0:00 [Music] welcome back to careful boys where we have six of the most careful gentlemen that you could ever wish for in your lives yep there's six of them hey when careful boys merge boys when careful boys merch boys do you guys have merch now do you guys have jacob we have paul vaulting is not a crime it's not a sport okay this is the freight the word careful boys would be great it's a great like it sells itself what about a little cb logo well cb yeah you know i don't know man that's the acronym of a gang that i grew up in cbz what's the stand for cool boys or chinatown boys and i think they found these boys cool boys yeah cool boys i think the careful boys will ████ up the cool no don't say that they're my friends i
0:50 don't want to fight with that be careful man we should definitely get that word hey get that word in the streets for me catholic boys catholic boys i don't want to be a catholic boy yeah joe do you want to be in a catholic i think i'd rather be a catholic boy than a cool boy there you go you know not so steve you were telling us something happened something happened to you unleash yourself people like it when you're serious yeah i guess so so uh yeah so recently i was uh i was just you know chilling at home and uh get a phone call from my mother hello and she's sitting and she's unusually sitting next to my father like they're in the same room at the same time and and she's like stephen i have something i have to tell you and i was like okay well all right and she's like i have cancer oh ████ and i was like oh ████ like this is that's
1:42 ████ crazy wow yeah um and she was bummed that she couldn't tell me in person because obviously i live in vegas and stuff and she already lives in like san diego anyway so it's it's rough this is like i don't know like 15 days ago or something tonight dude yeah so then i was like boy whoa this is pretty crazy and she was saying that you know the it's still early like the prognosis is solid like she's looking at um you know breast cancer which is you know pretty common right the common ones yeah which is um i mean nikki's aunts have had it but when it happens to you it's just a whole different jam how did she catch it was there like a lump or like yeah there's a lump and my old man made her go so when she was sucking on her boob he was like honey that's not normal that's exactly what happened something's up she goes you get to go to the doctor yeah that's why i'm constantly fondling boobs yeah that's
2:32 good me too i have to make sure that there's no extra lump very inconsiderate wait no you said it right yeah yeah there it is that very considerate yeah so yeah this is one of those it's just one of those things you know i think i think she's gonna be fine you know i think it's gonna be i think it'll be like i think honestly i think she's um she's been in a place for a long time where she's been taking care of so many other people i think it's time for her to take care of herself a lot more so it's like one of those wake-up call things so uh is she just going to get like surgery to just cut out that area or whatever that's the plan yeah so she started doing radiation and then they're gonna do um they're gonna land some of it to analyze it and then they're gonna do like a surgical procedure to remove the whole jam it's crazy because like people live day-to-day like they're invincible but mortality is so real like at any
3:23 given time like someone could just bounce you know and it's so sad even though you know it's gonna happen like why like i'm telling my brain like people die all the ████ time every single day it's not special it happens yeah but why do i gotta get so ████ sad over it when i know that it's gonna happen yeah that's why i knew this would be the great room to talk about her dan hey steve don't worry people die every ████ day all the time i'm like that's very true good point does that make you feel better don't you feel burdened by how much the ████ pain takes you out oh i'm i'm worried for my mother because she's a she's a warrior person right and she just doesn't want to worry us and so so it's mostly about that yeah just how is your family taking it like your brothers or sisters yeah it's it's just one of those things where ever i think we all feel the same way where
4:14 you know life is a is a weird thing like but you know our mother is the best of us we all feel and so it's one of those tough things where so you don't rub it in their face like your mom's face anymore at least about luna right i don't know well i never had to rub in my mom's face because she was always blue yeah it was always clearly the best of y'all yeah yeah my siblings so they can all suck dicks and die in hell but i'm kidding no they're we're all everybody's you know we're all abandoned together about it but but it's also very it looks very good you know it's just one of those things where i just you know i hope that more people you know i know i i don't always do it like where you you just take time out of your life to appreciate the ones you love and stuff so yeah not a bad time to do that that's pretty tough but your mom is in pretty good spirits about it as well oh i think so yeah even though she's a warrior she's a tough chick man she's the toughest broad i ever known she probably worries more about everyone else right she does that's all she cared about was that she was like she was only crying on
5:05 the phone because she couldn't like hug me herself and stuff no yeah it's like all that kind of stuff worry about how you feel tell me yeah it's like one of those things but it's like dude i'm worried i you know i'm not worried about her yeah yeah yeah is she is she old how is she she's old dude she can't be down she's not she's like 60s that's still young not that old actually yeah my mom's a ████ dust bag compared to yours well how would you mom she's like 50. she had me at 38 or 39. so plus that by 30. let me ████ mad only one like a calculator joe doesn't know how old his mom is 76 that's why the calculator is always over there joe's always coming for this one anywhere from 74 to 76 because then she told me 70 80 yeah okay that's dude that's geriatric though 74-76
5:56 but she's still like pretty sentient like she doesn't have like memory loss rapidly my step-dad has cancer he doesn't act like it really he has colon cancer are you supposed to act like like a ████ sad ass dude okay but he has a baseball cap with the propeller at the top and yeah he's like hey man with a rainbow lollipop but you guys ever think because i think for me i've been really recently thinking about like my parents mortality a little bit more yeah you have the youngest parents here my parents are probably around your guys's age okay your parents you're a parent um i was like wow i was like we're going to throw it away because you've got older sisters right yeah so like my sisters are probably closer to your guys's age yeah like yeah around there and so my parents are
6:46 probably your parents age as well so like 70s like around there too or like her late 60s early 70s but uh like my dad had a stroke probably around like two years ago and just seeing how that happened and because he was just a normal like guy and he was uh he was very active and then once he had the stroke it did kind of change him a little bit as far as like he couldn't walk that well anymore and then he moved to taiwan he got more chill yeah you got way more chill but you see that change you think about that because you see your parents in the hospital bed and you really think about like oh ████ my time with my parents and my family is very limited is getting to that stage and then you you have to be more at least for me i've been more aware of how i try to spend time with my parents but it is ████ really scary to think about i heard stroke is pretty common in like um asian males oh yeah
7:38 that's that's like super common in filipinos yeah heart heart problems stroke blood pressure yeah blood pressure that's another one yeah my dad my dad already like has told me that he's convinced that he the way he's gonna go is by heart attack because of like uh you know his dad and his grandpa stuff all heart attacks [Music] same with my grandparents heart attacks all of them but my grandpa like you know died in the sleep but it was still like heart failure or whatever like that so but he's just the way he says it or the way that he told me it seems so accepted you know what i mean like there's this kind of air of nonchalance as if like the fate has been accepted so it's just like cool move on now that you kind of know damn does that give you any sort of like in a weird way but like does it kind of make you feel a little more comfortable with it at least in
8:28 your mind honestly i'm so ████ selfish that it makes me think like oh ████ i think i'm gonna have a heart attack then i guess if that's how it works because you think it's yeah what i mean oh okay would you call yourself a stressor like do you stress about like menial things or like or or does it take something big to stress you out i would say uh it would take something big to stress me out but it doesn't mean i can't have moments of sensitivity to things okay if that makes sense yeah but is it is it sensitivity like stress or is it like something else no i don't think uh stress overly consumes me in a way that like i know that like it's impairing my health no not like that but who knows when you're like a father of like that age and like things are just you know what i mean hey dude my father-in-law's like that like every little thing stresses him the ████ out like to a unreasonable level yeah and then what's something small that he would freak out over oh dude i mean just like nikki growing up didn't clean her room one time and it like made
9:18 his face red and he was like you're grounded for a week and like he's all ████ breathing heavy and ████ yeah so it's just yeah he'll just get like become a rage monster and stress about nothing out of nowhere right my dad's the same way um but my dad hasn't my dad also has a heart condition too so i guess but it's not as bad as his like my my old my old man-in-law had to get like a little uh little pacemaker like oh ████ my uncle has heart problems too he just had surgery damn so that's like a lot of maybe there's like something there with like males and heart problems and stress and blood pressure and heart disease is like angry most common that's the most common heart disease oh yeah and it usually isn't that that like spectrum of like strokes and how closely tethered it is to your stress
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11:50 both have uh heart issues and um when i was 17 i was already me and my mom were having like a full-on argument yelling at each other and she had a heart attack in the middle of our argument oh my gosh so like ever since then why you always got to top it bro out of nowhere nonchalant but that's like that's how i realized like it's also your responsibility to like yeah your parents got to eat right whatever but you also have to not stress them out how did that go down so in the middle of arguing and then she was just like clutching her chest it's exactly what you would imagine like we were we were fighting about it was my fault like i was a s█████ ass teenager and we were just yelling and then all of a sudden she just was like ah and just like dropped like in the middle of us shouting so what did you do call the police i had i called the yeah i called the police or the they sent the ambulance and i was just holding her and
12:40 i was like damn this is gonna be my fault i'll never be able do you ever get like the the thought like another man arguments don't ████ matter like that's yeah from then on i was like nothing is that ████ big of a deal like nothing especially this like whatever this is ryan ryan is the dj khaled of ████ crazy stories and he just pulls him out of random too but then like you know that's that's also something my parents also remind me is in me too so they're like yeah don't ever forget like at some point you might hit an age where your cholesterol will start going up and your blood pressure it's gonna be a challenge to maintain i still can't imagine that happening to me because i've never had problems but you know it's it's one of those things where you have to be mindful of that too you know like how how you live your life it's not like one day the doctor tells you hey you got to watch your blood pressure you can't get rid of those
13:30 habits of being angry on the spot like it takes years and years of disciplining yourself how you live how you react to things oh yeah so that's from that happening at 17 i was like ████ you know i try to bob marley my whole ████ life it's just like hey it's everything to be okay you've been working on it since 17 yeah because 17 i was ████ hotheaded chill you are though like i can tell you've been through a lot you know it makes it makes so much more sense because usually people that are like i'm like man you haven't really been through that much but if you go through a lot of ████ like you're just like oh this guy's been through a lot because they're not easily stimulated well yeah it's very like rare that something seems like it it should cost that much yeah yeah after you've seen your mom get a heart attack in the middle of you yelling about something that means nothing at all like could have easily not even fought about this thing my my dad hasn't
14:20 had anything yet but like some of the signs of like him aging was um like my dad's like moving some of his stuff into our house so he'd sell his house to move vegas and he was like uh can you move this downstairs for me because i can't pick it up and i want to go touch it and i'm like oh ████ that's crazy like this is something that i felt like he's got wheat like a 50 year old man six-year-old man can easily move but he's not 50 or 60 70 now and i'm like wow this is great like this is i can clearly see he's not like like the dad in my mind of yeah he's weathering apart and you at the same time you're kind of like man i lift i've been lifting a lot you're like i'm pretty strong is it is it also that change yeah like my program is really good it's not stronger is what it is but that's a pushy you can't lift this
15:11 up no because he had a big tub of stuff and he got the tub from the garage but once he filled it up he was like he couldn't move it anymore and i'm like wow that's crazy or he or he could move it he was like ████ it hey bart yeah [Laughter] man thank you thank you for sharing that man that's crazy you know i've been meaning to talk to you guys about it i just i i just never it was like we were having such a fun time yesterday the day before i you don't want to ruin the movie yeah yeah but here we're at the end of the shoot now so it's yeah yeah how's your dad taking it he's you know really well but um because i feel like the the spouse takes it the hardest because like that's their person yeah yeah it's almost like you dying i called
16:02 him and i asked him i was like hey look i know everyone's making a big deal about ma right now but like i just want to see how you're doing and ████ and he uh he got choked up about that because like you know no you know guys we nobody as a guy yeah we very seldom ask each other how we're doing and ████ and so uh yeah he was definitely it's definitely one of those things it's a good thing to ask right like hey how how are you two like everyone's gonna focus on the one person we've been calling her non-stop sending loved or non-stop but like hey how's how's he doing and uh yeah he he doesn't like just tell me exactly what up but hearing him get choked up was enough and then you know him just changing the subject into house nicki's parents is pretty good and that's kind of how he deals with yeah that's it sounds like this guy just ████ deflects how's nikki's old house nikki's father oh he's a i'm like he's he's great daddy he's had
16:52 the pacemaker for five years he's been fine i tell you that every time we're on the phone but you know he doesn't want to talk about it yeah yeah yeah he wants to ask someone a question we all got to deflect though if if you're if you can't you know because i i get it too because he's talking to his son and i'm his oldest son he doesn't mind like she'll scare you yeah i think so i think so yeah so i get i get the psychology of it but i'm i'm also like hey it's okay old man like uh life's too short like man i can't wait to have kids i can ████ pour all my issues on to them oh ████ like i can't wait you to get older so you can rescue me i just feel very fortunate because you know some some people get the call and it's very very bad news yeah yeah it's already like too late and it's like it's happening yeah yeah i'm very i feel very very lucky i'm i'm very grateful for anything uh it feels like you know life gave me a little
17:42 wake-up call about you know the finality of of like your closest ones and even though i do i do a lot of jokes about how i don't want to talk to my mom on the phone and stuff i talk to her like more than anybody um so it's just it's just it's just one of those things where uh like like the idea of losing like your best friend in a way like is like yeah just you gotta you gotta be more thankful when jill's dad passed it was sudden like that this is when me and gio were living in our downtown place in la and it was like 5 a.m in the morning she gets a phone call she never really wakes up i don't know for some reason her cell phone was on so rang she picked up the older sister was like uh dad had a heart attack and you just hear her crying over the phone and then i was like what the ████ and then um she's like i gotta go and then i'm gonna go with you she goes no i gotta go okay this is like your dad i
18:32 don't wanna like i think she just needs space or like you need to sort some ████ out or whatever and then it was just crazy that like it was just in an instance where it was the week before we're just having dinner and you just like i was saying like how like you just think everyone's just gonna live forever right that's how you live day to day and it was just bam he was just just gone like just doing his one of his normal um gigs because he's a carpenter he's just building a house and then in a car ride uh he had a heart attack and then next thing you know he's already an ambulance ████ he's crazy yeah and it's not like he's like it's not like he's super old or anything it's just like you're just like wow he's ████ crazy man i think i saw him like just like a couple weeks before that because he was helping me build something and then and then that just and then afterwards i was at the funeral and i'm like
19:22 you were just like alive this is how this is how quick it happens did he have any history of heart stuff or this was just out of nowhere not that i know of i mean they're not like the healthiest of people you know i feel like that generation people just don't really focus on the health or they don't go on the daily walks or whatever you know so it's not i don't think they were the healthiest before old dude he worked like like physical jobs you know so it's there weren't any signs or anything like that and then it was just bam also men are really like terrible at letting people in on signs oh yeah they'll just bury that ████ and just never get the help they were supposed to get but do you think it's also like um um they're unaware or like no dude they say they say like guys uh one of the number one ways for guys to die
20:13 is when they get when they choke on something and because they don't want to burden other people one of the leading versus chicks would be like oh ████ like someone help me but i think dudes are like i ████ got i got it and then they just you sure can i help them like get off me ████ you know the s word all right and then they just die off the side sorry all right ████ me then like a year ago a year so dumb people will die to not look gay you can't get behind me dude like a year ago i was i was helping nikki clear out some patio furniture and it was like no big deal and she had turned like a bunch of patio furniture upside down and and all of it was the same weight so i was just picking them up take it outside taking the girl well in one of them she stacked a bunch of these wet pillows because it had just rained and so it's just it's ████ wet pillows in them but i didn't even look at it i was just picking them all up like same same same and then i go to
21:03 pick up one and all of a sudden my back just goes it was like it was like my back just like lethal weapon rock and roll guitars things like that and i was like oh my ████ god right and uh yeah i dropped it and then like just like for some reason i couldn't tell her about it for like two months really but like yeah it's just bad i just don't want to bleed on her what kind of is that what it was like you felt like you would murder her well i just didn't want to be a ████ you know i mean how did you hide that how did you hide those symptoms around it did you have anything like after like any injuries well i can't ████ excuses as to why i couldn't do regular things like i don't feel like it now i got like a little headache tonight whatever i'll say i have a little headache but i won't just admit i have a ████ actual backpack you're like yeah i can't move she's like you wanna come watch tv and i'm like ah i can't i got a little headache it's like uh the
21:54 light will probably focus like you're on the computer i'm like that doesn't yeah it doesn't have to make sense okay like you know and i mean does that make sense i'm in here with the officer a heat pad that i ordered from amazon i opened it privately and like he hated it up in the microwave and i put it on my back and i'm just like trying to do all kinds of different ████ yeah stupid thing too much wasting food items and ████ you got that ████ inversion table upside down with the gravity boots it's to make you better at ████ yeah yeah this helps them with crypto ████ business crypto okay i get big stinking rewards from this thing it's a miner we're going to be rich you bobcat shut up leave you alone
22:44 anyway tell people that you love you love them it's always always a good thing you
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