and then you just have your music and you just drive around town do nothing our gas 89 cents too though that's true yeah these FS have to pay five bucks to do that like you could visit friends do you remember like back then you could just drive up and your friends will be hanging out in front of their house with other friends or you just be at a you
11:53 could you know like these ████ at the park playing basketball these guys are probably smoking weed in front of this house these you know and you just visit and just make your rounds but I don't know if people do that anymore what was your heartbreak thing my most heartbreak moment um was when I was in military school at Army and Navy Academy it was my second junior year and although I second Jun yeah my second Junior although I wasn't like in like gang stuff anymore I would say that was probably the most wild era cuz I feel like when you're in gangs there's kind of like a code and things that you do so it's actually kind of structured you know like even oh we're going to go gang bang or do whatever we're going to sell some drugs so it's like oh cool we got an agenda this was like you're free agent maybe you sell some drugs maybe you get in a fight you're still living
12:44 that life but just not in an organized way and then so it was enough where I went to that school and then uh during that's also During the period where like um we were like smuggling like e to like Lake Havasu and my my girlfriend was like was a good girl like she was like a cheerleader she was on the debate team and then so I was like this wild boy that would like drag her away from her regular ████ like she was on the volleyball team and so like she wanted it maybe but then but then we like this is a period where like I'm waking up in random strangers houses cuz we went to a rave out ofate so she's like 16 I'm like 16 and so like I think her her dad would be like where the ████ are you and then she would start missing debates volleyball team and ████ like that and we like like it's just crazy drugs all that so when I uh got sent to military
13:34 school um I think she was able to kind of take a break from me and get all that stuff cleared up cuz I think when you're in the moment of things you're like oh this Wildlife is fun right every single day there's some crazy ████ crazy adventure going on and so you're just kind of like even though you know it's bad it's like you're just along for the ride when I got to military school I think she had some time away from me and um at the military school so this is pre- cell phone there's a row of pay phones so after school you're able to go there and like whatever calling card you have you can call back call your parents or your girlfriend whatever and I remember going to the pay phone and then calling her and I would call her every day and then she broke up with me on the phone o and I was like oh I was like don't don't do it right now I'm going come back to San I'm going come back from San Diego to LA this Friday and then she was like no I think it's the best blah blah blah blah blah and then I
14:25 hang up and I'm and you're just stuck in this like all boy School can't leave so you can't go Cruise know and I was like oh ████ I was like I want to tell her more ████ but I can't cuz I ████ ran out of time it's not you you just go to our house I'm out of quarters out quarters ████ ran out of quarters I'm like God ████ damn and I remember going back into my room and it's my and it's it's a it's like a dorm right so I was on the top bunk and then there's another dude on the on the bottom bunk and I was like sitting on top and I had my little Iowa um CD player Iowa and I was listening to uh uh this Usher song I remember very vividly and there's this track or this song and there's this lyric that goes um life is jail when you're in love alone and I remember going oh ████ I remember tears coming down I'm like oh life is jail when
15:15 you're when you're in love meanwhile you actually have like a cellmate with bars on the windows and ████ cell no it's military school and I just remember feeling like so there's nothing you can do you know I can't leave I'm in San dieo can see yeah yeah and I'm like oh ████ this this is ████ crazy and then like you you almost like wake up the next day like was that a dream that was a dream broke up with me in the dream that's so true so true that's so sad and then and then like I would like the next I'm like go and like beep I call her and then she' pick up and then I'm like try to like figure out if she really did break up she goes I know you're going through a hard time so I'll be here for you on the phone as a friend and I'm like y a red what the ████ you ████ you ████ that's the sickest part of a pay phone though
16:05 right indestructible true yeah indru and then yeah that that hurt a long long time cuz it's not like you have options you can't have a rebound chick or do anything you're just stuck with all ████ dudes and then and then you walk by the pay phone and you walk by the pay phone there's another dude like oh no I love you more oh no I love you more like ████ you ████ you in a happy relationship jealousy yeah it was tough it was like that for like and then until I got kicked out and then by the time I think I did probably try to visit her like when I after I got kicked out I'm like I'm out but then she's like yeah because you got kicked out know so it's like it doubled down on the reason why she broke up with me in the cuz I'm a bad influence influence so the bad influence got even worse but I'm like but I'm out
16:55 now and then I was just like I think I dealt with that for at least a good year or two and what was the follow-up question like why is it Lim biscuit oh why is it Lim biscuit I did like did you do it for the nookie the biggest difference between you after the breakup I think I realized it's going to be hard to maintain a relationship if you're really ████ up and you're like an anchor if you drag people down that's going to be really really difficult I just realized like oh ████ if you can't keep manipulating them yeah cuz not only are you bad for yourself and you're bad for others like H how can how can if you're not bringing any like benefit like why would they
17:45 stay I mean some some people say anchors are holding you back and I say they keep you steady love that love that an you need an anchor if you're going to drive a boat you know something that really whack that I did but again I think it was necessary like post simp era I was like reflecting uh on like why I was so whack so I just wanted to not be that version of myself that was just like so in love with this chick who like didn't want me so in my mind I was like I need to practice my game but when you don't have good game you just go for like the ugly chicks in school that aren't getting any pull so I started getting like all like the neres in my classes and stuff like that to kind of like you know just to figure out whatever it is build your confidence back up and then you know if they actually ended up
18:35 liking me that's when you would drop them and try to find the next Shake you're evil man you're just wanted attention attention yeah I just needed attention but I I needed it you know what I mean to like figure ████ out and you know rest in peace to all the attention still died they killed themselves yeah so that's some advice if you guys are in a bad place manipulate ugly chicks love that I think that's a good tip it's a really good tip you the um ████ this I feel like I haven't told this story before but there's um this one relationship I was this was the last time I cried over a girl too this was like I don't know over maybe almost two decades ago or some ████ the um this girl I was dating or was my ex I was so obsessed with her and like we had broken up I broke up with her I think but I never like forgot about her and I really wanted her back and then like life
19:25 passed by a bunch of years and then we reconnected and we were like going to get back together again and it was like it felt right and everything and how many years after was this this was maybe like 3 or four years after oh ████ and um come true and then we were just talking one night about like everything that we've been up to in between and then we started telling each other like um she's like oh did you hook up with anybody did you have like have you experienced this oh you're like I'm still a virgin no like I had I had my share of like fun ████ and then she goes she goes oh I had this one wild night where I uh I hooked up with three guys oh oh my wait wait wait oh ████ group sex or backto back group okay that's not as bad yeah bro and then literally I
20:17 just started crying bro on the phone I was on the phone I just but like I wasn't I wasn't I wasn't sobbing but I was just like oh ████ and then like a tear just came down I was like what the ████ happening because I knew at that moment that like it was over there's no way oh ████ I just can't get over that like I I don't think I can live past that like cuz he knows who I'm talking about so like I drove to her house to like I was like Hey I'm going to come over right now and she's like are you okay and I was like yeah I just I just think to talk to you in person and then like I got in my car the whole way there I was like uncontrollably CED oh my God because I was like oh ████ it's over it's over like and I didn't want it to be over but I knew that like you think she she thought you got horny from hearing that and then she's like okay I think she was like because she knows I'm like a crazy dude she's like oh you
21:07 might think this is spicy but I was like oh ████ that's so past my threshold I can't like I can't like see you in that cuz I treasured her you know what she's like your like your mint rookie Michael Jordan card and then after she told you that someone just scratched which is like I get it like not I'm like I'm not judgmental like in most ways but then in that I think that's just past my limit yeah especially 20 years ago yeah be a ho like that met outside of her apartment and I was just like I I can't move past that like I don't know said that yeah I would have made up some ████ she's probably never going to tell anybody that ever again it like traumatized me so I just couldn't like I couldn't like say anything else I was just like hey that's like I I just can't dude and she just like we both were like crying like crazy cuz I was I wasn't ready for that at all I would have asked her like what made you want to do that
21:57 she's SW wild oh okay so it's not like a flip of character because of the breakup no no no she's pretty wild but like that's like that's one of those ones where like even to this day like her um husband doesn't know that like nobody dude you should have gone to the wedding with a ████ boom box dude I think I might be the only dude that like cuz cuz we became friends after that and like we both like she knows it that's why I would have been crying and been like have you ever considered like Jesus Christ did you did you when you saw the wedding photos on like Instagram or whatever did you see her and white and go no I was just like damn you she's going to have to keep a lot of things from that dude cuz she was pretty he seems like a real like white breed guy she had a ████ jizz cocktail that's what I'm saying I'm like nothing nothing
22:47 against that to find three guys in one night like did they all know each other yeah okay cuz they're giving each other high fives I mean hopefully they're being bacular did I don't I don't know know but I actually I know who I know who would it make it worse if there were other women there or if it was if she was the only girl if she's the only girl how does how is it worse with other women Joe is so gay dude
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